Just Be

Just be
Just be and let go.
Don’t try to force anything.
Don’t hustle.
Just be Just be in the moment.
We never know how long we have ,
We never know where life is going to take us
So, just be
Be in the moment.
Stop trying to control what’s going to happen and how it’s going to happen and just embrace the moment you’re in.
Divine timing.
Everything happens in divine timing.

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Date apps are for dorks. Women are those dorks.

First let me start with the study: Research shows dating apps like Hinge, Bumble or Tinder can be associated with negative impacts on mental health. According to a study published in the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, there is a link between using dating apps and experiencing loneliness, dissatisfaction with life and feeling excluded from the world. The research points out that it is a paradox, as people have more ways to connect than ever before yet many of those connections can feel empty, fleeting, and insecure.

Also, I will note that if you read either my best selling book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid 2d Ed” or you read “Relationship Impossible” you read the information I gave you that, when it comes to dating apps, there is such a thing as choice overload, whereas, people tend to pick the wrong partner due to the fact that there are way too many options to choose from.

Now to the funny part of this: When I told a bunch of women the following in this dating group I am in, most of these women were so sensitive to the following truth:

NO high quality man is going to be on a dating site. 

I know it’s the “easiest” way to meet guys although social media isn’t that bad of an option… BUT the high quality man that you ladies are looking for aren’t on dating sites! The whole concept of a dating app is for women to chase after men, whereas high value men don’t want to be chased they want to be the ones who pursue.  Now that doesn’t mean that women can’t flirt with men because sometimes they need a little push and telling them that you are interested in them is a good thing, but a high valued man is not on a dating app. If you notice, the only men you find on a dating app are all the men who are those who are cheating, are married, lie, and some are even rapists.

Why women think it will be different because they are on Bumble or Hinge, or are paying for the app is an insane idea! EVERY dating app works the same way! The algorithm is just as it is in finding movies you will enjoy on Netflix and all those guys whom you reject, are recycled back into your choices every 30 days or so.

I seriously roll my eyes every time a woman in these chats I am in post a photo of the guy whom she is talking to on an app to find out the “fax” about him and the answers are pretty much like this:

“So I have been seeing and talking to a guy nonstop for the past month or so. We were supposed to hangout Saturday but I cancelled on him last minute because I found out a mutual friend had also been talking to him and he tried to schedule a date the same day as ours but earlier in the day it kinda made me feel a bit grossed out and I’m not sure what to do.”

“Omg! We talked for a while and he kept flaking on plans and kept saying he was traveling, sick, busy, etc. but wanted to keep texting. Eventually I stopped responding.”

“On his Bumble profile, he selected ‘Wants someday’ for kids. I hope this was a mistake bc he has grandchildren and he is actually 67, not 47 like it shows on his profile. He also lied about his age on a site called MillionaireMatch and says he is 51 on there. His desired age range on that site is 22-39. He goes by the name …., but his real name is …..”

“4 kids 4baby moms denies the existence of his kids Alcoholic/abusive looks for woman to support him.”

This is ALL you see in these groups. And women WONDER why they haven’t met a high quality man yet on a fucking dating site? HAHAHA… seriously these women are stupid and naive to believe that the love of their life is on a dating app. AND a high quality man for that matter!
You have a better chance at being struck by lightning than you do finding a high quality man on a dating app. And then there are the women who comment in the group chat like this:

“I met my guy of 7/8 months on …. ”

Yes, good for you. Ask him, did he take down his dating profile on all the sites yet? Watch him squirm while answering. Remember, there are MARRIED men on these apps not to mention athletes who are married or in relationships who look for their hook up on the road.

Here are places to go meet HIGH QUALITY MEN this summer:

1- Nightclubs
2-Lounges
3-Sporting Events
4- Juice bars
5-Nice Coffee Shops ( Not Starbucks)
6- Exclusive Gyms
7- Social Clubs
8- Airport
9- High-end Spas
10-Tennis clubs and Golf Courses
11-Charity Events
12-Art Galleries
13-Open Houses ( obviously it’s a million dollar listing)
14-Nice Hotel Bars

The list can probably even be longer… but the point is… NO high Valued Man is going to be on Match, Ok Cupid, Hinge, Tinder, or even Bumble. I will even say on Million Dollar Match as well. Those guys are the scum of the Earth looking for hook ups, looking to scam you, looking to use you or looking to unfortunately to sexually assault you. And if I insulted anyone by saying this, sorry but not sorry, sometimes the truth hurts, doesn’t it?
Just because you deny it’s the truth doesn’t make it less true!

Big Boy Season In Full Effect

These guys have had it going on all season long, but the one pet peeve, the no-no in fashion is the fact that they are wearing dress shoes without socks… and they don’t look like they are wearing no-show socks either.
You should not wear dress shoes without socks- here are the reasons:

1) Your feet contain more sweat glands than any other part of your body, causing your feet to produce a great deal of sweat. When wearing no socks with dress shoes, this moisture will accumulate and cause your dress shoes to become a breeding ground for bacteria. Warm, damp, and dark environments like this allow for the growth of bacteria that causes fungal infections such as athlete’s foot. Wearing a quality pair of socks with dress shoes will allow your feet to stay comfortable, dry and healthy.

2) The development of bacteria in your dress shoes will also cause them to smell. This stench is unpleasant and extremely hard to remove from your shoes once it has developed.

3) Without wearing socks, excessive moisture in your dress shoes will cause the leather to prematurely wear. Given that your dress shoes are likely the most expensive shoes in your closet, be sure to always wear socks with them. Or try the no-show sock look.

Contrary to popular belief, I know exactly what I’m doing

If you follow this blog religiously ( and seriously, who doesn’t シ) You know that my company does a variety of things, mostly content creation and social media, but we also go back to the main start of my blog about 15 years ago, and talk about dating/relationships and I have written best selling books on the subject.

This year we started to wet our feet once again in the fashion world and also expanding our knowledge in the cheer industry as well as my creating different segments of my podcast.

We dipped our feet into some other areas too, that for the moment didn’t pan out, but that we may get back to at a later time as well.

I sat thinking the past 2 weeks, especially during my birthday week when I was taking some time off for myself and wanted to figure out what it is that I really want my brand to represent. You want to always innovate but you don’t want to do too many things that cause you to lose your identity.

So here’s what you can expect from me from here on out:

1) Fashion on Poshmark ( yes, including panties シ) LINK CLICK HERE

I will be doing more fashion stuff- even men’s fashion using this link. I will tie together my fashion videos with the site as well. And yes, sell some great fashion at reasonable prices including MY OWN DESIGNS!


2) Podcast

Of course my award winning podcast will keep going! I have changed it up significantly since I started back in 2017. But I will now add EXCLUSIVE CONTENT that you will have to pay for. The price will be $2.99 a month and I will have exclusive contests that I then will use Twitter to find the winner. I also will use the exclusive content as a way to continue conversations from the podcast itself, have guests, and maybe even thrown in a little more racy stuff… ★♫

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3) Books

I have written some great books which I take so much pride in simply because writing a book is much more than “just writing” it. It’s the cover art, editing, getting an audience excited about it way before it’s published, etc.
Yes, I have written 2 dating/relationship books which simply show you how I have grown in my opinions as well as give you updated information where dating apps are. BUT .. did you know that I have written some Young Adult novels as well?

“The Diary of A Drama Queen” is a book I am mostly proud of as it took me over 7 years to finish. And now I am back in wanting to provide some more great books that show my creativity so I am starting to write the sequel called, “Drama in the City” which I hope will be released next year. BUT I plan to share with you updates on the progress, how I write, how I go about creating the book, etc through my Youtube Channel ( besides posting some fun other content too!)

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4) Cheerleading/Fitness

If you don’t know, I have been in the cheer industry for a long time! I started back in the day when I was 7, with dance, and then when I got older did cheerleading, fell in love with it, and haven’t looked back!
So, not only do I choreograph cheer routines, and will be posting A LOT more of them and new cheers that teams can use, but I will be focusing on FITNESS. Cheerleaders need to be physically and mentally fit. So I will be introducing a fitness calendar, 4 monthly new workouts for a reasonable price that not just for cheerleaders but for ANYONE who wants to stay in shape or get in shape. I also will have free workouts too.

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Now the above link will also host the following as well… ( I will tie both together as a place to be elite on the mat but also elite with social media.)

5) Content Creation/Courses/Templates

I will post some really awesome photos that you can buy directly from me at a reasonable price and use Anywhere you want too. I will have Templates that you can use as posts for your personal and professional needs and I will be offering 3 courses: a) LinkedIn b) Youtube and c) How to take better selfies and photos – all come with LIVE teaching as well not just recorded video, unless you need a recorded version!

So, stay tuned… A lot of exciting things are happening and I look forward to sharing them with y’all!

Love Sex and Magic

These guys know sensuality begets aesthetics – first thing is first. Here’s the latest fashion segment presented by the NY Rangers- kings of Fashion Ave.
Here are some observations to take note of:

  1. The tie peering out of the buttoned jacket looks chic
  2. Just wearing a regular T-shirt with a suit jacket looks SO HOT
  3. The Black men’s shirt without a tie and a grey suit is simply sexy.
  4. A cobalt blue suit with a black shirt and black tie – looks INCREDIBLY HOT
  5. The light blue suit with a light purple shirt and dark purple tie is posh and sexy.
  6. The beanie with suit just makes a guy look incredibly rebellious
  7. An open suit jacket shows a guy’s swagger ( I like this look better when it is just a regular suit)
  8. The Pinstriped suit… OH MY GOD!
  9. If you want to stand out, where a different color suit jacket. The color will make the entire outfit stand out.
  10. The Long jacket looks very businesslike

Dating segment of blog

SO if you didn’t listen to my podcast last week, here is it CLICK HERE

I will though finish this conversation this week as it has SPARKED a little controversy with what I said, of course from the men. On Tiktok some guys posted videos of telling us girls that we shouldn’t play games with trying to get you. Hey, I agree that NO ONE should play games when it comes to dating. But here is the kicker: When it’s all you guys fault! You play games and you want a girl to chase you, if you stop playing games then we’ll stop playing them too. It’s pretty much that simple.
THEN on Twitter a guy actually told me that WOMEN don’t know what it’s like to be REJECTED! Is this guy serious? Women are rejected EVERY DAMN DAY! We are rejected from making the SAME amount of money a man is doing the SAME job. A woman is rejected from getting a job that is along the lines of CEO type jobs because how can a man work for a woman? A woman is rejected when it comes to relationships as well- she’s too big, too skinny, her boobs aren’t big enough, her booty is too small, she has cellulite, she makes her own money, she doesn’t need a man anyways. Guys tell us they want us to ask them out, that they find that to be a turn on, so when we do; they reject that idea because then she’s being too aggressive, assertive, and looks desperate.
See you guys have this stupid vision of what you think the ideal woman should be like and when real, wonderful, down to earth women fall short because of whatever stupid flaw, you reject them. Completely forgetting that EVERYONE comes with their own flaws, no one is perfect, unless they are on Instagram using filters.

So, I have been pretty straightforward about the ONLY guy I want to date. Some guys are upset that literally put this out there. So let me apologize for not wanting to waste my time and energy on a guy that I have simply NO INTEREST in dating. (Insert my sassy/sarcastic face) Why am I going to want to have low-valued experiences, which I have had in the past, when I know I what I want?
If you want to know why I want a hockey player… well, watch the video. Ya know, I have said time and time again cheerleaders belong with athletes. We get them. We understand them. And we support them unlike any other girl would ever do!
1) I may not be a supermodel but at least you know I’m showing up to support you and be your personal cheerleader in every single game you play!
2) I may not be the prettiest girl, but at least you never have to explain to be what penalties are and what’s the difference between a foreword and a defenseman.
3) I may not be smart when it comes to math but at least you’ll never have to explain what a PP, offside or icing is.
4) I may not post naked like all those girls do on their IGs, but at least you’ll never have to explain what FOs, SOG, TOI, or PTS means.

And if a guy I want doesn’t want to take the chance of a lifetime for the prize I am, that’s okay. I’m sure that I will find a hockey player that does. Boom Mic Drop.

Cheap products are always in demand. That’s why only those who can afford the Lamborghini get the prize. You would think the hockey players would know the difference between cheap and expensive. But like I have said some just settle for bare minimum and basic girls, when they deserve much more.

I am sure we will continue this conversation on Friday. Oh, and this girl on Tiktok posted this video explaining what 12 inches looks like. OMG. It was so accurate. I will explain to all the men out there on Friday what exactly women want. Trust me, you don’t want to miss the podcast Friday. See you Friday!!

Better Together

If you listen to my podcast, you have heard me talk about how cheerleaders belong with athletes, and not just any athletes, but hockey players. And let me add, not necessarily a NHL player, but ANY player ( EHL, AHL, OHL, KHL, etc)
This guy on Tiktok helped me out tremendously by putting these together. A shout out to nackarockers for taking the words right out of my mouth. Just in case there was any doubt!

I will have A LOT of to say on Friday on the podcast. A LOT to say. As I think about this…

I smirk. I smile. I laugh literally out loud. The entire thing is crazy to me.

Question: why do people prefer people to be fake, secretive, and almost cunning, instead of being open and not afraid to be vulnerable? Why is it when you don’t have any outside motives that people still think you do? And so forth.

To Be Continued…. Oh, plus more on the Metro Division, playoffs, Cap/Escrow, CBA, the NY Rangers of course, and some other stuff… ( Fashion takes and question to guys on facial hair, spitting, and smelling salts, and crazy things I need to know!)

As always you get the sassy, sarcastic, up front version with no filter Friday. Yipee.

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A Little Coffee Competition

If you have ever been in NYC, there are TONS of coffee shops to satisfy your love and need for coffee. BUT… which ones are the BEST ones?

Don’t fret… I’m here to tell you of a few that are good for their coffee or their baked treats. The catch though… I am going to have you guys vote which one you’d prefer or if you actually have had coffee from there, give that shop a vote. * sorry but Starbucks is not on the list….*

First up… Gregory’s Coffee

Their coffee is a little strong but okay. ( if you like Starbucks then this coffee is for you!) The aroma was good, no burnt smell inside the shop. The body was a little heavy, the aftertaste was sharp, the sugar I added to it didn’t hide the sharp taste either. The taste itself was bitter. I wasn’t sure if it was a medium roast or a dark roast.

The cookie in the picture was FANTASTIC! Definitely worth the money. It was fresh, chocolatey and was baked perfectly.

UPDATE: I am visiting again…. I will have an update on the coffee soon.

Next up was Think Coffee.

Their coffee was not strong the first time I had it, but the 2nd time I had it was very strong. They put way too much cream in it and served it to me cold. Not fun to have hot coffee that is already cold. The aroma in the shop was good, no burnt coffee smell. The body of the coffee was medium both times, but the 1st time the aftertaste was mellow the 2nd time it was sharp. Obviously I enjoyed the coffee the 1st time since I went back. I will go back a 3rd time to see if my 1st or 2nd time defines this coffee.

The PB&J bar which was vegan, was FANTASTIC! It was crumbly, Nutty and had just the right amount of Jelly. I would definitely buy that again!

UPDATE: I have gone back 2x and the coffee was MUCH better both times and that PB&J bar—- OUTSTANDING!

This is the part when I say I don’t wanna…

For the last 3 months or so, guys have been brave and sliding into my DMs … but of course… either looking desperate, trying pick up lines, or showing their jealously as to the “age range” that I have made clear as to whom I will date. The video below pretty much speaks for itself… then let me continue…

I had no idea that so many guys over the age of 35 would be attacking me over my choice to date younger guys… and oh, hockey players. When I mentioned this it’s like all these guys older than 35 came out of the wood-works and had to ask me directly … and then some of them even were brave enough to shot their shot ( that I will give credit too!)
Now, I don’t have to validate my reasons for what I want and I don’t have to ask permission either. But what I will do is spell it out as clearly as I can.
1) Yes, I date guys who are 23-32 BUT I have dated guys that are 21 and 22… there are always exceptions to what I feel I want to do but with that said, don’t get your hopes up if you’re older than 35…(or 34) that rule of mine is staying put.

2) Cheerleaders belong with athletes. Period. We go together like peanut butter and jelly, cookies and milk, bread and butter… hello?! Yes, I know all about the stereotypical ideas put out there into the world about cheerleaders: ( They are dumb, they sleep around, they lack talent, blah blah blah) so trust me when folks hear that I used to be one and still in the industry men think they can easily “land me” but that’s not true at all. If anything, I am hard to “land” since I have high standards and will not go against those. I will gladly give an athlete a chance, but if he only thinks I deserve bare minimum, he’s got another thing coming! Yes, I don’t need to be nor want to be their 1st priority. Their 1st priority should be to their career/ team, but seriously there needs to be a BALANCE .
So trust me right now when I say, that if I like you, take that seriously as a compliment. I don’t need anyone to complete me, I WANT someone in my life to grow and build with… that’s the difference.

When guys say to me in DMs that the “only” reason I want to be a hockey player is because of how they “look physically” I giggle and roll my eyes. I don’t give a shit about a man’s hairline, if he has 6-pack abs, buns of steel, muscles, etc. .. that to me is a bonus, not a reason to want to date anyone. The mindset, attitude , character and personality of a hockey player is the main reason why I am attracted to them. Being that I am an ex-athlete and a current coach, I have the exact same mindset as they do… plus I understand the demands of their job, support them 125% and am as loyal as fuck (I have people who back me up on that BTW)


I have you all know that I ALWAYS NEVER dated: doctors, male nurses, lawyers, cops, firefighters, or guys in the military. Why? Well, doctors/nurses/lawyers hours are NUTS. They are NEVER around when you need them. Their jobs are demanding and oh, forget about kids… if I had kids with a guy who did one of those things for a living I would NEVER see him- neither would the kid. Vice Versa if a guy marries a female who does those things… a nanny mostly would be raising those kids! As for Cops, Firefighters and military dudes…their jobs are just way too dangerous and I would be a wreck worrying about them – that is not something I want to do.


Now, going back to the hockey player point being, as too what I am talking about in regards to personality, attitude and character;
look at this story on a hockey player and what he did for a fan: Click here to read the story
But to phrase this tweet: A couple weeks ago after a Columbus Blue Jackets victory, a guy witnessed a young girl bawling her eyes out while talking to a mutual friend in the concourse. He asked her what was wrong. She explained she was near glass waiting to get Korpi’s autographed stick. After he was announced as the first star, Korpi took a victory lap and pointed right at her, tossed the souvenir stick up over the glass. It landed in this little girl’s hands for a split second until someone behind her snatched it from her grip. She was inconsolable…. you can guess what the rest of the story is, right? This hockey player made it right. You hardly see that with other athletes unless it’s being recorded for their social media to show that “they care” This was NOT recorded. This happened and a guy told everyone on Twitter what an awesome dude Korpi was!

3) As asked in my DMs: “So, you’re just going to say no to other dudes who aren’t hockey players? Aren’t your standards to high?” My answer in a tweet: “You’re standards are too high” Well those standards protect me from low quality experiences. So I’m not afraid to say no! See, I know what I bring to the table. I am the prize. I am a rare breed. This is just another reason why folks should get off those dating apps… if you see what options are left, then you would understand NOT to settle just to settle. And remember what I have said previously, men marry the woman in front of them not necessarily the woman they are meant to be with because they settled when they should have said no. Here is that blog post

4) It’s always the most laid-back women made out to look complicated and crazy by a men who didn’t even try providing her with the basics of what she deserves. See, I don’t settle for bare minimum and NO ONE should settle for that- ever! I ALWAYS tell folks that if you think I am too much, go find less. ( BTW that is what you will find on a dating app)
Date someone who’s interested in you. And I don’t mean someone who finds you funny & cute. I mean someone who genuinely wants to get to know you. Find the person who wants to get to know every aspect of who you are because that is a keeper.

5) “So, you only want to then date guys from your favorite team, right?” Another fabulous DM I received the other day! And to answer it:
Well, maybe. The guys who shoot their shot GET a shot! And who’s to say that guys from other hockey teams are not in my DMs now? Um, hello! I don’t tweet out or post out WHO I am talking too… EVER. That’s a major rule of mine. Trustworthiness is something I take seriously and I don’t screenshot conversations either.
Like I said previously, it doesn’t matter how much I like a guy, if he ain’t up to task of at least getting to know me, I don’t chase, I replace.

6) “So, why young guys and not guys that are older?” Simply put: young guys want to grow, they want to build something, they want adventures and they are not afraid to leave their comfort zone as are older guys. Older men LIVE in their comfort zone. Older men try to “tame” me where younger guys enjoy my carefree spirit and the way I carry myself. I never have been with a younger guy (athletes) who cared so much about how smart I was, especially as a blonde, cared about me having my own company, or cared about how spontaneous I am at times. Older guys… ha!

7) Closing, if you follow me on Twitter you know that I love having conversation and my vibe I bring is very magnetic. (Hey, all these years doing cheerleading and dance brought that out in me.) I am ALWAYS open to meeting new people, no matter anyone’s age, and if you’re a guy and know that there is no chance in hell of ever dating me, but you enjoy having conversation on numerous topics, hit me up. I make a great platonic friend in that , I will always have your back. If anyone ever feels that they need someone to listen to them or needs advice, my DMs are always open.
I want to be the light for someone who feels that they don’t have that. Life is better when you are caring, compassionate and kind.

And you don’t need to date me in order for me to do that.


Why chase you when I’m the catch?

It’s okay if you don’t like me. Not everyone has good taste. I say that with the question in mind, “How long do you give a guy whom you gave your number too, to actually use it before you say, Fuck it and move on?” It’s a known fact that most men will not call you the day after they meet you, for fear of being perceived as too eager or desperate. (Which is the SILLIEST thing a guy can do!)

Then of course women try to analyze WHY he hasn’t called and if he plans on calling, which is again, a stupid thing a woman can do. Now of course there are MANY scenarios as to why a guy won’t call. Let’s look at those:

1) When a guy doesn’t call, he might be preoccupied with work or other commitments. He might’ve not had the time or headspace to give you a call. It’s also possible that he’s too busy to focus on his personal life, especially if he’s someone who constantly gets overwhelmed with work or the schedule is too crazy for him to actually have time to call you or even text you for that matter.
2) They want to test you to see if you are going to chase them. Which if you read this blog, you know that my motto is: I don’t chase, I replace. NEVER chase a guy. First off, it’s a waste of energy and secondly it is a foolish game to play. Sometimes men think that showing emotions and expressing their interest will drive them away from the people they like. They’re trying to keep the mystery and interest alive by playing hard to get.
3) Research says phone anxiety might not be as uncommon as people think. If he’s someone who’s suffering from a social anxiety disorder, there’s a good chance that they feel very uncomfortable when calling you.  He is already insecure about himself and thinks you are freaking perfect, ( which NO ONE is, especially me, and he stupidly thinks he doesn’t deserve you!)
4) Men are NOT good with emotions. Period. They struggle with showing people how they feel and expressing themselves clearly so sometimes a guy doesn’t call or text a girl who shows him interest especially because HE IS interested in her as well.
5)He’s not into you. Yes, there is a serious possibility that is just isn’t into you and he is NEVER going to reach out. So, should you put all your eggs into one basket or move on to someone else?

You know how the story goes, you move on and have options, and he sees you with his friend, or someone he knows or even a complete stranger that is not him, and he panics and will text you. This then leads you to make a decision as to which guy you are going to choose. Which if you ask me is not a bad thing. I would continue to date the guy that you are entertaining while planning to then go out and meet for drinks with the guy whom you gave your number too. Let him point blank know that you are not exclusive but that you want to be exclusive and see what happens.


BUT- here is a tip for the guys. …

Men underestimate a silent female. If she is quiet and no longer interested in what you’re doing and she’s paying attention to another guy… she mostly is finished with you… and if you want her you are going to have to show it to her since he fumbled the bag and didn’t call you nor text you and it’s been OVER a month. Then by all means, let him walk. If he decides to mess it all up & lose the BEST thing to ever enter his life…that’s on him not you.

Also, on a different note, here is a men fact for the ladies to know: If a guy is criticizing another woman: Her looks, how she dresses, how she talks etc… He’s ATTRACTED to her. Period. You’re welcome.

Always know that you don’t chase, you attract. You’re the prize and 1 lucky guy is going to be thanking the guy that didn’t want to show interest in you and took a risk and dated you. That new guy is going to be so happy that you also were smart enough to know that you have options.

You can HAVE any guy your heart’s desire…. don’t settle on the one that is still unsure.

I’m the sexiest ex- you can never get back

Now that the fake holiday called “Valentine’s Day” has come and gone… here’s a little observation on it that is two-fold. 1) From someone who knows dating and 2) From someone who knows social media.

Let’s talk about athletes and social media, once again and add in Valentine’s Day.
If you read this blog religiously, and seriously you should be! (#Sarcasm) You know how I have mentioned time and time again about how athletes misuse use IG and social in general; especially when they are married and/or dating. So, if you are new to this blog I will mention it again. (But this is okay to repeat.)

When an athlete is seriously in love with a woman, and I mean seriously, he will POST her NOT just STORY her. He is tagging you in photos or posts because he wants to SHOW you off and is PROUD that you are his woman. He wants people to know that you’re his and he’s yours. There are no other females that he is entertaining nor want to entertain. If he ONLY putting you in a STORY, then he is protecting his options and he wants to LOOK single and not taken. And don’t fall for that, “I’m not big into social media,” or, “I like to keep my life private.” Those lines are just covers to keep his options open.

The thing though that these athletes forget is that if a woman really, really, really wants him, she is already know his entire history in like 6 minutes. So, when you aren’t posting the girl you are with that leaves A LOT of questions.

Throw in Valentine’s day to the mix.

I can’t even BEGIN to tell you just HOW many athletes from the NFL, NHL, NBA and MLB did NOT post up about their significant others. There were some that threw a story together… cool… but it was not posted. So I start to question about their relationships. Some even put their kids into the story as well and then, there were also some girlfriends from a specific NHL team that had a party and they had Miley Cyrus’s song, “Flowers” in the picture. Um, what? Why on Earth are you telling everyone that you can buy your own flowers when aren’t you still taken by an athlete that plays in the NHL? That was very, very strange.
Another quick observation was that 1 particular player I guess sent his girl jewelry and a love note and she took a photo of it next to a very strange photo of them in bed. Um… why?
So I guess all these girls and athletes want the world to think they are available and that they have options. And speaking of options…

When I really like a guy. I mean, really like him and I tell him that we should go out, give him my number, spoil him, etc and the guy just sits there and is undecided about being with me or not, I hate to break it to him but I’m not required to sit around and wait for him to decide if he is ready to date me, wants to date me or even just wants to be friends.
This girl has options.
So if another guy comes at me with this tool belt ready to work, don’t be surprised when your position is filled and you lose out on the best thing that could have happened to you. I’ll love on no matter how deep my feelings are for someone. And I may move on with someone you know.. (now, that’s the sassy bitch that I am at times, not all the time. Gotta remember I know how to play the game, and I play it better than most.)
And while we are on this subject… why do guys wait until they are ready? I hate to break to ya, but you’re never going to be fully ready and life is so damn short, why the hell wait and watch some other dude with the girl that you really like and who really likes you. That is so stupid!

PODCAST

If I’m gonna be a mess, I might just be a hot mess. I think that is the title of the latest podcast. You can listen HERE – I talk about the above as well as the latest spicy shit going on in the NY Rangers world, Twitter world, Dating world… with a couple juicy details and stories.

FASHION

The NY Rangers ARE Fashion Avenue! They all really can pull off ANY style.
Here are some fashion tips for men:
1) Always pick a different color tie to let your suit stand out. The tie almost ALWAYS brings the entire suit together.
2) If you are going to wear one color, Blue is a great color to wear simply because there are many shades of it and you can mix and match your suit, the shirt and tie with different combos.
3) Wearing the Beanie and Suit is just fire!
And while we are talking NY Rangers and Fashion can I just note that Jacob Trouba looking so freaking hot with the rough on his face? I mean seriously, he looks incredible! Also Ryan Lindgren is growing his facial hair again- anything that man does it ridiculously awesome! Panarin is even growing facial hair! So I guess there is a “contest” happening over which dude on the team is going to look the best with a little rough on their face. I have also said this: having a little rough on a man’s face, gives him a edge. It is so sexy and it is a complete turn on.

Do that with what you will.

Last podcast I showed a little clip of this… and people asked to see it. So here ya go.
Jacob… you have moves!!! And that is compliment coming from a cheer coach/choreographer! I love this!! Seeing this makes Jacob not just seen as a star hockey player, but as a person. Which most seem to forget that he is a person, not a robot playing a sport.