Wanna Date An Athlete? Here’s how to find them on Tinder

Do you want to find an athlete on Tinder? If you are a paid subscriber I will get into how you can find out which athletes are using #tinder – there is an actual way that works to do this.  Also, I discuss how stupid athletes are that are on Tinder – and other dating apps.

I also talk about the rumors on social media about me and my dating life. Which are humorous BTW. 

I will get into the #NFL with their #covid protocols- plus there’s always 1 jerk that needs to bring race into everything on #socialmedia.

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Cyber Monday Fun Day!

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A mixed bag: NFL, Dating and Twitter

Social media is good for a lot of things; networking, brainstorming ideas, and even meeting some cool people. But just as everything has a positive, it also has a negative.
Over the past five years, social media has become a very negative place where so many folks think they have the right to insult, humiliate and bully other people. They take things to a level that should have never been allowed in the first place and because these platforms allowed it, this type of behavior is out of control.

NFL fans are the best example if this type of behavior. If you follow me on Twitter or even Instagram, you have seen the type of hate I get for supporting 1 particular player: Sam Darnold.

For those who don’t know the “story” behind my support, here it is, as I paraphrase:

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These are just a few reasons why I support Sam… as a player. Gritty. Determined. Passionate. Desire to Win. If you are a fan and don’t see that, then what are you looking at? Oh, right, you care about all the negatives from his career. The stupid ghost comments and making fun of him getting mono. Right, sorry I forgot. Then of course there are football fans who just don’t understand FOOTBALL
The greatest misconception in all of sports is that the quarterback is the most important member of a football team. The offensive line of a team is more important than the quarterback simply because without such an offensive line, it is literally impossible for any quarterback, regardless of talent, to gain even moderate success. The reason behind this is simple: on average, a quarterback needs approximately 4.5 seconds to complete a pass. For deeper passes or more complicated routes, a quarterback may even need more time before releasing the ball. However, without an efficient offensive line, the quarterback will begin to be pressured within as little time as 1.5 seconds. No quarterback can ever succeed under such conditions. Not to mention having elite players to throw the ball or hand off the ball matter too.

I am a VERY loyal person. I am loyal until that person does something to make me realize that I shouldn’t be loyal anymore. In relationships it’s the lying, cheating, and obviously if a man ever abused me – same can be said for friendship plus of course, trashing me behind my back and not willingly supporting me.

In sports, I can say that what a player does on the field matters just as much as how he behaves off the field. It’s all about a players character that makes me stay loyal.
Sam is ALWAYS thinking about the kids. He has a passion for kids with Pediatric Cancer.

Here’s the video

And when he was with the Jets, he visited Goryeb Children’s Hospital.

Here’s the video

What’s not to to love about that? That in it self shows me Sam’s character. And ya know what? He NEVER posts that stuff to his social media… to brag “hey, look at me, I’m an athlete helping kids! (Like most athletes do) He just does it. Yes, he has a picture of a kid on his social media that represents #NEGU – but that’s it.

He is a great guy, something I wish in the dating world we could clone. There are so many guys out that that lack integrity, compassion, are humble, show responsibility, are respectful and hard working, not to mention are a little quirky and there ya go- the perfect guy.
Age has nothing to do with maturity either. I know guys in their 40s and 50s who act as mature as a 10 year old and I know guys in their 20s and 30s who act more mature than their years. Maturity is not measured by age. In reality, age doesn’t determine how mature a person is, it’s their personal experiences that determine their maturity level. And on social media, you get to see just how immature guys are these days!

There are guys on Twitter who literally think that love is a game. Um, no sweetie, pulling on my heartstrings isn’t a game! The idea that romance is a game – one where the player who best keeps his or her cool “wins” – is perpetuated by a self-help industry that makes billions from telling women that to be loved, they need to change the way they look, act, and feel. God forbid we strive to have people be their “real self” in today’s dating world. Nope, it’s all about hooking up and that is the “game” men want to play and stupid women follow. Two cheers for the hoes- because in order to land a “player” that’s literally what they want- a hoe. A woman who flaunts her body, acts stupid and dumb, and who can be “arm candy” to all these athletes and “players” because the dating industry preys on women’s insecurities about being desirable by implying that they’re not good enough as they are. And it tells women that when romance doesn’t work out, it’s because they did something wrong. When They didn’t, all they did was “play the game” that the men wanted her to play.

Here is the truth about love and romance: If you never let yourself fall freely you won’t get anywhere near authentic love. The more you follow the self-help game the more difficult you make it for love to find you. If a woman needs to play games to hold a man’s interest chances are not only is he not a real man, but he’s also not the guy who deserves you. See, that is why I don’t chase. You want me to chase you… ha! Okay, bye – enjoy your run.

Having a lot of women isn’t a flex. Having that one girl that nobody can touch is. A lot of boys have trouble understanding the difference between quality and quantity.

There are many people today who don’t know the meaning of being loyal and when most see someone who is, they attack. How dare I be a loyal and respectful woman? How dare I not conform to what everyone else is selling? How dare I be an entrepreneur running 6 different businesses and know football too? How dare I not be a typical blonde chick who allows herself to be manipulated by misconceptions that guys want me to believe?

If you think I can’t see that you are jealous when you compliment me with an insult, try to humiliate me on line, try to diminish who I am and that what I say has value, then all I can say to you is this:

I will not water myself down to make me more digestible for you. You can choke.

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Get To Know Me (stop stalking my social media)

Yes, there are “those people” who think they can “get to know” someone by what they post, but that is the wrong idea to have! Mostly people post things to social media that they either LOVE or INTERESTS them. People also post things, at least I know I do, to motivate, inspire, or to be sassy/witty. How could you really know, truly know someone by their posts?

So here are 10 questions and 10 answers for you to “Get To Know” me. HINT: if you really want to get to know me the best way to ASK me!

Question 1: If I had to eat the same foods over and over, what might those be?

Answer: I could literally eat pizza, pasta, peanut butter and French Fries every day if needed.

Question 2: What is the dumbest way you’ve been hurt?

Answer: Luckily for me, it’s the ONLY time I broke a bone. 6th grade on my best friend’s driveway on Valentine’s Day, I slipped on the ice and broke my wrist.

Question 3: Who is your all-time favorite Disney character?

Answer: It’s Cinderella. Classic.

Question 4: What am I afraid of?

Answer: Bees, Spiders, Snakes ( I stepped on 2 of them growing up!) I don’t like the dark but I’m not afraid of it- I rather not be in the dark if that makes sense!

Question 5: Favorite Flower / favorite bug / Favorite color:

Answer: Daisies / Ladybugs / Pink

Question 6: Favorite Vacation Spots

Answer: ANYWHERE there is a Beach and Lake George, NY – I love that town so much! It’s quint, relaxing, and fun. Also there people there are so nice!

Question 7: What talents do you have that nobody knows:

Answer: I played the flute and violin growing up. I also wrote a song that was played on Z100 . Also, I am good at finding missing objects. Anytime any one has something missing, they call me.

Question 8: What did I study in college?

Answer: I started with journalism as I wanted to be a hockey writer or a football writer, but I switched my major to teaching because I fell in love with the kids I was teaching in the summer one year as an assistant and never looked back. So I majored in Education with a minor in English. This was I could always come back to writing later on. Everything does come full circle and I have written over 9 books. And millions of blogs. (either as a ghostwriter, blogger for other sites or my own material.)

Question 9: If you could choose to do anything for a day, what would it be?

Answer: Sometimes the best adventures are the ones not planned. I would simply just go on an adventure, whether it was driving some place, shopping, finding a new fun thing to try, ( I have never yet gone to a golf range before) going on a nature walk in a new place, or just spending time with my nephew and niece – those are unplanned adventures for sure!!

Question 10: What are your favorite holidays?

Answer: My Birthday ( yes, it’s a freaking holiday! I celebrate all month long (April BTW) And Christmas! I love baking my Christmas cookies and buying and making gifts for others. It’s my favorite time of the year!

The Hype that once was for online dating, is simply over

In the beginning when online dating first emerged in 1995, with the world’s first online dating website was launched in the form of Match.com everyone was excited. The nights of trolling bars, clubs, and every other place in between was “officially” over!

Then came dating apps, and more apps, apps for athletes, professional careers, older people, Ivy league, etc. You name it, there is a dating app for a certain niche of people.

Various studies indicate that men, more so than women, search for youth and physical attractiveness in their potential mates. On dating sites, men are more likely to display their resources, athleticism, and strength, while women are more likely to alter their physical appearances through clothing or the use of makeup.

These differences also manifest in the ways men and women deceive each other. When attempting to impress potential mates, men are more likely to try to deceive women about their levels of dominance (i.e., masculinity) and resources (i.e., income, career expectations), while women are more likely to try to deceive men about their physical appearances.
Keep all this in mind as we talk about how this is just the start of a down fall with dating online and apps.

Men deceive women about relationships and use dating apps as an easy place for a hook up. A student overseas was told by Tinder that she swiped right over 100k. She complained that people online were only looking for a ‘quick hook up’ and her dates from Tinder didn’t last longer than two meetups. She has since abandoned online dating, saying meeting people in person ‘works 100 times better’ and is 11 months into a happy relationship with her boyfriend, who she met offline. She complained that on Tinder most men were just interested in casual sex and weren’t looking for a genuine connection. The 21 year old student even had to un-match potential suitors for sending her ‘creepy’ messages, which is basically the story of EVERY woman on a dating app.

Now there is a new study has found that married couples who met on dating apps have a higher chance of getting a divorce. (Only what I have been telling you and readers since 2011) The study conducted by the Marriage Foundation and assembled by the UK-based polling company Savanta ComRes, researchers polled over 2,000 adults who were at least 30 years old and married at least once in their lives, found that 12% of couples who found their significant other online got divorced within the first three years of marriage — compared to only 2% of lovers who met offline. After seven years of marriage, the likelihood of divorce for a couple who met through an app shot to 17%, compared to 10% of those who met through pals. The research also found that 8% of couples who linked up in school and 7% of spouses who met at work divorced within the first three years.

Now, if you meet a stranger on a social media app, don’t knock it. Well, at first. Social media is a great tool to meet interesting people and create relationships, but you must be smart about it. Know when someone has a fake account compared to a real account. Here are the RED FLAGS for fake accounts on Instagram:

1) Profile picture- lack of one or one that looks too professional/ photo shopped. 2) Private account 3) MANY followers and following thousands, but have NO Posts. 4) Have posts, but they are recent and not posted correctly ( just photos on Instagram, no copy) 5) They message you from another account to get to you follow the main account 6) The bio and the comments are generic 7) they ask for your phone number or personal information immediately – this is true of a SCAMMER. 8) They won’t Facetime you at all. ( They can still be fake and Facetime you – so take note of the conversation you are having. IF you keep asking to meet up and they keep saying no and have excuses- fake.

If you know WHO the person IS on line, it is always better to get to know that person verses a complete stranger, just be smart about it. ( An athlete is a good example of this- although athletes are known to have what are called burner accounts (fake accounts) to spy on what fans think about them and what the media is saying about them without the person’s knowledge.)

TOP places to MEET people:

  1. Coffee Shops
  2. Gyms
  3. Dog Parks
  4. Volunteering
  5. Sports leagues
  6. Airports
  7. Bars
  8. College Campuses
  9. Parties
  10. Grocery Store

*** The Bonus Coverage of Relationship Impossible will be a 2 part bonus. Part 1 will be in a podcast form – you can subscribe here CLICK HERE or you can purchase the journal which will be Part 2. (coming soon!)

Coffee First, Wine Later ( A series of blogs)

I have some EXCITING news!

Drum Roll Please….. … …. …

I know what Santa wants you to get your family and friends for Christmas and the holidays!

Introducing …. A Sassy Productions:

Coffee First, With Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee and Wine Later with Sassy Productions Inc.

Supplies are limited for the WINE… but ANYONE who orders coffee ( CLICK HERE ) will qualify to order a bottle of my Rosé Wine for HALF the price!!

You also will be put in a drawing to WIN A BOTTLE FREE on #blackfriday!

I also will be giving away FREE Coffee and having a special #BlackFriday Sale!

Remember, when you support a small business, you are supporting a dream and helping it come true one purchase at a time!

Open For Business! (and other cool updates!)

Just Brew It Is Open For Business
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I’m excited to announce that I have added to my businesses ( yes, I have another one folks!) with my coffee brand: Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee!
It’s so exciting! I really do LOVE coffee. That is not me being dramatic- I literally LIVE for it. It’s funny yes, but it’s my hustle juice. Now, I am not that coffee drinker that drinks like 4-5 cups… oh no, you’d have to peel me off the ceiling if I did that! But it definitely keeps me moving.

During the pandemic I started to look at what my passions were and what other type of businesses I could add to my “Sassy” line. I tried clothing for a while, and yes, I made a few sales, but clothing is quite expensive to keep up with, and on Instagram and Facebook in order to have a “shop” the website for which you sell it needs to the website you sell it from- meaning that I was not the one manufacturing the products and to purchase it you were going to a different website and not staying on mine.

Anyhow, I got a book on coffee and was reading up on it, I was an influencer for this coffee brand and I also was watching a few Christmas movies that inspired me to think to myself, “First off, why am I helping someone else make money off of coffee when I can do it myself?” And I drink a ton of coffee that never really tastes fresh since it’s on the shelves for a long time or the coffee shops you got to have expensive coffee that tasted altered- so I thought maybe I could have a brand of coffee that would be gourmet that folks could make at home or in the office and not have to go to expensive coffee places to get it. Bottom line is this: I roast the beans myself, then I grind them, and then I package them together. I sell K-pods and ground. Click here to go to the website

Here is the coffee after I grind it.

OTHER NEWS

You can now subscribe to my podcast, “Sassy Nation” This podcast is all about sports, social media and 100% sassiness!

Subscribers will get benefits that free listeners will not!

1) Recordings of A Fangirl #sarcasm podcast ( the latest episode is free right now)
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Finally, The BONUS edition for my book, “Relationship Impossible” will be in a PODCAST format. I am still working on it, but I feel this is better to do than to sit and write out a bonus. I still am going to give you a journal and put some juicy details in the journal, but if you want to listen to the bonus edition, you will have to subscribe to the Sassy Nation Podcast. Of course I will give you a little teaser so you know what I am talking about… it will be WORTH IT! That I can promise and deliver!

The Recordings Of A Fangirl #sarcasm

I hate the term “Fangirl.”

I also hate it when girls are called groupies or for those girls who love hockey, they are called “puckbunnies.”

It’s not a compliment.

So “Fangirl” or “fangirling” is not, in and of itself a sexist term. Nor does a man using it guarantee it is meant as anything other than a description. Can it be sexist? Sure. It can be meant dismissively or as a slur. I’ve seen women trash talk “fanboys” as well.

Intent is definitely the main part of the equation. If a guy looks at a panel room, a bar full of girls watching a game and shakes his head while muttering “fangirls” …yeah, he’s probably being sexist.

I always feel the need to defend myself when that term is used to pigeon-hole me. Why? Haven’t you heard? Fangirls are crazy, obsessive, desperate, shallow, hysterical females, who only care about the attractiveness of the athletes in question. What would they know about sports?

I have developed a podcast called, “The Recordings Of A Fangirl #Sarcasm” to talk about girlie things, sports, dating, athletes, and my usual sassy rants are part of it. These will be a bonus if you subscribe to my podcast “Sassy Nation”

Here are the links:

The latest podcast: CLICK HERE

The 1st episode of The Recordings of A Fangirl #Sarcasm: CLICK HERE

Remembering 9/11

9/11/01

I will always remember where I was on that day and how it impacted everyone’s lives. I remember working at a school that day and having a co-worker tell me her dad worked in the North Tower and in 50 years he NEVER missed a day of work until that day.

I remember having to comfort a parent who thought his wife was on 1 of those planes. Luckily she wasn’t.

I remember driving home that night and seeing State Troopers parked at every exit on the NY State Thruway

.I remember learning that my neighbor lost his dad that day trying to rescue others. He was a firefighter.

I remember hearing about friends who lost siblings in the buildings.

I also remember how this Country BANNED TOGETHER and NEVER let Politics stand between each other – how we were kind and caring of one another. We need to REMEMBER that because we as a Country have lost sight of what TRULY is important.

If you don’t want to do it for yourself and your neighbors do it for the 3,000 lives that were lost that day. Don’t let hate win but rather let love reign.

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#september11#remembering911#twintowers

Again, but better

I haven’t been happy lately.

No, I take that back. I have been happy, but I have not felt fulfilled lately. It’s like nothing I do or accomplish makes me feel as if I am doing things that are appreciated nor do I feel that I am valued. I always wanted to have my own empire, and believe me that hasn’t changed. What has changed is how I go about that.

I noticed lately that either people who are jealous or those who scoff at the idea of having multiple businesses have given me negative feedback without having any true facts. And I notice that when I try to help others gain insight on what knowledge I have, they don’t value me or what I know. Either that or they are just plainly lazy and don’t care as much about their business as I care about theirs.

85% of my job is either chasing a client down for money or content. And it’s exhausting! So, to fix this problem, I am going to go and do credit cards starting in October. But the other problem will either get fixed by me learning that I can not control how clients respond and therefore I won’t chase them anymore. You either give me what I ask for or you don’t get what you want to achieve from your marketing. And when they freaking complain, I will point it out to them. Yes, I will save text messages and emails. I also believe in principles, but if you tell me you will do something, I expect you to do it or give me enough time to make alternate arrangements. If you flake on me enough times, I’ll re-evaluate our relationship and more than likely cancel you out of my life. A person who doesn’t consistently keep their word does not respect you, and they don’t value you or your time.

I should not have to get super stressed out over how people behave.

Speaking of stress, I noticed that this entire year minus January, I have been super stressed. Stress takes a toll on our mental health and our bodies. Life should not be lived having to be stressed day in and day out. I want to change the world, yes, but I don’t want to die because I am completely stressed over things that I have no control over. I can only do my part and then hope that it inspires someone else to change their outlook and reach out to pay it forward.

What gets me is the fact that we undervalue other people either based on what we have heard, what the myths there are or we are afraid to really find out the true value of someone else. When we take our anger and frustrations out on other people, we aren’t dealing with the problem at hand, which is the reason why we feel the way we do. We try to hide and push those feelings away, but that doesn’t solve the issue. Instead it causes more pain, grief, and frustrations. Egoism, lack of love and empathy are main reasons people don’t value others. People create more enemies for themselves than friends. To be very rewarding in our world we have to have respect for other people. It is a way of showing who we are and what we cherish and understand how interconnected in the world we live in.

Here’s another thing that I can’t stand lately: Whenever they need you, they come running. On the contrary, when you are in a bind, they do not reciprocate. I have gone above and beyond in my relationships. When I expected the same in return, it was not given. Those are hard lessons, but it became my comparable measuring cup to any other relationship. I have so many people in my life who DO value me that it became easy to spot when someone else didn’t. The word effort is defined as a vigorous or determined attempt. So, let me make this as straightforward as possible. Suppose you’re the only one who puts effort into having meetings, meetups, phone calls, or quality time. In that case, they don’t value you, and it’s not your responsibility to put in the majority of the effort.
That is a hard lesson to learn but it’s the darn truth. I have clients that expect magical things to happen, yet when I ask them for simple stuff like passwords, pictures or video links… crickets. Needless to say, I am done having to put forth all the effort and getting no reward from it. Yes, life isn’t about reward, but it isn’t about having to deal with stress caused from people’s slack effort, respect and value. I’m tired of constantly GIVING and having TAKERS take and NEVER give back- EVER!

Having a sense of self-worth means that you value yourself, and having a sense of self-value means that you are worthy. Easy to say, hard to do. That’s where self care and self love come into play.
Lately I have been doing a lot of this! Spending time with my self and those who value me. Noticing also that there are MANY people out there today who feel this exactly as well. I will start to record how each day goes and what I have learned from the day. I also will start recording my self talk to myself ( Yes, I the old fashioned thing to do, is to use a tape recorder) and then I will share my thoughts with the world. I know I have a voice and it won’t ever be stifled. If I can use my life to help someone else out there, then I have done my part in trying to help the world be a better place.

Just remember that there are people in this world who will always value you , even when you can’t see the value in yourself and even when you can’t see that they do value you. You can always make more money. You can never make more time. You can never replace the TRUE value of another human being with money. EVER.