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Again, but better

I haven’t been happy lately.

No, I take that back. I have been happy, but I have not felt fulfilled lately. It’s like nothing I do or accomplish makes me feel as if I am doing things that are appreciated nor do I feel that I am valued. I always wanted to have my own empire, and believe me that hasn’t changed. What has changed is how I go about that.

I noticed lately that either people who are jealous or those who scoff at the idea of having multiple businesses have given me negative feedback without having any true facts. And I notice that when I try to help others gain insight on what knowledge I have, they don’t value me or what I know. Either that or they are just plainly lazy and don’t care as much about their business as I care about theirs.

85% of my job is either chasing a client down for money or content. And it’s exhausting! So, to fix this problem, I am going to go and do credit cards starting in October. But the other problem will either get fixed by me learning that I can not control how clients respond and therefore I won’t chase them anymore. You either give me what I ask for or you don’t get what you want to achieve from your marketing. And when they freaking complain, I will point it out to them. Yes, I will save text messages and emails. I also believe in principles, but if you tell me you will do something, I expect you to do it or give me enough time to make alternate arrangements. If you flake on me enough times, I’ll re-evaluate our relationship and more than likely cancel you out of my life. A person who doesn’t consistently keep their word does not respect you, and they don’t value you or your time.

I should not have to get super stressed out over how people behave.

Speaking of stress, I noticed that this entire year minus January, I have been super stressed. Stress takes a toll on our mental health and our bodies. Life should not be lived having to be stressed day in and day out. I want to change the world, yes, but I don’t want to die because I am completely stressed over things that I have no control over. I can only do my part and then hope that it inspires someone else to change their outlook and reach out to pay it forward.

What gets me is the fact that we undervalue other people either based on what we have heard, what the myths there are or we are afraid to really find out the true value of someone else. When we take our anger and frustrations out on other people, we aren’t dealing with the problem at hand, which is the reason why we feel the way we do. We try to hide and push those feelings away, but that doesn’t solve the issue. Instead it causes more pain, grief, and frustrations. Egoism, lack of love and empathy are main reasons people don’t value others. People create more enemies for themselves than friends. To be very rewarding in our world we have to have respect for other people. It is a way of showing who we are and what we cherish and understand how interconnected in the world we live in.

Here’s another thing that I can’t stand lately: Whenever they need you, they come running. On the contrary, when you are in a bind, they do not reciprocate. I have gone above and beyond in my relationships. When I expected the same in return, it was not given. Those are hard lessons, but it became my comparable measuring cup to any other relationship. I have so many people in my life who DO value me that it became easy to spot when someone else didn’t. The word effort is defined as a vigorous or determined attempt. So, let me make this as straightforward as possible. Suppose you’re the only one who puts effort into having meetings, meetups, phone calls, or quality time. In that case, they don’t value you, and it’s not your responsibility to put in the majority of the effort.
That is a hard lesson to learn but it’s the darn truth. I have clients that expect magical things to happen, yet when I ask them for simple stuff like passwords, pictures or video links… crickets. Needless to say, I am done having to put forth all the effort and getting no reward from it. Yes, life isn’t about reward, but it isn’t about having to deal with stress caused from people’s slack effort, respect and value. I’m tired of constantly GIVING and having TAKERS take and NEVER give back- EVER!

Having a sense of self-worth means that you value yourself, and having a sense of self-value means that you are worthy. Easy to say, hard to do. That’s where self care and self love come into play.
Lately I have been doing a lot of this! Spending time with my self and those who value me. Noticing also that there are MANY people out there today who feel this exactly as well. I will start to record how each day goes and what I have learned from the day. I also will start recording my self talk to myself ( Yes, I the old fashioned thing to do, is to use a tape recorder) and then I will share my thoughts with the world. I know I have a voice and it won’t ever be stifled. If I can use my life to help someone else out there, then I have done my part in trying to help the world be a better place.

Just remember that there are people in this world who will always value you , even when you can’t see the value in yourself and even when you can’t see that they do value you. You can always make more money. You can never make more time. You can never replace the TRUE value of another human being with money. EVER.

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An Open Letter To Jack Dorsey

Dear Jack,

Your social media platform is a complete mess! You have bullies and trolls spewing hate, racism, sexism; making it nearly impossible to engage on your platform. You have nudity and folks performing sexual acts on your platform and also tons of spammers. As a user since 2010 AND a Stock holder I am APPLAUDED! ( I also use your other platform Square and have stock in that as well)

It took you years to upgrade the platform as well. From 180 characters to 240. Then you decided to add other features such as Ads, While you are away feature, turned the favorite button into the like button, added a change to its feed, making recommended tweets the default option, you add the “Explore” tab, which replaces the “Moments” tab and you purchased Periscope, which is no longer.

You then added features called fleets and spaces which most can’t even use because of the fault in your design. You have something called Twitter Blue, which is a paid version of Twitter, and you refused to give folks an edit button, unless now they pay for it, but that option is not available in the US yet. You also want to add shopping features to your site, which mostly is a waste because people don’t use your platform to shop, they use the platform to converse. Which makes it crystal clear, you don’t even understand HOW your platform even works and you so far behind all the other social media platforms it’s ridiculous!

You develop Fleets, which is like stories, have no place to store them when they run out, I can’t even access them from my Iphone or Ipad only from my Itouch. I can’t access your “Clubhouse” look alike called Spaces, so I can’t promote podcasts, marketing strategies and so forth.
You won’t give folks an edit button using the excuse that they will abuse it. Have you EVER been on Facebook at all? Do you know that once you edit a post it states that the post was EDITED? You can’t do that on Twitter?

Have you ever heard of Tiktok, Reels and Shorts? Do you not understand that folks make videos using licensed music? Guess what most folks do with those videos… they SHARE THEM TO TWITTER!

Why? To increase traffic to their platforms, the increase views and also give their audience on Twitter something to watch.

So explain to me WHY you allow hate, racism, sexism and nudity but suspend accounts that share their REELS and TIKTOKS to your platform? Your Artificial Intelligence / algorthim is way out of date and DMCA needs to be changed IMMEDIATELY – It’s NOT unauthorized activity, since the music is ALLOWED on INSTAGRAM and TIKTOK. Universal Music Group (UMG), also needs to be aware of this since now most people are making videos with music on Instagram, Tiktok and now Youtube with Shorts.

It is horrendous to treat people like criminals for using MUSIC that is ALLOWED on OTHER platforms.

You then remove the so called “violation” before folks can even see it. How can you expect folks to know what they did if you are removing the post/tweet prior to having the person see it?
You then send them NO notification on the app itself, but a sneaky email telling them that they have a violation, which really is NOT a violation since EVERY SITE is using LICENSED music!

The quality of your platform has gone DOWNHILL!
you say we have freedom to speak our mind while you censor people who don’t agree with you!

Are you aware that is what communism is all about?

Not to mention that your platform favors men over women. You have an issue with your algorthim cropping out black faces. And how long does it take to get rid of folks who are having sex on your platform? Literally, there are folks advertising their “only fans” with SEX acts ON YOUR platform! There are teens on your platform- they should not have to witness that activity, which belongs on Pornhub, not Twitter.

I can really go on, but the main problem is suspending my account over music that was used from a different platform such as Instagram, and sharing my reel on your platform. I am asked if I want to share it on YOUR platform and then you SUSPEND me for doing that?

As a stock holder, I demand that you give me back my account: @sweetstephanie7 – it took me YEARS to build that up after I was FORCED to close another account due to bullying. And right now, it’s impossible to build up followers on your platform since you favor men over women.

Do the right thing and also educate yourself on how social media platforms work and grow. If you need help, I’d be more than happy to help you as I have been a social media expert since 2008.


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NFL Players Don’t Know Anything About Love

Over the past week and a half I have seen at least 5 athletes post the famous bible verse of “Love is patient” except they never post the entire verse, they end it with “It keeps no record of wrongs,” BUT that is not the entire verse, so here is it in it’s entirety which is 1 of my favorite verses:

If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy and can fathom all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have a faith that can move mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give all I possess to the poor and give over my body to hardship that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.  Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.  It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.

Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

 For we know in part and we prophesy in part,  but when completeness comes, what is in part disappears.  When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me. For now we see only a reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

It’s ironic that NFL players and other athletes post up to the “wrong doing” but do they really understand UNDERSTAND what they are posting or are they just posting for likes?

Here is what all the athletes who post this verse miss the boat on:

In the now-famous “Love Chapter” of 1 Corinthians, Paul wrote about love that is put into practice. More than just a feeling or emotion, Paul writes less about what love is and more about what love does. Transformed by the love of Jesus Christ, this kind of love should be a natural overflow of the believer’s heart and evident in everything they do. Unfortunately, for the Corinthian church, this was not always the case.  The words used in 1 Corinthians 13 to describe love are the kind of active verbs Paul was challenging the Corinthian church to adopt: patience, kindness, humility, forgiveness, trust, hope, and perseverance. Love, Paul argued, was the greatest outward testimony of their inward transformation. 

At the beginning of 1 Corinthians 13, Paul writes, “If I speak in the tongues of men or of angels, but do not have love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal” (1 Corinthians 13:1). He then goes on to say that if Christians are able to prophesy, can understand the mysteries of the universe, and give to the poor but ultimately lack love, their actions are meaningless, and there is no spiritual gain. Love must be at the root of everything Christians do and evident in their actions.

It’s more about your ACTIONS than your WORDS. And in the world of social media, the NFL players (and other athletes) certainly just know how to talk the talk when they hardly walk the walk.

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Exclusive BTS from a GirlBoss

Everyone always says to me, “It must be so nice to be your own boss.” My answer to that loaded statement is quite simple: No it isn’t. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I get to do what I love to do and do it on my own terms. But what people don’t see and don’t know is that it takes ALL of me to do it day in and day out. No two days look the same.

For my new series ( here on the blog and on Instagram and Twitter) I will show you pictures and videos of me being the “girlboss” that I am.

Now, I start out most days the SAME way with Prayer, working out and feeding my squirrels and birds. The only day that I have off from working out is Friday.

The prayers I say each day are different too. But the top 2 prayers are the 2 I say every morning.
Working out is so important. It’s not about “just” the body,
it’s also good for the soul and your mental state. I will show you my workouts on Instagram and Twitter FYI
I feed the squirrels and birds each morning. I have literally trained the squirrels to knock when I am “late” and the birds wait for me on deck (sometimes so do the squirrels)
This was my Tuesday breakfast. I don’t eat a “big one”. I eat usually at 10am and it’s something that is going to keep me energized and geared to work until lunch. BTW I already had my coffee, I just didn’t take a photo of it!
Don’t forget to drink water throughout the morning. Especially after you workout and during the summer when it’s easy to get dehydrated!
Now I go and check out Twitter and see what is trending. This is usually where I go to see what topics I should talk about on my podcast and radio show.
Now I am working on my new logo for Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee.
Also am working on putting together the menu and a fundraiser for my cheerleading squad I coach.
The next thing is to start learning how to use my new toy. If you want to know HOW to create videos that are awesome for social media, here’s a tip: go to Staples and get the gear you need. It’s not as expensive as you think.
Now, I need to pay some bills. YUCK! But they don’t pay themselves, unfortunately.
I turn off the computer now, actually put it in sleep mode, and head to the tablet to do some work. I check out Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest next. I also see what is trending on Tiktok.
I take a break from the screens and go see if I need to water my garden.
I grow all kinds of things, this is the picture of my mini pumpkins that I hope I have for my nephew and niece for Halloween.
Shopping break. I need to get my new planner. I plan out each day and it helps to have it written down. I used to be a teacher so I still love teacher plan books.
Still a favorite sight, look at all the clean and new notebooks!
I go home and make lunch now. Here I am having a salad with watermelon, chicken, tomatoes and more. And yes, they are fries that I made- not fast food ones.
Time to plan my cheer conditioning program. I am planning out my cheer body fitness which will be available on Youtube and for a small payment – anyone can do it. I have many workouts that you don’t need equipment.
MY afternoon snack.
Before I head out to do some cheer body fitness in person with my rec teams, I had to make changes to my book, “Relationship Impossible”
Came back from cheerleading conditioning so a light dinner.
Pasta salad- homemade.
And these are sweet and sour veggies and pineapple! After dinner I showered and then it was time to just relax before bed. No devices. Stay tuned for the next blog post for some more BTS for Wednesday!

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Podcast part 2: Excerpts from Relationship Impossible

Listen to another exciting excerpt reading of my recently released book, “Relationship Impossible”.

UPDATE: The paperback is on the way to Amazon in 4-6 weeks and then in August the paperback will make it’s way to Barnes and Noble dot com.

Here’s the lowdown on dating sites: Every dating site has an algorithm that they use in matching people together. It is not “fate” that helps you meet the person, it is artificial intelligence. Match and the other apps use the same type of recommendation system used by Netflix or Facebook, taking your past behaviors (and the behavior of others) into account to predict what you’ll like next. LISTEN NOW!

Here’s the link for the PODCAST —-> CLICK Here

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Breaking: Relationship Impossible

My book, ” Relationship Impossible,” the most anticipated book of the summer, was officially released on Amazon as an eBook June 5th.

You Can Purchase it HERE

In the meantime, you can listen to a podcast reading of the book here: CLICK

There will be a contest coming up soon and also a giveaway of the book AND my coffee brand that I am launching soon!

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Excerpt From “Relationship Impossible” – part 1

Abuse isn’t always obvious. Here are some red flags that everyone reading this should know and note:

  • Call you names and put you down
  • Call or text you throughout the day to check on you
  • Keep you from friends or family
  • Control your $
  • Threaten to hurt you, himself/herself, your pet or loved one
  • Hit, Kick, Push, Punch, Slap, Pinch, Choke or Bite you
  • Destroy property or throw things
  • Tell you who you can see or what job you can have
  • Tell you how to dress Act overly jealous
  • Withhold medication or health care
  • Make you have sex or do sexual acts that you don’t want to do
  • Threaten to “out” you if you are gay or lesbian
  • Constantly criticize Embarrass you Blame you for everything – including the abusive behavior
    • What usually happens after this happens the first time is that the victim makes statements like: “My partner isn’t violent all the time – they love me” “Things will get better – they didn’t mean it” “Maybe it’s my fault” “I’m scared of what will happen if I leave them” And the abuse continues.
    • Remember, most relationships start off with each person acting their best and seeing the other with rose-colored glasses. It never starts off on an abusive note.-

I discuss this more in my new book, “Relationship Impossible” which can be preordered now on Amazon. Click here to order now!

More excerpts to come!

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The Wait Is Over!

The wait is OVER! Pre-order #Ebook form only: “Relationship Impossible”

What people don’t realize about dating apps in general is that you need a lot of swipes to get a match, a lot of matches to get a number, a lot of numbers to get a date and a lot of dates to get a third date.
Dating sites are good at baiting people to try them out. They lie about how many active members they truly have, use fake profiles….. But, remember, just because it is popular, doesn’t mean it actually works!
In this book, we will divide in, head first, on the hook-up culture, dating apps, social media, and also discuss some serious topics such a dating violence, gaslighting, ghosting, stalking, and more.

We will also discuss professional athletes and their use of social media and dating apps.

*** Those who pre-order the book will have a chance to WIN FREE coffee from my coffee brand that I am launching ****

CLICK HERE TO PREORDER

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Love Is Like A Game Of Chess

Breaking: With my upcoming book, “Relationship Impossible” comes a series of Journals that can be purchased to be used or just used alone.

The first one, seen here, will be released in a few days.

You can use it to write about all your dating adventures and at the end of the journal are questions that you can have fun asking your boyfriend/girlfriend ( Or use them for conversation starters!)

Look for the book, “Relationship Impossible” to be released May 28th.

The next journal will be released in June.

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Good Girls, Bad Boys, Nice Guys, to Bad Girls

Here is part 2 of the preview “Relationship Impossible”

Some guys have created this image of this “ideal” woman, so when regular women; regular, wonderful, real women fall short, they reject them. That way they never have to settle down and then everyone can still feel sorry about poor, lonely you.

I’m not saying that guys should just ‘settle” but they aren’t going to be happy if every time they discover a flaw in someone, they go to somebody else because every woman has her own flaws; no body is perfect. (And vice versa) Find that someone who makes you better, without trying to change who you are

Now before guys get their pants in a bunch, to be fair, I have seen guys do just this; they find a woman who is a down to Earth, “good woman” and then they find a flaw in her like, “Not pretty enough” or “too strong minded,” so this way they avoid commitment because to them the “bad girls” are more attractive than the “good ones.”

This is the reason that guys are hitting on girls on social media at a high rate and hooking up with girls left, center, and right on dating apps. They want the one and done relationships instead of the ones where they have to commit to one girl and “build a relationship” with her. That takes time, energy, effort and work.

Men find bad sexy because the things they plan on doing to bad women are likewise “naughty.” Bad is naughty and naughty is sexy. Good, on the other hand, sounds boring. Their definition of sexy is misinterpreted. And then of course, these same guys think that “bad girls” are better in bed than “good girls” which has been proven to be a myth. The “bad girl” that men are so taken by at times isn’t someone who is morally corrupt, but the challenge that a bad girl poses. One of the factors that makes a relationship with a bad girl fun yet short lived is the fact that most ‘bad girls’ ride big on the persona they create. Take a close look on Instagram and you will get a sense of which girls have created a “fake persona,” to gather attention, while the real, down to Earth girls show their true character online.

For a relationship to stay you need character. Personality is a superficial connect, whereas with character, you look for connection. So for a long term relationship, there has to be a shift from a superficial level to a deeper level – and that is why guys have to “test the road” with bad girls first before they settle down with a “good girl.”

Then there is the saying, “Nice guys finish last.”

The “nice” guy is the one who covers up his incompetence and lack of bravery by being patient and understanding. He’s not really being nice: like every single male on the planet, he wants sex with you, but he takes backdoor and windows to enter your kingdom. There are also those guys that fall into this category:

The too afraid to ask you out “nice guy” who will pass himself “ just a friend” in hopes that you will one day see how great he is, therefore, being the one who asks him out. Then he romances the hell out out of you in hopes that he no longer will be in the “friend zone” but moved to the “boyfriend zone.”

Of course the guy stuck in the friend zone will be thinking that the girl he has the hots for only wants to be with a, “bad boy.” You know the type: The “bad boys” that some women are attracted to are usually nothing more than punks, thugs, and assholes who believe that society’s rules do not apply to them. They are someone who do dangerously interesting stuff that differ from the so called boring everyday of expected routine behavior of other men.

If we say that “bad boys” are not outright criminals, but abusive, arrogant, manipulative men. Well, such men don’t usually show this side of their personality to a woman they want to attract. They are predators, their purpose is to attract potential “prey”, not to scare it off. Abusers and manipulators don’t appear as such until the “prey” has fallen into the trap. So, we cannot say that women are attracted to the abusers or manipulators as such. Women are attracted to the personality they want to show. The issue is actually that abusers and manipulators find it easier to appear confident and comfortable in their skin. On one hand, because they can play any role they want and usually have a lot of practice doing it. On the other hand, because they really don’t care about other people, they don’t really care if they succeed with one particular woman or not. They just move to the next target.

The majority of women are not attracted to “bad boys” because they are “bad”, but because it is easier for such men to make initial contact and take it from there. “Bad boy” romances, being more forbidden/against norm/full of regret stories/full of drama/etc, are simply better topics for gossip than a nice, normal, quiet, healthy romance- think about all the movies, TV shows, and books you have read and tell me which types people prefer. Of course, when you turn on Hallmark Channel, the girl always gets the boy she wants and the bad boy turns good at the end, which in reality is usually never the case.

Good girls, bad boys, nice guys, to bad girls, there is always going to be stereotypes of how people behave when it comes to sex, romance and relationships.

What it should always come down to is finding the right partner. One of the ways to do that is to find someone you can talk to. Being able to talk with your partner about important topics is probably worth more than physical beauty, money or power. You might disagree at times, but by being able to be open and honest with each other, leads you to fulfill what you want out of the relationship. When you make each other feel loved and emotionally fulfilled, the rest starts to fall into place. ( Part 3 coming soon…. )

You can purchase my best-selling book which was also nominated for Book of the Year, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid, 2nd Ed”