I speak life into my manifestations.
2024 is my year for abundance, prosperity, love, and success.
(Say this affirmation every day this week!)
You were meant to survive it. You know how to take an L and turn it into a win. You have the faith to see it where others can’t.
Be Grateful.
Believe.
Manifest.
And whatever you want you’ll get.
We’ve made it to the end of 2023.
We need to remind ourselves that this is a journey with ups and downs twists and turns, but that we need to stop looking at everything as a “when we get there” and enjoy the journey.
So before the ball drops in Times Square, release what is no longer serving you.
Move forward knowing that everything is working for your highest good.
Walk into 2024 with vulnerability – learning to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
There are still going to be times when things won’t work out perfectly, and that is okay.
But that is the point.
Shift things in 2024 from wanting to it’s happening and there is NOTHING ANYONE can do to stop it from happening! They can bitch, they can troll, they can complain but what is meant for you will happen in its perfect timing!
SUBSCRIBE to my podcast in 2024 to hear the message of the championship mindset.
(Also, hey, the behind the scenes stuff too!)
Let’s get excited! SO many AWESOME things are ABOUT to unfold in 2024! Follow my path and create yours.
When I went into 2023 – I KNEW this year was going to be different and bring me so many new possibilities, opportunities, experiences, and adventures. The seeds were planted and now in 2024 it’s time to watch them bloom. When you walk your path doing it scared and doing it unprepared, your desires will guide you to where you need to go. This is the BEST PART!!
Live each day with gratitude realizing that is going to get you so much more than you can ever want or need.
The obstacles are what we need.
When we see the opponent on the ice, we don’t run from them, we just gain clarity as to what our next move is.
Your only job in 2024 is to JUST BE.
Congrats on getting through whatever it is that you got through in 2023… Now, let’s continue this journey together in 2024.
The holiday Season is a great time to share gifts with those you love. Support Small Businesses like mine. When you buy from small businesses, you help a dream come true. I have tons of different designs and products ( Sweatshirts, T-shirts, Coffee mugs and now even notebooks!) Scan the QR code to go directly to the shop.
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I will always remember where I was on that day and how it impacted everyone’s lives.
I remember working at a daycare that day and having a co-worker tell me her dad worked in the North Tower and in 50 years he NEVER missed a day of work until that day.
I remember having to comfort a parent who thought his wife was on 1 of those planes. Luckily she wasn’t.
I remember driving home that night and seeing State Troopers parked at every exit on the Thruway.
I remember learning that my neighbor lost his dad that day trying to rescue others. He was a firefighter.
I remember hearing about friends who lost siblings in the buildings.
I also remember how this Country BANNED TOGETHER and NEVER let Politics stand between each other – how we were kind and caring of one another.
We need to REMEMBER that because we as a Country have lost sight of what TRULY is important. If you don’t want to do it for yourself and your neighbors do it for the 3,000 lives that were lost that day.
As we remember those lives lost, let’s also today honor the value of life, our country’s resilience and the strength of the American spirit. 9/11 is one of our worst days but it brought out the best in us. It unified us as a country & showed our charitable instincts. Continue that today by paying it forward. Whether it’s a smile, a kind word, or helping out a stranger. It’s that spirit we need now.
Don’t let hate win but rather let love reign.
So as I said in the last blog post, I had some really interesting dating stories to share. If you read this blog then you know that I am in these chats with girls who talk about their dating lives and the stupid, narcissistic, jerks of men that they either date or are interested in from dating apps.
Before I continue, don’t reach out to me to tell me that your long lost cousin found his wife on a dating app- yes I get it… that was the point of these apps YEARS ago. Today they are all filled with either married men cheating on their wives, young guys who think it’s a flex to sleep with as many as possible, or even catfishers who are trying to scam women out of their money.
I was thinking that we all what the stories are going to be- so instead of telling you the stories, I will tell you about the DMs I have received asking for my dating advice:
Question 1: For a first date this guy asked me out on a coffee date? Is that showing him that my standards are low, when they aren’t anywhere close to that?
MY ANSWER: A cute cafe with a romantic ambiance and the best coffee in town is the perfect way to lay the foundation for that special connection you’re hoping to build. Coffee shop dates are the most socially acceptable way of meeting someone, spending time with that person, and keeping a nice conversation going to get to know them better. These meetings don’t have to be necessarily romantic in nature. A date shouldn’t be about the the amount of money spent, it should be about getting to know someone, feeling a vibe with someone and creating memories. Meeting someone new is not always easy for everyone. And to some, they have anxiety when it comes to doing this. A coffee date is a simple way of just breaking the ice with someone having fun, not to mention, and coffee. It also allows both people to see the other person’s personality and feel relaxed.
Finally, if you plan a highly elaborate romantic date that involves a full-course meal, and perhaps some wine in a five star restaurant, it will automatically build up a lot of expectation. Here, in a cafe, there are no expectations.
( this is why I thought of the segment, “Coffee With The Captain” because simply it is a fun thing to do- have coffee and talk hockey/life. It’s a relaxing atmosphere – yes, I am STILL waiting on Jacob Trouba… this is why if women had to wait for men the entire human race would have died out by now. – which leads me to the next question.. )
Question 2- Is okay for me to ask a guy out?
MY ANSWER: Like I said above if women had to wait for men the entire human race would have died out by now. Seriously guys take so long to get around to ask a girl out. They overthink things to the point where they literally scared themselves to death and then either think they shouldn’t ask her out or they prolong the asking part.
There are so many Tiktok’s and IG videos that women post that say shit like, “Women were made to be chased.” Sure the guy can still chase a girl but we can hint to the guy that we like him and make him confident enough to ask us out OR we can do the asking. I see no harm in asking for the 1st date, then the pressure of the 2nd goes on the guy. He can then “chase” you for the 2nd.
Question 3- Is it always a bad move to date someone just out of a relationship?
MY ANSWER:
There really isn’t such a thing as “too early” to date after a breakup. Then there are folks who say it could easily be a major red flag because they haven’t taken the proper time to heal. I say, that it is not a one-size fits all situation. I think it’s best to start that relationship off as friends and just slowly move into the relationship romantically. BUT.. if that particular person that just broke up or divorced someone was not emotionally or mentally invested in the relationship as part of the reason they broke up, then I think the romantic side of the relationship will happen a lot quicker, especially if they are emotionally and mentally drawn to you. But to each it’s own. It’s okay to start ANY relationship off SLOW. We have to remember that it’s not a race.
The Diary Of A Social Gal Update
For all those who follow my Youtube channel I will posting many, many updates, behind the scenes, and fun content. If you aren’t subscribed, you should be!
Here’s a quickie update anyway-
1- I am DONE coaching cheerleading. NOT done Choreographing routines – so if you know a a team that needs routine that not only will win, but will have all eyes on them, you can DM me on Instagram
2- I am on the path to becoming a CHEER JUDGE! I am so excited! It definitely is my calling. I was made to be a cheer judge! So excited so I will be updating on Youtube as I go through the process with these organizations. It’s an exciting time for me.
3- I am writing 2 books at the same time. Yes, just like I did a few years ago. I am writing The Championship Mindset which will be a workbook and also audio that you will be able to get if you subscribe to my podcast – $2.99 a month is worth it. Not only will you get the audio version of the book, but you will also get weekly exclusive podcasts for subscribers only. I also will be giving weekly updates that are not part of the book and times when I can go one on one coaching. More to come…
4- I am working in NYC – my office space is there and it is living out a dream. I am THE CITY girl! IF you have been following me, then you know how I feel about manifesting and walking the path by doing it scared and doing unprepared. This is part of the Championship Mindset which is for teams but also for folks that want to live a championship life.
There’s a lot of awesome content that I will be rolling out. And yes, even some controversial blogs… of course, like duh, I was born a savage, did you expect anything less?
I introduce the following video for you to 1) Get to know a little bit more of me 2) I have been asking Jacob Trouba, Vincent Trocheck and Ryan Lindgren to do a segment with me called Coffee With The Captain and Teammates… ( I want to add Lexi but he is still a RFA)
So I created this video for them to get to know me and be more comfortable to get to know me….
BTW.. You can follow me on Twitter too! The link below is the video I posted there PLUS give me a follow!
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These guys have had it going on all season long, but the one pet peeve, the no-no in fashion is the fact that they are wearing dress shoes without socks… and they don’t look like they are wearing no-show socks either.
You should not wear dress shoes without socks- here are the reasons:
1) Your feet contain more sweat glands than any other part of your body, causing your feet to produce a great deal of sweat. When wearing no socks with dress shoes, this moisture will accumulate and cause your dress shoes to become a breeding ground for bacteria. Warm, damp, and dark environments like this allow for the growth of bacteria that causes fungal infections such as athlete’s foot. Wearing a quality pair of socks with dress shoes will allow your feet to stay comfortable, dry and healthy.
2) The development of bacteria in your dress shoes will also cause them to smell. This stench is unpleasant and extremely hard to remove from your shoes once it has developed.
3) Without wearing socks, excessive moisture in your dress shoes will cause the leather to prematurely wear. Given that your dress shoes are likely the most expensive shoes in your closet, be sure to always wear socks with them. Or try the no-show sock look.
If you follow this blog religiously ( and seriously, who doesn’t シ) You know that my company does a variety of things, mostly content creation and social media, but we also go back to the main start of my blog about 15 years ago, and talk about dating/relationships and I have written best selling books on the subject.
This year we started to wet our feet once again in the fashion world and also expanding our knowledge in the cheer industry as well as my creating different segments of my podcast.
We dipped our feet into some other areas too, that for the moment didn’t pan out, but that we may get back to at a later time as well.
I sat thinking the past 2 weeks, especially during my birthday week when I was taking some time off for myself and wanted to figure out what it is that I really want my brand to represent. You want to always innovate but you don’t want to do too many things that cause you to lose your identity.
So here’s what you can expect from me from here on out:
1) Fashion on Poshmark ( yes, including panties シ) LINK CLICK HERE
I will be doing more fashion stuff- even men’s fashion using this link. I will tie together my fashion videos with the site as well. And yes, sell some great fashion at reasonable prices including MY OWN DESIGNS!
2) Podcast
Of course my award winning podcast will keep going! I have changed it up significantly since I started back in 2017. But I will now add EXCLUSIVE CONTENT that you will have to pay for. The price will be $2.99 a month and I will have exclusive contests that I then will use Twitter to find the winner. I also will use the exclusive content as a way to continue conversations from the podcast itself, have guests, and maybe even thrown in a little more racy stuff… ★♫
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3) Books
I have written some great books which I take so much pride in simply because writing a book is much more than “just writing” it. It’s the cover art, editing, getting an audience excited about it way before it’s published, etc.
Yes, I have written 2 dating/relationship books which simply show you how I have grown in my opinions as well as give you updated information where dating apps are. BUT .. did you know that I have written some Young Adult novels as well?
“The Diary of A Drama Queen” is a book I am mostly proud of as it took me over 7 years to finish. And now I am back in wanting to provide some more great books that show my creativity so I am starting to write the sequel called, “Drama in the City” which I hope will be released next year. BUT I plan to share with you updates on the progress, how I write, how I go about creating the book, etc through my Youtube Channel ( besides posting some fun other content too!)
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4) Cheerleading/Fitness
If you don’t know, I have been in the cheer industry for a long time! I started back in the day when I was 7, with dance, and then when I got older did cheerleading, fell in love with it, and haven’t looked back!
So, not only do I choreograph cheer routines, and will be posting A LOT more of them and new cheers that teams can use, but I will be focusing on FITNESS. Cheerleaders need to be physically and mentally fit. So I will be introducing a fitness calendar, 4 monthly new workouts for a reasonable price that not just for cheerleaders but for ANYONE who wants to stay in shape or get in shape. I also will have free workouts too.
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Now the above link will also host the following as well… ( I will tie both together as a place to be elite on the mat but also elite with social media.)
5) Content Creation/Courses/Templates
I will post some really awesome photos that you can buy directly from me at a reasonable price and use Anywhere you want too. I will have Templates that you can use as posts for your personal and professional needs and I will be offering 3 courses: a) LinkedIn b) Youtube and c) How to take better selfies and photos – all come with LIVE teaching as well not just recorded video, unless you need a recorded version!
So, stay tuned… A lot of exciting things are happening and I look forward to sharing them with y’all!
On my podcast, “The Recordings of A Fan girl #sarcasm, I talk about dating, relationships and I mention athletes A LOT with their relationships and dating no-nos. As both the NFL and NHL start up again on September 11th, I thought hey, let’s review some past tips and past stories this week on my podcast.
Here though, I will mention a few goodies.
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This here is the shit I have to deal with all the time! Dumb ass guys trying to disguise themselves on line to either: A: Hit on me B: Ask dumbass questions C: Think that they are being clever D: This guy actually thinks this here is a pick up line ( which is scary!)
Like I have mentioned here and on my podcast athletes have burner accounts and sometimes they make them so damn obvious too. Not only do they have burner accounts, but they also try their best to disguise themselves on dating apps like Tinder for example. The ones I have seen are NFL players pretending to be construction workers, landscapers, plumbers, real estate agents, etc. Remember, the only reason they are on these apps is for their hook-up on the road, although I have seen these guys be extremely stupid and actually find hook-ups on their home turf.
Some incredibly stupid women have also posted Tiktoks where they show themselves at the guy’s game and then realize that they were set up with a player and had no idea. Other Tiktoks show girls exposing the players cheating on their girlfriends and wives. We’ll get into it on the podcast this week!
As for dating and relationship observations, here are a couple of mine.
1- The first three dates ( which could be seen as a barometer) should just be friendly dates because then you’re really know if you want to pursue anything else and believe me I have had physical attraction right from the get go with some people and it didn’t end up the way that I wanted it to but I don’t regret having that relationship with those people because it taught me a lot about myself and it taught me how relationships last and how relationships don’t last. – Now, when sexual shenanigans take place, that can cloud your judgement on a person. But I don’t think there are any rules to dating expect the 1st date should not include shenanigans.
Also a “date” consists of either coffee, drinks, dinner, a fun nonsexual activity.
2- Sometimes one person in the relationship grows faster and grows completely away from what brought them together in the first place while the other person is still stagnant in the same spot. This is why some relationships fail.
3- I don’t understand why people want to be in relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship if it’s not something that you really really want. Why waste all that time and energy to just date for the sake of dating you know?
4- There’s so much double standards STILL with women in relationships. We can’t ask guys out because that seems too aggressive or seems as the masculine thing to do when we have to only show our feminine side… blah blah blah.
5- Then of course the stigma about women being single… Women Like the character Samantha Jones from Sex and The City had sex “Like a man” you know, had her way with him, and then was done with him, she is seen as hoe or a whore. Meanwhile guys can do whatever the hell they want and there’s no stigma to that.
6- If I decide to date a guy that that’s younger than me I’m gonna be seen as a cougar but when a guy my age, date’s a girl younger than him it’s OK. But I am more attracted to young guys 24-30.
7- Of course there is still the stigma that there’s something wrong with a woman who stays single too. I’m not gonna waste my time to going out with someone because all my friends are with someone or all the pressures on women . I don’t really go with the trendy stuff if you haven’t noticed, I do what is best for me whether other people like it or not.
8- Athletes fall into 1 of 2 categories- A) The one where they have to date arm candy because that is all they have to offer and it makes them look “good, powerful and important. ” B) The one where they actually date someone not because of who they are, what they look like, or the attention they would get because they dated that person, but because simply they love who they are, they are supportive, loyal, and they bring out the best in them when they are performing in their sport. I guess that is why this former cheerleader and current cheer coach loves being around athletes, because I LEAD.
That’s why we’re called cheerleaders because we’re supposed to LEAD not sit on the sidelines and watch things happen. I am loyal, supportive, and I understand things from an athlete’s point of view. They aren’t robots, they are people. They have emotions, they hurt, have pain, and experience life just like any of us. Most fans forget that part, sadly.
I root hard for those I care about. I want them to succeed. I want them to have their dreams come true.
If you read this blog, religiously, then you read me talk about my previous relationships, and what I took from them to become the best version of myself in order to be able to give that to a guy who deserves it in the future. Yes, I know I am a rare breed, I am the prize. I know what I bring to the table. And one day, a guy is going to see that… If we’re dating, I want to be your second priority. I want your first priority to be you, your ambitions, your life and your future, because seeing you happy makes me happy. Seeing you succeed pushes me to succeed. Finding happiness and security alone, are crucial to finding it together.
Stephanie 's Corner 