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Better Together

If you listen to my podcast, you have heard me talk about how cheerleaders belong with athletes, and not just any athletes, but hockey players. And let me add, not necessarily a NHL player, but ANY player ( EHL, AHL, OHL, KHL, etc)
This guy on Tiktok helped me out tremendously by putting these together. A shout out to nackarockers for taking the words right out of my mouth. Just in case there was any doubt!

I will have A LOT of to say on Friday on the podcast. A LOT to say. As I think about this…

I smirk. I smile. I laugh literally out loud. The entire thing is crazy to me.

Question: why do people prefer people to be fake, secretive, and almost cunning, instead of being open and not afraid to be vulnerable? Why is it when you don’t have any outside motives that people still think you do? And so forth.

To Be Continued…. Oh, plus more on the Metro Division, playoffs, Cap/Escrow, CBA, the NY Rangers of course, and some other stuff… ( Fashion takes and question to guys on facial hair, spitting, and smelling salts, and crazy things I need to know!)

As always you get the sassy, sarcastic, up front version with no filter Friday. Yipee.

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This is the part when I say I don’t wanna…

For the last 3 months or so, guys have been brave and sliding into my DMs … but of course… either looking desperate, trying pick up lines, or showing their jealously as to the “age range” that I have made clear as to whom I will date. The video below pretty much speaks for itself… then let me continue…

I had no idea that so many guys over the age of 35 would be attacking me over my choice to date younger guys… and oh, hockey players. When I mentioned this it’s like all these guys older than 35 came out of the wood-works and had to ask me directly … and then some of them even were brave enough to shot their shot ( that I will give credit too!)
Now, I don’t have to validate my reasons for what I want and I don’t have to ask permission either. But what I will do is spell it out as clearly as I can.
1) Yes, I date guys who are 23-32 BUT I have dated guys that are 21 and 22… there are always exceptions to what I feel I want to do but with that said, don’t get your hopes up if you’re older than 35…(or 34) that rule of mine is staying put.

2) Cheerleaders belong with athletes. Period. We go together like peanut butter and jelly, cookies and milk, bread and butter… hello?! Yes, I know all about the stereotypical ideas put out there into the world about cheerleaders: ( They are dumb, they sleep around, they lack talent, blah blah blah) so trust me when folks hear that I used to be one and still in the industry men think they can easily “land me” but that’s not true at all. If anything, I am hard to “land” since I have high standards and will not go against those. I will gladly give an athlete a chance, but if he only thinks I deserve bare minimum, he’s got another thing coming! Yes, I don’t need to be nor want to be their 1st priority. Their 1st priority should be to their career/ team, but seriously there needs to be a BALANCE .
So trust me right now when I say, that if I like you, take that seriously as a compliment. I don’t need anyone to complete me, I WANT someone in my life to grow and build with… that’s the difference.

When guys say to me in DMs that the “only” reason I want to be a hockey player is because of how they “look physically” I giggle and roll my eyes. I don’t give a shit about a man’s hairline, if he has 6-pack abs, buns of steel, muscles, etc. .. that to me is a bonus, not a reason to want to date anyone. The mindset, attitude , character and personality of a hockey player is the main reason why I am attracted to them. Being that I am an ex-athlete and a current coach, I have the exact same mindset as they do… plus I understand the demands of their job, support them 125% and am as loyal as fuck (I have people who back me up on that BTW)


I have you all know that I ALWAYS NEVER dated: doctors, male nurses, lawyers, cops, firefighters, or guys in the military. Why? Well, doctors/nurses/lawyers hours are NUTS. They are NEVER around when you need them. Their jobs are demanding and oh, forget about kids… if I had kids with a guy who did one of those things for a living I would NEVER see him- neither would the kid. Vice Versa if a guy marries a female who does those things… a nanny mostly would be raising those kids! As for Cops, Firefighters and military dudes…their jobs are just way too dangerous and I would be a wreck worrying about them – that is not something I want to do.


Now, going back to the hockey player point being, as too what I am talking about in regards to personality, attitude and character;
look at this story on a hockey player and what he did for a fan: Click here to read the story
But to phrase this tweet: A couple weeks ago after a Columbus Blue Jackets victory, a guy witnessed a young girl bawling her eyes out while talking to a mutual friend in the concourse. He asked her what was wrong. She explained she was near glass waiting to get Korpi’s autographed stick. After he was announced as the first star, Korpi took a victory lap and pointed right at her, tossed the souvenir stick up over the glass. It landed in this little girl’s hands for a split second until someone behind her snatched it from her grip. She was inconsolable…. you can guess what the rest of the story is, right? This hockey player made it right. You hardly see that with other athletes unless it’s being recorded for their social media to show that “they care” This was NOT recorded. This happened and a guy told everyone on Twitter what an awesome dude Korpi was!

3) As asked in my DMs: “So, you’re just going to say no to other dudes who aren’t hockey players? Aren’t your standards to high?” My answer in a tweet: “You’re standards are too high” Well those standards protect me from low quality experiences. So I’m not afraid to say no! See, I know what I bring to the table. I am the prize. I am a rare breed. This is just another reason why folks should get off those dating apps… if you see what options are left, then you would understand NOT to settle just to settle. And remember what I have said previously, men marry the woman in front of them not necessarily the woman they are meant to be with because they settled when they should have said no. Here is that blog post

4) It’s always the most laid-back women made out to look complicated and crazy by a men who didn’t even try providing her with the basics of what she deserves. See, I don’t settle for bare minimum and NO ONE should settle for that- ever! I ALWAYS tell folks that if you think I am too much, go find less. ( BTW that is what you will find on a dating app)
Date someone who’s interested in you. And I don’t mean someone who finds you funny & cute. I mean someone who genuinely wants to get to know you. Find the person who wants to get to know every aspect of who you are because that is a keeper.

5) “So, you only want to then date guys from your favorite team, right?” Another fabulous DM I received the other day! And to answer it:
Well, maybe. The guys who shoot their shot GET a shot! And who’s to say that guys from other hockey teams are not in my DMs now? Um, hello! I don’t tweet out or post out WHO I am talking too… EVER. That’s a major rule of mine. Trustworthiness is something I take seriously and I don’t screenshot conversations either.
Like I said previously, it doesn’t matter how much I like a guy, if he ain’t up to task of at least getting to know me, I don’t chase, I replace.

6) “So, why young guys and not guys that are older?” Simply put: young guys want to grow, they want to build something, they want adventures and they are not afraid to leave their comfort zone as are older guys. Older men LIVE in their comfort zone. Older men try to “tame” me where younger guys enjoy my carefree spirit and the way I carry myself. I never have been with a younger guy (athletes) who cared so much about how smart I was, especially as a blonde, cared about me having my own company, or cared about how spontaneous I am at times. Older guys… ha!

7) Closing, if you follow me on Twitter you know that I love having conversation and my vibe I bring is very magnetic. (Hey, all these years doing cheerleading and dance brought that out in me.) I am ALWAYS open to meeting new people, no matter anyone’s age, and if you’re a guy and know that there is no chance in hell of ever dating me, but you enjoy having conversation on numerous topics, hit me up. I make a great platonic friend in that , I will always have your back. If anyone ever feels that they need someone to listen to them or needs advice, my DMs are always open.
I want to be the light for someone who feels that they don’t have that. Life is better when you are caring, compassionate and kind.

And you don’t need to date me in order for me to do that.


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I’m next level so legit with all my chic!

This particular blog post is broken down in 3 segments – the Podcast with Link, The Fashion segment and the dating segment. A little something for everyone!

*** Podcast Segment and Link CLICK HERE ****

The Fashion Segment

Here are links to the latest fashion videos. 1 is ALL NY Rangers and the other is titled the men of the NHL

Also, we continue the countdown from the NY Rangers 2016 team of the TOP dressers! We’re up to Number 2: That is no one other than Mats Zuccarello Here are the photos:

Look at how chic, dapper and playful . Look at how he can make a suit look REALLY good without a tie! He wears the vest over the shirt and that brings it all together.

Here he is classy and organized.

I ALWAYS talk about how the TIE brings the ENTIRE suit together. Not to mention his shoes. Accessories are so important, even for men.

Even with casual clothing he brings the swagger A simple T-shirt and jogger pants look chic and polished.

DATING SEGMENT

There’s a lot to be said about a girl who isn’t afraid to go after what she wants. Sometimes that in itself rubs people the wrong way, especially when you are extremely secure within yourself. I posted this quote on Twitter the other day, and it’s so true. “Lowkey, to date me you gotta be mentally strong because I’ll push all your buttons. Even ones you didn’t even know you had.”

We have discussed in the past about how guys are simply afraid of dating an independent woman and I have mentioned that for athletes, an independent woman is the best match for them simply because they need to focus on their careers and it is extremely demanding!

Here’s reasons to date an independent woman ( like me)

First thing is to understand that her actions are deliberate and there’s a reason behind them. The secondly thing you need to know is that an independent woman isn’t afraid to speak her mind! She is also going to be very loyal and very supportive. Being that I am a former cheerleader and have been coaching cheerleading for years, this statement is truth. I will always want my man to be successful at whatever he does and I will push him as best as I can to go after his dreams.
Dating an independent woman doesn’t mean that she won’t be dependent on her partner- no, we depend on our partners to provide love, attention, affection and also support us as we chase our dreams, we just aren’t clingy. I don’t look to a relationship for validation at all. I look to a relationship as a team. To some this may be surprising, even though we enjoy challenges and competition, we’re usually uninterested in playing games or chasing a crush. If we flirt we you, that means we want you. If you take too long to reciprocate, we move on to someone who will. That may seem, “mean,” but we shouldn’t have to wait forever for you to make that move to make us official.

I have asked guys out in the past, or at least hinted that I wanted to go out with someone. Then of course, still, some guys have to be the one to ask you out. Okay, I’ll bite, and I will sit back and watch you and wait for awhile, but if you wait way too long, even though I am extremely attracted to you and feel sexual tension, I will go and pay attention to someone else and move on from you, even if that kills me. Girls like me don’t come around often. Why should I have to sit around and wait around for you to finally decide that you want to go out with me?

I know what I bring to the table. I am a rare breed. (As are true independent women are!)

The best advice that I can give guys is this: If a girl wants to BUILD with you and is SUPPORTIVE while she’s building up her own dreams, don’t give her a chance to even look at another guy. If she ONLY wants to build with YOU… don’t be a jackass and let your ego or pride or anyone allow you to mess it up.

Also, I always laugh when I hear that other guys are whispering about me to the guy that I want. It’s like they are so incredibly jealous that they tell him not to take the chance of a lifetime with me since they can’t have me. Like, how much of an asshole of person do you have to be that you don’t want your teammate or friend to be happy?
This is why I stay out of telling my friends who to ask out or date. I am not the one who lives with the decision- they are! And I don’t want to be the reason they missed out on a great experience going out with someone they want to because of how I feel.

And of course the jealous fuck girls will go out of their way to make themselves “known” in the process- ( If you listened to my podcast I talked about this!) This is why I only date guys with the warrior mentality. They too are a strong & independent people who aren’t intimidated by me. We actually can have a lot of fun together and like I said on the podcast, if you are into adventure, sarcasm, and want that personal cheerleader in every which way possible – you’d jump up on the chance of lifetime. Anybody could be good to you, you need a bad girl to blow your mind. Remember, Be savage, not average. Unless, you just want basic.

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The Diary Recordings

You can listen to this week’s #NYR podcast simply by clicking HERE

Michael Grabner is our # 3 of the best dressed for the team in 2016 ( Remember, I am not picking guys that are STILL on the team now) The first picture shows you how Michael Grabner was a classic dresser and he wanted to wear clothing that will never go out of style. The the second picture I would describe as The Rebel. ( See how he pushed the two together here : hockey and fashion!?

COMING up on the Fashion segment …. we will visit other teams and see how they compare against the NY Rangers. And maybe have a competition with it.

Here is the latest Fashion video I created: CLICK HERE

AND here’s the video I mentioned in the podcast- the appreciation video on Ryan Lindgren – CLICK

Here’s the Twitter Video for Ryan- he’s a Norris Trophy Nominee in my eyes – Lucky Star

COMING UP with the Fashion Segment

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25 facts about me

As part of The Diary Of A Social Gal, I am going to tell you 25 things about me. Some of you may know some of them, but I can guarantee that no one knows all 25.
Are you ready? Here we go….

  1. My Name is Stephanie … it’s spelled this way not Stephany, Stefanie. The biggest pet peeve is when people misspell my name. Also my nickname is Steph or Stephie. Spelled just as you see it.
  2. I’m an Aries – born April 7th. I celebrate my birthday for an entire month – I even celebrate my half birthday on October 7th. My birthday is the only time when I can think about me. It’s important to me.
  3. My hobbies I love are: sewing, crafts, baking, reading, writing music, traveling when I can, shopping, street fairs, festivals, etc, and napping. Yes, napping. If it were an Olympic sport, I’d have tons of gold medals.
  4. My favorite places are The Jersey Shore, Lake George, Anaheim CA, San Diego CA, Ann Arbor MI, And downtown Boston.
  5. I have never traveled abroad but would love to go to Italy, England and Paris.
  6. I once won $300 on a $1 scratch off lotto ticket
  7. My favorite candies are M&Ms, Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, and Gummy Bears.
  8. My favorite snacks are Pretzel Pieces ( Cheddar Cheese Flavor) Fruit and Yogurt Parfaits. ( Although sometimes I do eat cookies – Oreos or Teddy Grahams)
  9. I am not an into insects. I freak out with spiders, am terrified of bees, and basically anything that crawls is dead when it is around me.
  10. I do though love butterflies, caterpillars, and lady bugs.
  11. My most annoying habit is remembering everything which pisses off everyone else since I remembered it and I remind them and then people tend to get mad at me for bringing it up! I tend to enjoy pissing off people… but I make up for that with being loving and caring.
  12. I have a collections of tea cup regular size and mini and elephants. Well, my Grandma started to collect elephant statues and now I continue that tradition. Any elephant with his trunk up I collect.
  13. My favorite seasons are everything but winter. Although snow is very pretty to look at it’s not the best to drive in.
  14. My favorite sport to follow is hockey. Yes, I understand the game very well, “for a girl” and if you want to know why I like it, then go read the blog post, Why This Chick Loves Hockey.
  15. If I could have a superpower it would be ….( guess for a chance to win a $10 Amazon card, some NYR coffee, and a winter knit hat!)
  16. Some of my pet peeve are well, as a New Yorker, those who drive and don’t put on their signal and those who drive way too slow.
  17. I enjoy watching football and writing my own plays I think each QB should be doing on offense.
  18. The thing I love about myself the most is my positive attitude and my willingness to always want to help others.
  19. I own a social media company which then through the company I have branched out other businesses. I take on clients for social media but I also sell content that I create as well. I blog, I podcast, I am a published author and I started a coffee brand called Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee.
  20. My favorite color since I was little is pink. Now my niece loves this color too! She’s even bought me a shirt because it was pink.
  21. I’m a Godmother and an Auntie.
  22. I am Italian, Polish and Austrian.
  23. I’m short. 5’3 but have an attitude of 6’1
  24. Everyone that knows me, knows that I am really very sassy. Don’t mess with me. I will not only stand up for myself but I stand up for all my friends/family.
  25. I coach cheerleading and have for 16 years ( Long time- I started in my 20s) I also have taken the test to be a cheer judge, sell content to other cheer teams across the country, and create routines as a Choreographer for other teams. I started out as a dancer when I was 7 and switched to Cheerleading later on. I was a flyer. Yes, that girl who did the stunts in the air!)
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I’m not high maintenance, you’re just low effort #facts

On my podcast, “The Recordings of A Fan girl #sarcasm, I talk about dating, relationships and I mention athletes A LOT with their relationships and dating no-nos. As both the NFL and NHL start up again on September 11th, I thought hey, let’s review some past tips and past stories this week on my podcast.
Here though, I will mention a few goodies.

Click Here to see the screen shot I will be now referring to:

This here is the shit I have to deal with all the time! Dumb ass guys trying to disguise themselves on line to either: A: Hit on me B: Ask dumbass questions C: Think that they are being clever D: This guy actually thinks this here is a pick up line ( which is scary!)

Like I have mentioned here and on my podcast athletes have burner accounts and sometimes they make them so damn obvious too. Not only do they have burner accounts, but they also try their best to disguise themselves on dating apps like Tinder for example. The ones I have seen are NFL players pretending to be construction workers, landscapers, plumbers, real estate agents, etc. Remember, the only reason they are on these apps is for their hook-up on the road, although I have seen these guys be extremely stupid and actually find hook-ups on their home turf.
Some incredibly stupid women have also posted Tiktoks where they show themselves at the guy’s game and then realize that they were set up with a player and had no idea. Other Tiktoks show girls exposing the players cheating on their girlfriends and wives. We’ll get into it on the podcast this week!

As for dating and relationship observations, here are a couple of mine.

1- The first three dates ( which could be seen as a barometer) should just be friendly dates because then you’re really know if you want to pursue anything else and believe me I have had physical attraction right from the get go with some people and it didn’t end up the way that I wanted it to but I don’t regret having that relationship with those people because it taught me a lot about myself and it taught me how relationships last and how relationships don’t last. – Now, when sexual shenanigans take place, that can cloud your judgement on a person. But I don’t think there are any rules to dating expect the 1st date should not include shenanigans.
Also a “date” consists of either coffee, drinks, dinner, a fun nonsexual activity.

2- Sometimes one person in the relationship grows faster and grows completely away from what brought them together in the first place while the other person is still stagnant in the same spot. This is why some relationships fail.

3- I don’t understand why people want to be in relationships just for the sake of being in a relationship if it’s not something that you really really want. Why waste all that time and energy to just date for the sake of dating you know?

4- There’s so much double standards STILL with women in relationships. We can’t ask guys out because that seems too aggressive or seems as the masculine thing to do when we have to only show our feminine side… blah blah blah.

5- Then of course the stigma about women being single… Women Like the character Samantha Jones from Sex and The City had sex “Like a man” you know, had her way with him, and then was done with him, she is seen as hoe or a whore. Meanwhile guys can do whatever the hell they want and there’s no stigma to that.

6- If I decide to date a guy that that’s younger than me I’m gonna be seen as a cougar but when a guy my age, date’s a girl younger than him it’s OK. But I am more attracted to young guys 24-30.

7- Of course there is still the stigma that there’s something wrong with a woman who stays single too. I’m not gonna waste my time to going out with someone because all my friends are with someone or all the pressures on women . I don’t really go with the trendy stuff if you haven’t noticed, I do what is best for me whether other people like it or not.

8- Athletes fall into 1 of 2 categories- A) The one where they have to date arm candy because that is all they have to offer and it makes them look “good, powerful and important. ” B) The one where they actually date someone not because of who they are, what they look like, or the attention they would get because they dated that person, but because simply they love who they are, they are supportive, loyal, and they bring out the best in them when they are performing in their sport. I guess that is why this former cheerleader and current cheer coach loves being around athletes, because I LEAD.
That’s why we’re called cheerleaders because we’re supposed to LEAD not sit on the sidelines and watch things happen. I am loyal, supportive, and I understand things from an athlete’s point of view. They aren’t robots, they are people. They have emotions, they hurt, have pain, and experience life just like any of us. Most fans forget that part, sadly.
I root hard for those I care about. I want them to succeed. I want them to have their dreams come true.
If you read this blog, religiously, then you read me talk about my previous relationships, and what I took from them to become the best version of myself in order to be able to give that to a guy who deserves it in the future. Yes, I know I am a rare breed, I am the prize. I know what I bring to the table. And one day, a guy is going to see that… If we’re dating, I want to be your second priority. I want your first priority to be you, your ambitions, your life and your future, because seeing you happy makes me happy. Seeing you succeed pushes me to succeed. Finding happiness and security alone, are crucial to finding it together.

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Tuesday Tips and Ramblings

Today is the 18th day of the 2022 and I have already gone through a big transformation and tackled countless challenges. If this how the year is going to be, watch out world!

Resistance to change is a fact of life. If you want change to take hold, you must have good boundaries to contain the forces that are working against the effort. At the same time, getting absolutely everyone on board may take forever, and making everyone happy with your decision is highly unlikely anyhow. Always do what’s BEST for you -not what’s best for everyone else. You either will have supporters or those that want to bow out. Those who bow out were never your people anyhow.

I have started the painful process of changing my business and my brand. Yes, it’s painful because you have to go through the process of seeing clients not wanting to be on board with you and you realize that some of them were just using you to their advantage. I also have been told that I “do too many things.”

It’s those people who are closed-minded and blind to innovation. Once things start going well, most folks get comfortable and never look for ways to grow and improve. In business, you need to keep moving to avoid becoming stagnant; innovation is imperative to make your business a success story. It is also important to have resilience, not only to face the challenges ahead, but also be patient when it comes to the overall results that you expect. The saying is true, “Roman was not built in a day.”

My social media company is changing gears. I only want to be seen as a content creator. Not the girl who “posts things” but a girl that creates knock your socks off content and teaches businesses HOW to use social media platforms. First thing I have to do is change the mindset. The next thing is change HOW I can gain clients and show them that I am the solution to their social media chaos. It’s in the change that I can develop a strategy that works for me and also my clients.

The next thing is that I am focusing more on doing podcasts and live shows.
I enjoy it and I have been told by so many people that they not only enjoy my shows, but that I am natural at it. I have been given a gift and a talent and why not take that and make it a major part of my company?

Next, my passion for coffee is what made me in turn add it to my company as a new business. Coffee is my hustle juice – and it is also what keeps so many folks moving. I want to be known for gourmet coffee that you can make at home or in the office. I would love restaurants to also buy it for their customers, but my mail focus is showing everyone that my coffee tastes better than any coffee shop’s.

My website is updated weekly. Here is the link: LINK

Lastly, I have a football project I am working on ( I will release what it is on 2-2-22) and I working on once again, taking my knowledge and love for competition cheer to a completely new level in 2022. (More on that later)

Friends will ask for discount prices. Real friends will pay full price to support your time and work.

Also, to those who look for clients remember this: your best clients and customers will always care more about transformation than price. Appeal to the VALUE hunters not the BARGAIN hunters.

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A Coach’s Life Documentary

Being a cheerleading coach / choreographer is not as glamorous or easy as people think. First off, it’s very time consuming. I work on my coaching/choreography/team over 25 hours a week. Not to mention if we have football or basketball games, then I have to dedicate that time to the game we are cheering at, besides practicing with that team.
Yes, there are 2 teams that I coach at the same time: The Competition Team and the Football or Basketball Cheer Team (depending on the season)

I decided to put this to video and show everyone what is really is like being a coach- also it’s a sneak peek as to what it’s like inside competitive high school cheerleading.

Here is the video / reel on my Instagram page: Click here

NOTE:
I will be producing a few documentaries in 2022 – here are the social media channels to watch them:

Youtube

Twitter

Instagram – two profiles: Sassy One and the Cheer One