Playing With The Boys

As a girl who loves football, I hear guys say it all the time:

“I have no idea what I’m talking about”
“Football is for the boys”
“Girls have no idea about what it takes to be a quarterback or play period”
“You’re just a fan girl…”

With that said here’s what I know:

There isn’t a position that comes with more pressure, demand or expectations than the guy playing under center each week.

Accuracy, anticipation, footwork, pocket presence, athleticism, decision making, mental toughness are seven traits that are must-haves; which makes a quarterback very intriguing to watch.

There’s offense plays I like, and there’s offense plays I don’t.

We’ll start to unwrap it in the Spring of 2022 with a podcast, book and a blog.

Here’s the podcast to listen to what is coming —> CLICK

TO watch the video announcement — > CLICK

Tuesday Tips and Ramblings

Today is the 18th day of the 2022 and I have already gone through a big transformation and tackled countless challenges. If this how the year is going to be, watch out world!

Resistance to change is a fact of life. If you want change to take hold, you must have good boundaries to contain the forces that are working against the effort. At the same time, getting absolutely everyone on board may take forever, and making everyone happy with your decision is highly unlikely anyhow. Always do what’s BEST for you -not what’s best for everyone else. You either will have supporters or those that want to bow out. Those who bow out were never your people anyhow.

I have started the painful process of changing my business and my brand. Yes, it’s painful because you have to go through the process of seeing clients not wanting to be on board with you and you realize that some of them were just using you to their advantage. I also have been told that I “do too many things.”

It’s those people who are closed-minded and blind to innovation. Once things start going well, most folks get comfortable and never look for ways to grow and improve. In business, you need to keep moving to avoid becoming stagnant; innovation is imperative to make your business a success story. It is also important to have resilience, not only to face the challenges ahead, but also be patient when it comes to the overall results that you expect. The saying is true, “Roman was not built in a day.”

My social media company is changing gears. I only want to be seen as a content creator. Not the girl who “posts things” but a girl that creates knock your socks off content and teaches businesses HOW to use social media platforms. First thing I have to do is change the mindset. The next thing is change HOW I can gain clients and show them that I am the solution to their social media chaos. It’s in the change that I can develop a strategy that works for me and also my clients.

The next thing is that I am focusing more on doing podcasts and live shows.
I enjoy it and I have been told by so many people that they not only enjoy my shows, but that I am natural at it. I have been given a gift and a talent and why not take that and make it a major part of my company?

Next, my passion for coffee is what made me in turn add it to my company as a new business. Coffee is my hustle juice – and it is also what keeps so many folks moving. I want to be known for gourmet coffee that you can make at home or in the office. I would love restaurants to also buy it for their customers, but my mail focus is showing everyone that my coffee tastes better than any coffee shop’s.

My website is updated weekly. Here is the link: LINK

Lastly, I have a football project I am working on ( I will release what it is on 2-2-22) and I working on once again, taking my knowledge and love for competition cheer to a completely new level in 2022. (More on that later)

Friends will ask for discount prices. Real friends will pay full price to support your time and work.

Also, to those who look for clients remember this: your best clients and customers will always care more about transformation than price. Appeal to the VALUE hunters not the BARGAIN hunters.

Cyber Monday Fun Day!

Today is one of the bets online days for businesses! For those who don’t like going out and shopping, this is YOUR day. I have some deals and steals too. All online links below:

  1. Free gift when you subscribe to my podcast ( which also will have the bonus coverage of my best selling follow up book, Relationship Impossible)
  2. Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee – if you make a purchase you get a FREE mug and FREE shipping but if you would like a SAMPLE you can reach out today on the contact page and email me which K-pod you want to try, ( Pumpkin, Vanilla, Cinnamon, Regular Medium Roast)
  3. If you are a small business or entrepreneur – I am holding a workshop on how to teach you how to create short videos which is the most powerful tool right now! 50% off the workshop – email me for details.
  4. My Book, Relationship Impossible is FREE to download today!!! Get it while you can! ( info below)
https://anchor.fm/stephanie-dolce/subscribe
https://justbrewitgourmetcoffee.com/
https://sassygirlpr.com/contact/
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Open For Business! (and other cool updates!)

Just Brew It Is Open For Business
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I’m excited to announce that I have added to my businesses ( yes, I have another one folks!) with my coffee brand: Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee!
It’s so exciting! I really do LOVE coffee. That is not me being dramatic- I literally LIVE for it. It’s funny yes, but it’s my hustle juice. Now, I am not that coffee drinker that drinks like 4-5 cups… oh no, you’d have to peel me off the ceiling if I did that! But it definitely keeps me moving.

During the pandemic I started to look at what my passions were and what other type of businesses I could add to my “Sassy” line. I tried clothing for a while, and yes, I made a few sales, but clothing is quite expensive to keep up with, and on Instagram and Facebook in order to have a “shop” the website for which you sell it needs to the website you sell it from- meaning that I was not the one manufacturing the products and to purchase it you were going to a different website and not staying on mine.

Anyhow, I got a book on coffee and was reading up on it, I was an influencer for this coffee brand and I also was watching a few Christmas movies that inspired me to think to myself, “First off, why am I helping someone else make money off of coffee when I can do it myself?” And I drink a ton of coffee that never really tastes fresh since it’s on the shelves for a long time or the coffee shops you got to have expensive coffee that tasted altered- so I thought maybe I could have a brand of coffee that would be gourmet that folks could make at home or in the office and not have to go to expensive coffee places to get it. Bottom line is this: I roast the beans myself, then I grind them, and then I package them together. I sell K-pods and ground. Click here to go to the website

Here is the coffee after I grind it.

OTHER NEWS

You can now subscribe to my podcast, “Sassy Nation” This podcast is all about sports, social media and 100% sassiness!

Subscribers will get benefits that free listeners will not!

1) Recordings of A Fangirl #sarcasm podcast ( the latest episode is free right now)
2) Free Content Ideas for Social Media and Insider info
3) Exclusive News and Rants
4) Access to be on a podcast and named show producer
5) Free Business PR

The price is $2.99 a month! Subscribe here: Get Sassy!

Finally, The BONUS edition for my book, “Relationship Impossible” will be in a PODCAST format. I am still working on it, but I feel this is better to do than to sit and write out a bonus. I still am going to give you a journal and put some juicy details in the journal, but if you want to listen to the bonus edition, you will have to subscribe to the Sassy Nation Podcast. Of course I will give you a little teaser so you know what I am talking about… it will be WORTH IT! That I can promise and deliver!

Again, but better

I haven’t been happy lately.

No, I take that back. I have been happy, but I have not felt fulfilled lately. It’s like nothing I do or accomplish makes me feel as if I am doing things that are appreciated nor do I feel that I am valued. I always wanted to have my own empire, and believe me that hasn’t changed. What has changed is how I go about that.

I noticed lately that either people who are jealous or those who scoff at the idea of having multiple businesses have given me negative feedback without having any true facts. And I notice that when I try to help others gain insight on what knowledge I have, they don’t value me or what I know. Either that or they are just plainly lazy and don’t care as much about their business as I care about theirs.

85% of my job is either chasing a client down for money or content. And it’s exhausting! So, to fix this problem, I am going to go and do credit cards starting in October. But the other problem will either get fixed by me learning that I can not control how clients respond and therefore I won’t chase them anymore. You either give me what I ask for or you don’t get what you want to achieve from your marketing. And when they freaking complain, I will point it out to them. Yes, I will save text messages and emails. I also believe in principles, but if you tell me you will do something, I expect you to do it or give me enough time to make alternate arrangements. If you flake on me enough times, I’ll re-evaluate our relationship and more than likely cancel you out of my life. A person who doesn’t consistently keep their word does not respect you, and they don’t value you or your time.

I should not have to get super stressed out over how people behave.

Speaking of stress, I noticed that this entire year minus January, I have been super stressed. Stress takes a toll on our mental health and our bodies. Life should not be lived having to be stressed day in and day out. I want to change the world, yes, but I don’t want to die because I am completely stressed over things that I have no control over. I can only do my part and then hope that it inspires someone else to change their outlook and reach out to pay it forward.

What gets me is the fact that we undervalue other people either based on what we have heard, what the myths there are or we are afraid to really find out the true value of someone else. When we take our anger and frustrations out on other people, we aren’t dealing with the problem at hand, which is the reason why we feel the way we do. We try to hide and push those feelings away, but that doesn’t solve the issue. Instead it causes more pain, grief, and frustrations. Egoism, lack of love and empathy are main reasons people don’t value others. People create more enemies for themselves than friends. To be very rewarding in our world we have to have respect for other people. It is a way of showing who we are and what we cherish and understand how interconnected in the world we live in.

Here’s another thing that I can’t stand lately: Whenever they need you, they come running. On the contrary, when you are in a bind, they do not reciprocate. I have gone above and beyond in my relationships. When I expected the same in return, it was not given. Those are hard lessons, but it became my comparable measuring cup to any other relationship. I have so many people in my life who DO value me that it became easy to spot when someone else didn’t. The word effort is defined as a vigorous or determined attempt. So, let me make this as straightforward as possible. Suppose you’re the only one who puts effort into having meetings, meetups, phone calls, or quality time. In that case, they don’t value you, and it’s not your responsibility to put in the majority of the effort.
That is a hard lesson to learn but it’s the darn truth. I have clients that expect magical things to happen, yet when I ask them for simple stuff like passwords, pictures or video links… crickets. Needless to say, I am done having to put forth all the effort and getting no reward from it. Yes, life isn’t about reward, but it isn’t about having to deal with stress caused from people’s slack effort, respect and value. I’m tired of constantly GIVING and having TAKERS take and NEVER give back- EVER!

Having a sense of self-worth means that you value yourself, and having a sense of self-value means that you are worthy. Easy to say, hard to do. That’s where self care and self love come into play.
Lately I have been doing a lot of this! Spending time with my self and those who value me. Noticing also that there are MANY people out there today who feel this exactly as well. I will start to record how each day goes and what I have learned from the day. I also will start recording my self talk to myself ( Yes, I the old fashioned thing to do, is to use a tape recorder) and then I will share my thoughts with the world. I know I have a voice and it won’t ever be stifled. If I can use my life to help someone else out there, then I have done my part in trying to help the world be a better place.

Just remember that there are people in this world who will always value you , even when you can’t see the value in yourself and even when you can’t see that they do value you. You can always make more money. You can never make more time. You can never replace the TRUE value of another human being with money. EVER.

The Diary of A Social Gal- part whatever

If you missed the post last week, where I had an open letter to Jack Dorsey because of how he treats people on his platform and how he also runs it, then this week is about Tiktok and how the bots that run the platform are basically running it on key words.

You are being naive and stupid to think that people actually run every single social media platform- they don’t. They have bots that ONLY look for key words and that is why so many accounts are banned and suspended. They don’t look at the tweet, post or video that might need to be taken down, no, that’s too logical. They let the bots and the AI take care of their platform which causes most account unnecessary banning and/or suspending.

So, Tiktok “banned” my account yesterday because I talked about “Only Fans” while I searched the platform this morning and found multiple porn wannabe accounts on their platform. ( PS Only fans is not just porn wannabes, there are photographers, comedians, and podcasts that use that platform!) See, they don’t look at videos that obviously need to be banned, they only search through key words which is the way I tested this out yesterday. Truth is I was going to delete this account and start over anyway because I never really did TikTok the way it should have been done, I only used it to see what was trending and what everyone was talking about. Even Tiktok’s system of appealing is based on bots too.

I am actually not on Twitter that much at all anymore and it’s wonderful. I go on sparingly to make sure folks that I enjoyed talking to know where to follow me on other platforms and I now reached out to the top few investors of Twitter to let them know how Twitter is a mess and what they are investing in.

I have NEW platforms where you can follow me for exclusive content for my podcast, Sassy Nation, where you can get content ideas of the day and social media tips daily, and I have a platform where you can also get motivation daily or if you want a shout out on my podcast. I will list them below:

Thanks for reading and for being a fan of this blog. It’s appreciated. BTW… I will doing ADS on my blog soon so businesses can have a shout out and adding some new tools to the blog for you guys to get more content…. look for it soon.

NEW LINKS:

For exclusive Content for my podcast: CLICK HERE

For Motivation Tips of the Day or just a shout out on my podcast: CLICK HERE

For daily social media tips or content ideas: CLICK HERE

An Open Letter To Jack Dorsey

Dear Jack,

Your social media platform is a complete mess! You have bullies and trolls spewing hate, racism, sexism; making it nearly impossible to engage on your platform. You have nudity and folks performing sexual acts on your platform and also tons of spammers. As a user since 2010 AND a Stock holder I am APPLAUDED! ( I also use your other platform Square and have stock in that as well)

It took you years to upgrade the platform as well. From 180 characters to 240. Then you decided to add other features such as Ads, While you are away feature, turned the favorite button into the like button, added a change to its feed, making recommended tweets the default option, you add the “Explore” tab, which replaces the “Moments” tab and you purchased Periscope, which is no longer.

You then added features called fleets and spaces which most can’t even use because of the fault in your design. You have something called Twitter Blue, which is a paid version of Twitter, and you refused to give folks an edit button, unless now they pay for it, but that option is not available in the US yet. You also want to add shopping features to your site, which mostly is a waste because people don’t use your platform to shop, they use the platform to converse. Which makes it crystal clear, you don’t even understand HOW your platform even works and you so far behind all the other social media platforms it’s ridiculous!

You develop Fleets, which is like stories, have no place to store them when they run out, I can’t even access them from my Iphone or Ipad only from my Itouch. I can’t access your “Clubhouse” look alike called Spaces, so I can’t promote podcasts, marketing strategies and so forth.
You won’t give folks an edit button using the excuse that they will abuse it. Have you EVER been on Facebook at all? Do you know that once you edit a post it states that the post was EDITED? You can’t do that on Twitter?

Have you ever heard of Tiktok, Reels and Shorts? Do you not understand that folks make videos using licensed music? Guess what most folks do with those videos… they SHARE THEM TO TWITTER!

Why? To increase traffic to their platforms, the increase views and also give their audience on Twitter something to watch.

So explain to me WHY you allow hate, racism, sexism and nudity but suspend accounts that share their REELS and TIKTOKS to your platform? Your Artificial Intelligence / algorthim is way out of date and DMCA needs to be changed IMMEDIATELY – It’s NOT unauthorized activity, since the music is ALLOWED on INSTAGRAM and TIKTOK. Universal Music Group (UMG), also needs to be aware of this since now most people are making videos with music on Instagram, Tiktok and now Youtube with Shorts.

It is horrendous to treat people like criminals for using MUSIC that is ALLOWED on OTHER platforms.

You then remove the so called “violation” before folks can even see it. How can you expect folks to know what they did if you are removing the post/tweet prior to having the person see it?
You then send them NO notification on the app itself, but a sneaky email telling them that they have a violation, which really is NOT a violation since EVERY SITE is using LICENSED music!

The quality of your platform has gone DOWNHILL!
you say we have freedom to speak our mind while you censor people who don’t agree with you!

Are you aware that is what communism is all about?

Not to mention that your platform favors men over women. You have an issue with your algorthim cropping out black faces. And how long does it take to get rid of folks who are having sex on your platform? Literally, there are folks advertising their “only fans” with SEX acts ON YOUR platform! There are teens on your platform- they should not have to witness that activity, which belongs on Pornhub, not Twitter.

I can really go on, but the main problem is suspending my account over music that was used from a different platform such as Instagram, and sharing my reel on your platform. I am asked if I want to share it on YOUR platform and then you SUSPEND me for doing that?

As a stock holder, I demand that you give me back my account: @sweetstephanie7 – it took me YEARS to build that up after I was FORCED to close another account due to bullying. And right now, it’s impossible to build up followers on your platform since you favor men over women.

Do the right thing and also educate yourself on how social media platforms work and grow. If you need help, I’d be more than happy to help you as I have been a social media expert since 2008.


Just Brew It

This is my new COFFEE BRAND – Just Brew It. I will be taking preorders August 1st and developing a website for the coffee. Prices will be listed then … but here’s a SNEAK PEEK at the type of coffee available.

A Day In The Life Continues …

If you saw my previous post, “Exclusive BTS from a Girlboss” then you saw what it’s like being me. No two days are the same. I have posted other pictures on my Instagram feed and Twitter feed – showing you some other behind the scenes stuff.

I was all set to do another one but instead I decided to just talk frank with ya about what I am up too. There are many hats that I wear each day. Today for example I had a meeting with someone who is going to help my businesses succeed at a different level. The other day I had a meeting with someone who helped me organize some business ideas. Now what I need to do is a complete overhaul with my websites, blogs, shop, social media platforms and organize them appropriately so they all don’t run into each other. The only social media platform that will basically stay the same with the type of posting that I do will be Instagram – but I am changing up the Bio. I have separate IG accounts for books, which I don’t use that much, Cheer, which I don’t use that much and now my coffee IG account. I have a few Facebook fan pages that need an overhaul – completely and my shop on one of the Facebook pages along with my shop on 1 of my websites will be getting a complete makeover.

I just finished doing a photo-shoot at a fast food chain that I am representing on IG and will also put stuff on Twitter. Oh yes, My twitter bio needs to be redone as well plus I have other sites that I use to make money from that need to be organized to do 1-2 things not 5-6 things. What I notice is that when you overload customers with thousands of options they don’t purchase from you. Therefore you need to separate things and have certain sites do certain things.

Also, you need to have a strategy with everything you present online.

My podcast and my radio show has changed over time. It started as just talking about social media platforms and how they work and ideas for businesses to create engaging content and it exploded with talking about trends in the digital landscape , things everyone is talking about on social media, and athletes usage of social media ( which has become a top topic)

So today, I am doing my radio show “The Sassy Show” On my Facebook page at 3pm EST time, then spending quality time with my nephew, niece and brother (hopefully my sister-in-law too!) Tomorrow I have my networking meeting at 7am. I am the educational coordinator of the group. After that I have to set up Facebook content for clients and we have my mom’s retirement luncheon. Then I will take the rest of the day to myself.

Saturday and Sunday I will spend time organizing platforms, websites, and such. But I also will take time for myself. It is the summer time and you need to enjoy yourself. Monday it’s back to the grind.

There ya go folks. A behind the scenes in writing- not video or pictures. ( I though will post videos and pics on social media this weekend BTW)

Exclusive BTS from a GirlBoss

Everyone always says to me, “It must be so nice to be your own boss.” My answer to that loaded statement is quite simple: No it isn’t. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I get to do what I love to do and do it on my own terms. But what people don’t see and don’t know is that it takes ALL of me to do it day in and day out. No two days look the same.

For my new series ( here on the blog and on Instagram and Twitter) I will show you pictures and videos of me being the “girlboss” that I am.

Now, I start out most days the SAME way with Prayer, working out and feeding my squirrels and birds. The only day that I have off from working out is Friday.

The prayers I say each day are different too. But the top 2 prayers are the 2 I say every morning.
Working out is so important. It’s not about “just” the body,
it’s also good for the soul and your mental state. I will show you my workouts on Instagram and Twitter FYI
I feed the squirrels and birds each morning. I have literally trained the squirrels to knock when I am “late” and the birds wait for me on deck (sometimes so do the squirrels)
This was my Tuesday breakfast. I don’t eat a “big one”. I eat usually at 10am and it’s something that is going to keep me energized and geared to work until lunch. BTW I already had my coffee, I just didn’t take a photo of it!
Don’t forget to drink water throughout the morning. Especially after you workout and during the summer when it’s easy to get dehydrated!
Now I go and check out Twitter and see what is trending. This is usually where I go to see what topics I should talk about on my podcast and radio show.
Now I am working on my new logo for Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee.
Also am working on putting together the menu and a fundraiser for my cheerleading squad I coach.
The next thing is to start learning how to use my new toy. If you want to know HOW to create videos that are awesome for social media, here’s a tip: go to Staples and get the gear you need. It’s not as expensive as you think.
Now, I need to pay some bills. YUCK! But they don’t pay themselves, unfortunately.
I turn off the computer now, actually put it in sleep mode, and head to the tablet to do some work. I check out Instagram, Facebook and Pinterest next. I also see what is trending on Tiktok.
I take a break from the screens and go see if I need to water my garden.
I grow all kinds of things, this is the picture of my mini pumpkins that I hope I have for my nephew and niece for Halloween.
Shopping break. I need to get my new planner. I plan out each day and it helps to have it written down. I used to be a teacher so I still love teacher plan books.
Still a favorite sight, look at all the clean and new notebooks!
I go home and make lunch now. Here I am having a salad with watermelon, chicken, tomatoes and more. And yes, they are fries that I made- not fast food ones.
Time to plan my cheer conditioning program. I am planning out my cheer body fitness which will be available on Youtube and for a small payment – anyone can do it. I have many workouts that you don’t need equipment.
MY afternoon snack.
Before I head out to do some cheer body fitness in person with my rec teams, I had to make changes to my book, “Relationship Impossible”
Came back from cheerleading conditioning so a light dinner.
Pasta salad- homemade.
And these are sweet and sour veggies and pineapple! After dinner I showered and then it was time to just relax before bed. No devices. Stay tuned for the next blog post for some more BTS for Wednesday!