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2025: Unrealistic Body Image Finally Enters The Chat

We live in a culture that praises weight loss. The message we’re sending is that you only look good because you lost weight.
Fat phobia- because of our intent, we perpetuate diet culture, and fat phobia when we compliment someone on their smaller body. Our society praises weight loss as if it’s the best thing a person could ever do. Not only that, but we comment on people’s bodies without having any idea what is going on in their lives.

Last week Jennifer Love Hewitt made more women in their 40s so happy that someone in Hollywood actually looks like them. She didn’t run off to use ozempic and she didn’t go ahead and do a crazy-ass diet. She is what women are SUPPOSED to look like and she was so proud of her body!

We “assume” that their weight loss is “positive”, when it could be due to a chronic illness or an eating disorder. All unsolicited comments about someone’s body are bad and shouldn’t be praised because no one asked for them. Even if someone asks, we shouldn’t even give them one when actually we should take it a step further and tell people that they don’t want to receive those comments.

We should be telling people to focus on who that person is not by what that person looks like. If only people did this on social media.

Social media is the perfect environment, unfortunately, where the diet culture flourishes. It thrives on comments from men who think they know that certain bodies are “better and hotter” than others. Yes, guys who are losing their hair, have beer bellies, droopy chests and butts, are telling women that they all need to look like a goddamn Barbie doll, when they themselves are so far away from representing Ken.

Women who already have suffered from a body image disorder, get triggered by those comments and now are drawn back into the diet culture. And for what? To please all the men who you don’t know on social media, who basically have their own insecurities about their own looks and projected on women?

The sad reality is, if you look on social media and even dating apps, all men want this fantasy woman who is 5 feet tall 5 inches, 130 pounds, size 2, blonde hair, and blue eyes, who accepts bare minimum, and who could pass for either a Victoria’s Secret model or a Barbie doll. What they don’t realize is that a woman’s looks is never going to raise their children. Her mindset will.

Men never focus on who a woman really is, speaking in terms of her personality, mentality, and character. But they only focus on how hot she looks so his teammates, and friends can be extremely jealous of his arm candy.

Oh, once you hit 35 and you’re a woman you’re old and decrepit according to social media.

If only men could stop being, “so full of themselves,” and stop trying to “fit in” focusing on loving a woman for who they truly are. But instead, they don’t want to embrace that main character energy. They wanna focus on what isn’t instead of what is.

I guess the question really is this : do we really want to spend our lives agonizing over trying to make others happy instead of making each day we live the best days we’ve ever had? When are we going to realize that nobody at your funeral is going to say the following: “ I remember so-and-so, she was a size 4 all her life, she was always so skinny, she was always looking hot and beautiful, etc”

They are going to remember how you made others feel, how you lived life and the kindness you showed others . That’s a life worth remembering.

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Get Ready: A sneak peek of “Meet Me in the Penalty Box”

As you well know by following this blog and if you follow me on social, you know that I am writing a book called, “Meet Me In The Penalty Box,” which exposes the NHL culture to a tee. Here’s a excerpt of the book: the first two sections: All About The Victims and Exploring the Topic Of Culture

Did you know, in 2022, there were 1.37 million domestic violence crimes committed in the US. According to the CDC, in 2022, women reported intimate partner violence around 41%

These are topics that women try and avoid talking about because they are embarrassed to admit that they have been in an abusive relationship or they feel ashamed that they succumbed to a man who tricked them into believing that he loved her by abusing her.

What does all this have to do with the NHL? (National Hockey League) 


The NHL is the ONLY major pro-sports league without a league specific policy outlining what happens to players who are accused of sexual crimes and domestic abuse. 

There have been incidents within the league that the league have stayed quiet about and have swept it under the rug, so to speak. (I then get into many different cases)

The question that everyone seems to have in regards to violence against women is where does this start to form in a man’s life?

Why does he intentionally want to hurt someone who is seen as loving and caring towards him?

And how do women play a role in being manipulated into falling into a pattern of trusting violent men with their lives? 



Dating Violence

Violence in teen relationships predicts violence in adulthood. In the United States, up to 19% of teens experience sexual or physical dating violence, about half face stalking or harassment, and as many as 65% report being psychologically abused ( Stats are from Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention)

In many cases, violence can happen when young people don’t yet have the skills to manage conflict, cope with feelings of jealousy, and navigate rejection. Many teens perceive this type of behavior as “normal” and a way to express love in intimate relationships.

The truth of the matter is this: Teen dating violence seems to be overlooked, not only in the scientific community but in society at large. It’s developmentally appropriate for young people to explore their sexuality.

But as a society we haven’t figured out how to support that while protecting them from a risk of violence. Added pressures today include social media and how sexuality is perceived.

According to 2019 data from the CDC’s Youth Risk Behavior Survey, about 1 in 12 teens experience physical dating violence and about the same number face sexual dating violence. Other studies suggest rates may be higher, especially when accounting for psychological forms of abuse.

In one nationally representative study of young people ages 14 to 21, 51% of females and 43% of males reported being victims of at least one type of dating violence, while 50% of females and 35% of males reported perpetrating at least one type.

Girls as young as age 6 have been taught for generations to accept the fact that when a boy pulls your hair, trips you, pokes you, laughs at you, or does anything else to you, this is a clue that he “likes you.”

Little girls have been conformed and trained to accept this behavior from boys as an expression of interest, which means we have been training girls that it is normal for guys to physically, mentally, and emotionally abuse us as an expression of love.

Teen boys who abuse dating partners are more than likely to have experienced child abuse or neglect. Teen boys who are abusers, are more likely to use alcohol or drugs than their nonviolent counterparts.



Teen boys who abuse their partners then to have sexist attitudes that support male domination over females.



In some cases, dating violence may be part of a pattern of antisocial or aggressive behavior.

But much of the time, teens may simply not know how to manage the emotions and conflicts that arise as they enter their first relationships.

Patterns in teen relationships are similar to adult battering relationships – they involve the same elements of control and jealousy. Teen girls and women describe the same range of violent experiences from slaps and shoves, to beatings and attacks with weapons. 

There are several youth-specific aspects to their relationships- 
Pressure to conform to peer-group norms which contributes to an emphasis on having a specific dating partner. 
Peer pressure can be so intense and the fear of being different, or of violating peer-group norms, can create rigid conformity.

Teenage boys will begin to establish such patterns when their violent dating behaviors are reinforced by members of their peer group and by society as a whole.

Their expectations of a girlfriend may include that she gives up certain activities and other relationships in order to give priority to her boyfriend. 

This is why basic chicks fit the mold/pattern for hockey players.

They find women who will conform to what the boyfriend wants and accepts their dominance in the relationship. This includes that he be sexually aggressive, make all the decisions, and he will control her activities and behavior…..

(Section 2: Exploring the Topic of Culture)

The United States also has an individualistic culture, meaning people place a high value on individuality and independence. In contrast, many other cultures are collectivist, meaning the welfare of the group and group relationships is a primary value.
Living up to a culture’s values can be difficult. It’s easy to value good health, but it’s hard to quit smoking. Marital monogamy is valued, but many spouses engage in infidelity. Cultural diversity and equal opportunities for all people are valued in the United States, yet the country’s highest political offices have been dominated by white men.
In many cultures, women are expected to be responsible for things that men are not. And, there are more pressures put on girls and women to look young and youthful no matter how old she is. Women’s full and equal participation in all facets of society is a fundamental human right. Yet, around the world, from politics to sports to the workplace, women and girls are largely underrepresented.

While the specific expectations have varied across cultures and time periods, core assumptions about women’s roles have persisted for millennia. Let’s take a brief look at how the values and beliefs women “should” follow enfolded…..

Today, this is how women see themselves:

  • Independence focused
  • Sexually liberated
  • Work focused

Today this is how men still want to see women:

  • Homemaker
  • Mother
  • Primary caregiver
  • Submits to her man
  • Adopts her man’s moral foundations

A traditional woman is a woman who follows older established principles of femininity. But today, women are pushing away from being a “traditional woman” because men today are pushing away from being, “a traditional man.”

What is a traditional man?

He is someone who adheres to conventional, often historical, gender roles and expectations. This may include traits like being a provider, protector, and head of the household, with a focus on strength, and dominance. Basically he follows established principles of masculinity.

Men before the social media era had more strength, courage, and discipline than today’s men. Men used to be better men, and more men wanted to be more like that. Today though, men rather complain about women being masculine and not feminine.

Maybe this is news to a lot of men but women take self-defense courses because we’re told we need to protect ourselves from men. Instead of men learning to be better men. The value of women is not limited to their sex appeal. Treat women the way you would treat any normal person. How you speak, walk, move your body or go about everyday life has nothing to do with masculinity, aside from other people’s preconceived ideas.

When most men think of “manliness”, they think of the fantastical archetypes we’ve been inundated with since childhood:

James Bond, Ernest Hemmingway, Captain America, and the list goes on.

They think that manliness is about hunting big game, or knowing how to fight, or sleeping with dozens of women, or driving a fast car. But these activities do not make one manly. Manliness, or as I prefer to call it “masculinity”, is about the principles by which you operate and the way that you commit yourself to various pursuits in life.
I would argue that developing your masculinity just as women develop their femininity, is based on a handful of simple principles…..

When women are assaulted, their past gets investigated.
When men assault, their future gets protected.
When women get assaulted, it’s like society treats them like a criminal first, not a victim. But men? Oh no, their futures need to be protected at all costs. The only thing that matters is making sure they get a “second chance” while she’s left fighting for her dignity. This victim-blaming crap isn’t just sick, it’s a systematic pile-on designed to keep her in the dirt while they get to walk away unscathed.

What does all this have to do with the NHL and their culture?

Well, let me start off by saying this: Culture isn’t an excuse for abuse. And abuse is silent no matter what type of abuse it is emotionally mental, physical or sexual.

And the fact that people know that it’s happening and they close the blind eye to it or they sweep it under the rug or they try to hide it as fast as they can, shows you the nature of this problem isn’t small. The NHL is very good at covering this up and that shows you that they know right from wrong but they don’t care.

And to all those guys that I see commenting on this type of thing on Instagram, Facebook and Threads is disturbing.
The main comment is that, we as women will never get rid of sexual assault. That’s that is correct statement because we’re never going to get rid of hate, we’re never going to get rid of violence 100%, but the fact that you don’t even want to think about how you can make things better for not just yourself but those around you, show that you are part of the problem, not the solution.

It’s always amazing to me. How guys are more worried about the accusations of their favorite athletes than the violence itself .
Defending them with the my favorite sayings, “she was a whore,” “She wanted it now she’s regretting it.” And my ultimate favorite, “Innocent until proven guilty.”
There’s also another one, “She consented so this didn’t happen.”

They just don’t understand what consent and not consent is and even if she consented in the beginning, a woman has a right to change her consent at any point given in time.
When a woman says no or stop or I don’t want to do this and you don’t listen to her, you are raping her. It doesn’t matter if she’s your wife, it doesn’t matter if she’s your girlfriend, it doesn’t matter if she’s your partner, it doesn’t matter if she’s a hooker from the street, it does not matter.

And that is where the problem then grows.

The hockey culture is four things, alcohol, drugs, sex and gambling.

(To Be Continued)







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It’s a Waste Of Money To Shop At VS

If you are a woman, you probably have shopped or still shop at Victoria’s Secret. And if you are like me, you are tired of wasting money buying their panties that no longer seem to be made with good quality material. You buy it, wear it twice, and then have to throw it out because washing them has now made them shrink to the point where they are unwearable.
I was on the mission to find other sexy, lacy, cute and comfortable panties, and I think I did.

The brand that I found to be reasonably priced, comfortable, sexy and cute is Auden which is sold in Target.
The other brand is SO by Kohl’s as you will see in this video -> CIick here to watch it

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Claim Your Spot in 2025

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Thanks for reading and for your support. It means A LOT to me!

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The NHL’s Relationship With Women

I don’t know why the hell this needs to be repeated…… women do belong in the NHL.
Whether they’re a fan, coach, broadcaster, journalist, owner, or hold an important office title in the league, there should be a safe space for them to do what they love.

Men need to support women in sports. It’s really not that hard.

As I am in the process of writing my new book, “Meet Me In The Penalty Box,” I have discovered just how many men are TRIGGERED by women who not only understand the sport, love the sport, but by women who want to empower other women to change the NHL for the better. I have also learned this: If my voice had no power, most of the male fans plus some athletes would not try to silence me. I guess, my only question for them is this; Can you hear me now? If not, don’t worry you will be. My voice cannot be stifled by your deviant ways.

Not only am I going to change the NHL for the better, where women are concerned, but I would like to remind fans of 1 woman that actually played in the NHL, even if it was a preseason game, and how that opportunity got lost.

Her name is Manon Rhéaume and in 1992, signed a contract with the Tampa Bay Lightning of the NHL, appearing in preseason exhibition games in 1992 and 1993. She spent five years in professional minor leagues, playing for a total of seven teams and appearing in 24 games. She also played on the Canada women’s national ice hockey team, winning gold medals at the IIHF Women’s World Championship in 1992 and 1994, and the silver medal at the 1998 Winter Olympics.

So to those men who think I can’t change how the NHL sees women and treats women, it can be done. Like I preach, all it takes is ONE person to make a difference. Then of course when I STILL see sexist tweets and posts like this:

I know that I have a fight ahead of me. The fact remains that most men are today are triggered by not only by women who want equality in the workplace, but also women who are strong minded and independent. When I talk about dating and how it has totally shifted to this “basic chick” way whereas she will accept bare minimum and the man doesn’t have to become a better man, this is also what I speak of with the NHL.

I just saw a video on Tiktok of a woman is “says” she is married to a Dallas Stars player who literally said, “The only really I am telling everyone that I am married now is because we both wanted to wait and I wanted to become something and not attached to his name.” HAHAHAAHAHAHA… this girl is so freaking manipulated that it is sad. Oh, and her “husband” he is not one of those superstar players either. And I have never heard of her and her brand that she supposedly wanted to grow on her own. I looked at his IG account and there is ONE … just ONE photo of them together and the comments under it are NASTY!
If you follow me you know that I have stated MANY times that when you date an athlete you have to make sure that HE is the ONE who posts you up FIRST. You have to make sure you are with someone who loves you: Loudly. Proudly. Publicly. Privately. And behind your back. The whole Instagram story shit – that is what these basic chicks buy into and the guy thinks hey, I publicly put her in a story so that should be enough. HA! That’s the copout. As is what is coming February 14th: Valentine’s Day.

NEWSFLASH: If you are a guy or you are an athlete don’t use a holiday like that as a cop out to propose to your girl. For starters, that day is supposed to be special. The day you ask her hand, is not supposed to coincide with the commercial gimmick of Valentine’s Day. (I thought I would add that in this post, while there is still time to change your mind!) You also have to think about what happens if you get divorced, you just ruined a holiday because that is all she will think about when that day comes. Propose a few days before Valentine’s Day or after it.

Oh, back to the NHL for a second so I can clear up something. Most men have the wrong idea when it comes to defining what is masculine and feminine. Furthermore, let me add again, that it is NOT a flex to be sleeping with 5 women at the same time, that does not make you man. That makes you a pig. See, the reason that their IG is NOT FILLED with photos of their women is simply because they think that other girls, or the hoes of the world are going to slide into their DMS. So they HAVE to look single and not taken. That’s why their use stories. Also, it doesn’t go with their agenda of making their IG’s all about them and their careers. When that is NOT what IG is all about. 80% professional 20% personal. These guy freak out when fans think they are robots yet they post on social like they are robots by not letting folks see the human side of themselves.

Muscles don’t make men masculine.

Women being submissive doesn’t make them feminine.

Being loyal to 1 woman makes a man masculine. 

Being reliable makes a man masculine.

Being emotionally intelligent makes a man masculine. 

A woman is feminine when she’s nurturing. 

A woman is feminine when she’s completely comfortable being the driver and the passenger. 

A woman is feminine in the way she carries herself and still can be strong minded.


Once a man can do this and understand this, he longer wants to settle for what he is TOLD to settle for, which is a basic chick. He wants more. He wants a woman who is extra and he is manly enough to accept it and he is proud of it. Taylor Swift had to date 13 little boys who were insecure about the fact that she was extra until she met a man who was strong enough to understand that weak-minded men can’t handle a strong, independent, and extra girl.

If there is hope for Travis Kelce, there is hope for many of you guys too.

On a different note, look out for my revised copy of “The Championship Mindset” Monday February 3rd.

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The Trend That Needs To End in 2025

Happy 2025 readers and fans!

We made it through another holiday season and I hope yours was a good one. Mine was quite busy. Between running my businesses, trying to branch out, holiday gatherings and going to basketball games to watch my nephew and niece play, it was hectic!
The one trend we see on social media every single new year is the one where folks use the stupid quote, “New Year, New Me,” and then manage to be the EXACT SAME person all 365 days of the new year. So, with that said, I am going to ask, can we just stop that nonsense? Seriously, what is wrong with folks thinking that they have to automatically change who they are because it’s a new year? Aren’t you proud of who you are?
Now, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to IMPROVE yourself, but this concept that we have to all “change” ourselves COMPLETELY is absurd.

You don’t need to compare yourself and your journey in life to anyone else. And on social media so many people do that. She is skinnier, he is buffer, she is more successful, he is climbing the ladder, etc. Everyone’s journey in life is unique. And everyone’s life purpose is different. It would be VERY boring if everyone thought the same, dressed the same, acted the same, etc.

And maybe some folks posted up their big accomplishments and you feel you couldn’t post yours because they were not as big… to that I say this:
Every little victory you had in 2024 is important. It leads you to appreciate the bigger things and it helps you see that you can accomplish whatever it is you set out to do. So if your “only” accomplishment in 2024 was that you survived the year, you did it and be proud.

TO quote something I read recently, “Even though it’s great to have big goals, it’s easy to get caught up in the daunting list you have yet to accomplish. Instead of growing fixated on those, you should try to spend some time giving yourself credit for the things you do accomplish on a daily basis.”

One thing we all have control over is our mindset. Your mindset is what makes things happen and makes you tick. A positive, growth-oriented mindset can help you overcome challenges, achieve goals, and build resilience, while a negative mindset can hinder your progress and make difficulties seem insurmountable.
So, in 2025 if there is one thing that you can change for the better, it is your mindset. You can accomplish WONDERFUL things when you believe in infinite possibilities. And that starts with believing in yourself.

At the end of the day, some folks need to step aside that ego and really look within themselves so that they too can be “better.” It’s not that they aren’t good people, it’s that their mindset isn’t set on having them realize what is holding them back from accomplishing their goals and accomplishing their dreams. We all can be a little nicer to everyone in 2025. We can face our insecurities head-on and show more compassion and empathy.

But if our mindset isn’t where is should be, that is a hard thing to just flip a switch out of the blue. It takes time to do this.

We talk about change each new year, instead let’s talk about mindset. That’s something EVERYONE can focus on and in turn become “better” people. Unlike fixed traits, your mindset is something you can actively work on and change through conscious effort. When you put forth effort, things happen. We can change our mind and our lives, once we change our mindset.

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In a world full of copies, be an original.

It’s been awhile since I wrote a blog piece, but I have a great excuse… I’ve been busy trying to get my shit together, but seriously who hasn’t been?
I have been working on multiple projects and I will have updates for ya soon. If you want instant behind the scenes stuff, then I invite you to follow my Youtube Channel where most of that is posted.

Recently I was back doing choreography for an upcoming R&B singer – and that felt awesome to be dancing again because here’s a hint from a creative person, when you do anything creative whether it is writing, music, art, dancing, etc.. it helps build up your creative juices! I think I will be doing more of that in the future!
And speaking of music, I am still putting together my album. It’s crazy to see how life really does go full circle. Back in the 2000’s ( the early portion) I actually was trying for a record deal even if I didn’t sing the songs but sell the music/lyrics to artists. Back then we didn’t have social media to do that, we needed to make a tape, mail it to a producer and then literally wait by the mailbox, which is was TORTURE! My cousin had a meeting with the same producer I sent my work too and that is how I found out that they loved my stuff. But … a lot of things how to fall into place and well, it didn’t.

Seeing now how God/universe was redirecting me and protecting me from the music industry now that we see all the shit unfolding with Diddy, makes me know that the timing was not right then. But like I said, everything in life comes full circle and now is the perfect time for me to have an album that I will produce by myself with the help of technology.

UPDATE:
So, the NHL is trying their “best” to make it look like they are “women friendly” and care about women by having women take part of organizations in a big way. The biggest way is with the Kraken and the hiring of Jessica Campbell as their Asst. Coach. Now, I will say she qualifies for this position and frankly she should have been hired years ago, so I question the timing of this. Especially with the fact that 5 guys are being tried in a Canadian court room next spring for sexual assault.

But this is here why the NHL SHOULD HAVE a policy to PROTECT HER.

The NHL commissioner STILL refuses! so what happens when she is sexually harassed? God forbid anything worse happens! I have sent The NHL over 4 correspondence and I have only heard back once! This month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Here are some important stats:
Over 1 in 3 women in the US have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
At least 5 million acts of domestic violence occur annually to women aged 18 years and older.
Domestic abuse can be mental, physical, economic or sexual in nature.

And here’s something else to know: Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person causes someone to question their sanity, memories, or perception of reality.
** I will be staying on top of this with the NHL **

Video Links: Remembering Johnny Hockey
Video Links: Matt Rempe ( his acting debut) – If you listen to my podcast, you hear me talk about how much I love his vibe! It’s authentic and real, not fake or stuck up like all other athletes.
This week BTW on my podcast which I do NFL picks, and talk about hockey (NY Rangers- mostly) I talked about positive and negative energy towards the end of the podcast. It’s really a good listen if you want to learn how to have the Championship Mindset.
Podcast link: click here

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I Bet You Didn’t See This One Coming

I was planning on releasing a book in the late fall/early winter in 2 parts… but then I got thinking. I can’t really release it until after the trail with the junior hockey players sexual assault case is over… so that gives me PLENTY of time to write that part, but here…

I plan to flip the script and release an album instead.

Here are the tracks:

Selfish
Undone
The Boy Is Divine
Better Than Revenge
Goalies Aren’t the only ones who wear masks
Sister Fate
How to Paint Sunlight
Ryan’s Hope
Shenanigans
Showman Dan
Alice
Mr. Authenticity
Bitter Cold
Karma
Just Be A Man About It
Sheila
Suddenly, I hate you
When a Boy Becomes A Man
Bangers
Backyard
What You Need
23
Skin
You Must Love Me
Obviously Fascinated
Mess For You
Player
What Goes Around Comes Around

I am still deciding which track to release first, but that will come very soon!

Stay tuned…


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Did ya understand that?

The Gaudreau brothers were cycling on a road in Oldmans Township on Thursday, Aug. 29, 2024, when a man driving an SUV in the same direction attempted to pass two other vehicles and struck them from behind at about 8 p.m., according to New Jersey State Police. They were pronounced dead at the scene.

Police said the driver, 43-year-old Higgins, was suspected of being under the influence of alcohol and charged with two counts of death by auto, along with reckless driving, possession of an open container and consuming alcohol in a motor vehicle.

Higgins told a responding officer he had five or six beers prior to the crash and admitted to consuming alcohol while driving, according to the criminal complaint obtained by The Associated Press. He failed a field sobriety test, the complaint said,

According to court records, Higgins had two prior cases in North Carolina during the early 2000s. The records show he was charged with DWI in 2005 but the charges were voluntarily dismissed due to the officer involved not showing up in court. Higgins also had a speeding ticket in 2001 that was dismissed because of his good driving record at the time.

The irony is that Higgins was an employee at Gaudenzia, a nonprofit drug and alcohol treatment center, at the time of the crash. He has since been placed on leave by the organization. So you know, he knew full well not to get behind the wheel, but he did it anyway because he got away with it in 2001 and 2005.

Footnote: NBC Philadelphia 

The entire NHL community has been grieving since August 29th. Well, almost everyone.

As I said, in a podcast out of 22 members of the New York Rangers only 4 players showed empathy and compassion by taking the NHLPA post and throwing it into their story and then maybe adding RIP or hearts. So many other players from every other team has shown respect to the Gaudreau family. 

The NHL pride’s itself that it’s a brotherhood yet it is far from my brotherhood . it’s only a brotherhood when they’re sexism involved , or homophobia and racism. Most players only pick and choose what they’re going to show empathy towards what they’re going to show compassion for… and unfortunately, a lot of of them are narcissistic, arrogant and completely out of touch with the world. 

The fact that MLB and NFL teams and players were classy enough to have a moment of silence or post about it, and some NHL players couldn’t even take the time to create an Instagram story or post something on TwitterX  shows you everything that you need to know about the league.

It should not matter if they were ever teammates, they even talked off the ice, he was part of the exact league that you are playing in. 

When Kobe Bryant passed away from that plane crash everyone in the NBA showed their compassion and their empathy. Even folks from the NHL, and MLB and NFL. Because it’s not that difficult to take your phone, go on a social media app, and post that. There’s no excuse. 

But it doesn’t surprise me in today society how not even just athletes are out of touch with the world, but everybody’s been out touch with the world.  People hate you for being authentic and speaking your truth instead of being fake and people pleasing. 

People don’t like boundaries, they want to use you as much as they can use you and then when they’re done with you, they just discard  you like you are trash. People also hate being called out, when someone points out said truth. The reason that people get so triggered is because they’ve been living a lie and living a lie is better than facing the truth. And what I mean by that is the fact that people will give athletes an excuse for how they are and who they are. They will give people in their community excuses for how they act, what they say about others, and how they go about their daily lives.

People today have no qualms about showing their insecurity, their jealousy and their envy, simply because somebody else’s light is brighter than theirs. Instead of celebrating those people, rooting for those people, they try to tear them down.

Just yesterday we had another school shooting, and it wouldn’t surprise me if social media played a part in that. You go on social media and people are trying to tear people down, bully other people, and not accept the fact that instead of asking questions about certain things, they judge them like they’re all high and mighty when they’re not even close to being that way. Nobody and I repeat nobody, including myself is better than anybody else. We are all imperfectly perfect.. we all have discrepancies. We all have flaws. And we all have strengths. That’s what makes us human. Unfortunately we don’t treat each other as human beings. 

People today don’t give a rats ass about anybody else other themselves. Of course young people today think they know it all and they have nothing to learn from anybody else because they know it all. When they’re just growing and evolving. And they’re afraid of doing that. Because that means they have to step into their authenticity and step away from having the fake life on social media where people give them reinforcing attention. 

I mean, let’s be real getting attention on social media is kind of fun. I get it. But life was so much easier and different before social media even existed. There’s some positives of social media. You make new friends on social media. You can network with other like-minded business individuals. You can put yourself out there. But there has to be some accountability. And I feel that if somebody has the nerve to try to dim your light, you have every single right to call them out on it. The old saying is true, if you’re gonna dish, then you gotta take it. 

That especially goes for the people that like to stalk other peoples accounts,  claim that they’re not stalking them, but they’re not following those specific people and then they talk about them like they know them and trash them. Lying about me won’t change the truth about you.  

One thing about me is that I will never go through life playing small, being silent, and being accommodating for everybody else.  I will never water myself down to make me more digestible for you. If I trigger you in any sort of fashion, that’s on you. Sometimes those who shine brightly always trigger those that rather live in darkness. 

So if I’m ever a bitch to you, did you forget that I was nice and nice and nice and nice…. Then I was a bitch? 

One thing I’ve learned during transforming my life over the last few years is that me being nice always got me disrespected, ran over and stressed out.  I’m not nice. I’m a good person and there’s a difference. People are afraid to get to know someone like that so they’d rather hate on them first instead of learning who they are because then in turn,  makes you a better person. God forbid we become better human beings. 

We can always learn from others so always be teachable. If you’re not then you’re afraid to evolve and you’re afraid to grow and you’re afraid to learn. 

The one take away I take from Meredith and Johnny’s relationship  from seeing all the photos is that they BOTH posted up on each other. They look at each other in every single one of those pictures with so much love in their eyes which  makes this even more heartbreaking. That’s the type of relationship that I want. That’s the type of relationship that everybody strives to have but sometimes is intimidated to have because it means being emotionally drawn to each other and being vulnerable and today people cannot be those two things. 

If anything, these types of heartbreaking situations are lessons for us to learn from. 

Life is short. It doesn’t come with the a set of instructions. It doesn’t come with the road map.. but it does come with moments that should be cherished and moments that should be enjoyed. We weren’t put on this earth to bicker with each other and fight with each other. We were put on this earth to help each other, to love each other and to realize that one of the greatest gifts is empathy and to understand that somehow mysteriously, we are all connected to each other. ❤️‍🩹

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