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The Picket Fence Mentality Preview

I use this concept to describe the default script society lays out for us—what’s expected of the “average” person living in Western culture.
We go through school; a system we’re told prepares us for life.
Once basic education ends (with debatable results) if we’re lucky, we achieve “the dream”: owning a house with a white picket fence, a tire swing in the yard, and a family. All the while, we trade massive chunks of our lives working to pay for the house and all the stuff we’re told we need to be happy-
For boys that includes a wife that is submissive, relies on them to be the breadwinner/provider and is what is called a “housewife.”
For girls that includes finding a man to settle down with, have his children, and be the “housewife” the man needs to survive the world.

Suburbs symbolize stability and the rise of the middle class. They represent broader access to the material resources that support good health. In an ideal world where we truly expand access to the things that generate wellbeing, everyone would enjoy the quality of life that suburban living often provides.
But we’re nowhere near that reality, especially in the NHL.
The “picket fence theory” (traditional marriage, kids, suburban family life) remains appealing to most men on paper, but fewer achieve it early, and support has softened over generations compared to past decades. Here’s a breakdown from reliable sources like Pew Research, Institute for Family Studies (IFS), and others:

Desire for Marriage

•  IFS 2026 survey of young men (18-29): 68% of unmarried young men say they want to get married someday; 21% unsure; only 10% say no. Among those wanting kids, 90% also want marriage. 

•  Pew Research (adults 18-34, never married): 69% want to marry someday (men and women roughly equal). 

•  High school seniors (2023): 74% of boys say they’ll likely get married someday (down from higher past figures, but boys now outpace girls at 61%). 

•  Broader trends: Harvard Youth Poll (2025) found 57% of 18-29 year olds overall see marriage as important. 

Desire for Children

•  Pew (young adults 18-34 without kids): 57% of men want children someday (vs. 45% of women); 30% unsure, 18% don’t want any. 

•  IFS (young men): 62% of childless young men want to become fathers; among those wanting marriage, 82% want kids. 

•  Other data (e.g., NSFG analyses) shows childless men often report similar or slightly higher interest in kids than women across ages. 

Context and Caveats

•  Most men still link the two: Marriage and kids are often seen as intertwined for fulfillment, with many viewing family life positively. Older data (e.g., 2018) showed ~37-40% of men seeing marriage/kids as “essential” to a fulfilling life. 

•  But reality differs: Marriage age is rising (median ~30 for men), marriage rates are down long-term, and a growing share of men remain childless or single longer. Economic pressures, dating challenges, and shifting priorities play big roles—many want it but face hurdles. 

•  Gender and generational notes: Young men often report higher interest in kids than young women in recent polls. Interest has declined overall since the 1990s, especially among women/girls. 

•  Not universal: 10-20%+ explicitly opt out, and “unsure” is common. Broader cultural shifts (e.g., prioritizing careers, experiences, or long-term relationships over formal marriage) reduce the “must-do” pressure.

In short, a clear majority of men (especially younger ones) still buy into wanting the traditional family package, but it’s not a universal imperative like in past generations, and many delay or never fully realize it. Data can vary by age, income, education, and culture—US-focused surveys dominate here.

strong majority pursue and achieve it during their careers—often marrying and having children relatively young—despite notably high post-career divorce rates. 

NHL players (average age ~27-28 in recent seasons) come from a mix of North American (especially Canadian) and European backgrounds, where traditional family values are common. Many settle down in their mid-20s amid stable high incomes, team support, and cultural norms in hockey communities. 

Marriage and Children Rates (Estimates from Available Data)

•  Players with children: Varies significantly by team and age roster. In a 2021 analysis of most NHL teams (based on public Instagram/family tracking):

•  Top end: Vegas Golden Knights had 9 fathers with 28 children (~3.1 per household); Washington Capitals had 15 fathers with 29 children.

•  Typical range: Many teams had 5–12 players with kids out of ~23 active roster spots (roughly 20-50% with children at that snapshot). Younger teams skew lower; veteran-heavy ones higher. 

•  Anecdotal/ongoing trends: Numerous articles note players marrying and starting families “really young.” Dozens of active players have wives and multiple kids; family announcements (births, weddings) are common in NHL news. 

•  Marriage: High during playing years. Many prominent players (e.g., Connor McDavid, Leon Draisaitl, and others) marry long-term partners, often in their mid-to-late 20s. Public lists of “NHL wives” and wedding roundups show it’s normalized. Exact league percentage is elusive but appears well over 50% for established players. 

Divorce and Stability Caveats

•  High divorce rates: Commonly cited ~70% for NHL/professional athletes overall (or specifically post-retirement within ~1 year for many). This is attributed to lifestyle transitions, financial stresses, infidelity risks, and wives filing in a large share of cases. Alumni data sometimes cites even higher (e.g., 75%). This suggests the “picket fence” is pursued but often doesn’t endure long-term after hockey ends. 

•  Many players prioritize family publicly (e.g., mentioning wives/kids in interviews), and extended hockey families (multi-generational NHL lineages) reinforce traditional models. 

In context of broader trends: This aligns with higher traditional family desires in collectivist or sports subcultures vs. general Western populations. NHL players’ high earnings enable the “picket fence” more than average men, but career demands (travel, injuries, relocations) and post-career adjustments strain it. Younger/rookie players are less likely to be married with kids than veterans. 

Exact “buy-in” percentage (aspirational belief) isn’t polled publicly, but behavioral data points to 60-80%+ engaging with marriage/kids during prime years—higher than general young male averages in some Western surveys, tempered by divorce realities. Data is patchy (mostly public bios, team snapshots, and lawyer/podcast anecdotes) and evolves yearly.

Canadian & American Players (North American majority): Strongest cultural alignment with the traditional picket fence. Canada and the US emphasize marriage and children as key to fulfillment (per general surveys: 60-70%+ of young men desire both). Many come from hockey families with multi-generational NHL ties, reinforcing family-centric values. Public profiles frequently highlight wives, kids, and “hockey dads” — large families are common and celebrated. North American players often marry locally or within similar communities, with less cultural shift required. Behavioral indicators (early marriages, multiple children) suggest the highest “buy-in” and realization rates among NHL subgroups.

•  Swedish & Finnish Players (Nordic Europeans): More modern, egalitarian, and secular views shaped by home-country cultures (high cohabitation rates, lower religiosity, acceptance of diverse family structures, smaller ideal family sizes ~2.0-2.2). Formal marriage is less of a “must” than in North America, with greater focus on work-life balance and gender equality. However, NHL success often leads to stable marriages and children anyway—many Nordic players settle in North America with families and publicly prioritize them. Cultural flexibility may mean slightly later starts or more cohabitation before marriage compared to North Americans, but family remains central once achieved. No evidence of lower overall pursuit; outcomes mirror the league average.

•  Russian Players: Highest emphasis on traditional family structures among European groups, rooted in more collectivist, family-oriented culture (marriage and children seen as essential for social fulfillment and legacy). Russian society places strong value on large or close-knit families, filial duty, and stability. Russian NHLers frequently highlight wives and kids in interviews, often maintaining ties to extended family back home. They may marry younger or have more children on average than Nordic counterparts, aligning closely with North American traditionalism despite geographic/cultural distance. Political and economic factors in Russia can add pressure toward family as a source of continuity.

•  Czech & Other Eastern/Central European Players: Similar to Russians—traditional family values predominate (marriage/kids as core to adult life), blended with post-communist modernization. Extended family emphasis is common.

What is even more common around the NHL is the “type” of woman they all choose. And let me be frank, they are conformed to think the exact same way when it comes to picking a girlfriend/wife. As I stated in the earlier section, patterns resemble…. To be continued this fall.

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How The USA Men’s Team Faked Everyone Out

The US Men’s Team pulled it off on Sunday morning and won gold. Everyone was excited and happy that they did it on the anniversary of the Miracle On Ice 1980. The only difference I will point out was that this team was full of NHL players while the 1980 was not. But that’s not the point of the blog post.

Then Larkin and Tkachuk went into the stands to go get the late Johnny Gaudreau’s kids. I will admit I cried when I saw Johnny’s dad cry, the heartbreak of losing both his sons to a self-entitled drunk will haunt him forever.

But what kills me is the US Men’s hockey team brought out Johnny Gaudreau’s daughter for the photo op but deny the fact that their culture is sexist, misogynistic and toxic towards women. 

These men don’t even fight for the women in their lives now what makes some people think they’re going to fight for her? 

The casual fan has NO IDEA what the culture of the NHL entails, they just see this moment and gush all over it. But women who are actual hockey fans see right through this – we see it as a way to say that these guys are so kind, compassionate and loving. Now, some NHL players might be that, but for the majority they are not.

As I wrote in my new series, “Meet Me In the Penalty Box” part 1: Culture isn’t an excuse for abuse.  And abuse is silent no matter what type of abuse it is: emotionally, mental, physical or sexual. This locker room culture in THE NHL encourages and rewards particular performances of toxic masculinity. And players who don’t adhere to implicit and explicit organizational expectations risk being ostracized.

Al the sexual assault and domestic violence that has occurred has been swept under the rug and the victims are bought off to keep quiet. We can talk about the social media admin of the NY Rangers, the victims of other cases, such as the Chicago Blackhawks, and also the well documented woman from the Hockey Canada case. That’s what the NHL does, they pay off these cases, the settle them. So whenever you hear something about a NHL player fans automatically assume that the woman is lying for a payday and the men take the athlete’s side. They make these guys out to the “Best” when that is not exactly the truth. At least the NFL does not sugar coat their league like the NHL does. They have a policy, the NHL does not. NHL players are PROHIBITED from talking about all the violence against women and even the media that covers the teams don’t MENTION it either. They all have become ENABLERS!

oh, and by the way, Gary Bettman the commissioner “swears” the alcohol is not part of the culture anymore… did you see how drunk out of their minds the team was Sunday? Yes, they won and I don’t care if they had a little to drink. Vincent Trocheck as quoted saying that he was going to “get F-up tonight”

The NHL USA Men’s team has an opportunity now once and for all to CHANGE the CULTURE and stand up for women everywhere and DEMAND a policy to protect the women who work in the NHL, date/marry NHL players and also protect players from sexual assault themselves. If Noa Gaudreau actually MEANS something to these guys and not was just used as a pawn on Sunday to make you believe they care, then they will NO LONGER BE SILENT.

We all have choices in our lives. Let’s see what choice the USA Men’s Hockey team makes- that will speak louder than anything else. Will they keep enabling violence against women or will they stay up as “Proud American Men” and say enough is enough?

The time is now.

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2025: Unrealistic Body Image Finally Enters The Chat

We live in a culture that praises weight loss. The message we’re sending is that you only look good because you lost weight.
Fat phobia- because of our intent, we perpetuate diet culture, and fat phobia when we compliment someone on their smaller body. Our society praises weight loss as if it’s the best thing a person could ever do. Not only that, but we comment on people’s bodies without having any idea what is going on in their lives.

Last week Jennifer Love Hewitt made more women in their 40s so happy that someone in Hollywood actually looks like them. She didn’t run off to use ozempic and she didn’t go ahead and do a crazy-ass diet. She is what women are SUPPOSED to look like and she was so proud of her body!

We “assume” that their weight loss is “positive”, when it could be due to a chronic illness or an eating disorder. All unsolicited comments about someone’s body are bad and shouldn’t be praised because no one asked for them. Even if someone asks, we shouldn’t even give them one when actually we should take it a step further and tell people that they don’t want to receive those comments.

We should be telling people to focus on who that person is not by what that person looks like. If only people did this on social media.

Social media is the perfect environment, unfortunately, where the diet culture flourishes. It thrives on comments from men who think they know that certain bodies are “better and hotter” than others. Yes, guys who are losing their hair, have beer bellies, droopy chests and butts, are telling women that they all need to look like a goddamn Barbie doll, when they themselves are so far away from representing Ken.

Women who already have suffered from a body image disorder, get triggered by those comments and now are drawn back into the diet culture. And for what? To please all the men who you don’t know on social media, who basically have their own insecurities about their own looks and projected on women?

The sad reality is, if you look on social media and even dating apps, all men want this fantasy woman who is 5 feet tall 5 inches, 130 pounds, size 2, blonde hair, and blue eyes, who accepts bare minimum, and who could pass for either a Victoria’s Secret model or a Barbie doll. What they don’t realize is that a woman’s looks is never going to raise their children. Her mindset will.

Men never focus on who a woman really is, speaking in terms of her personality, mentality, and character. But they only focus on how hot she looks so his teammates, and friends can be extremely jealous of his arm candy.

Oh, once you hit 35 and you’re a woman you’re old and decrepit according to social media.

If only men could stop being, “so full of themselves,” and stop trying to “fit in” focusing on loving a woman for who they truly are. But instead, they don’t want to embrace that main character energy. They wanna focus on what isn’t instead of what is.

I guess the question really is this : do we really want to spend our lives agonizing over trying to make others happy instead of making each day we live the best days we’ve ever had? When are we going to realize that nobody at your funeral is going to say the following: “ I remember so-and-so, she was a size 4 all her life, she was always so skinny, she was always looking hot and beautiful, etc”

They are going to remember how you made others feel, how you lived life and the kindness you showed others . That’s a life worth remembering.

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Get Ready: A sneak peek of “Meet Me in the Penalty Box”

As you well know by following this blog and if you follow me on social, you know that I am writing a book called, “Meet Me In The Penalty Box,” which exposes the NHL culture to a tee. Here’s a excerpt of the book: the first two sections: All About The Victims and Exploring the Topic Of Culture

Did you know, in 2022, there were 1.37 million domestic violence crimes committed in the US. According to the CDC, in 2022, women reported intimate partner violence around 41%

These are topics that women try and avoid talking about because they are embarrassed to admit that they have been in an abusive relationship or they feel ashamed that they succumbed to a man who tricked them into believing that he loved her by abusing her.

What does all this have to do with the NHL? (National Hockey League) 


The NHL is the ONLY major pro-sports league without a league specific policy outlining what happens to players who are accused of sexual crimes and domestic abuse. 

There have been incidents within the league that the league have stayed quiet about and have swept it under the rug, so to speak. (I then get into many different cases)

The question that everyone seems to have in regards to violence against women is where does this start to form in a man’s life?

Why does he intentionally want to hurt someone who is seen as loving and caring towards him?

And how do women play a role in being manipulated into falling into a pattern of trusting violent men with their lives? 



Dating Violence

Violence in teen relationships predicts violence in adulthood. In the United States, up to 19% of teens experience sexual or physical dating violence, about half face stalking or harassment, and as many as 65% report being psychologically abused ( Stats are from Office of Juvenile Justice and Delinquency Prevention)

In many cases, violence can happen when young people don’t yet have the skills to manage conflict, cope with feelings of jealousy, and navigate rejection. Many teens perceive this type of behavior as “normal” and a way to express love in intimate relationships.

The truth of the matter is this: Teen dating violence seems to be overlooked, not only in the scientific community but in society at large. It’s developmentally appropriate for young people to explore their sexuality.

But as a society we haven’t figured out how to support that while protecting them from a risk of violence. Added pressures today include social media and how sexuality is perceived.

According to 2019 data from the CDC’s Youth Risk Behavior Survey, about 1 in 12 teens experience physical dating violence and about the same number face sexual dating violence. Other studies suggest rates may be higher, especially when accounting for psychological forms of abuse.

In one nationally representative study of young people ages 14 to 21, 51% of females and 43% of males reported being victims of at least one type of dating violence, while 50% of females and 35% of males reported perpetrating at least one type.

Girls as young as age 6 have been taught for generations to accept the fact that when a boy pulls your hair, trips you, pokes you, laughs at you, or does anything else to you, this is a clue that he “likes you.”

Little girls have been conformed and trained to accept this behavior from boys as an expression of interest, which means we have been training girls that it is normal for guys to physically, mentally, and emotionally abuse us as an expression of love.

Teen boys who abuse dating partners are more than likely to have experienced child abuse or neglect. Teen boys who are abusers, are more likely to use alcohol or drugs than their nonviolent counterparts.



Teen boys who abuse their partners then to have sexist attitudes that support male domination over females.



In some cases, dating violence may be part of a pattern of antisocial or aggressive behavior.

But much of the time, teens may simply not know how to manage the emotions and conflicts that arise as they enter their first relationships.

Patterns in teen relationships are similar to adult battering relationships – they involve the same elements of control and jealousy. Teen girls and women describe the same range of violent experiences from slaps and shoves, to beatings and attacks with weapons. 

There are several youth-specific aspects to their relationships- 
Pressure to conform to peer-group norms which contributes to an emphasis on having a specific dating partner. 
Peer pressure can be so intense and the fear of being different, or of violating peer-group norms, can create rigid conformity.

Teenage boys will begin to establish such patterns when their violent dating behaviors are reinforced by members of their peer group and by society as a whole.

Their expectations of a girlfriend may include that she gives up certain activities and other relationships in order to give priority to her boyfriend. 

This is why basic chicks fit the mold/pattern for hockey players.

They find women who will conform to what the boyfriend wants and accepts their dominance in the relationship. This includes that he be sexually aggressive, make all the decisions, and he will control her activities and behavior…..

(Section 2: Exploring the Topic of Culture)

The United States also has an individualistic culture, meaning people place a high value on individuality and independence. In contrast, many other cultures are collectivist, meaning the welfare of the group and group relationships is a primary value.
Living up to a culture’s values can be difficult. It’s easy to value good health, but it’s hard to quit smoking. Marital monogamy is valued, but many spouses engage in infidelity. Cultural diversity and equal opportunities for all people are valued in the United States, yet the country’s highest political offices have been dominated by white men.
In many cultures, women are expected to be responsible for things that men are not. And, there are more pressures put on girls and women to look young and youthful no matter how old she is. Women’s full and equal participation in all facets of society is a fundamental human right. Yet, around the world, from politics to sports to the workplace, women and girls are largely underrepresented.

While the specific expectations have varied across cultures and time periods, core assumptions about women’s roles have persisted for millennia. Let’s take a brief look at how the values and beliefs women “should” follow enfolded…..

Today, this is how women see themselves:

  • Independence focused
  • Sexually liberated
  • Work focused

Today this is how men still want to see women:

  • Homemaker
  • Mother
  • Primary caregiver
  • Submits to her man
  • Adopts her man’s moral foundations

A traditional woman is a woman who follows older established principles of femininity. But today, women are pushing away from being a “traditional woman” because men today are pushing away from being, “a traditional man.”

What is a traditional man?

He is someone who adheres to conventional, often historical, gender roles and expectations. This may include traits like being a provider, protector, and head of the household, with a focus on strength, and dominance. Basically he follows established principles of masculinity.

Men before the social media era had more strength, courage, and discipline than today’s men. Men used to be better men, and more men wanted to be more like that. Today though, men rather complain about women being masculine and not feminine.

Maybe this is news to a lot of men but women take self-defense courses because we’re told we need to protect ourselves from men. Instead of men learning to be better men. The value of women is not limited to their sex appeal. Treat women the way you would treat any normal person. How you speak, walk, move your body or go about everyday life has nothing to do with masculinity, aside from other people’s preconceived ideas.

When most men think of “manliness”, they think of the fantastical archetypes we’ve been inundated with since childhood:

James Bond, Ernest Hemmingway, Captain America, and the list goes on.

They think that manliness is about hunting big game, or knowing how to fight, or sleeping with dozens of women, or driving a fast car. But these activities do not make one manly. Manliness, or as I prefer to call it “masculinity”, is about the principles by which you operate and the way that you commit yourself to various pursuits in life.
I would argue that developing your masculinity just as women develop their femininity, is based on a handful of simple principles…..

When women are assaulted, their past gets investigated.
When men assault, their future gets protected.
When women get assaulted, it’s like society treats them like a criminal first, not a victim. But men? Oh no, their futures need to be protected at all costs. The only thing that matters is making sure they get a “second chance” while she’s left fighting for her dignity. This victim-blaming crap isn’t just sick, it’s a systematic pile-on designed to keep her in the dirt while they get to walk away unscathed.

What does all this have to do with the NHL and their culture?

Well, let me start off by saying this: Culture isn’t an excuse for abuse. And abuse is silent no matter what type of abuse it is emotionally mental, physical or sexual.

And the fact that people know that it’s happening and they close the blind eye to it or they sweep it under the rug or they try to hide it as fast as they can, shows you the nature of this problem isn’t small. The NHL is very good at covering this up and that shows you that they know right from wrong but they don’t care.

And to all those guys that I see commenting on this type of thing on Instagram, Facebook and Threads is disturbing.
The main comment is that, we as women will never get rid of sexual assault. That’s that is correct statement because we’re never going to get rid of hate, we’re never going to get rid of violence 100%, but the fact that you don’t even want to think about how you can make things better for not just yourself but those around you, show that you are part of the problem, not the solution.

It’s always amazing to me. How guys are more worried about the accusations of their favorite athletes than the violence itself .
Defending them with the my favorite sayings, “she was a whore,” “She wanted it now she’s regretting it.” And my ultimate favorite, “Innocent until proven guilty.”
There’s also another one, “She consented so this didn’t happen.”

They just don’t understand what consent and not consent is and even if she consented in the beginning, a woman has a right to change her consent at any point given in time.
When a woman says no or stop or I don’t want to do this and you don’t listen to her, you are raping her. It doesn’t matter if she’s your wife, it doesn’t matter if she’s your girlfriend, it doesn’t matter if she’s your partner, it doesn’t matter if she’s a hooker from the street, it does not matter.

And that is where the problem then grows.

The hockey culture is four things, alcohol, drugs, sex and gambling.

(To Be Continued)







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It’s a Waste Of Money To Shop At VS

If you are a woman, you probably have shopped or still shop at Victoria’s Secret. And if you are like me, you are tired of wasting money buying their panties that no longer seem to be made with good quality material. You buy it, wear it twice, and then have to throw it out because washing them has now made them shrink to the point where they are unwearable.
I was on the mission to find other sexy, lacy, cute and comfortable panties, and I think I did.

The brand that I found to be reasonably priced, comfortable, sexy and cute is Auden which is sold in Target.
The other brand is SO by Kohl’s as you will see in this video -> CIick here to watch it

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The NHL’s Relationship With Women

I don’t know why the hell this needs to be repeated…… women do belong in the NHL.
Whether they’re a fan, coach, broadcaster, journalist, owner, or hold an important office title in the league, there should be a safe space for them to do what they love.

Men need to support women in sports. It’s really not that hard.

As I am in the process of writing my new book, “Meet Me In The Penalty Box,” I have discovered just how many men are TRIGGERED by women who not only understand the sport, love the sport, but by women who want to empower other women to change the NHL for the better. I have also learned this: If my voice had no power, most of the male fans plus some athletes would not try to silence me. I guess, my only question for them is this; Can you hear me now? If not, don’t worry you will be. My voice cannot be stifled by your deviant ways.

Not only am I going to change the NHL for the better, where women are concerned, but I would like to remind fans of 1 woman that actually played in the NHL, even if it was a preseason game, and how that opportunity got lost.

Her name is Manon Rhéaume and in 1992, signed a contract with the Tampa Bay Lightning of the NHL, appearing in preseason exhibition games in 1992 and 1993. She spent five years in professional minor leagues, playing for a total of seven teams and appearing in 24 games. She also played on the Canada women’s national ice hockey team, winning gold medals at the IIHF Women’s World Championship in 1992 and 1994, and the silver medal at the 1998 Winter Olympics.

So to those men who think I can’t change how the NHL sees women and treats women, it can be done. Like I preach, all it takes is ONE person to make a difference. Then of course when I STILL see sexist tweets and posts like this:

I know that I have a fight ahead of me. The fact remains that most men are today are triggered by not only by women who want equality in the workplace, but also women who are strong minded and independent. When I talk about dating and how it has totally shifted to this “basic chick” way whereas she will accept bare minimum and the man doesn’t have to become a better man, this is also what I speak of with the NHL.

I just saw a video on Tiktok of a woman is “says” she is married to a Dallas Stars player who literally said, “The only really I am telling everyone that I am married now is because we both wanted to wait and I wanted to become something and not attached to his name.” HAHAHAAHAHAHA… this girl is so freaking manipulated that it is sad. Oh, and her “husband” he is not one of those superstar players either. And I have never heard of her and her brand that she supposedly wanted to grow on her own. I looked at his IG account and there is ONE … just ONE photo of them together and the comments under it are NASTY!
If you follow me you know that I have stated MANY times that when you date an athlete you have to make sure that HE is the ONE who posts you up FIRST. You have to make sure you are with someone who loves you: Loudly. Proudly. Publicly. Privately. And behind your back. The whole Instagram story shit – that is what these basic chicks buy into and the guy thinks hey, I publicly put her in a story so that should be enough. HA! That’s the copout. As is what is coming February 14th: Valentine’s Day.

NEWSFLASH: If you are a guy or you are an athlete don’t use a holiday like that as a cop out to propose to your girl. For starters, that day is supposed to be special. The day you ask her hand, is not supposed to coincide with the commercial gimmick of Valentine’s Day. (I thought I would add that in this post, while there is still time to change your mind!) You also have to think about what happens if you get divorced, you just ruined a holiday because that is all she will think about when that day comes. Propose a few days before Valentine’s Day or after it.

Oh, back to the NHL for a second so I can clear up something. Most men have the wrong idea when it comes to defining what is masculine and feminine. Furthermore, let me add again, that it is NOT a flex to be sleeping with 5 women at the same time, that does not make you man. That makes you a pig. See, the reason that their IG is NOT FILLED with photos of their women is simply because they think that other girls, or the hoes of the world are going to slide into their DMS. So they HAVE to look single and not taken. That’s why their use stories. Also, it doesn’t go with their agenda of making their IG’s all about them and their careers. When that is NOT what IG is all about. 80% professional 20% personal. These guy freak out when fans think they are robots yet they post on social like they are robots by not letting folks see the human side of themselves.

Muscles don’t make men masculine.

Women being submissive doesn’t make them feminine.

Being loyal to 1 woman makes a man masculine. 

Being reliable makes a man masculine.

Being emotionally intelligent makes a man masculine. 

A woman is feminine when she’s nurturing. 

A woman is feminine when she’s completely comfortable being the driver and the passenger. 

A woman is feminine in the way she carries herself and still can be strong minded.


Once a man can do this and understand this, he longer wants to settle for what he is TOLD to settle for, which is a basic chick. He wants more. He wants a woman who is extra and he is manly enough to accept it and he is proud of it. Taylor Swift had to date 13 little boys who were insecure about the fact that she was extra until she met a man who was strong enough to understand that weak-minded men can’t handle a strong, independent, and extra girl.

If there is hope for Travis Kelce, there is hope for many of you guys too.

On a different note, look out for my revised copy of “The Championship Mindset” Monday February 3rd.

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The Trend That Needs To End in 2025

Happy 2025 readers and fans!

We made it through another holiday season and I hope yours was a good one. Mine was quite busy. Between running my businesses, trying to branch out, holiday gatherings and going to basketball games to watch my nephew and niece play, it was hectic!
The one trend we see on social media every single new year is the one where folks use the stupid quote, “New Year, New Me,” and then manage to be the EXACT SAME person all 365 days of the new year. So, with that said, I am going to ask, can we just stop that nonsense? Seriously, what is wrong with folks thinking that they have to automatically change who they are because it’s a new year? Aren’t you proud of who you are?
Now, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting to IMPROVE yourself, but this concept that we have to all “change” ourselves COMPLETELY is absurd.

You don’t need to compare yourself and your journey in life to anyone else. And on social media so many people do that. She is skinnier, he is buffer, she is more successful, he is climbing the ladder, etc. Everyone’s journey in life is unique. And everyone’s life purpose is different. It would be VERY boring if everyone thought the same, dressed the same, acted the same, etc.

And maybe some folks posted up their big accomplishments and you feel you couldn’t post yours because they were not as big… to that I say this:
Every little victory you had in 2024 is important. It leads you to appreciate the bigger things and it helps you see that you can accomplish whatever it is you set out to do. So if your “only” accomplishment in 2024 was that you survived the year, you did it and be proud.

TO quote something I read recently, “Even though it’s great to have big goals, it’s easy to get caught up in the daunting list you have yet to accomplish. Instead of growing fixated on those, you should try to spend some time giving yourself credit for the things you do accomplish on a daily basis.”

One thing we all have control over is our mindset. Your mindset is what makes things happen and makes you tick. A positive, growth-oriented mindset can help you overcome challenges, achieve goals, and build resilience, while a negative mindset can hinder your progress and make difficulties seem insurmountable.
So, in 2025 if there is one thing that you can change for the better, it is your mindset. You can accomplish WONDERFUL things when you believe in infinite possibilities. And that starts with believing in yourself.

At the end of the day, some folks need to step aside that ego and really look within themselves so that they too can be “better.” It’s not that they aren’t good people, it’s that their mindset isn’t set on having them realize what is holding them back from accomplishing their goals and accomplishing their dreams. We all can be a little nicer to everyone in 2025. We can face our insecurities head-on and show more compassion and empathy.

But if our mindset isn’t where is should be, that is a hard thing to just flip a switch out of the blue. It takes time to do this.

We talk about change each new year, instead let’s talk about mindset. That’s something EVERYONE can focus on and in turn become “better” people. Unlike fixed traits, your mindset is something you can actively work on and change through conscious effort. When you put forth effort, things happen. We can change our mind and our lives, once we change our mindset.

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In a world full of copies, be an original.

It’s been awhile since I wrote a blog piece, but I have a great excuse… I’ve been busy trying to get my shit together, but seriously who hasn’t been?
I have been working on multiple projects and I will have updates for ya soon. If you want instant behind the scenes stuff, then I invite you to follow my Youtube Channel where most of that is posted.

Recently I was back doing choreography for an upcoming R&B singer – and that felt awesome to be dancing again because here’s a hint from a creative person, when you do anything creative whether it is writing, music, art, dancing, etc.. it helps build up your creative juices! I think I will be doing more of that in the future!
And speaking of music, I am still putting together my album. It’s crazy to see how life really does go full circle. Back in the 2000’s ( the early portion) I actually was trying for a record deal even if I didn’t sing the songs but sell the music/lyrics to artists. Back then we didn’t have social media to do that, we needed to make a tape, mail it to a producer and then literally wait by the mailbox, which is was TORTURE! My cousin had a meeting with the same producer I sent my work too and that is how I found out that they loved my stuff. But … a lot of things how to fall into place and well, it didn’t.

Seeing now how God/universe was redirecting me and protecting me from the music industry now that we see all the shit unfolding with Diddy, makes me know that the timing was not right then. But like I said, everything in life comes full circle and now is the perfect time for me to have an album that I will produce by myself with the help of technology.

UPDATE:
So, the NHL is trying their “best” to make it look like they are “women friendly” and care about women by having women take part of organizations in a big way. The biggest way is with the Kraken and the hiring of Jessica Campbell as their Asst. Coach. Now, I will say she qualifies for this position and frankly she should have been hired years ago, so I question the timing of this. Especially with the fact that 5 guys are being tried in a Canadian court room next spring for sexual assault.

But this is here why the NHL SHOULD HAVE a policy to PROTECT HER.

The NHL commissioner STILL refuses! so what happens when she is sexually harassed? God forbid anything worse happens! I have sent The NHL over 4 correspondence and I have only heard back once! This month is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. Here are some important stats:
Over 1 in 3 women in the US have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
At least 5 million acts of domestic violence occur annually to women aged 18 years and older.
Domestic abuse can be mental, physical, economic or sexual in nature.

And here’s something else to know: Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse where a person causes someone to question their sanity, memories, or perception of reality.
** I will be staying on top of this with the NHL **

Video Links: Remembering Johnny Hockey
Video Links: Matt Rempe ( his acting debut) – If you listen to my podcast, you hear me talk about how much I love his vibe! It’s authentic and real, not fake or stuck up like all other athletes.
This week BTW on my podcast which I do NFL picks, and talk about hockey (NY Rangers- mostly) I talked about positive and negative energy towards the end of the podcast. It’s really a good listen if you want to learn how to have the Championship Mindset.
Podcast link: click here

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I Bet You Didn’t See This One Coming

I was planning on releasing a book in the late fall/early winter in 2 parts… but then I got thinking. I can’t really release it until after the trail with the junior hockey players sexual assault case is over… so that gives me PLENTY of time to write that part, but here…

I plan to flip the script and release an album instead.

Here are the tracks:

Selfish
Undone
The Boy Is Divine
Better Than Revenge
Goalies Aren’t the only ones who wear masks
Sister Fate
How to Paint Sunlight
Ryan’s Hope
Shenanigans
Showman Dan
Alice
Mr. Authenticity
Bitter Cold
Karma
Just Be A Man About It
Sheila
Suddenly, I hate you
When a Boy Becomes A Man
Bangers
Backyard
What You Need
23
Skin
You Must Love Me
Obviously Fascinated
Mess For You
Player
What Goes Around Comes Around

I am still deciding which track to release first, but that will come very soon!

Stay tuned…