First and Foremost, the new podcast is up and it’s for your ears only.CLICK HERE to listen.
Sorry, folks, no video podcast this week, maybe next week…
Now, some words may be centered off… that is because it’s Youtube Shorts. But the point being is that Hockey Boys Got It Going On! #FashionAve though, belongs to the NY Rangers. But the best dressed athlete is a NHL player. IF you haven’t seen the last 4 videos …. Here they are! They also are on my twitter feed.
Dating Segment ( a quickie – pun intended)
You can tell a lot about an athlete and his character, what he values, etc by who he follows on IG. Guys who are superficial, narcissistic and materialistic will ALWAYS follow the girls on IF we are half naked in their profile pics AND they will NEVER post about the girl who they are with ONLY story her so others can slide into their DMS and they can slide into theirs. Also athletes who have private IG accounts I would be worried about- that shows 1) they hide shit 2) they can’t handle the social media trolls. Also if a girl goes out with you for coffee, pizza, shopping at Target, the girl is into you and only cares about spending time with you- she’s not into you for what you can give her- she’s into you for YOU! I talk more about this on the podcast – LINK On top of this post!
If you saw the racy video of the panties on Twitter…. I talk about it in the podcast. (give you guys a creative hint for Valentine’s Day!)
As always I have my fashion brand where you can purchase sweatshirts/T-shirts I created. CLICK This wonderful link to go to that site.
I believe women should always find the classiest way to empower their sexuality – The devilish girl coming out to play… so if you can’t handle it, then don’t click the link. PS: you’ll have to subscribe for the content but I give you a little tease if you will (The video from twitter is here but I put it on youtube for this blog) CLICK THIS
I started writing about dating back in 2008, back when online dating started. I said back then that it was a crazy idea that was going to get folks into trouble, and in 2022, I am still correct. Dating via looking at a dating app is such a superficial and careless way to date. Period. You are trusting some dude on the other end of the app with your heart, your body, your emotions, and your wallet. When more than half the time that dude is either a two timer, rapist, ex-criminal, scam artist, sex offender, or just a plain douche bag looking to hook up. Dating shouldn’t be casual, either. I never quite understood how someone could just “casually” date someone while doing all the things that a couple does while dating. If you don’t have the time to devote to building something meaningful, then there is no point to dating. Period. Dating is more than just having fun in the sheets too. I mean, yes, sex is part of dating as it should be, but if you develop feelings for the other person and they don’t feel the same, you can end up getting hurt. Not to mention that you just wasted precious time with someone who didn’t care about having a relationship with you, they just wanted to have sex with you as in “Friends with benefits” and “casually” hang out with you when they have “time.”
Recently on Twitter some dude reached out to me via DM since he listens to my podcast all the time, and asked me, “What is it really like to date you?” That question is not an easy question to answer, seriously. Sure, I am fun, adventurous, spontaneous, have high energy, and am seriously easy going until you cross me, but how do you really answer that question? So in my sassy and sarcastic way, I answered it this way:
The pros and cons of dating me are ironically my mouth.
There I said it. #sarcasm but really the truth.
I’m not going to be known as a woman who was afraid to open her mouth and speak up against hate, and I know what I bring to the table and I am proud of being that rare breed in today’s society where you need to be a woman who is “submissive and flaky” to get a guy. At the same time, when I mention this, guys automatically think “slutty” and like I have said before, the fact that guys want girls to act this way and girls think they need to act slutty to get noticed by that athlete or by that guy they have their eyes on, is just completely trash. You can be sassy, sweet, seductive and sensual while at the same time being classy. That is the woman a real man will want anyway. Boys wants slutty. I don’t want a boy, I want a man. Period. You want to be treated like the classy bitch you are- not a doormat.
As I talk about trash, I also think about all the porn I have seen on Twitter in the last few months and I have to say it is the most distasteful thing to ever post on a social media site. Porn is a billion dollar industry and still is, but to post that on a social media site where kids are, and where folks go to have a conversation is so uncalled for. Now I am certainly no prude, as I talk about sex and if you read my best seller, “Hello Love Where’s Cupid 2nd Ed” I told readers of the most interesting positions to try. Yes, Back in the day as a full time blogger, I wrote for many online sites that talked about sex and people would message me and ask me for new things to try in the bedroom. I wrote for a site like Cosmo, called Rant Dating, for those who are interested to know. It doesn’t exist anymore but it was fun to work on, especially when I interviewed a condom company and did an “influencer” post for them before we even knew what a social media influencer was!
Also I have mentioned of course how the TV show, “Sex and the City” changed how women viewed sex, as it has always been a touchy subject when it came to the topic. But there are places to put it and places not to. And if that’s what you’re into, great. I have no problem with it. The problem I have is the fact that people are dumb enough to not only post it on Twitter, but then retweet it. Here is the social media tip that some need: When you Retweet something EVERY ONE of YOUR FOLLOWERS get to see that on their feed. This is NOT what your followers want to see. Now, if you want to create a DM group conversation on the porn you love to watch, go for it.
Also, we continue the countdown from the NY Rangers 2016 team of the TOP dressers! We’re up to Number 2: That is no one other than Mats Zuccarello Here are the photos:
Look at how chic, dapper and playful . Look at how he can make a suit look REALLY good without a tie! He wears the vest over the shirt and that brings it all together.
Here he is classy and organized.
I ALWAYS talk about how the TIE brings the ENTIRE suit together. Not to mention his shoes. Accessories are so important, even for men.
Even with casual clothing he brings the swagger A simple T-shirt and jogger pants look chic and polished.
There’s a lot to be said about a girl who isn’t afraid to go after what she wants. Sometimes that in itself rubs people the wrong way, especially when you are extremely secure within yourself. I posted this quote on Twitter the other day, and it’s so true. “Lowkey, to date me you gotta be mentally strong because I’ll push all your buttons. Even ones you didn’t even know you had.”
We have discussed in the past about how guys are simply afraid of dating an independent woman and I have mentioned that for athletes, an independent woman is the best match for them simply because they need to focus on their careers and it is extremely demanding!
Here’s reasons to date an independent woman ( like me)
First thing is to understand that her actions are deliberate and there’s a reason behind them. The secondly thing you need to know is that an independent woman isn’t afraid to speak her mind! She is also going to be very loyal and very supportive. Being that I am a former cheerleader and have been coaching cheerleading for years, this statement is truth. I will always want my man to be successful at whatever he does and I will push him as best as I can to go after his dreams. Dating an independent woman doesn’t mean that she won’t be dependent on her partner- no, we depend on our partners to provide love, attention, affection and also support us as we chase our dreams, we just aren’t clingy. I don’t look to a relationship for validation at all. I look to a relationship as a team. To some this may be surprising, even though we enjoy challenges and competition, we’re usually uninterested in playing games or chasing a crush. If we flirt we you, that means we want you. If you take too long to reciprocate, we move on to someone who will. That may seem, “mean,” but we shouldn’t have to wait forever for you to make that move to make us official.
I have asked guys out in the past, or at least hinted that I wanted to go out with someone. Then of course, still, some guys have to be the one to ask you out. Okay, I’ll bite, and I will sit back and watch you and wait for awhile, but if you wait way too long, even though I am extremely attracted to you and feel sexual tension, I will go and pay attention to someone else and move on from you, even if that kills me. Girls like me don’t come around often. Why should I have to sit around and wait around for you to finally decide that you want to go out with me?
I know what I bring to the table. I am a rare breed. (As are true independent women are!)
The best advice that I can give guys is this: If a girl wants to BUILD with you and is SUPPORTIVE while she’s building up her own dreams, don’t give her a chance to even look at another guy. If she ONLY wants to build with YOU… don’t be a jackass and let your ego or pride or anyone allow you to mess it up.
Also, I always laugh when I hear that other guys are whispering about me to the guy that I want. It’s like they are so incredibly jealous that they tell him not to take the chance of a lifetime with me since they can’t have me. Like, how much of an asshole of person do you have to be that you don’t want your teammate or friend to be happy? This is why I stay out of telling my friends who to ask out or date. I am not the one who lives with the decision- they are! And I don’t want to be the reason they missed out on a great experience going out with someone they want to because of how I feel.
And of course the jealous fuck girls will go out of their way to make themselves “known” in the process- ( If you listened to my podcast I talked about this!) This is why I only date guys with the warrior mentality. They too are a strong & independent people who aren’t intimidated by me. We actually can have a lot of fun together and like I said on the podcast, if you are into adventure, sarcasm, and want that personal cheerleader in every which way possible – you’d jump up on the chance of lifetime. Anybody could be good to you, you need a bad girl to blow your mind. Remember, Be savage, not average. Unless, you just want basic.
You can listen to this week’s #NYR podcast simply by clicking HERE
Michael Grabner is our # 3 of the best dressed for the team in 2016 ( Remember, I am not picking guys that are STILL on the team now) The first picture shows you how Michael Grabner was a classic dresser and he wanted to wear clothing that will never go out of style. The the second picture I would describe as The Rebel. ( See how he pushed the two together here : hockey and fashion!?
COMING up on the Fashion segment …. we will visit other teams and see how they compare against the NY Rangers. And maybe have a competition with it.
I’ll make you double take soon as I walk away Call up your chiropractor just in case your neck break Ooh, tell me what you, what you, what you gon’ do, ooh ‘Cause I’m ’bout to make a scene, double up that sunscreen I’m ’bout to turn the heat up, gonna make your glasses steam Ooh, tell me what you, what you, what you gon’ do
Fashion Ave in NYC is all about chic, style and keeping on point.
One myth about Fashion is that you have to spend a fortune to look good. That is not the case.
Dressing men for example, here are some awesome looks that you get a bang for your buck without having to break the bank. These are from the store Express – most are under $500
There are many different styles one can have, but the best ones are when you dress according to personality and not just doing what’s trendy.
The key also is matching the tie to your suit, but you can also wear a dressy shirt without a tie, and open the top button or have a low crew neck dressy shirt and open suit jacket. ( Pictures below)
Now, some fashion trends like suits for women, I really don’t like. I think a woman can really use the suit jacket as part of her look, but matching the pants with it, looks tacky to me. ( See below)
Taking the suit jacket and then accessorizing it with a skirt, or a different color pair of pants is the best way to go. Plus for women, we usually use our shoes in the same fashion as a man uses his ties to match or make a statement.
I always believe that fashion should be something that shows off your personality. I created a fashion line of off the trend style. Yes, you can style up T-shirts and Sweatshirts to anchor your personality and that is what the weekends are also for. Why wear something that may look good but doesn’t make YOU feel good?Why wear something that may be trending, but isn’t comfortable to wear?
Clothing should be fun, flirty, sassy, but also comfy.
Although millions of women have experience playing sports and many millions more are fans of sports, women are still looked down upon when they talk about sports. And when they do, men still persistently question their qualifications.
First thing all women who love sports have to deal with is that we ONLY love the sport for how “good looking” the men are. Now, unfortunately some girls tweet and post about how “hot” an athlete looks so all girls and women are thrown into this category and even if we actually enjoy the sport for what it is, and make a comment on how handsome a guy looks, that’s it; we all are told that is the REAL reason we love football or hockey. (Especially those 2 sports)
I don’t know how to break this to you guys out there but it’s pretty much impossible to see the faces or the abs of football players as they’re bolting across my TV or device. And hockey players… have so much padding on them, plus a helmet with a visor, that it’s impossible to judge their “hotness” as they quickly skate up and down the rink. If girls wanted to look at cute guys, they would probably watch a soap opera or a music video or sex website, not athletes covered in so much gear that they’re barely recognizable.
Then we have to deal with questions like, “Your boyfriend, dad or your brothers got you into liking football or hockey, right?” For some reason, it’s hard for some guys to wrap their brains around the fact that a woman can turn on a TV or find a sport and find a game all on her own. I can tell you for a fact that no one in my family introduced me to NY Rangers hockey… I found it, got into it, and love it all by my little self.
Another thing that guys don’t seem to understand is that you can be a fan of a sport without knowing every player’s statistics. If you claim to like , the Yankees for example, then guys bombard me with questions about the players and even when I know all of the answers., these guys STILL won’t let up! Listen, we don’t quiz men on your Shakira knowledge so why should they quiz us on sports?
My favorite though is insisting that I am an airhead, because I am a female fan.
Another doozy is that if you like a team that just so happens to be doing well, you’re going to be accused of liking them because it’s trendy. ( We get that in NY a lot)
Let me tell you that I didn’t spend hundreds of dollars on a hockey jersey to impress ANY guy! Most women watch sports, because they actually enjoy them. They don’t have an ulterior motive. Sorry that you feel so incredibly insecure about yourself to even think that.
Also, if a girl likes a certain player that you hate, that doesn’t give you the right to bully, harass, or shame someone for THEIR love for that particular player. People need to realize that not EVERY post needs your comment on it – just as in real life you wouldn’t engage in every conversation you would come in contact with same applies online. I hate it when people bash players online and then also think they can bash their families and the fans who like them. I will go after you on that, as being an athlete is hard enough, let alone having people bash them who by the way are buying tickets to watch. Most fans couldn’t even survive on the field or ice past the 1st shift/1 series.
Finally, this is what one guy I spoke too about what he thought about women enjoying sports had to say, “I’m a competitive cyclist and if a girl can keep up with me on a mid-paced weekend ride I’m pretty much in love.”
As part of The Diary Of A Social Gal, I am going to tell you 25 things about me. Some of you may know some of them, but I can guarantee that no one knows all 25. Are you ready? Here we go….
My Name is Stephanie … it’s spelled this way not Stephany, Stefanie. The biggest pet peeve is when people misspell my name. Also my nickname is Steph or Stephie. Spelled just as you see it.
I’m an Aries – born April 7th. I celebrate my birthday for an entire month – I even celebrate my half birthday on October 7th. My birthday is the only time when I can think about me. It’s important to me.
My hobbies I love are: sewing, crafts, baking, reading, writing music, traveling when I can, shopping, street fairs, festivals, etc, and napping. Yes, napping. If it were an Olympic sport, I’d have tons of gold medals.
My favorite places are The Jersey Shore, Lake George, Anaheim CA, San Diego CA, Ann Arbor MI, And downtown Boston.
I have never traveled abroad but would love to go to Italy, England and Paris.
I once won $300 on a $1 scratch off lotto ticket
My favorite candies are M&Ms, Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, and Gummy Bears.
My favorite snacks are Pretzel Pieces ( Cheddar Cheese Flavor) Fruit and Yogurt Parfaits. ( Although sometimes I do eat cookies – Oreos or Teddy Grahams)
I am not an into insects. I freak out with spiders, am terrified of bees, and basically anything that crawls is dead when it is around me.
I do though love butterflies, caterpillars, and lady bugs.
My most annoying habit is remembering everything which pisses off everyone else since I remembered it and I remind them and then people tend to get mad at me for bringing it up! I tend to enjoy pissing off people… but I make up for that with being loving and caring.
I have a collections of tea cup regular size and mini and elephants. Well, my Grandma started to collect elephant statues and now I continue that tradition. Any elephant with his trunk up I collect.
My favorite seasons are everything but winter. Although snow is very pretty to look at it’s not the best to drive in.
My favorite sport to follow is hockey. Yes, I understand the game very well, “for a girl” and if you want to know why I like it, then go read the blog post, Why This Chick Loves Hockey.
If I could have a superpower it would be ….( guess for a chance to win a $10 Amazon card, some NYR coffee, and a winter knit hat!)
Some of my pet peeve are well, as a New Yorker, those who drive and don’t put on their signal and those who drive way too slow.
I enjoy watching football and writing my own plays I think each QB should be doing on offense.
The thing I love about myself the most is my positive attitude and my willingness to always want to help others.
I own a social media company which then through the company I have branched out other businesses. I take on clients for social media but I also sell content that I create as well. I blog, I podcast, I am a published author and I started a coffee brand called Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee.
My favorite color since I was little is pink. Now my niece loves this color too! She’s even bought me a shirt because it was pink.
I’m a Godmother and an Auntie.
I am Italian, Polish and Austrian.
I’m short. 5’3 but have an attitude of 6’1
Everyone that knows me, knows that I am really very sassy. Don’t mess with me. I will not only stand up for myself but I stand up for all my friends/family.
I coach cheerleading and have for 16 years ( Long time- I started in my 20s) I also have taken the test to be a cheer judge, sell content to other cheer teams across the country, and create routines as a Choreographer for other teams. I started out as a dancer when I was 7 and switched to Cheerleading later on. I was a flyer. Yes, that girl who did the stunts in the air!)