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Mark Zuckerberg, Adam Mosseri and Tim Cook are all liars!

IF you have a business and you use Facebook and Instagram to market them I am telling you that you are RISKING losing your business to hackers.

This week ALONE I know about a dozen people including myself that was hacked and my IG account is STILL hijacked. No matter HOW many times you do a video selfie they don’t work to confirm identity, and they have NO – NONE live customer support so the hackers are able to STAY on the app for a LONG time and keep hacking accounts.

Your Business is your CASTLE – why are we giving Facebook and Instagram the KEYS to it when they are NOT protecting us?

See, they MAKE you think that you NEED them, when YOU DON’T. Yes, you may get “clients” from them, but no matter HOW strong your passwords are, 2 factor is, hackers find a way AROUND THEM! Are you really willing to RISK Losing it all for a “few clients” when you can use OTHER platforms that care about your small business AND have CUSTOMER service support when you need it?

Please Share this post and spread the word. Let’s PROTECT our neighbors…. not allow Facebook and Instagram to take away folks livelihoods because all they truly care about are corporations, celebrities, and athletes using their platforms.

You are fooling yourself if you think that they care about the “little people” who make up their platforms.

I am hoping to get my IG account back this week. BUT I will NEVER be using Facebook and Instagram for BUSINESS again. I have already deleted business pages and my shop on IG.

There are SO MANY platforms that you can use that are BETTER, SAFER and WORK.

Here are my links:

TIKTOK

PINTEREST

NEXTDOOR

YOUTUBE

Oh and Apple, the fact that someone stole the information for my APPLE ID and used it to hack into my phone and then IG…. means Apple is not as safe as you think either.
ADVICE: Change passwords, emails, and stay on top of things. Don’t fall into a false sense of security with devices and platforms.

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Break… Break.. down

For my first installment of “Playing With The Boys” Football podcast, blog and book, I am breaking down the QBs from last season. If you want to watch the Reels I posted here are the 2 links for Zach Wilson and Daniel Jones.

The First Podcast edition will be April 27th, the day before the draft. Subscribe Here.

Now the break down of Zach Wilson and Daniel Jones. Here are a few observations to note: 1) Daniel Jones’ OC is better at showcasing his strengths than Zach’s OC and 2) Zach needs to work on the slant and short passes more while Jones needs to work on ball security ( it’s the complete opposite for each QB)

Observations On Zach Wilson:

Everyone was saying that he had a tendency to hold the ball too long before throwing.

His ball placement at the short, intermediate and deep levels was all over the place. In other words, many of the passes he threw were too high, too low or not easily catchable.

My observations were that the OC was not showcasing his strengths and also creating schemes that could work (as highlighted in the film)

Zach Wilson also did not have great pass protection on many occasions therefore could not have executed plays and therefore held on the ball trying to execute something when in fact he could have thrown more slants, more quick passes and had a few QB power/naked/ sweep and in/out instead of a lot of rollout throwbacks.

His ceiling is high and he has a great chance at jumping up as a premier QB in 2022 as long as everything falls into place.

Observations for Daniel Jones:

Daniel Jones can throw receivers open, can push the ball downfield, throws a good deep ball and has more mobility than many realize. He did pretty damn well with no real offensive line, no consistent receivers and he did go down in his total of fumbles from 18 to 11. He also stands his ground in the pocket and beats the blitz with the slant route/post skinny. He needs pass protection and add an elite WR / TE- Give him a full year with Barkley who is more than just a RB and the rookie WR Toney- he can make his mark as a good QB.

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Woman Gets Duped On A Dating App

Am I supposed to be shocked at this headline? It’s 2022 and women STILL haven’t learned how toxic, full of scams, and sexually-hungry dating apps are?

The story goes like this: A young woman thought she had met someone so incredibly special and talked online for many months and have fallen in love with him. So the next step is naturally to meet in person. She packed up her life and moved to Singapore to be with him and when she got there; she got the shock of her life: He was married! I though, am not shocked. This type of story happens A LOT!
Studies suggest that dating apps can make people feel more insecure about their appearance and bodies – and even become depressed. Studies have shown that the same areas of the brain that become activated when we experience physical pain are also activated when we experience rejection. Dating apps have turned dating into an “addictive game.” It’s now considered shopping for humans with the swipe of a thumb.

We bench (put a potential partner on hold in case we find someone better), breadcrumb (lead someone on), and ghost (use a fake profile to spy on their Instagram stories) which can seriously make someone want to vomit at the thought of dating. People have start realizing that dating apps are not for real connections, but for quickie ones. Dating apps are the drug that helps the boost the ego quickly and there we have created another narcissistic human thinking that as long as we get “high” on love we’re good.

Is it finally time to go back to finding love the old-fashioned way or can we still use technology as a way to build those connections we so badly want to build?

We’ve spent the best part of two years stuck behind screens which were steered by algorithms, so taking matters into our own hands feels exciting. That does not mean that we need to disembark technology all together. Social media is a great place to meet people of all backgrounds, yet is is still misused and most don’t understand how to use it in a positive way. When you have more conversation with the same person over and over again you start to build trust. Trust then build a relationship. You never know what you can learn about someone through conversation. I’m not saying that you should look at social media as a “dating pool” but in terms of finding people in which you have similar likes and views, it’s a great start if you still want to use technology to get to know people you otherwise probably wouldn’t meet in the real world. I still believe that meeting people and talking to people is the best way to know if that person is “the one” for you. The old saying is 100% true’ “Never judge a book by its cover.” And on social media and dating apps, you have to always remember, sometimes people cover up who they truly are, that’s why it’s best to get to know someone, meet them, talk with them; and let your gut intuition tell you if they are for real or not. You can’t tell that over text. You can’t tell that on a post or an app. At the end of the day, a relationship will not last if the couple doesn’t share a mutual bond on every level, including as individuals. Feeling your partner was committed to the relationship for the long haul and how appreciative you are of your mate were the largest predictors of relationship satisfaction.

And remember, it’s never a good idea to settle for someone who doesn’t provide the level of affection and passion that you want – no matter what that is. Relationships are not about playing games. They’re about mature and honest communication; don’t be afraid to have one.

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Is He or Isn’t He?

There are things that guys do on Instagram that show you up front that they are players and not legit meaning the guys you need to STAY AWAY from. ( Sadly, most of them NOT all of them are athletes, ya know, because they think they are superior to everyone else. )

  1. He won’t follow you on Instagram – This is a classic sign by the way. And the reason being is pretty much simply that he’s hiding a relationship, and wants women to think he is available when he is not. It’s classic because guys who are proud of the woman they have will show her off to their followers. Guys who want to let other guys know – she’s mine; she’s taken. If a guy doesn’t want you to be be his follower on IG, then he is simply hiding something he doesn’t want to see… and to top that off, ANYONE that still has a private account is surely hiding shit.
  2. He is a bikini account troll – He follows EVERY girl that his posing in her bikini, it doesn’t matter if she is a supermodel, an influencer, or the girl that leaves next door to him. He doesn’t want you to see that, hence why he hasn’t followed you nor wants you to follow you. By the way, most quarterbacks/athletes in the NFL do this and when they do it’s a sign that they are the most superficial guys on the planet. Any guy that ONLY focuses on a woman’s looks and that’s it, isn’t a guy you want to date let alone stand next too.
  3. Now, let’s change gears and let me tell guys how to understand if a woman is interested in you and also a word of wise to the ladies out here too! First, to the ladies: if you are interested in a guy it’s OKAY to pay attention to them, it’s OKAY to treat them like you feel a special connection to them because out brains are more psychologically primed to like people who like us. Don’t though only focus on him and him only. The reason being is that when you focus on more than one guy, the guy that is truly attracted to you, will lock you up and not want you to pay so much attention to other guys, Yes, jealously here is what makes guys realize that he wants you and therefore he will invite you to follow him on IG, he will post about you so every guy knows hands off, she’s mine. So guys, if a woman is paying attention to you it’s because she sees the best in you and wants you to connect with you. Again the brain does unconsciously attract others who share similar interests in. Instead of ignoring her and playing the stupid mind games, reciprocate back, have conversations, after all, conversation is the heart and soul of Instagram and social media in general. It’s okay to talk to folks who aren’t in your circle ( circles don’t have corners) – it also widens your horizons when it comes to learning and growing as a person. You never know what you can learn about someone when you take the time to have a conversation with them.
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So, Are you feeling Lucky today?

I’m the type of gal who LOVES shopping at Target. Yes, folks, I am addicted to shopping at Target. (Seriously, what gal isn’t though?) But I had no freaking idea that Target was now selling vibrators made from Trojan called “the Bullet.”

So, first you can get a sweatshirt with the words “Lucky” which you will see right as you walk in to the store. Then if you go down the “family planning/women’s isle” you can find one of these charming devices to really get “lucky,” but in a completely different way. Now, if you read my book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid 2nd ed,” you know that I am open to talking about sex and sex topics, so if you’re thinking that I am going “prude” while writing this, think again.
Back in the day these type of self pleasuring toys were only sold in stores like, Romantic Depot, not casual stores like Target where young kids can see it. Seriously, it is not for kids to see, I don’t care how into sex you are, and yes I know that kids in elementary school know about sex, I ain’t stupid, but still… this type of thing should be out of their view.
I remember learning about the “birds and the bees” when I was in 6th grade. The boys went into one classroom and the girls went into another. Then of course the boys had a field day with it at lunch, on the playground, and every day after that. It was kind of amusing thinking about it now. But in today’s world, 2022, kids are learning the wrong things about sex and from social media no less. Music, movies and TV still are ways where they can see it, but in today’s world, sex is spoken about, shown not as a whisper, but right out there online.

Yes, remember sex sells. But are we as a society, too open about sex?

It’s toxic to tell young kids casual sex is something to aspire to. Think about the responsibilities that come with having sex. First of course, protection. Which today though is not focused on at all since we live is dating app hell and no where do you see folks preaching about safe sex anymore. Sex isn’t something to just jump
into, even though we probably all are guilty of having a fling, its something you need to make sure doesn’t define your relationship. As we see as of late, that guys, and mostly athletes like to jump from woman to woman because according to them, “they have needs.” I will say that fairy-tales and romance movies have ruined a woman’s reality on what true love really is and how to achieve it while porn has ruined a man’s perception on what sex is and isn’t.

People always ask me for advice of just about everything and sex is one of the topics they ask. (No, I’m not a professional but I do play one on TV.) My sassy response to talking about sex and men is usually, I’m not against half naked men. At least not as often as I’d like to be. But seriously, I give it to you straight.

Every 39 minutes a porn video is being created in the US. 89% of porn is created in the US and 35% of all Internet downloads are porn related. Remember, When the VCR made it possible for everyone to watch porn in the privacy of their own home, the industry exploded. Now with the Internet, (Only Fans and even social media) it is out of control!
Not only is porn one of the top selling industries, but also adult toy and sex accessories are a growing second. Which takes me back to talk about about this vibrator I found in Target the other day. First off, it’s remote control. How lazy does one need to be using this thing? They include the batteries for you ( How nice of them!) There are 4 speeds: low, medium, high and ultra. Seriously, if you can’t orgasm to medium or high, then you may want to see someone about that. Trojan markets this as “Perfect for partner play, be in control or let your partner play with you for double the fun!” No offense Trojan, but if a woman had a man to “play with” she is NOT going to need a vibrator – unless her partner sucks in bed.

No guy, I don’t care who he is, deep down does not want a girl that has been with every guy in town. You want to be the girl everyone WANTS, not the girl that everyone HAD. Sex may be easier to get, but love is harder to find. Everyone deserves someone in their life that can leave them breathless just by walking into the room. When you find someone who can open your soul to happiness and show you new ways of love, sex will not just be a motion, but it will be the emotion you will truly desire.

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Part 2: Strong Woman, Weak Man

As I left off in the last post, do these guys realize the power of having a strong woman or are they seriously intimidated by one?

Many strong women are confident and exude a masculine energy. It seeps out of a strong woman. She can be spotted in a crowd and recognized as being strong. Usually, strong women are on top of their game and have their affairs precisely in order. They run a tight, efficient ship. Strong women do not tolerate attempts to silence their energy or quiet their spirit. Once a strong woman has a firm hold of the wheel of her own ship, it is very difficult to just hand the wheel to another party. There is a tremendous amount of pressure to step up and lead in the same strength and manner of success as a strong woman. Not all are up to the task. When a man meets a strong independent woman who is smart, can handle herself, makes good money, and can make herself happy, then a man will feel that he’s not needed in the relationship and can’t fulfill his desire to be her hero. But what a man refuses to understand that a woman may not “need” a man but she surely “wants” a man – and that is the simply wanted a man to love and be loved by.

Some men feel incompetent near some women. On the other hand, while men would find the Alpha female attractive, he would really open up to a woman who is not scared of exposing her vulnerable side. He would find the contrast quite interesting. Similarly, women feel safer around men who are not shy of their emotional needs since this trait shows honesty. The truth though that is interesting, is that men, or better yet boys, don’t want to be a strong woman because she won’t put up with his bullshit. He wants a woman who will “allow him” to get away with all his toxic behavior.

I realize that I made deeper friendships only when I opened up and put my honest self out there on the table. That’s when I stopped generalizing people and started viewing them as unique individuals – one of whom was myself. I find vulnerability quite attractive among men especially NFL athletes, and found admiration for both my strength and independence as well as my vulnerability.

If you’re open to a lifelong relationship with an independent, strong woman, we make passionate, fascinating, and confounding partners that keep things fun.

But, we’re not for the weak of heart.

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Standards vs Fantasy

When it comes to dating and relationships, why are women ruled by standards while the men are ruled by fantasy?

When ever you are online whether it be, a dating app or social media, all that you see are women with memes, quotes, or posts that claim that they are looking for a specific type of guy that is loyal, caring, compassionate, and so forth. While on the other side of the coin, you see men gawking over how “hot” a woman is or how “hot” a woman needs to be. She needs a big tits, a booty like J-Lo, and curves like the Next Top Model.
Why are women accused of having high standards when it seems as if the men out there have superficial standards?

Writing about relationships for over 15 years I have literally seen it all. Well, that was until Instagram was born. And you now can see that guys, particularly NFL athletes, do not know the difference between a private relationship where people know you are together, they just don’t know your business. Instead it’s the secret relationship, where they never talk about who they are with, letting other girls/women think they have a chance with them, hoping the next “hottie” slides into their DM’s. Regular guys that want to follow suit, yes, model this behavior, have entered the conversation. This behavior is “celebrated” by other guys as I noted in my podcast last week, makes me lose faith that there are guys and NFL athletes for that matter, that really, truly, understand what love is and wants something rare with one woman. Are there guys out there, NFL athletes that want to build something together with that one woman who wants to see them be successful, do they want a woman who will stand by her man especially when the world is against him?

There is a saying, “Behind every successful man, there is a strong woman that helped him get there.”

For a woman to help her man be successful and stay successful, she must have the same winning temperament and at the same time have the love and respect for her man enough to let him shine in public. Such a great woman shares the same vision about the future as her man. Both speaks the same language of leadership, value, and mission. There is an unbreakable bond between a successful man and his woman. No one can come between them. A woman can be behind a man’s success, have impact on him: motivate him, support him, sacrifice for him so he can shine, but is this idea an old concept, like chivalry dying?

Do men in general, not just NFL athletes, only want the arm candy and to sleep with as many girls as humanly possible? Or do these guys realize the power of having a strong woman or are they seriously intimidated by one?

(part 2….. )

Here is the podcast: CLICK LINK

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Playing With The Boys

As a girl who loves football, I hear guys say it all the time:

“I have no idea what I’m talking about”
“Football is for the boys”
“Girls have no idea about what it takes to be a quarterback or play period”
“You’re just a fan girl…”

With that said here’s what I know:

There isn’t a position that comes with more pressure, demand or expectations than the guy playing under center each week.

Accuracy, anticipation, footwork, pocket presence, athleticism, decision making, mental toughness are seven traits that are must-haves; which makes a quarterback very intriguing to watch.

There’s offense plays I like, and there’s offense plays I don’t.

We’ll start to unwrap it in the Spring of 2022 with a podcast, book and a blog.

Here’s the podcast to listen to what is coming —> CLICK

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Don’t F*ck It Up!

If you are an avid football fan like myself, you loved watching the games this weekend. There was competition, drama, and your blood pressure probably was raised to the point where you literally screamed at the TV set. All that aside, it’s interesting to see how the girlfriends/wives of these football players react on social media, if they do at all.
It’s also interesting to note that NFL players and social sometimes don’t mix – and the excuses as to why they keep who they are with “private” is a catch 22.
For those players who are married, it’s obvious they don’t like it when fans go after their wives on Twitter or Instagram, and any fan that does that is a dickhead. But what got me thinking this weekend in terms of this, is when their guy (boyfriend or wife) is struggling on the field, seeing her stick up for him on social media proves 2 things 1) her loyalty to the man she is dating/married too, and 2) her love for him goes beyond the football field.

Think about it, Patrick Mahomes fiancee, gets criticized left and right for the way she defends her man and for what she posts. Does that stop her? Hell no! (And it never should stop her! She’s awesome!) You have Matthew Stafford’s wife Kelly, always supporting her husband, on social media, then there is other girlfriends/wives that do the same.
Joey Burrow’s girlfriend is somewhat supportive on Instagram but not as supportive as I thought she would be. I mean, some girls take it to the extreme like Christian McCaffrey’s girlfriend does posting stupid selfies of herself for attention as does Dak Prescott’s girlfriend. Seriously, you have to wonder if that is the ONLY reason they are dating these guys? For the attention.

This makes me think of guys who are dating someone but have yet to post anything on social media. As I have said in the past, a player that is dating someone should not be using the excuse, “My private life is private” or, ” I keep close to my circle only” as an excuse why they don’t post about their girlfriends. IF an NFL player is not posting about his girlfriend or wife and only hiding you in their stories, that only means that he is trying to make it look as if he is single so they hoes can slide into his DMs.

REAL relationships aren’t a secret. And your partner should be PROUD that they are with you! That goes for HER as well- especially when he is struggling on the field and the fan base is attacking him left and right. Keeping hush-hush on social media and worse, having a private IG account only makes me question the relationship. I mean, if I were dating an NFL player and my guy was struggling, or the fan base was attacking him on social media, you bet your ass I would defend him and his ability and talent he has to be an NFL player. I would be so proud of him no matter what! If I was dating an athlete, I want to be his second priority. I want his first priority to be him, his ambitions, his life and his future, because seeing him happy makes me happy. Seeing him succeed pushes me to succeed. Finding happiness and security alone, are crucial to finding it together. There’s a difference between being secretive and keeping your dirty laundry off social media.

Then there are girls who post things to Tiktok, like, ” An NBA player slid into my DMS and now I am sitting courtside… ” Girls always bragging about being the main chick. Try being the only chick. Stop letting guys (players) use you and disrespect you. The funny thing with this post was all the comments telling her she ain’t the only one. Girls allow this to happen, time and time again. Girls wanting to a be side chick, like an appetizer, Instead of respecting themselves as the main course.

They sliding in but only those who play for keeps get me. I ain’t no man’s side course. I am THE chick. Maybe that’s because I am older so I am wiser than these girls in their 20s who act foolish. And A LOT of athletes especially those who are young don’t understand that having many women isn’t a flex, but having that 1 woman no one can touch is. But many boys don’t understand the difference between quality and quantity.

So, there are a few NFL players who anonymously answered my questions about dating and women. Here are a few of those answers. The rest will be part of my exclusive podcast “Relationship Impossible” part 2 – coming in February.

Player 1: If you take pride in your clothes and your looks you are going to take care of me. Just my thoughts.

Player 2: I am sick of gold diggers, I have a Victorian style house and several sports cars, but I attract women for some reason who only lavish in that lifestyle. I am not looking to spend all my money on bottles of champagne and the new products that hit the market.

Player3: Look around the league, many players get caught up in drama and it eventually leads to an arrest, or problem. I just want a normal relationship where we value one another. (Note, This is the SAME guy that then says he wants to date a girl because she’s “hot” or “more famous” than he is. If you want a “normal” relationship, how about you guys get off the dating apps and just date a normal girl? – Ya know, those girls who work hard, play hard, and are loyal as fuck?)

In closing let me mention the players that scrub clean their IG’s – Every time they have a new team, or drop a new stupid song, or are trying to “rebrand” themselves- my question is, why? Scrubing clean your IG isn’t going to scrub away the fact that you played for a different team, that your fashion was questionable, that you look like you only care about materialistic things, etc. Scrubbing it clean makes you look insecure and ashamed of your past. What about the players that scrub clean an ex? This here, is different. TO be able to fully move on from an ex you need to mentally, physically, emotionally move on from someone. Getting rid of posts of you together, is allowing all the negative out and letting you manifest the positive into your life. But oh, don’t be stupid and follow your ex on Instagram though… if you really want to move on, move on completely. They don’t need to see your IG stories, and you don’t need to see theirs either.

Relationships are hard. Stop making them harder.

Relationship Impossible is available here – CLICK to purchase

and while you read it, you can sip my coffee – CLICK to purchase ( right as I type this the website is having difficulty, but you can follow me on Instagram!)

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Tuesday Tips and Ramblings

Today is the 18th day of the 2022 and I have already gone through a big transformation and tackled countless challenges. If this how the year is going to be, watch out world!

Resistance to change is a fact of life. If you want change to take hold, you must have good boundaries to contain the forces that are working against the effort. At the same time, getting absolutely everyone on board may take forever, and making everyone happy with your decision is highly unlikely anyhow. Always do what’s BEST for you -not what’s best for everyone else. You either will have supporters or those that want to bow out. Those who bow out were never your people anyhow.

I have started the painful process of changing my business and my brand. Yes, it’s painful because you have to go through the process of seeing clients not wanting to be on board with you and you realize that some of them were just using you to their advantage. I also have been told that I “do too many things.”

It’s those people who are closed-minded and blind to innovation. Once things start going well, most folks get comfortable and never look for ways to grow and improve. In business, you need to keep moving to avoid becoming stagnant; innovation is imperative to make your business a success story. It is also important to have resilience, not only to face the challenges ahead, but also be patient when it comes to the overall results that you expect. The saying is true, “Roman was not built in a day.”

My social media company is changing gears. I only want to be seen as a content creator. Not the girl who “posts things” but a girl that creates knock your socks off content and teaches businesses HOW to use social media platforms. First thing I have to do is change the mindset. The next thing is change HOW I can gain clients and show them that I am the solution to their social media chaos. It’s in the change that I can develop a strategy that works for me and also my clients.

The next thing is that I am focusing more on doing podcasts and live shows.
I enjoy it and I have been told by so many people that they not only enjoy my shows, but that I am natural at it. I have been given a gift and a talent and why not take that and make it a major part of my company?

Next, my passion for coffee is what made me in turn add it to my company as a new business. Coffee is my hustle juice – and it is also what keeps so many folks moving. I want to be known for gourmet coffee that you can make at home or in the office. I would love restaurants to also buy it for their customers, but my mail focus is showing everyone that my coffee tastes better than any coffee shop’s.

My website is updated weekly. Here is the link: LINK

Lastly, I have a football project I am working on ( I will release what it is on 2-2-22) and I working on once again, taking my knowledge and love for competition cheer to a completely new level in 2022. (More on that later)

Friends will ask for discount prices. Real friends will pay full price to support your time and work.

Also, to those who look for clients remember this: your best clients and customers will always care more about transformation than price. Appeal to the VALUE hunters not the BARGAIN hunters.