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Recently, someone asked me, ” What is the bare minimum in a relationship?”
That question is loaded one simply because most people don’t quite understand that your standards need to be higher than the bare minimum, which you should be getting anyway. They put in minimum investment in the relationship, while expecting you to do everything for them. They are only looking to use your good intentions to get the maximum benefits out of you. Bare minimum-ing someone means exactly what it says: you’re only giving them the bare minimum of yourself. The bare minimum of your time, effort, attention, commitment, and emotions. My advice to everyone is to never settle your standards and stoop low for someone ONLY giving you the bare minimum. Here are some examples of someone only doing the bare minimum:
1) A person who respects your boundaries 2) A person who doesn’t demand to know all your passwords or snoop through your phone 3)Someone who likes cuddling or talking when you’re together than scrolling through their phone 4) Someone who gives compliments without being asked 5) A person who remembers your birthday or at least keeps it listed where they can be reminded 6) A person who always finds time to be with you 7)A person who says sorry when they are wrong 8)Giving compliments is not doing a lot. But Giving One Without being told to do that is what they should be doing.
Those are prime examples of the bare minimum that everyone in a relationship should be doing. But IF they also if They Only make an effort to keep you around, and your relationship never grows, that is also a cause for alarm. Why? Because they are only doing the bare minimum and it’s mostly like They act like a roommate with whom you have sex with. They don’t make any effort for romance or adventure at all.
People tend to think that expectations are standards and those two things are totally different. For example, I expect to be treated with respect is not a standard but an expectation. I expect him to be loyal, caring, compassionate, loving, honest, etc. again, Those are not standards. Expectations are the ideas we have about how we want certain situations to turn out or some people to be. Standards, however, are a level of quality that we set for ourselves that serve as a basis for good judgment.
I never tell guys what exactly i am looking for because if I tend to tell them what my standards are, then they tend to do them with no intention of staying with me and only finding a loophole to use me in some way. This way they have to put in the work for the entire relationship not knowing what exactly my standards are until we take the relationship to the next level. if we break up then that means they didn’t live up to my standards, seriously.
i know what i bring to the table and what I bring is rare. i am ultra supportive. i am ultra kind, caring and compassionate. i am smart, sexy, passionate, adventurous, creative, and a go-getter. i don’t have time for guys who don’t see that in me and who don’t want me to be an even better version of who I am. I also want to make a guy want to be a better version of himself. I want a guy who is going to want build something together as a team, not someone who is just out for the ride. So, do you think you have what it takes?
This here and the pinstriped suit that Jacob wore last game have been his 2 best! Here he looks incredibly dapper, chic, and a little rough-edged. The Scruff on his face, the open long jacket… his tie all bring together his look. Mama Mia!
Bread loves his pinstriped suit as well, and has that pizzazz that only he can have when wearing it. The best thing is that he has the jacket buttoned which show you his broad-shouldered silhouette.
Julien has incredible style! Here he has a great color combo – but what does it for me is the tie with the belt and NO jacket. The last picture of him shows that he can be laidback but aslso edgy in his attire.
Braden Schneider knows how to make a suit look good on him. It’s a checkered suit, which most guys can’t pull off, but the tie and open jacket make it look amazing on him.
Guys on this team have the knack of picking out greats that pull the entire look together. ( Igor, Kakko and Kravy)
Foxy is sleek and sophisticated as you would predict- no tie and he is wearing a T-shirt under his button down shirt- that adds mystery. He also has that scruff on his face which adds the rough-edge to him. He looks like he can be on the cover of GQ.
Vinny T- has a unique style all of his own- wearing checkered suits, interesting ties, but in this video he shows you how he can putt it off without the tie, which is VERY impressive.
Then of course Ryan Lindgren. He projects himself as someone who is successful and reliable. The best thing about his blue suit is that, there are different ways to dress it up and look freaking incredible each time. In this video, notice how he takes a plain man’s dress shirt ( not a button down shirt) and unbuttons the top 2 buttons on it, keeps the jacket open with NO tie. This makes him irresistible.
2 days left shopping and I can bet your bottoms that the mall is filled with men trying to figure out what to get their wives, girlfriends, or partners. Besides, Valentine’s Day, the other holiday that guys buy lingerie is Christmas. Now, why a guy wants to spend so much money on stuff that their girl is only going to wear 5 minutes before it’s ripped off, is still a mystery to me. Plus, most of the time they don’t buy lingerie that fits her personality or that she would actually wear, but what they want to see her in.
If you do intend to buy your woman lingerie here are 2 hacks that you can thank me for later.
1) If still intend to go to Victoria’s Secret the best thing to do is see if your girl still has coupons lying around for free panty with purchase and without purchase. If not, then before you make your trip to the store make sure you see what type of panties she wears and what size she is- buy the style SHE wears. 1a) If she is into yoga, Pilates, and fitness, then buy her a sexy and useful sports bra- to top it off that MATCH a pair of panties. Think about how thoughtful she will think you are being. 2) IF you want to really impress her, go to Macy’s. There they have a section called Backstage. They sell panties of name brands for HALF off the price. Buy a 3 piece set, 5 piece set for under $25. Lacy, sexy, useful and not much money went into buying it. Then go to CVS or Target and get empty boxes. Take them and places them 1 on top of another int he box. BOOM! She will be impressed and you will get sexy panties PLUS she can wear them whenever.
Now don’t forget to throw away the hanger the panties come on… you don’t want her to see it. Above are the Steve Madden Panties I bought myself for $14.99 compared to the $60 they cost. Then at VS I got a free panty to match a sports bra that really looks chic and comfy.
It’s all about showing her that you are thoughtful – remember it’s a gift for HER.
Any questions? Need shopping advice? Hit me up! DMs are open
First thing is first, lets finish the fashion segment from the podcast on the best dressed NY Ranger from 2016 team and basically the guy who every player that wears the jersey competes with: Henrik Lundquist:
No matter what Henrik wears he looks DAMN FINE! And he NEVER wears the same suit twice… or at least he waits a while before he wears it! Look at him in jeans! Trendy, Chic and Comfortable! He is AMAZING!
IN the podcast I rate Ryan Lindren’s Facial Hair since it is ALWAYS a topic of conversion:
Now let me state that I am NOT a girl who likes a guy with facial EXCEPT for Ryan Lindgren. How he pulled that magic, I have NO clue!
FAVORITE Look – Just a little rough on the face… looks DAMN hot!
Has a little facial on him… not over the top… but here he looks MIGHTY fine!
This was the mustache that everyone was in love with. I probably have a better picture but I love the shirt he’s wear in this picture, so there’s that too! This was pretty DAMN AWESOME!
This was my least favorite but DAMN… He was one hell of a SEXY beast. He pulled this off tremendously! Not too many athletes or men can do that!
DATING segment
The best advice I could ever give about dating someone is what I am about to say. Like I have said in the past, I stay out of telling people if they should or shouldn’t date someone because I don’t live with that decision but THEY do. So here it is:
If you ask a friend if you should date someone you obviously have feelings for that person & are trying to come up an excuse not to ask him/her because that feeling scares you and guys don’t like feeling that way. They want to feel in control and they don’t like feeling as if they are being vulnerable. Especially since we “groom” men not to show emotion and how “tough” they need to be all the time. But this is the wrong way to think! We need to teach boys that it is OK to feel something. It’s OK to show emotions. Actually, as much as I say I want a tough dude and a guy who has warrior mentality, I also want a guy who shows me his vulnerability from time to time. Hey, I show mine.
Moral of the story: always go with your heart it’s trying to lead you to happiness- ignore your head it leads to pain later on in life since it plays tricks on you. Your heart will always tell you which way to go- listen to it.
I started writing about dating back in 2008, back when online dating started. I said back then that it was a crazy idea that was going to get folks into trouble, and in 2022, I am still correct. Dating via looking at a dating app is such a superficial and careless way to date. Period. You are trusting some dude on the other end of the app with your heart, your body, your emotions, and your wallet. When more than half the time that dude is either a two timer, rapist, ex-criminal, scam artist, sex offender, or just a plain douche bag looking to hook up. Dating shouldn’t be casual, either. I never quite understood how someone could just “casually” date someone while doing all the things that a couple does while dating. If you don’t have the time to devote to building something meaningful, then there is no point to dating. Period. Dating is more than just having fun in the sheets too. I mean, yes, sex is part of dating as it should be, but if you develop feelings for the other person and they don’t feel the same, you can end up getting hurt. Not to mention that you just wasted precious time with someone who didn’t care about having a relationship with you, they just wanted to have sex with you as in “Friends with benefits” and “casually” hang out with you when they have “time.”
Recently on Twitter some dude reached out to me via DM since he listens to my podcast all the time, and asked me, “What is it really like to date you?” That question is not an easy question to answer, seriously. Sure, I am fun, adventurous, spontaneous, have high energy, and am seriously easy going until you cross me, but how do you really answer that question? So in my sassy and sarcastic way, I answered it this way:
The pros and cons of dating me are ironically my mouth.
There I said it. #sarcasm but really the truth.
I’m not going to be known as a woman who was afraid to open her mouth and speak up against hate, and I know what I bring to the table and I am proud of being that rare breed in today’s society where you need to be a woman who is “submissive and flaky” to get a guy. At the same time, when I mention this, guys automatically think “slutty” and like I have said before, the fact that guys want girls to act this way and girls think they need to act slutty to get noticed by that athlete or by that guy they have their eyes on, is just completely trash. You can be sassy, sweet, seductive and sensual while at the same time being classy. That is the woman a real man will want anyway. Boys wants slutty. I don’t want a boy, I want a man. Period. You want to be treated like the classy bitch you are- not a doormat.
As I talk about trash, I also think about all the porn I have seen on Twitter in the last few months and I have to say it is the most distasteful thing to ever post on a social media site. Porn is a billion dollar industry and still is, but to post that on a social media site where kids are, and where folks go to have a conversation is so uncalled for. Now I am certainly no prude, as I talk about sex and if you read my best seller, “Hello Love Where’s Cupid 2nd Ed” I told readers of the most interesting positions to try. Yes, Back in the day as a full time blogger, I wrote for many online sites that talked about sex and people would message me and ask me for new things to try in the bedroom. I wrote for a site like Cosmo, called Rant Dating, for those who are interested to know. It doesn’t exist anymore but it was fun to work on, especially when I interviewed a condom company and did an “influencer” post for them before we even knew what a social media influencer was!
Also I have mentioned of course how the TV show, “Sex and the City” changed how women viewed sex, as it has always been a touchy subject when it came to the topic. But there are places to put it and places not to. And if that’s what you’re into, great. I have no problem with it. The problem I have is the fact that people are dumb enough to not only post it on Twitter, but then retweet it. Here is the social media tip that some need: When you Retweet something EVERY ONE of YOUR FOLLOWERS get to see that on their feed. This is NOT what your followers want to see. Now, if you want to create a DM group conversation on the porn you love to watch, go for it.
This particular blog post is broken down in 3 segments – the Podcast with Link, The Fashion segment and the dating segment. A little something for everyone!
Also, we continue the countdown from the NY Rangers 2016 team of the TOP dressers! We’re up to Number 2: That is no one other than Mats Zuccarello Here are the photos:
Look at how chic, dapper and playful . Look at how he can make a suit look REALLY good without a tie! He wears the vest over the shirt and that brings it all together.
Here he is classy and organized.
I ALWAYS talk about how the TIE brings the ENTIRE suit together. Not to mention his shoes. Accessories are so important, even for men.
Even with casual clothing he brings the swagger A simple T-shirt and jogger pants look chic and polished.
DATING SEGMENT
There’s a lot to be said about a girl who isn’t afraid to go after what she wants. Sometimes that in itself rubs people the wrong way, especially when you are extremely secure within yourself. I posted this quote on Twitter the other day, and it’s so true. “Lowkey, to date me you gotta be mentally strong because I’ll push all your buttons. Even ones you didn’t even know you had.”
We have discussed in the past about how guys are simply afraid of dating an independent woman and I have mentioned that for athletes, an independent woman is the best match for them simply because they need to focus on their careers and it is extremely demanding!
Here’s reasons to date an independent woman ( like me)
First thing is to understand that her actions are deliberate and there’s a reason behind them. The secondly thing you need to know is that an independent woman isn’t afraid to speak her mind! She is also going to be very loyal and very supportive. Being that I am a former cheerleader and have been coaching cheerleading for years, this statement is truth. I will always want my man to be successful at whatever he does and I will push him as best as I can to go after his dreams. Dating an independent woman doesn’t mean that she won’t be dependent on her partner- no, we depend on our partners to provide love, attention, affection and also support us as we chase our dreams, we just aren’t clingy. I don’t look to a relationship for validation at all. I look to a relationship as a team. To some this may be surprising, even though we enjoy challenges and competition, we’re usually uninterested in playing games or chasing a crush. If we flirt we you, that means we want you. If you take too long to reciprocate, we move on to someone who will. That may seem, “mean,” but we shouldn’t have to wait forever for you to make that move to make us official.
I have asked guys out in the past, or at least hinted that I wanted to go out with someone. Then of course, still, some guys have to be the one to ask you out. Okay, I’ll bite, and I will sit back and watch you and wait for awhile, but if you wait way too long, even though I am extremely attracted to you and feel sexual tension, I will go and pay attention to someone else and move on from you, even if that kills me. Girls like me don’t come around often. Why should I have to sit around and wait around for you to finally decide that you want to go out with me?
I know what I bring to the table. I am a rare breed. (As are true independent women are!)
The best advice that I can give guys is this: If a girl wants to BUILD with you and is SUPPORTIVE while she’s building up her own dreams, don’t give her a chance to even look at another guy. If she ONLY wants to build with YOU… don’t be a jackass and let your ego or pride or anyone allow you to mess it up.
Also, I always laugh when I hear that other guys are whispering about me to the guy that I want. It’s like they are so incredibly jealous that they tell him not to take the chance of a lifetime with me since they can’t have me. Like, how much of an asshole of person do you have to be that you don’t want your teammate or friend to be happy? This is why I stay out of telling my friends who to ask out or date. I am not the one who lives with the decision- they are! And I don’t want to be the reason they missed out on a great experience going out with someone they want to because of how I feel.
And of course the jealous fuck girls will go out of their way to make themselves “known” in the process- ( If you listened to my podcast I talked about this!) This is why I only date guys with the warrior mentality. They too are a strong & independent people who aren’t intimidated by me. We actually can have a lot of fun together and like I said on the podcast, if you are into adventure, sarcasm, and want that personal cheerleader in every which way possible – you’d jump up on the chance of lifetime. Anybody could be good to you, you need a bad girl to blow your mind. Remember, Be savage, not average. Unless, you just want basic.
You can listen to this week’s #NYR podcast simply by clicking HERE
Michael Grabner is our # 3 of the best dressed for the team in 2016 ( Remember, I am not picking guys that are STILL on the team now) The first picture shows you how Michael Grabner was a classic dresser and he wanted to wear clothing that will never go out of style. The the second picture I would describe as The Rebel. ( See how he pushed the two together here : hockey and fashion!?
COMING up on the Fashion segment …. we will visit other teams and see how they compare against the NY Rangers. And maybe have a competition with it.
Here is the latest Fashion video I created: CLICK HERE
AND here’s the video I mentioned in the podcast- the appreciation video on Ryan Lindgren – CLICK
Here’s the Twitter Video for Ryan- he’s a Norris Trophy Nominee in my eyes – Lucky Star
I’ll make you double take soon as I walk away Call up your chiropractor just in case your neck break Ooh, tell me what you, what you, what you gon’ do, ooh ‘Cause I’m ’bout to make a scene, double up that sunscreen I’m ’bout to turn the heat up, gonna make your glasses steam Ooh, tell me what you, what you, what you gon’ do
Fashion Ave in NYC is all about chic, style and keeping on point.
One myth about Fashion is that you have to spend a fortune to look good. That is not the case.
Dressing men for example, here are some awesome looks that you get a bang for your buck without having to break the bank. These are from the store Express – most are under $500
There are many different styles one can have, but the best ones are when you dress according to personality and not just doing what’s trendy.
The key also is matching the tie to your suit, but you can also wear a dressy shirt without a tie, and open the top button or have a low crew neck dressy shirt and open suit jacket. ( Pictures below)
Now, some fashion trends like suits for women, I really don’t like. I think a woman can really use the suit jacket as part of her look, but matching the pants with it, looks tacky to me. ( See below)
Taking the suit jacket and then accessorizing it with a skirt, or a different color pair of pants is the best way to go. Plus for women, we usually use our shoes in the same fashion as a man uses his ties to match or make a statement.
I always believe that fashion should be something that shows off your personality. I created a fashion line of off the trend style. Yes, you can style up T-shirts and Sweatshirts to anchor your personality and that is what the weekends are also for. Why wear something that may look good but doesn’t make YOU feel good?Why wear something that may be trending, but isn’t comfortable to wear?
Clothing should be fun, flirty, sassy, but also comfy.
Stephanie 's Corner 