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What Adam Levine Did Is Not That Uncommon; Sadly

On Tuesday after Instagram model Sumner Stroh claimed she had a year-long affair with the singer and then the floodgates opened up. Model Alyson Rosef shared her alleged direct messages with Levine in a now deleted Tiktok where she told everything that he said: “I shouldn’t be talking to you you know,” . Alyson claimed she had many more messages, but didn’t want to show them as they are “not appropriate.” Another woman, Maryka, a comedian, posted DMs from Levine on her IG story. One where she says to Adam, “Dude, aren’t you married lol” and he replies with, “Yes but it’s a bit complicated,” adding, “I might get away.” The final woman to come forward was his ex-yoga instructor who claimed he sent her messages while in a relationship.

This type of behavior has every one scratching their heads, ( but me) because he is married to a freaking Victoria’s Secret Model… and blah blah… looks are everything for men! And of course as I write about NFL players that ONLY care about dating supermodels and VS models, bikini girls.

Shallow men get with beautiful women for one reason: to show them off.

Shallow men cheat on beautiful women why: because they are ego maniacs.

They have low self-worth and make up for it by showing off their human commodities. All the kindness, soul and talent in the world will easily be traded for the next perky butt.

A guy who shall remain nameless told me why he cheated on his now ex-wife, who happens to be a gorgeous actress, ” I grew emotionally disconnected. I happened to meet some women and became friends with some of them. A spark grew with a few of them and it sometimes led to sex. When you cheat on someone it is not because they are more attractive than your partner, it is because they are giving you something that you want. They do not have to be better, they just have to fill a void.”

However, when it comes to “looks” and “attractiveness,” the definitions are often confusing and vague, and can depend on the era, culture, and individual.

For many people, “looks” don’t necessarily refer to someone’s physical features. Many people find physical attributes like personal style, hygiene, or posture attractive, too.

It’s also important to note that sometimes attractiveness doesn’t have anything to do with your physical attributes. Attractiveness can include many things that go beyond the physical, such as:

  • having a sense of humor
  • having shared interests with your partner
  • being kind
  • having values and principals
  • making your partner feel safe and happy
  • being attractive to others

That’s all to say, looks aren’t the only thing that can attract you to someone.

On a societal level, our definition of beauty today is different than it was 500 years ago. Most notably, in the last decade, there’s been a social media-induced phenomenon in which new standards of beauty are evolving out of the digital space.

Instagram dysmorphia a perfect example of how virtual communication has given rise to different ideals of beauty that tend to affect the nature of dating.

This is a phenomenon in which people who use social apps develop body disorder. They want to look like their online selves, even though their images online don’t reflect their true appearance and have been modified using filters and visual effects.

Scientists believe that women’s evaluation of the physical attractiveness of a mate is influenced by indications of the potential mate’s genetic quality as well as the mate’s ability to protect and invest in her and her children.

Of course, these evolved preferences are complex and interact with other factors. Individual differences, culture, and environment also play a major role in shaping what you find attractive in a potential partner. it’s important not to generalize about someone’s attractiveness preferences based on their gender.

In a relationship, personal qualities like humility and kindness may become much more important in determining the success of the relationship over time.

While looks may get potential partners to turn heads, what really holds a relationship together has much more to do with how two people connect on a deeper level. 

Looks fade. Personality is forever. 

And speaking about Direct Messaging on social media, Absolutely NO ONE has the right to take a private conversation public UNLESS there is a serious situation at hand. Trying to embarrass someone else with the words they told you, just for 15 minutes of fame, is not right either. I never reveal WHO DMs me and WHAT they say unless there’s a case for it. ( Life or death, a court case, or defamation for starters.)

Private conversations should ALWAYS stay private.
But let this be a lesson to some guys out there that if you want to flirt with other girls WHILE married, you are asking for trouble. If you aren’t happy then get divorced. The ones this stuff hurts the most are the wives and kids left behind.

Two last thoughts:

  1. There is no such as a home wrecker; it’s a myth. If someone else was able to come in and destroy your relationship it’s because your partner opened the door and let them in.
  2. Men be like, “you can’t turn a hoe into a housewife” but a woman is supposed to make felons, liars, and cheaters into kings.

I rest my case.

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Zach Wilson’s Nightmare PR Scenario

When you are the young guy who plays Quarterback for a NY football team, you are in the limelight and therefore, treated differently, better almost. People pay attention to your every move. You get invited to watch hockey games, baseball games, etc. You basically get treated as a king. And when you are portrayed as the the young, clean-cut guy from Utah, and you now not only break that image, but you create an entire nightmare based on your off the field activities… your entire reputation is at risk.

Bring in the scene where Zach and his girlfriend Abbey broke up in January. They looked genuinely happy together so what gives? Then fast forward to February and March where Zach was seen working out and creating an entirely new body. As soon as Zach started to work out you knew he was the one who got dumped, but why? No one could figure out why a girl would dump a guy like Zach… until today.

Word got around Instagram on a post that Abbey later deleted but was screenshot by millions, that said they broke up because he cheated on her with his mom’s best friend.
Wait.. WHAT?

Yes, you read that correctly. Of course all the guys who thought , “Dude, this is awesome!” had memes and posts galore on how he is a “hero, or Legend” for fucking a mother … a “hot one” but what has come to light is this:

  1. When a woman cheats on her man she is given the scarlet letter and shun. But when a man is the one who cheats on his girlfriend with a “hot mom” he is shown the royal treatment.
  2. There is a family involved – Supposedly a little 3 year old kid not to mention a husband.
  3. His mom of course is going to defend her “little baby” as she likes to call him even at the age of 23, which seriously needs to stop, but that is a story for another day. She has gained MANY new followers on her Instagram account which looks PATHETIC.

    Now, here’s my view on his mom defending him as well as what this does for Zach Wilson going forward.

Homewreckers want to claim the victim status because they hate the idea that the only party who is innocent in the cheating, is the person they are vying against. It makes them look like the shitheads they are.
They create attitudes like, “It’s not the other man/woman’s fault, Blame it on your husband./wife they married you” to deflect the fact that they have become the deviant person that lacked enough scruples that they chose to go after a man/woman already involved in a relationship.
Yes, this woman is also at fault simply because SHE KNEW better!

No matter that what they do could affect the couple’s children and their well being. No matter that they could interfere with the other person’s financial well being. None of that matters to a selfish person choosing to deliberately make a play for a person in a relationship. Because in their odd world or rationale, humanity only involves humans THEY care about and THEM, not the people they want to purposely screw over. So humanity snarling at them doesn’t sit well.
But when they actually ruin the relationships, they no longer want that whore status. They want to suddenly be recognized as the man’s/woman’s “prize.” And after all, how can you be a prize when most people, including most family members only know you as the whore that broke up so and so’s relationship?
So they whine and cry like most narcissists do when they can’t get the respect the husband/wife had. Because again, they are cast in a second place status, behind him/her. Zach is the guy that will forever be the whore that broke up that marriage.

Homewrekcers play victim because they know that they ruined others’ lives and this is a way of their self-defense from any judgment or follow-up action from the society. They are aware of their “homewrecking” feats in their heads but they can’t show it to people. Society does not have value for “decorated homewreckers”. Any form of confession will bring them the social reputation of pests like lizards and cockroaches.
So they pretend to be victims and instead shift the blame on their real victims. But the good news is homewreckers are humans after all. They have to live with their guilt by themselves, possibly for their entire lives. They can run away from people but they can’t run away from themselves. They would sleep well first but eventually their own acts will start to pile up their sleepless nights, overthink about their own relationships and ultimately suffer with the reality of not being able to confess to friends or families and get the guilt out of their minds.
See, what Zach Wilson did is really not that uncommon, sadly. But to celebrate his “feat” on social media, makes all the fans and even some of his teammates look arrogant, ignorant, and immoral. Married folks are OFF LIMITS! Zach now has created this shit storm that he is going to have to LIVE with the entire football season. And it may even have an effect on how he plays this year. ( at least it will be brought up as a reason!)

His mom needs to stay out of the way… His son created the mess and needs to be the one to fix it. I give kudos to Abbey Gile for exposing Zach as the person he truly is… what happens from hear on out remains to be seen.

Oh, just a little general knowledge on cheating in relationships:

In general, men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey(GSS).

Men and women can cheat even if they love their partner. They may do so because their emotional needs aren’t being met, they have low self-esteem, or if there are serious problems within your relationship or in their life. It may be easier for them to cheat than talk about how they are feeling.

How does cheating affect a woman?

They affect the other partner both physically and mentally, making them experience; Anxiety and depression. Rage and post traumatic stress (PTSD) Increased distress, self-blame, and shame.

Cheating is wrong. If you are not happy in your marriage or relationship that is what divorce and breaking up is exactly for! When you cheat you hurt more than just your partner that is involved. You hurt your friends, family, and everyone surrounding the situation.

THINK before you CHEAT.

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52% Of Americans Already In Relationships Using Dating Apps While In Quarantine

Yes, you read that title correct.  And people wonder why having a meaningful relationship is so hard these days!  The pandemic has cut many couples off from one another as they are forced to follow the quarantine orders in their states. A new survey finds that singles are now turning to online dating to fill their needs, even if they already have a partner.

42 percent of both single and attached Americans had downloaded a dating app while in quarantine. The big difference however was that more people who already have a significant other are apparently taking their browsing even further.  The survey also found that a third of attached Americans said they’ve reached out to their ex while in isolation even though they already have a partner. While 37 percent of single Americans said they did the same thing.

6 out of 10 people say they are willing to lower their standards and talk to someone outside their “usual type” while in isolation. Two-thirds of people surveyed said  because of social distancing it was making them crave physical intimacy.  Researchers found that 41 percent of attached Americans say they’ve gone on a virtual date during the quarantine.  While Only 27 percent of single people had done the same.

Another interesting thing to note is that a lot of professional hockey players have been using social media a lot more and when interviewed they mention that they have a “girlfriend” when on their platforms such as Instagram, there are no “life signs” of this girlfriend that they speak of.  It also shows you that many folks are using social media such as Instagram and Twitter to “hook up” with others while in quarantine and try to hide their real lives by not posting certain people on their platforms.