Everyone needs their little tribe where people are allowed to be themselves, where people are allowed to have feelings, and where people are allowed to love and stand up for what they believe in. People today want to keep us in a box. And athletes today wear the rose colored glasses. It’s okay to feel important, but it’s not okay to feel that you are better than anyone else. No one is perfect, I’m not even perfect, far from it but what I do know is what empathy is.
And what I do is that sometimes you have to teach people in unconventional ways how to turn inward to feel empathy and love so that when they look outward they can see life in that perspective.
People spend way too much time being fake and embracing things that are not real while trying to break down anyone being authentic; including your “precious” athletes you root for. Everything to them is about being fake because that is what their branding is- if they didn’t get caught up in the fake world of materialistic wealth and being wrapped up in narcissism, I bet you that they too would be more compassionate without a camera crew, more loving and open, and more respectful.
With the holiday season here, that is my wish. For people to open their eyes to authenticity and for people to see that life is best lived being real, not fake like you see on social media. Hating on someone for realness, their opinions, or their unknown story doesn’t make you better than them, or a hero, it makes you weaker. Dimming someone else’s light doesn’t make yours shine brighter.
So, this holiday season; spread kindness, pay it forward, remembering that words have power but so do actions. Put the two together with good intentions and just imagine the world we can create.
I introduce the following video for you to 1) Get to know a little bit more of me 2) I have been asking Jacob Trouba, Vincent Trocheck and Ryan Lindgren to do a segment with me called Coffee With The Captain and Teammates… ( I want to add Lexi but he is still a RFA) So I created this video for them to get to know me and be more comfortable to get to know me….
BTW.. You can follow me on Twitter too! The link below is the video I posted there PLUS give me a follow!
Just be Just be and let go. Don’t try to force anything. Don’t hustle. Just be Just be in the moment. We never know how long we have , We never know where life is going to take us So, just be Be in the moment. Stop trying to control what’s going to happen and how it’s going to happen and just embrace the moment you’re in. Divine timing. Everything happens in divine timing.
If you follow this blog religiously ( and seriously, who doesn’t シ) You know that my company does a variety of things, mostly content creation and social media, but we also go back to the main start of my blog about 15 years ago, and talk about dating/relationships and I have written best selling books on the subject.
This year we started to wet our feet once again in the fashion world and also expanding our knowledge in the cheer industry as well as my creating different segments of my podcast.
We dipped our feet into some other areas too, that for the moment didn’t pan out, but that we may get back to at a later time as well.
I sat thinking the past 2 weeks, especially during my birthday week when I was taking some time off for myself and wanted to figure out what it is that I really want my brand to represent. You want to always innovate but you don’t want to do too many things that cause you to lose your identity.
So here’s what you can expect from me from here on out:
1) Fashion on Poshmark ( yes, including panties シ) LINK CLICK HERE
I will be doing more fashion stuff- even men’s fashion using this link. I will tie together my fashion videos with the site as well. And yes, sell some great fashion at reasonable prices including MY OWN DESIGNS!
2) Podcast
Of course my award winning podcast will keep going! I have changed it up significantly since I started back in 2017. But I will now add EXCLUSIVE CONTENT that you will have to pay for. The price will be $2.99 a month and I will have exclusive contests that I then will use Twitter to find the winner. I also will use the exclusive content as a way to continue conversations from the podcast itself, have guests, and maybe even thrown in a little more racy stuff… ★♫
Follow the podcast here —> CLICK Follow my twitter feed —> CLICK
3) Books
I have written some great books which I take so much pride in simply because writing a book is much more than “just writing” it. It’s the cover art, editing, getting an audience excited about it way before it’s published, etc. Yes, I have written 2 dating/relationship books which simply show you how I have grown in my opinions as well as give you updated information where dating apps are. BUT .. did you know that I have written some Young Adult novels as well?
“The Diary of A Drama Queen” is a book I am mostly proud of as it took me over 7 years to finish. And now I am back in wanting to provide some more great books that show my creativity so I am starting to write the sequel called, “Drama in the City” which I hope will be released next year. BUT I plan to share with you updates on the progress, how I write, how I go about creating the book, etc through my Youtube Channel ( besides posting some fun other content too!)
If you don’t know, I have been in the cheer industry for a long time! I started back in the day when I was 7, with dance, and then when I got older did cheerleading, fell in love with it, and haven’t looked back! So, not only do I choreograph cheer routines, and will be posting A LOT more of them and new cheers that teams can use, but I will be focusing on FITNESS. Cheerleaders need to be physically and mentally fit. So I will be introducing a fitness calendar, 4 monthly new workouts for a reasonable price that not just for cheerleaders but for ANYONE who wants to stay in shape or get in shape. I also will have free workouts too.
Now the above link will also host the following as well… ( I will tie both together as a place to be elite on the mat but also elite with social media.)
5) Content Creation/Courses/Templates
I will post some really awesome photos that you can buy directly from me at a reasonable price and use Anywhere you want too. I will have Templates that you can use as posts for your personal and professional needs and I will be offering 3 courses: a) LinkedIn b) Youtube and c) How to take better selfies and photos – all come with LIVE teaching as well not just recorded video, unless you need a recorded version!
So, stay tuned… A lot of exciting things are happening and I look forward to sharing them with y’all!
First and Foremost, the new podcast is up and it’s for your ears only.CLICK HERE to listen.
Sorry, folks, no video podcast this week, maybe next week…
Fashion Segment
Now, some words may be centered off… that is because it’s Youtube Shorts. But the point being is that Hockey Boys Got It Going On! #FashionAve though, belongs to the NY Rangers. But the best dressed athlete is a NHL player. IF you haven’t seen the last 4 videos …. Here they are! They also are on my twitter feed.
Dating Segment ( a quickie – pun intended)
You can tell a lot about an athlete and his character, what he values, etc by who he follows on IG. Guys who are superficial, narcissistic and materialistic will ALWAYS follow the girls on IF we are half naked in their profile pics AND they will NEVER post about the girl who they are with ONLY story her so others can slide into their DMS and they can slide into theirs. Also athletes who have private IG accounts I would be worried about- that shows 1) they hide shit 2) they can’t handle the social media trolls. Also if a girl goes out with you for coffee, pizza, shopping at Target, the girl is into you and only cares about spending time with you- she’s not into you for what you can give her- she’s into you for YOU! I talk more about this on the podcast – LINK On top of this post!
If you saw the racy video of the panties on Twitter…. I talk about it in the podcast. (give you guys a creative hint for Valentine’s Day!)
As always I have my fashion brand where you can purchase sweatshirts/T-shirts I created. CLICK This wonderful link to go to that site.
I believe women should always find the classiest way to empower their sexuality – The devilish girl coming out to play… so if you can’t handle it, then don’t click the link. PS: you’ll have to subscribe for the content but I give you a little tease if you will (The video from twitter is here but I put it on youtube for this blog) CLICK THIS
This here and the pinstriped suit that Jacob wore last game have been his 2 best! Here he looks incredibly dapper, chic, and a little rough-edged. The Scruff on his face, the open long jacket… his tie all bring together his look. Mama Mia!
Bread loves his pinstriped suit as well, and has that pizzazz that only he can have when wearing it. The best thing is that he has the jacket buttoned which show you his broad-shouldered silhouette.
Julien has incredible style! Here he has a great color combo – but what does it for me is the tie with the belt and NO jacket. The last picture of him shows that he can be laidback but aslso edgy in his attire.
Braden Schneider knows how to make a suit look good on him. It’s a checkered suit, which most guys can’t pull off, but the tie and open jacket make it look amazing on him.
Guys on this team have the knack of picking out greats that pull the entire look together. ( Igor, Kakko and Kravy)
Foxy is sleek and sophisticated as you would predict- no tie and he is wearing a T-shirt under his button down shirt- that adds mystery. He also has that scruff on his face which adds the rough-edge to him. He looks like he can be on the cover of GQ.
Vinny T- has a unique style all of his own- wearing checkered suits, interesting ties, but in this video he shows you how he can putt it off without the tie, which is VERY impressive.
Then of course Ryan Lindgren. He projects himself as someone who is successful and reliable. The best thing about his blue suit is that, there are different ways to dress it up and look freaking incredible each time. In this video, notice how he takes a plain man’s dress shirt ( not a button down shirt) and unbuttons the top 2 buttons on it, keeps the jacket open with NO tie. This makes him irresistible.
This particular blog post is broken down in 3 segments – the Podcast with Link, The Fashion segment and the dating segment. A little something for everyone!
Also, we continue the countdown from the NY Rangers 2016 team of the TOP dressers! We’re up to Number 2: That is no one other than Mats Zuccarello Here are the photos:
Look at how chic, dapper and playful . Look at how he can make a suit look REALLY good without a tie! He wears the vest over the shirt and that brings it all together.
Here he is classy and organized.
I ALWAYS talk about how the TIE brings the ENTIRE suit together. Not to mention his shoes. Accessories are so important, even for men.
Even with casual clothing he brings the swagger A simple T-shirt and jogger pants look chic and polished.
DATING SEGMENT
There’s a lot to be said about a girl who isn’t afraid to go after what she wants. Sometimes that in itself rubs people the wrong way, especially when you are extremely secure within yourself. I posted this quote on Twitter the other day, and it’s so true. “Lowkey, to date me you gotta be mentally strong because I’ll push all your buttons. Even ones you didn’t even know you had.”
We have discussed in the past about how guys are simply afraid of dating an independent woman and I have mentioned that for athletes, an independent woman is the best match for them simply because they need to focus on their careers and it is extremely demanding!
Here’s reasons to date an independent woman ( like me)
First thing is to understand that her actions are deliberate and there’s a reason behind them. The secondly thing you need to know is that an independent woman isn’t afraid to speak her mind! She is also going to be very loyal and very supportive. Being that I am a former cheerleader and have been coaching cheerleading for years, this statement is truth. I will always want my man to be successful at whatever he does and I will push him as best as I can to go after his dreams. Dating an independent woman doesn’t mean that she won’t be dependent on her partner- no, we depend on our partners to provide love, attention, affection and also support us as we chase our dreams, we just aren’t clingy. I don’t look to a relationship for validation at all. I look to a relationship as a team. To some this may be surprising, even though we enjoy challenges and competition, we’re usually uninterested in playing games or chasing a crush. If we flirt we you, that means we want you. If you take too long to reciprocate, we move on to someone who will. That may seem, “mean,” but we shouldn’t have to wait forever for you to make that move to make us official.
I have asked guys out in the past, or at least hinted that I wanted to go out with someone. Then of course, still, some guys have to be the one to ask you out. Okay, I’ll bite, and I will sit back and watch you and wait for awhile, but if you wait way too long, even though I am extremely attracted to you and feel sexual tension, I will go and pay attention to someone else and move on from you, even if that kills me. Girls like me don’t come around often. Why should I have to sit around and wait around for you to finally decide that you want to go out with me?
I know what I bring to the table. I am a rare breed. (As are true independent women are!)
The best advice that I can give guys is this: If a girl wants to BUILD with you and is SUPPORTIVE while she’s building up her own dreams, don’t give her a chance to even look at another guy. If she ONLY wants to build with YOU… don’t be a jackass and let your ego or pride or anyone allow you to mess it up.
Also, I always laugh when I hear that other guys are whispering about me to the guy that I want. It’s like they are so incredibly jealous that they tell him not to take the chance of a lifetime with me since they can’t have me. Like, how much of an asshole of person do you have to be that you don’t want your teammate or friend to be happy? This is why I stay out of telling my friends who to ask out or date. I am not the one who lives with the decision- they are! And I don’t want to be the reason they missed out on a great experience going out with someone they want to because of how I feel.
And of course the jealous fuck girls will go out of their way to make themselves “known” in the process- ( If you listened to my podcast I talked about this!) This is why I only date guys with the warrior mentality. They too are a strong & independent people who aren’t intimidated by me. We actually can have a lot of fun together and like I said on the podcast, if you are into adventure, sarcasm, and want that personal cheerleader in every which way possible – you’d jump up on the chance of lifetime. Anybody could be good to you, you need a bad girl to blow your mind. Remember, Be savage, not average. Unless, you just want basic.
You can listen to this week’s #NYR podcast simply by clicking HERE
Michael Grabner is our # 3 of the best dressed for the team in 2016 ( Remember, I am not picking guys that are STILL on the team now) The first picture shows you how Michael Grabner was a classic dresser and he wanted to wear clothing that will never go out of style. The the second picture I would describe as The Rebel. ( See how he pushed the two together here : hockey and fashion!?
COMING up on the Fashion segment …. we will visit other teams and see how they compare against the NY Rangers. And maybe have a competition with it.
Here is the latest Fashion video I created: CLICK HERE
AND here’s the video I mentioned in the podcast- the appreciation video on Ryan Lindgren – CLICK
Here’s the Twitter Video for Ryan- he’s a Norris Trophy Nominee in my eyes – Lucky Star
Stephanie 's Corner 