Remembering 9/11


I will always remember where I was on that day and how it impacted everyone’s lives. I remember working at a school that day and having a co-worker tell me her dad worked in the North Tower and in 50 years he NEVER missed a day of work until that day.

I remember having to comfort a parent who thought his wife was on 1 of those planes. Luckily she wasn’t.

I remember driving home that night and seeing State Troopers parked at every exit on the NY State Thruway

.I remember learning that my neighbor lost his dad that day trying to rescue others. He was a firefighter.

I remember hearing about friends who lost siblings in the buildings.

I also remember how this Country BANNED TOGETHER and NEVER let Politics stand between each other – how we were kind and caring of one another. We need to REMEMBER that because we as a Country have lost sight of what TRULY is important.

If you don’t want to do it for yourself and your neighbors do it for the 3,000 lives that were lost that day. Don’t let hate win but rather let love reign.



An Open Letter To Men Everywhere

Dear Guys,

When are some men going to learn how to treat women with consideration and respect? While some men know how to treat women kindly, the rest of the men just plainly don’t know how! See, here’s what some of you guys tend to forget: We all have been hurt in our past. Yet, getting back at the past while in the present is counterproductive and hurtful to others.


You can’t change the past. You can, however, learn to move past it. The girlfriend who dumped you, the ex-wife who made you bitter, and everyone else who did you wrong don’t matter anymore. The past actually shapes you into the man you are today. Remember, quit making excuses about your life. Nobody made you the way you are. You made that choice yourself. If you stay in the past, then you miss the good-hearted people in front of you, like the female friend you flirt with and are scared to date.

Some women are patient and will wait for you to be ready, while other women will just move on without you and leave you in the past.

Friendships with women are special, and very different from your friendships with the guys. If you want to keep their friendship and are the gentleman you say you are, then stop sending mixed signals. If you don’t want their attention, then don’t act like you do. And if you already showed your interest and then backed off with no explanation, you are then hurting someone who is very special.

Guys, why do some of you act like a person you’d never want near your sister? Stop the immature and hurtful behavior. Try honesty, respect and consideration, all ingredients for friendship. Besides, there is a thing called karma, and she never forgets an address. If you love her, then prove it. If you need her, then show her. If you never show her, then your words eventually mean nothing.

Think of it this way, would you want your daughters or sisters to be treated with such disrespect and dishonesty? Divorced men with daughters should remember that when you grow a friendship with a woman. Tell her that you are a family man. Don’t treat her like you are interested, only to spew the line months later, “I just don’t want to mislead you.” Karma will come back around when it’s your daughter’s turn to date. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.

Just know that the best way to handle any situation is to talk. Yeah, we know you guys hate that, but with communication comes understanding. Sometimes, all a woman wants is for you to fight for her. Make her believe that you may want this relationship more than she does. If you want your relationship to move forward, you have to let go of the past and learn to write your own future.


Women Everywhere

It’s Ironic When You Find Someone Who You Wanted On A Dating Site

So while doing my online dating research I came across a profile nearly made me throw up!

This guy that I was involved with, grew a friendship and wanted to move the relationship to the next level.  After that he told me, “We’ll talk,” and then that was pretty much the last I heard from him for six months until I saw him again and we slowly started our friendship all over again. Then once again, he vanished and that was it for me. I had enough. I gave him a second chance and he blew it.
People don’t believe me when I tell them that 99% of people flat out LIE on dating sites. Well, I can vouch on this one since I know him and know him very well.
The end where he lists his “ideal date” for coffee or a drink: He doesn’t like coffee and he doesn’t drink due to his liver disease he has. Or maybe he lied to me, but EVERY time we were together all he drank was Diet Coke.  He also listed that he enjoys running. Let me tell you that when I told him that I go running he said, “I can’t get into running, running is boring.”  Of course after I told him my running schedule ( time and place) he shows up on the path.

I laugh at his story and for what he is looking for because he HAD all that and chose to pass it by. Instead he wants the leftovers that are on online dating sites.

Most women think it’s a good idea to just send that “Dear John” letter and vent, but I will tell you that is one of the worst things to do. It just makes you look ridiculous. BUT… if you have a blog and you write, you can always just write what you would love to say to him and call it a day.  ( TIP: don’t use his name that is not such a good idea either.)


I know the Bible says to turn the other cheek, but right now I think Jesus would hold my jacket while I kick your ass. You’re a liar, narcissistic jerk, and you better pray that your daughters never run into a jackass like you.  Karma is like a boomerang. What you throw at others will eventually come back to smack you in the face.  I don’t think you were a mistake, because had I not been with you and gotten to really know you, I would have never realized that I seriously need to raise my standards. I finally realized months ago that I deserve better. I’ve moved on. My new beginning starts now- without you.  As Kelly Clarkson sang, “Since you’ve been gone, I can breath for the first time.”

I was simply an option you kept open just in case your plan to test the dating pool backfired. I’m no one’s option. I’m not anyone’s plaything. You don’t get to drop me & pick me back up whenever you feel like it.

I pity the woman that ends up with you.

The End


“I am looking for someone who wants to be loved and enjoy life. I am hardworking kind man looking for a woman who wants to be happy and share great times.

My match is sincere and honest. Someone who can laugh and joke and also be romantic. There needs to be attraction of course.

Ideal date: A relaxed meeting for coffee or a drink.”

REMEMBER:  If you want to be treated differently, accept no less than what you deserve. Know Your Worth! I know mine. ❤️‍