Romantic Gestures: Men Get a Pass, Women Get Labeled.

When men attempt bold gestures it’s considered romantic and sweet. When a woman attempts them, it’s considered desperate and crazy. Watch any romantic movie and they will tell you the same old, boring, story: If you want to win the love of your life, an over-the-top romantic gesture is the way to go. But hold on, wait a minute, those bold gestures are for the man to do, not a woman.

When Maroon 5 sings, “Baby, I’m preying on you tonight/Maybe you think that you can hide/I can smell your scent for miles,” hardly anyone flinches at the creepy craziness of these lyrics. But when Taylor Swift writes a song, people accuse her of being spiteful, vengeful, and retreating to her crazy woman-den to write mean songs about men.

The vast majority of women may be totally “normal” in a relationship. But then you see one woman acting jealous, insecure, or worse, going after a guy they want and you think, “See!? Women are crazy!” See, when a woman does something “crazy,” like show a man a bold gesture, it’s because she is crazy. When a man does the exact same thing, it’s because men are romantic and strong.

The reasons are simple though: Women feel more emotions than men — it’s that they’re more likely to talk about it, therefore when men actually show emotions, it’s them as weak. But when they show a romantic gesture, it shows them as the hunters, the strong vital man who hunts down his prey in order to salvage his manhood. Back in the day the romantic gestures were; opening the door for her, giving her flowers, taking her out on romantic dinner, giving her kiss on her forehead, basically be a gentlemen. Today that chivalry is nonexistent. It’s all about how far you can get with a woman today. Guys today don’t realize just how much we women want the old fashioned chivalry to make a comeback.

Men don’t like women to be initiators. At least the majority doesn’t even though you see men do Tiktoks where they “claim” that they enjoy being pursued. Now, it is important for me to add, that there are men who don’t mind if a woman asks him out, but that percentage is about 15%. The other 85% still want to be the hunter, “so to speak.”

So to the other 85% of men who assume that when a woman asks you out or presents you wilth a bold gestures let me tell you a few things: 1- yes she is bold and forward to ask you because SHE LIKES YOU! 2- NO, she is not pushy, demanding or controlling. 3- This idea that cannot be her protector because she is the one who asked you out is absurd! EVERY woman wants to be loved and feel protected no matter if you ask her or she asks you! 4- She will not make you submit to her will! Please! Now, if you date a woman who knows what she wants, doesn’t that make it easier for you? and finally 5, She will value my achievements and your dreams. Just because she approached you doesn’t mean that she doesn’t value what you bring to the table or what your goals in life are- that idea is so ridiculous!

If a woman asks you out, that is a compliment to you. She sees something in you that she wants, and she wants to get to know you. Embrace it, enjoy it and stop with the gender double standards. Healthy relationships involve honesty, trust, respect and open communication between partners and they take effort and compromise from both people. It shouldn’t matter at the end of the day, who asked who out, but the relationship that the two of you share.

NFL athletes, dating, and mamma’s boys….

It’s an exciting time for a college athlete when they are drafted by an NFL team. Their dream of playing in the NFL is now coming to life. During this year’s past NFL draft we saw many guys that had their dreams come true and we also saw some guys get drafted by their hometown teams. Imagine not only getting drafted but also getting drafted by the team you rooted for or the team in the same state as your college! That must feel surreal.

But there has to come a point when their moms realize that their “little boys” are no longer seen as “little boys” and that they are seen as men. Last year’s draft pick Zach Wilson of the Jets has a wonderful relationship with his mom, he does, but this past weekend he was going to surprise her and fly home form Mother’s Day but she was in Florida with I would assume, her daughter’s All-Star Cheerleading team. I mean, hey, if that doesn’t tell you that he appreciates his mom, nothing will. But here’s my problem:

Check out what she wrote in her IG story:

Notice that she said, “My cute Zach…” Um, okay, Mrs. Wilson, he’s not 5 anymore, he’s WAY more than five…. calling him “cute” is okay when he was younger but he’s a GROWN man who plays in the NFL… calling him cute makes he look like a mamma’s boy and trust me, no guy in the NFL wants to be teased for that. Yes, he loves you, but he’s a man. Calling him cute on a public forum as he’s mom…. (insert not amused emoji)

Which brings me to the dating topic of conversation. Actually, it’s two-parts.
1) Guys that are “supposed” to be seen as tough guys, ya know, the ones in the NFL, can not be seen as mamma’s boys. Period. Yes, it is a sweet gesture to see them buy their moms houses, cars, etc, but that’s where the line is drawn. Should it be? That’s a different question, buy guys are picked on in the locker room about lots of things. Zach has come off as a guy that looks uncomfortable when his team mates are doing stupid high school shit, (AKA crushing up beer cans on your forehead, or the latest stupid video of the guys who were drafted last year videoing a message to the rookies – which really looked high school-ish.) Not only does he look uncomfortable doing some of those type things, and seriously who wouldn’t, but he looks uncomfortable at the podium talking to the press at times. Now would be a great time to tell you all that girls/women DO NOT WANT to DATE a mamma’s boy- EVER! We don’t want to have to have our relationship be interfered with due to him trying to please his mom over us. Also, we ain’t going to do all the mom shit for you either, in case you were wondering.

2) As I talk about dating, if you missed my podcast last week… The recordings of a fan girl #sarcasm I brought up the fact that when a guy/girl gets dumped they are the ones who go to gym to get a “new body” as a revenge to the person who dumped them. It’s not secret that Zach broke up with his girlfriend, Abbey. Well, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that after they broke up he started getting ripped.
Here’s the picture of him now:

Of course most of the Jets fans are making a big deal of this but seriously, the only reason he looks like this is because his girlfriend broke up with him. She stills looks the same FYI. AND whenever ANYONE says that the break up was “mutual,” trust me, it wasn’t. One party decided that they wanted to break up, and the other party just went along with it. The worse thing to EVER do is to go back to an Ex. Seriously, they call them ex’s for a reason.

One more thing about NFL players and seeing these guys do these intense diets and workouts. If you notice about the NFL 15 years ago, guys weren’t obsessed the same way they are now. And if you notice, guys 15 years ago didn’t get hurt as much as they do now simply because they did not fuel their bodies with only protein, which is the worst thing to do! I have a client who has a protein diet and with that diet they are told NOT to workout that much. Yes, you read that correctly. These guys work out like I have never seen, out all these protein / whey powders in their bodies… and then get hurt. Seriously, it is something to think about since their careers are not a given when it comes to injuries. Finally, let me say this about NFL players “claiming” that they treat their bodies like a temple. If that were true, they wouldn’t use tinder or any other dating app, and put STD’s in their bodies by having unprotected one night stands. And even with a condom… why would you waste that energy on someone who doesn’t matter to you and who isn’t meant to be in your life? If you gonna use Twitter to preach it, y’all better be living it.

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Mark Zuckerberg, Adam Mosseri and Tim Cook are all liars!

IF you have a business and you use Facebook and Instagram to market them I am telling you that you are RISKING losing your business to hackers.

This week ALONE I know about a dozen people including myself that was hacked and my IG account is STILL hijacked. No matter HOW many times you do a video selfie they don’t work to confirm identity, and they have NO – NONE live customer support so the hackers are able to STAY on the app for a LONG time and keep hacking accounts.

Your Business is your CASTLE – why are we giving Facebook and Instagram the KEYS to it when they are NOT protecting us?

See, they MAKE you think that you NEED them, when YOU DON’T. Yes, you may get “clients” from them, but no matter HOW strong your passwords are, 2 factor is, hackers find a way AROUND THEM! Are you really willing to RISK Losing it all for a “few clients” when you can use OTHER platforms that care about your small business AND have CUSTOMER service support when you need it?

Please Share this post and spread the word. Let’s PROTECT our neighbors…. not allow Facebook and Instagram to take away folks livelihoods because all they truly care about are corporations, celebrities, and athletes using their platforms.

You are fooling yourself if you think that they care about the “little people” who make up their platforms.

I am hoping to get my IG account back this week. BUT I will NEVER be using Facebook and Instagram for BUSINESS again. I have already deleted business pages and my shop on IG.

There are SO MANY platforms that you can use that are BETTER, SAFER and WORK.

Here are my links:

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Oh and Apple, the fact that someone stole the information for my APPLE ID and used it to hack into my phone and then IG…. means Apple is not as safe as you think either.
ADVICE: Change passwords, emails, and stay on top of things. Don’t fall into a false sense of security with devices and platforms.

The Diary of A Social Gal- part whatever

If you missed the post last week, where I had an open letter to Jack Dorsey because of how he treats people on his platform and how he also runs it, then this week is about Tiktok and how the bots that run the platform are basically running it on key words.

You are being naive and stupid to think that people actually run every single social media platform- they don’t. They have bots that ONLY look for key words and that is why so many accounts are banned and suspended. They don’t look at the tweet, post or video that might need to be taken down, no, that’s too logical. They let the bots and the AI take care of their platform which causes most account unnecessary banning and/or suspending.

So, Tiktok “banned” my account yesterday because I talked about “Only Fans” while I searched the platform this morning and found multiple porn wannabe accounts on their platform. ( PS Only fans is not just porn wannabes, there are photographers, comedians, and podcasts that use that platform!) See, they don’t look at videos that obviously need to be banned, they only search through key words which is the way I tested this out yesterday. Truth is I was going to delete this account and start over anyway because I never really did TikTok the way it should have been done, I only used it to see what was trending and what everyone was talking about. Even Tiktok’s system of appealing is based on bots too.

I am actually not on Twitter that much at all anymore and it’s wonderful. I go on sparingly to make sure folks that I enjoyed talking to know where to follow me on other platforms and I now reached out to the top few investors of Twitter to let them know how Twitter is a mess and what they are investing in.

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An Open Letter To Jack Dorsey

Dear Jack,

Your social media platform is a complete mess! You have bullies and trolls spewing hate, racism, sexism; making it nearly impossible to engage on your platform. You have nudity and folks performing sexual acts on your platform and also tons of spammers. As a user since 2010 AND a Stock holder I am APPLAUDED! ( I also use your other platform Square and have stock in that as well)

It took you years to upgrade the platform as well. From 180 characters to 240. Then you decided to add other features such as Ads, While you are away feature, turned the favorite button into the like button, added a change to its feed, making recommended tweets the default option, you add the “Explore” tab, which replaces the “Moments” tab and you purchased Periscope, which is no longer.

You then added features called fleets and spaces which most can’t even use because of the fault in your design. You have something called Twitter Blue, which is a paid version of Twitter, and you refused to give folks an edit button, unless now they pay for it, but that option is not available in the US yet. You also want to add shopping features to your site, which mostly is a waste because people don’t use your platform to shop, they use the platform to converse. Which makes it crystal clear, you don’t even understand HOW your platform even works and you so far behind all the other social media platforms it’s ridiculous!

You develop Fleets, which is like stories, have no place to store them when they run out, I can’t even access them from my Iphone or Ipad only from my Itouch. I can’t access your “Clubhouse” look alike called Spaces, so I can’t promote podcasts, marketing strategies and so forth.
You won’t give folks an edit button using the excuse that they will abuse it. Have you EVER been on Facebook at all? Do you know that once you edit a post it states that the post was EDITED? You can’t do that on Twitter?

Have you ever heard of Tiktok, Reels and Shorts? Do you not understand that folks make videos using licensed music? Guess what most folks do with those videos… they SHARE THEM TO TWITTER!

Why? To increase traffic to their platforms, the increase views and also give their audience on Twitter something to watch.

So explain to me WHY you allow hate, racism, sexism and nudity but suspend accounts that share their REELS and TIKTOKS to your platform? Your Artificial Intelligence / algorthim is way out of date and DMCA needs to be changed IMMEDIATELY – It’s NOT unauthorized activity, since the music is ALLOWED on INSTAGRAM and TIKTOK. Universal Music Group (UMG), also needs to be aware of this since now most people are making videos with music on Instagram, Tiktok and now Youtube with Shorts.

It is horrendous to treat people like criminals for using MUSIC that is ALLOWED on OTHER platforms.

You then remove the so called “violation” before folks can even see it. How can you expect folks to know what they did if you are removing the post/tweet prior to having the person see it?
You then send them NO notification on the app itself, but a sneaky email telling them that they have a violation, which really is NOT a violation since EVERY SITE is using LICENSED music!

The quality of your platform has gone DOWNHILL!
you say we have freedom to speak our mind while you censor people who don’t agree with you!

Are you aware that is what communism is all about?

Not to mention that your platform favors men over women. You have an issue with your algorthim cropping out black faces. And how long does it take to get rid of folks who are having sex on your platform? Literally, there are folks advertising their “only fans” with SEX acts ON YOUR platform! There are teens on your platform- they should not have to witness that activity, which belongs on Pornhub, not Twitter.

I can really go on, but the main problem is suspending my account over music that was used from a different platform such as Instagram, and sharing my reel on your platform. I am asked if I want to share it on YOUR platform and then you SUSPEND me for doing that?

As a stock holder, I demand that you give me back my account: @sweetstephanie7 – it took me YEARS to build that up after I was FORCED to close another account due to bullying. And right now, it’s impossible to build up followers on your platform since you favor men over women.

Do the right thing and also educate yourself on how social media platforms work and grow. If you need help, I’d be more than happy to help you as I have been a social media expert since 2008.