Zach Wilson’s Nightmare PR Scenario

When you are the young guy who plays Quarterback for a NY football team, you are in the limelight and therefore, treated differently, better almost. People pay attention to your every move. You get invited to watch hockey games, baseball games, etc. You basically get treated as a king. And when you are portrayed as the the young, clean-cut guy from Utah, and you now not only break that image, but you create an entire nightmare based on your off the field activities… your entire reputation is at risk.

Bring in the scene where Zach and his girlfriend Abbey broke up in January. They looked genuinely happy together so what gives? Then fast forward to February and March where Zach was seen working out and creating an entirely new body. As soon as Zach started to work out you knew he was the one who got dumped, but why? No one could figure out why a girl would dump a guy like Zach… until today.

Word got around Instagram on a post that Abbey later deleted but was screenshot by millions, that said they broke up because he cheated on her with his mom’s best friend.
Wait.. WHAT?

Yes, you read that correctly. Of course all the guys who thought , “Dude, this is awesome!” had memes and posts galore on how he is a “hero, or Legend” for fucking a mother … a “hot one” but what has come to light is this:

  1. When a woman cheats on her man she is given the scarlet letter and shun. But when a man is the one who cheats on his girlfriend with a “hot mom” he is shown the royal treatment.
  2. There is a family involved – Supposedly a little 3 year old kid not to mention a husband.
  3. His mom of course is going to defend her “little baby” as she likes to call him even at the age of 23, which seriously needs to stop, but that is a story for another day. She has gained MANY new followers on her Instagram account which looks PATHETIC.

    Now, here’s my view on his mom defending him as well as what this does for Zach Wilson going forward.

Homewreckers want to claim the victim status because they hate the idea that the only party who is innocent in the cheating, is the person they are vying against. It makes them look like the shitheads they are.
They create attitudes like, “It’s not the other man/woman’s fault, Blame it on your husband./wife they married you” to deflect the fact that they have become the deviant person that lacked enough scruples that they chose to go after a man/woman already involved in a relationship.
Yes, this woman is also at fault simply because SHE KNEW better!

No matter that what they do could affect the couple’s children and their well being. No matter that they could interfere with the other person’s financial well being. None of that matters to a selfish person choosing to deliberately make a play for a person in a relationship. Because in their odd world or rationale, humanity only involves humans THEY care about and THEM, not the people they want to purposely screw over. So humanity snarling at them doesn’t sit well.
But when they actually ruin the relationships, they no longer want that whore status. They want to suddenly be recognized as the man’s/woman’s “prize.” And after all, how can you be a prize when most people, including most family members only know you as the whore that broke up so and so’s relationship?
So they whine and cry like most narcissists do when they can’t get the respect the husband/wife had. Because again, they are cast in a second place status, behind him/her. Zach is the guy that will forever be the whore that broke up that marriage.

Homewrekcers play victim because they know that they ruined others’ lives and this is a way of their self-defense from any judgment or follow-up action from the society. They are aware of their “homewrecking” feats in their heads but they can’t show it to people. Society does not have value for “decorated homewreckers”. Any form of confession will bring them the social reputation of pests like lizards and cockroaches.
So they pretend to be victims and instead shift the blame on their real victims. But the good news is homewreckers are humans after all. They have to live with their guilt by themselves, possibly for their entire lives. They can run away from people but they can’t run away from themselves. They would sleep well first but eventually their own acts will start to pile up their sleepless nights, overthink about their own relationships and ultimately suffer with the reality of not being able to confess to friends or families and get the guilt out of their minds.
See, what Zach Wilson did is really not that uncommon, sadly. But to celebrate his “feat” on social media, makes all the fans and even some of his teammates look arrogant, ignorant, and immoral. Married folks are OFF LIMITS! Zach now has created this shit storm that he is going to have to LIVE with the entire football season. And it may even have an effect on how he plays this year. ( at least it will be brought up as a reason!)

His mom needs to stay out of the way… His son created the mess and needs to be the one to fix it. I give kudos to Abbey Gile for exposing Zach as the person he truly is… what happens from hear on out remains to be seen.

Oh, just a little general knowledge on cheating in relationships:

In general, men are more likely than women to cheat: 20% of men and 13% of women reported that they’ve had sex with someone other than their spouse while married, according to data from the recent General Social Survey(GSS).

Men and women can cheat even if they love their partner. They may do so because their emotional needs aren’t being met, they have low self-esteem, or if there are serious problems within your relationship or in their life. It may be easier for them to cheat than talk about how they are feeling.

How does cheating affect a woman?

They affect the other partner both physically and mentally, making them experience; Anxiety and depression. Rage and post traumatic stress (PTSD) Increased distress, self-blame, and shame.

Cheating is wrong. If you are not happy in your marriage or relationship that is what divorce and breaking up is exactly for! When you cheat you hurt more than just your partner that is involved. You hurt your friends, family, and everyone surrounding the situation.

THINK before you CHEAT.

Guys, Stop Doing This When Dating

The following videos will give you some context as to what I am talking about but I as always will list things that guys do that are complete turn offs in the dating world. And even athletes of every sport does this more so NFL players… ( Updated below – which athlete would I date? )

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If you didn’t take a quick look at the videos I posted in this blog, go ahead and look at them and then come back to read the following. Here is a list of what guys do that turn off women ( notice I didn’t say girls) when they are interested in someone and / or want to date them.

  1. Being ghosted or ignored. One of the key ways most women judge how important they are to their partner is by how much attention they get from him. IF all you are going to do is ONLY contact her WHEN you want something from her, and you aren’t going to pay any attention to her at any other time- that’s a turn off.
  2. Guys worry more about their swagger. Men who talk a big game but can’t follow through don’t rank high on the attractive meter either. We don’t need to see you root for our favorite team, or show us photos of you working out and all that muscle, when the truth is, we don’t want the guy with the biggest and the best of everything. And we don’t want a guy to “fake” it either.
  3. Dating numerous women at one time. Simply put, women like men who are respectful enough to pretend they don’t notice other women (even when they do). Not following all the bikini girls on social media is also a plus I might add.
  4. Poor grooming habits. While sweaty athletes may initially turn a woman on, getting closer to the body odors that accompany them is another story. Most men want women to keep up with their appearance, so it’s fair to say that women don’t want men with pot bellies, dirty fingernails, rumpled clothes and disheveled hair, okay?
  5. Finally, Pick up lines. Why guys STILL use these is a mystery to me. A sense of humor and being sarcastic is one thing, but using these corny and somewhat offensive pick up lines… turns a woman completely off. Remember, playing games is a complete turn off. Just be your authentic self. Either you want to date her or you don’t, we don’t have time for fun and games.

Here is a list of what guys do WHILE they are dating a woman that is a turn off:

  1. They complain that their girlfriends need to lose weight.
    This here is what we call a dick move. Why are you with this person if you don’t already find them sexually desirable? Is your desire based entirely on appearance? Is your relationship based entirely on sexual desire? Or are you talking about this because you’re concerned about what other people think of your partner? If so, you’re shallow. As is Marlon Humphrey on the Ravens. (He tweeted ” How do you ask your GF to lose weight?” I can tell you that he’s not the ONLY NFL player that cares more about a woman’s looks than anything else…
    By the way, this is when a guy treats his girlfriend as a toy. If your toy isn’t making you happy anymore, do her a favor and get a new one so it can move on to someone who will treat her like a human being and want an actual relationship. Not someone who only wants a Barbie doll.
  2. Being lazy and relying on your girlfriend to always make the plans. The minute she starts to think, ” Why I am going to all this trouble,” is the moment that your relationship is sinking. For me, a guy should be equal in planning what we are doing, it should not always be up to me to decide.
  3. Even though you are dating, Being touched without consent is a turn off for women, I can guarantee it. Yes, there are times when we want to cuddle, want to touch you, want you to touch us, but knowing that line is the most important. For example, during our periods, we want to me left alone.
  4. Being overly cocky and close-minded. If you shut her down when she argues your point, it is not a good look. I dated a guy once who was too into me. I know it sounds conceited, but he was. He would constantly throw compliments my way and act like we were married. Learn some humility, and you might have a shot. Stick to being pompous and you’ll be a turn off for women everywhere.
  5. Not giving space- being too needy. Dating works when BOTH parties are ALLOWED to have THEIR lives and YOUR life together. You can’t be together 24/7- you need to have a little breathing room. Guys should be able to hang with their friends, girls should be able to hang with theirs, and everyone needs time alone. This is how you make the relationship work. Even married people need to have their own lives! You have to find the balance of the relationship, if you don’t you will end up alone.

*** As I stated in my recent podcast in a heartbeat I would date Ryan Lindgren of The NY Rangers. Why? His Character. Right now he is showing how he puts his teammates ahead of himself and he is playing in pain. The fact that he makes Adam Fox better and he makes the team play better. The fact that he has played with heart and soul, is down right attractive. Now, I’m not a chick who likes a big beard, but yes, Ryan is one hell of a sexy beast. But what makes him sexy isn’t his eyes, looks, no… it’s his character and there are SO many athletes that don’t show this at all. I wish we could clone him.
So see guys, it isn’t the amount of muscle you have, money you have or the amount of swagger you have that is what we want in a guy, we want a great character guy. One that shows exactly what Ryan is showing now and has all season long. And that is something that you can’t buy. ***

NFL athletes, dating, and mamma’s boys….

It’s an exciting time for a college athlete when they are drafted by an NFL team. Their dream of playing in the NFL is now coming to life. During this year’s past NFL draft we saw many guys that had their dreams come true and we also saw some guys get drafted by their hometown teams. Imagine not only getting drafted but also getting drafted by the team you rooted for or the team in the same state as your college! That must feel surreal.

But there has to come a point when their moms realize that their “little boys” are no longer seen as “little boys” and that they are seen as men. Last year’s draft pick Zach Wilson of the Jets has a wonderful relationship with his mom, he does, but this past weekend he was going to surprise her and fly home form Mother’s Day but she was in Florida with I would assume, her daughter’s All-Star Cheerleading team. I mean, hey, if that doesn’t tell you that he appreciates his mom, nothing will. But here’s my problem:

Check out what she wrote in her IG story:

Notice that she said, “My cute Zach…” Um, okay, Mrs. Wilson, he’s not 5 anymore, he’s WAY more than five…. calling him “cute” is okay when he was younger but he’s a GROWN man who plays in the NFL… calling him cute makes he look like a mamma’s boy and trust me, no guy in the NFL wants to be teased for that. Yes, he loves you, but he’s a man. Calling him cute on a public forum as he’s mom…. (insert not amused emoji)

Which brings me to the dating topic of conversation. Actually, it’s two-parts.
1) Guys that are “supposed” to be seen as tough guys, ya know, the ones in the NFL, can not be seen as mamma’s boys. Period. Yes, it is a sweet gesture to see them buy their moms houses, cars, etc, but that’s where the line is drawn. Should it be? That’s a different question, buy guys are picked on in the locker room about lots of things. Zach has come off as a guy that looks uncomfortable when his team mates are doing stupid high school shit, (AKA crushing up beer cans on your forehead, or the latest stupid video of the guys who were drafted last year videoing a message to the rookies – which really looked high school-ish.) Not only does he look uncomfortable doing some of those type things, and seriously who wouldn’t, but he looks uncomfortable at the podium talking to the press at times. Now would be a great time to tell you all that girls/women DO NOT WANT to DATE a mamma’s boy- EVER! We don’t want to have to have our relationship be interfered with due to him trying to please his mom over us. Also, we ain’t going to do all the mom shit for you either, in case you were wondering.

2) As I talk about dating, if you missed my podcast last week… The recordings of a fan girl #sarcasm I brought up the fact that when a guy/girl gets dumped they are the ones who go to gym to get a “new body” as a revenge to the person who dumped them. It’s not secret that Zach broke up with his girlfriend, Abbey. Well, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that after they broke up he started getting ripped.
Here’s the picture of him now:

Of course most of the Jets fans are making a big deal of this but seriously, the only reason he looks like this is because his girlfriend broke up with him. She stills looks the same FYI. AND whenever ANYONE says that the break up was “mutual,” trust me, it wasn’t. One party decided that they wanted to break up, and the other party just went along with it. The worse thing to EVER do is to go back to an Ex. Seriously, they call them ex’s for a reason.

One more thing about NFL players and seeing these guys do these intense diets and workouts. If you notice about the NFL 15 years ago, guys weren’t obsessed the same way they are now. And if you notice, guys 15 years ago didn’t get hurt as much as they do now simply because they did not fuel their bodies with only protein, which is the worst thing to do! I have a client who has a protein diet and with that diet they are told NOT to workout that much. Yes, you read that correctly. These guys work out like I have never seen, out all these protein / whey powders in their bodies… and then get hurt. Seriously, it is something to think about since their careers are not a given when it comes to injuries. Finally, let me say this about NFL players “claiming” that they treat their bodies like a temple. If that were true, they wouldn’t use tinder or any other dating app, and put STD’s in their bodies by having unprotected one night stands. And even with a condom… why would you waste that energy on someone who doesn’t matter to you and who isn’t meant to be in your life? If you gonna use Twitter to preach it, y’all better be living it.

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Here’s my YOUTUBE link: Come on by and subscribe so you can watch my show: The Recordings of a fan girl #sarcasm

Mark Zuckerberg, Adam Mosseri and Tim Cook are all liars!

IF you have a business and you use Facebook and Instagram to market them I am telling you that you are RISKING losing your business to hackers.

This week ALONE I know about a dozen people including myself that was hacked and my IG account is STILL hijacked. No matter HOW many times you do a video selfie they don’t work to confirm identity, and they have NO – NONE live customer support so the hackers are able to STAY on the app for a LONG time and keep hacking accounts.

Your Business is your CASTLE – why are we giving Facebook and Instagram the KEYS to it when they are NOT protecting us?

See, they MAKE you think that you NEED them, when YOU DON’T. Yes, you may get “clients” from them, but no matter HOW strong your passwords are, 2 factor is, hackers find a way AROUND THEM! Are you really willing to RISK Losing it all for a “few clients” when you can use OTHER platforms that care about your small business AND have CUSTOMER service support when you need it?

Please Share this post and spread the word. Let’s PROTECT our neighbors…. not allow Facebook and Instagram to take away folks livelihoods because all they truly care about are corporations, celebrities, and athletes using their platforms.

You are fooling yourself if you think that they care about the “little people” who make up their platforms.

I am hoping to get my IG account back this week. BUT I will NEVER be using Facebook and Instagram for BUSINESS again. I have already deleted business pages and my shop on IG.

There are SO MANY platforms that you can use that are BETTER, SAFER and WORK.

Here are my links:

TIKTOK

PINTEREST

NEXTDOOR

YOUTUBE

Oh and Apple, the fact that someone stole the information for my APPLE ID and used it to hack into my phone and then IG…. means Apple is not as safe as you think either.
ADVICE: Change passwords, emails, and stay on top of things. Don’t fall into a false sense of security with devices and platforms.

An Open Letter To Jack Dorsey

Dear Jack,

Your social media platform is a complete mess! You have bullies and trolls spewing hate, racism, sexism; making it nearly impossible to engage on your platform. You have nudity and folks performing sexual acts on your platform and also tons of spammers. As a user since 2010 AND a Stock holder I am APPLAUDED! ( I also use your other platform Square and have stock in that as well)

It took you years to upgrade the platform as well. From 180 characters to 240. Then you decided to add other features such as Ads, While you are away feature, turned the favorite button into the like button, added a change to its feed, making recommended tweets the default option, you add the “Explore” tab, which replaces the “Moments” tab and you purchased Periscope, which is no longer.

You then added features called fleets and spaces which most can’t even use because of the fault in your design. You have something called Twitter Blue, which is a paid version of Twitter, and you refused to give folks an edit button, unless now they pay for it, but that option is not available in the US yet. You also want to add shopping features to your site, which mostly is a waste because people don’t use your platform to shop, they use the platform to converse. Which makes it crystal clear, you don’t even understand HOW your platform even works and you so far behind all the other social media platforms it’s ridiculous!

You develop Fleets, which is like stories, have no place to store them when they run out, I can’t even access them from my Iphone or Ipad only from my Itouch. I can’t access your “Clubhouse” look alike called Spaces, so I can’t promote podcasts, marketing strategies and so forth.
You won’t give folks an edit button using the excuse that they will abuse it. Have you EVER been on Facebook at all? Do you know that once you edit a post it states that the post was EDITED? You can’t do that on Twitter?

Have you ever heard of Tiktok, Reels and Shorts? Do you not understand that folks make videos using licensed music? Guess what most folks do with those videos… they SHARE THEM TO TWITTER!

Why? To increase traffic to their platforms, the increase views and also give their audience on Twitter something to watch.

So explain to me WHY you allow hate, racism, sexism and nudity but suspend accounts that share their REELS and TIKTOKS to your platform? Your Artificial Intelligence / algorthim is way out of date and DMCA needs to be changed IMMEDIATELY – It’s NOT unauthorized activity, since the music is ALLOWED on INSTAGRAM and TIKTOK. Universal Music Group (UMG), also needs to be aware of this since now most people are making videos with music on Instagram, Tiktok and now Youtube with Shorts.

It is horrendous to treat people like criminals for using MUSIC that is ALLOWED on OTHER platforms.

You then remove the so called “violation” before folks can even see it. How can you expect folks to know what they did if you are removing the post/tweet prior to having the person see it?
You then send them NO notification on the app itself, but a sneaky email telling them that they have a violation, which really is NOT a violation since EVERY SITE is using LICENSED music!

The quality of your platform has gone DOWNHILL!
you say we have freedom to speak our mind while you censor people who don’t agree with you!

Are you aware that is what communism is all about?

Not to mention that your platform favors men over women. You have an issue with your algorthim cropping out black faces. And how long does it take to get rid of folks who are having sex on your platform? Literally, there are folks advertising their “only fans” with SEX acts ON YOUR platform! There are teens on your platform- they should not have to witness that activity, which belongs on Pornhub, not Twitter.

I can really go on, but the main problem is suspending my account over music that was used from a different platform such as Instagram, and sharing my reel on your platform. I am asked if I want to share it on YOUR platform and then you SUSPEND me for doing that?

As a stock holder, I demand that you give me back my account: @sweetstephanie7 – it took me YEARS to build that up after I was FORCED to close another account due to bullying. And right now, it’s impossible to build up followers on your platform since you favor men over women.

Do the right thing and also educate yourself on how social media platforms work and grow. If you need help, I’d be more than happy to help you as I have been a social media expert since 2008.


Did You Know That I Have 2 Podcasts? ( and that you create one too!)

2020 is all about the podcasts. I have had a radio show that I have done for the past 3 years. It’s broadcasted on the radio station’s website and also I record it LIVE on Facebook. Then I save the video and put the replay on my Youtube channel. It’s called #TheSassyShow

The other podcast I do, #SassyNation was originally a recap or a preview of what #TheSassyShow was going to be about or what was about, but then the pandemic happened and it turned into another podcast all together. On this one I use Zoom to record the audio (there is NO video needed for this podcast) then transfer it to a sight called Anchor, add a few sponsor segments and BOOM- it has become it’s very own podcast.
Now, I will share the links for all these at the end but if you looking to expand your brand, get your voice heard or even if you want to try to become the next social media star, a podcast can do that for you.

Like I said, I use #Facebook #Youtube for the first one and #Zoom #Anchor for the second one. You can also use #IGTV and create your own series there too! Oh, did I forget to mention that it costs me $0.00 to do this?! I don’t have any expensive equipment. I don’t have any professional, nor do you need it. All you need is a an iphone or itouch, and a laptop with a built in camera and microphone. That’s it. The topics I discuss on my shows are wrapped around social media, athletes, sports, and tips as to how to use platforms (with also breaking news on changes to each social media platform)

To listen to mine here are some links:

The Sassy Show from 12/3/20

The Sassy Show from 11/19/20

To subscribe to my Youtube Channel – Here you will also get videos I created from coaching Cheerleading, relationship advice, AND updates to my projects besides just #TheSassyShow

Sassy Nation – My special ed about #NYJets ( by the way I curse, so don’t be surprised lol)

Sassy Nation 10/02/20

Sassy Nation 11/20/20

If you would like to be a sponsor or support the podcast you can do so here: Support

If you would like to subscirbe to #SassyNation on Spotify you can here

Your Holiday Gift Guide Continues

Christmas Calories Don’t Count
What The Elf?

What would be the holidays without having our cocoa, tea, and coffee in a holiday-themed mug? As a great gift idea for Teachers, Nurses, Entrepreneurs or a Business Team, you can purchase these mugs and place either homemade cookies in them or a gift card to your favorite coffee shop.

Happy Gifting! ( Here’s a link to the cute little video I made!) CLICK HERE

Bend ( A song)

One of the things I love to write are songs.

I have written many songs – I have been trying to put them on Youtube as best I can.

Here is the latest song that I have placed on Youtube – it’s called Bend. The Lyrics are included on this link for the song. It’s not the best listening quality – but …. it’s good.

LINK <——-

I also will throw out another link for another song I wrote called “Let It Go” Click on the title to be taken to the song.

Song writing is so much fun and it also can get personal. But I especially love writing songs when I need a little creative juice flowing.

**** Working on my follow up book, to my best seller, ” Hello Love, Where’s Cupid 2nd Ed” called, “Relationship Impossible” which should be out in 2021

Paperback is also available for those who still love to hold them

Exciting Announcement

First and foremost I am excited for the launch of my first T-shirt Store: ONLINE ONLY!

There I will sell different t-shirts rotating the type every 3 weeks.  I have 5 designs on the site now- 1 of them is for charity!

Click here to go to the store

The next exciting thing is that I released some more of my music that I wrote back in 2008. It is now on Youtube –  it’s music only, no singing ( not yet)

Here is that link

Finally,

Here are all the links on where I be doing the contest for charity that I will be doing all #MemorialDayWeekend:

1) Facebook Page

2) Pinterest

3) Twitter

I will be giving away signed copies of the books I wrote along with gift cards and I designed some fashionable tank tops with mini tote bags. I also have signed autographs from some baseball players that will be auctioned away.

Hope to see you all this weekend during the contests for charity!

 

 

Behind The Scenes- Continued

 

We are now almost done with competition season! So far my team finished 3rd in the first competition we competed in and this last time, we finished 2nd ( won a trophy!)

Did you know that you can follow along on my Youtube channel and see BOTH routines as well as my behind the scenes footage to practicing!

You can follow along on myInstagram as well as my IGTV channel.

One more week to go – and it’s the BIG ONE: Sectionals!

Then after that, I start planning for the next season.

Next blog post will be the behind the scenes of me meeting and talking to some athletes as well as writing my follow up book to “Hello Love Where’s Cupid? 2nd Ed”