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Guys in your twenties, don’t knock it until you try it.

( The video attached is for those over the age of 18 )

Dating double standards are ridiculous.

The one that still stands out is that men are celebrated from dating a younger woman, but when the opposite happens, holy cow! Recently I read a tweet from a woman on Twitter questioning if it’s okay for her to date a younger man. Wait, what? You are asking permission from strangers if it’s okay to date a younger man? What is this world that we live in!

For women seeking men, though, old-fashioned gendered ideas around age still persist for many. So what are the pros and what the cons for this dating dilemma?

Asking women this question here are the top reasons why older women ( And by older we mean over 35 dating men in their 20s) want to date younger men:

Sarah: I find that younger guys are so much faster to have the ‘what are we’ conversation.

Jane: Younger men tend to have higher sex drives, And as women, our sex drives tend to peak in our 40s.

Cindy: Younger guys are just less complicated and a lot more fun. Older guys have been in long-term relationships, and some of them are even divorced. They have really complicated commitment issues.

Now here are some guys who tell me their reasons for wanting to date an older woman:

Joe: Honestly, they’re so much more emotionally and mature, not as insecure, and our conversations are incredible.

Tim: I am attracted to older women because they’re often more confident and authentic than the younger girls my age. They are the real-deal, so to speak.

Peter: The mature woman focuses less on trying to win me over and focuses more on enjoying my company. There are no “love games.”

Women want to date a man who will become a partner, not a project. We don’t need to “mama him” to death, and we don’t want a guy who plays games either. Most older guys come with baggage; and a lot of it. They constantly talk about previous relationships and why they didn’t commit, blah, blah, blah. Younger guys don’t come with all that garbage and they aren’t trying to sell you the reason you should give me a chance either. – They are confident, not insecure.

Here are a few Pros to a woman dating a younger man:

A younger man has more energy and is more willing to try things than his older counterparts. In turn, doing new things increases dopamine in the brain, triggering a desire to spend more time together and assisting in lighting your sexual fire. The pro: A longer span of time before he’s reaching for the Viagra.

Not only is there fire in the bedroom, but he’ll come up with creative date ideas that bring back romance and make you feel empowered and appreciated.

Less baggage but that doesn’t mean he lacks communicating. Be selective about your battles and learn to compromise on things that aren’t vital to your relationship.

Cons (Depends on how you feel)

Younger guys like to hang out with their peers more often than older men. So be prepared to share him with his friends.

The reality is that your biological clock may be ticking away while his isn’t even be turned on. It might be years before he decides that he wants a family and then what? (This depends on how you both feel about kids- remember though, there is a thing called adoption as well.)

He may prefer texting you over calling you and he may get jealous faster seeing you talk to all the men you may know from your past or even your job.

Conclusively, If both parties are open to dating, you might have a blast with each other.. And it is entirely possible that you could fall in love with each other and have a long and happy relationship.

Because, as they say, age ain’t nothin’ but a number. You need to focus on finding the partner that is your perfect fit, regardless of age. ( Note: Legally over 18)
And remember, character over looks; personality over money; and loyalty over materialism.

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So, Are you feeling Lucky today?

I’m the type of gal who LOVES shopping at Target. Yes, folks, I am addicted to shopping at Target. (Seriously, what gal isn’t though?) But I had no freaking idea that Target was now selling vibrators made from Trojan called “the Bullet.”

So, first you can get a sweatshirt with the words “Lucky” which you will see right as you walk in to the store. Then if you go down the “family planning/women’s isle” you can find one of these charming devices to really get “lucky,” but in a completely different way. Now, if you read my book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid 2nd ed,” you know that I am open to talking about sex and sex topics, so if you’re thinking that I am going “prude” while writing this, think again.
Back in the day these type of self pleasuring toys were only sold in stores like, Romantic Depot, not casual stores like Target where young kids can see it. Seriously, it is not for kids to see, I don’t care how into sex you are, and yes I know that kids in elementary school know about sex, I ain’t stupid, but still… this type of thing should be out of their view.
I remember learning about the “birds and the bees” when I was in 6th grade. The boys went into one classroom and the girls went into another. Then of course the boys had a field day with it at lunch, on the playground, and every day after that. It was kind of amusing thinking about it now. But in today’s world, 2022, kids are learning the wrong things about sex and from social media no less. Music, movies and TV still are ways where they can see it, but in today’s world, sex is spoken about, shown not as a whisper, but right out there online.

Yes, remember sex sells. But are we as a society, too open about sex?

It’s toxic to tell young kids casual sex is something to aspire to. Think about the responsibilities that come with having sex. First of course, protection. Which today though is not focused on at all since we live is dating app hell and no where do you see folks preaching about safe sex anymore. Sex isn’t something to just jump
into, even though we probably all are guilty of having a fling, its something you need to make sure doesn’t define your relationship. As we see as of late, that guys, and mostly athletes like to jump from woman to woman because according to them, “they have needs.” I will say that fairy-tales and romance movies have ruined a woman’s reality on what true love really is and how to achieve it while porn has ruined a man’s perception on what sex is and isn’t.

People always ask me for advice of just about everything and sex is one of the topics they ask. (No, I’m not a professional but I do play one on TV.) My sassy response to talking about sex and men is usually, I’m not against half naked men. At least not as often as I’d like to be. But seriously, I give it to you straight.

Every 39 minutes a porn video is being created in the US. 89% of porn is created in the US and 35% of all Internet downloads are porn related. Remember, When the VCR made it possible for everyone to watch porn in the privacy of their own home, the industry exploded. Now with the Internet, (Only Fans and even social media) it is out of control!
Not only is porn one of the top selling industries, but also adult toy and sex accessories are a growing second. Which takes me back to talk about about this vibrator I found in Target the other day. First off, it’s remote control. How lazy does one need to be using this thing? They include the batteries for you ( How nice of them!) There are 4 speeds: low, medium, high and ultra. Seriously, if you can’t orgasm to medium or high, then you may want to see someone about that. Trojan markets this as “Perfect for partner play, be in control or let your partner play with you for double the fun!” No offense Trojan, but if a woman had a man to “play with” she is NOT going to need a vibrator – unless her partner sucks in bed.

No guy, I don’t care who he is, deep down does not want a girl that has been with every guy in town. You want to be the girl everyone WANTS, not the girl that everyone HAD. Sex may be easier to get, but love is harder to find. Everyone deserves someone in their life that can leave them breathless just by walking into the room. When you find someone who can open your soul to happiness and show you new ways of love, sex will not just be a motion, but it will be the emotion you will truly desire.

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Don’t F*ck It Up!

If you are an avid football fan like myself, you loved watching the games this weekend. There was competition, drama, and your blood pressure probably was raised to the point where you literally screamed at the TV set. All that aside, it’s interesting to see how the girlfriends/wives of these football players react on social media, if they do at all.
It’s also interesting to note that NFL players and social sometimes don’t mix – and the excuses as to why they keep who they are with “private” is a catch 22.
For those players who are married, it’s obvious they don’t like it when fans go after their wives on Twitter or Instagram, and any fan that does that is a dickhead. But what got me thinking this weekend in terms of this, is when their guy (boyfriend or wife) is struggling on the field, seeing her stick up for him on social media proves 2 things 1) her loyalty to the man she is dating/married too, and 2) her love for him goes beyond the football field.

Think about it, Patrick Mahomes fiancee, gets criticized left and right for the way she defends her man and for what she posts. Does that stop her? Hell no! (And it never should stop her! She’s awesome!) You have Matthew Stafford’s wife Kelly, always supporting her husband, on social media, then there is other girlfriends/wives that do the same.
Joey Burrow’s girlfriend is somewhat supportive on Instagram but not as supportive as I thought she would be. I mean, some girls take it to the extreme like Christian McCaffrey’s girlfriend does posting stupid selfies of herself for attention as does Dak Prescott’s girlfriend. Seriously, you have to wonder if that is the ONLY reason they are dating these guys? For the attention.

This makes me think of guys who are dating someone but have yet to post anything on social media. As I have said in the past, a player that is dating someone should not be using the excuse, “My private life is private” or, ” I keep close to my circle only” as an excuse why they don’t post about their girlfriends. IF an NFL player is not posting about his girlfriend or wife and only hiding you in their stories, that only means that he is trying to make it look as if he is single so they hoes can slide into his DMs.

REAL relationships aren’t a secret. And your partner should be PROUD that they are with you! That goes for HER as well- especially when he is struggling on the field and the fan base is attacking him left and right. Keeping hush-hush on social media and worse, having a private IG account only makes me question the relationship. I mean, if I were dating an NFL player and my guy was struggling, or the fan base was attacking him on social media, you bet your ass I would defend him and his ability and talent he has to be an NFL player. I would be so proud of him no matter what! If I was dating an athlete, I want to be his second priority. I want his first priority to be him, his ambitions, his life and his future, because seeing him happy makes me happy. Seeing him succeed pushes me to succeed. Finding happiness and security alone, are crucial to finding it together. There’s a difference between being secretive and keeping your dirty laundry off social media.

Then there are girls who post things to Tiktok, like, ” An NBA player slid into my DMS and now I am sitting courtside… ” Girls always bragging about being the main chick. Try being the only chick. Stop letting guys (players) use you and disrespect you. The funny thing with this post was all the comments telling her she ain’t the only one. Girls allow this to happen, time and time again. Girls wanting to a be side chick, like an appetizer, Instead of respecting themselves as the main course.

They sliding in but only those who play for keeps get me. I ain’t no man’s side course. I am THE chick. Maybe that’s because I am older so I am wiser than these girls in their 20s who act foolish. And A LOT of athletes especially those who are young don’t understand that having many women isn’t a flex, but having that 1 woman no one can touch is. But many boys don’t understand the difference between quality and quantity.

So, there are a few NFL players who anonymously answered my questions about dating and women. Here are a few of those answers. The rest will be part of my exclusive podcast “Relationship Impossible” part 2 – coming in February.

Player 1: If you take pride in your clothes and your looks you are going to take care of me. Just my thoughts.

Player 2: I am sick of gold diggers, I have a Victorian style house and several sports cars, but I attract women for some reason who only lavish in that lifestyle. I am not looking to spend all my money on bottles of champagne and the new products that hit the market.

Player3: Look around the league, many players get caught up in drama and it eventually leads to an arrest, or problem. I just want a normal relationship where we value one another. (Note, This is the SAME guy that then says he wants to date a girl because she’s “hot” or “more famous” than he is. If you want a “normal” relationship, how about you guys get off the dating apps and just date a normal girl? – Ya know, those girls who work hard, play hard, and are loyal as fuck?)

In closing let me mention the players that scrub clean their IG’s – Every time they have a new team, or drop a new stupid song, or are trying to “rebrand” themselves- my question is, why? Scrubing clean your IG isn’t going to scrub away the fact that you played for a different team, that your fashion was questionable, that you look like you only care about materialistic things, etc. Scrubbing it clean makes you look insecure and ashamed of your past. What about the players that scrub clean an ex? This here, is different. TO be able to fully move on from an ex you need to mentally, physically, emotionally move on from someone. Getting rid of posts of you together, is allowing all the negative out and letting you manifest the positive into your life. But oh, don’t be stupid and follow your ex on Instagram though… if you really want to move on, move on completely. They don’t need to see your IG stories, and you don’t need to see theirs either.

Relationships are hard. Stop making them harder.

Relationship Impossible is available here – CLICK to purchase

and while you read it, you can sip my coffee – CLICK to purchase ( right as I type this the website is having difficulty, but you can follow me on Instagram!)

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Cyber Monday Fun Day!

Today is one of the bets online days for businesses! For those who don’t like going out and shopping, this is YOUR day. I have some deals and steals too. All online links below:

  1. Free gift when you subscribe to my podcast ( which also will have the bonus coverage of my best selling follow up book, Relationship Impossible)
  2. Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee – if you make a purchase you get a FREE mug and FREE shipping but if you would like a SAMPLE you can reach out today on the contact page and email me which K-pod you want to try, ( Pumpkin, Vanilla, Cinnamon, Regular Medium Roast)
  3. If you are a small business or entrepreneur – I am holding a workshop on how to teach you how to create short videos which is the most powerful tool right now! 50% off the workshop – email me for details.
  4. My Book, Relationship Impossible is FREE to download today!!! Get it while you can! ( info below)
https://anchor.fm/stephanie-dolce/subscribe
https://justbrewitgourmetcoffee.com/
https://sassygirlpr.com/contact/
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Open For Business! (and other cool updates!)

Just Brew It Is Open For Business
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I’m excited to announce that I have added to my businesses ( yes, I have another one folks!) with my coffee brand: Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee!
It’s so exciting! I really do LOVE coffee. That is not me being dramatic- I literally LIVE for it. It’s funny yes, but it’s my hustle juice. Now, I am not that coffee drinker that drinks like 4-5 cups… oh no, you’d have to peel me off the ceiling if I did that! But it definitely keeps me moving.

During the pandemic I started to look at what my passions were and what other type of businesses I could add to my “Sassy” line. I tried clothing for a while, and yes, I made a few sales, but clothing is quite expensive to keep up with, and on Instagram and Facebook in order to have a “shop” the website for which you sell it needs to the website you sell it from- meaning that I was not the one manufacturing the products and to purchase it you were going to a different website and not staying on mine.

Anyhow, I got a book on coffee and was reading up on it, I was an influencer for this coffee brand and I also was watching a few Christmas movies that inspired me to think to myself, “First off, why am I helping someone else make money off of coffee when I can do it myself?” And I drink a ton of coffee that never really tastes fresh since it’s on the shelves for a long time or the coffee shops you got to have expensive coffee that tasted altered- so I thought maybe I could have a brand of coffee that would be gourmet that folks could make at home or in the office and not have to go to expensive coffee places to get it. Bottom line is this: I roast the beans myself, then I grind them, and then I package them together. I sell K-pods and ground. Click here to go to the website

Here is the coffee after I grind it.

OTHER NEWS

You can now subscribe to my podcast, “Sassy Nation” This podcast is all about sports, social media and 100% sassiness!

Subscribers will get benefits that free listeners will not!

1) Recordings of A Fangirl #sarcasm podcast ( the latest episode is free right now)
2) Free Content Ideas for Social Media and Insider info
3) Exclusive News and Rants
4) Access to be on a podcast and named show producer
5) Free Business PR

The price is $2.99 a month! Subscribe here: Get Sassy!

Finally, The BONUS edition for my book, “Relationship Impossible” will be in a PODCAST format. I am still working on it, but I feel this is better to do than to sit and write out a bonus. I still am going to give you a journal and put some juicy details in the journal, but if you want to listen to the bonus edition, you will have to subscribe to the Sassy Nation Podcast. Of course I will give you a little teaser so you know what I am talking about… it will be WORTH IT! That I can promise and deliver!

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Social Media Day Giveaway

Every June 30th, we celebrate Social Media Day. What exactly is it?

It is the day for celebrating all the great relationships you have built on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and more. It is also to appreciate the invention and to highlight how social media has become the key tool for communication and connecting people sitting across the world in seconds with just a few clicks.

To celebrate I am holding a few #giveaways

  1. A Clubhouse Invite- I have 8 to give out.
  2. A Free Sneak Peek at my #instagram workshops
  3. A Free Sneak Peek at my LinkedIn workshops
  4. FREE COFFEE from my new coffee brand, “Just Brew It” Gourmet Coffee –
  5. A Chance to WIN A SIGNED Paperback of my book, “Relationship Impossible”

HERE IS HOW TO ENTER EACH GIVEAWAY

  1. Follow me on Twitter ( Sweetstephanie7) and RT the post I have pinned to my home page
  2. Follow me on Instagram ( Sassygirlpr7) and Like the post (Click Here)
  3. Follow me on LinkedIn and like my post pinned to the top of the page
  4. Follow my new account JustBrewItGourmetcoffee – and Like the #Reel posted and comment #Justbrewit
  5. Subscribe to my #youtubechannel, Like ANY Video and then comment in THIS BLOG post that you did that by telling me which video you liked.

WINNERS will be chosen later today!

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Podcast part 2: Excerpts from Relationship Impossible

Listen to another exciting excerpt reading of my recently released book, “Relationship Impossible”.

UPDATE: The paperback is on the way to Amazon in 4-6 weeks and then in August the paperback will make it’s way to Barnes and Noble dot com.

Here’s the lowdown on dating sites: Every dating site has an algorithm that they use in matching people together. It is not “fate” that helps you meet the person, it is artificial intelligence. Match and the other apps use the same type of recommendation system used by Netflix or Facebook, taking your past behaviors (and the behavior of others) into account to predict what you’ll like next. LISTEN NOW!

Here’s the link for the PODCAST —-> CLICK Here

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Excerpt From “Relationship Impossible” – part 1

Abuse isn’t always obvious. Here are some red flags that everyone reading this should know and note:

  • Call you names and put you down
  • Call or text you throughout the day to check on you
  • Keep you from friends or family
  • Control your $
  • Threaten to hurt you, himself/herself, your pet or loved one
  • Hit, Kick, Push, Punch, Slap, Pinch, Choke or Bite you
  • Destroy property or throw things
  • Tell you who you can see or what job you can have
  • Tell you how to dress Act overly jealous
  • Withhold medication or health care
  • Make you have sex or do sexual acts that you don’t want to do
  • Threaten to “out” you if you are gay or lesbian
  • Constantly criticize Embarrass you Blame you for everything – including the abusive behavior
    • What usually happens after this happens the first time is that the victim makes statements like: “My partner isn’t violent all the time – they love me” “Things will get better – they didn’t mean it” “Maybe it’s my fault” “I’m scared of what will happen if I leave them” And the abuse continues.
    • Remember, most relationships start off with each person acting their best and seeing the other with rose-colored glasses. It never starts off on an abusive note.-

I discuss this more in my new book, “Relationship Impossible” which can be preordered now on Amazon. Click here to order now!

More excerpts to come!

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The Wait Is Over!

The wait is OVER! Pre-order #Ebook form only: “Relationship Impossible”

What people don’t realize about dating apps in general is that you need a lot of swipes to get a match, a lot of matches to get a number, a lot of numbers to get a date and a lot of dates to get a third date.
Dating sites are good at baiting people to try them out. They lie about how many active members they truly have, use fake profiles….. But, remember, just because it is popular, doesn’t mean it actually works!
In this book, we will divide in, head first, on the hook-up culture, dating apps, social media, and also discuss some serious topics such a dating violence, gaslighting, ghosting, stalking, and more.

We will also discuss professional athletes and their use of social media and dating apps.

*** Those who pre-order the book will have a chance to WIN FREE coffee from my coffee brand that I am launching ****

CLICK HERE TO PREORDER

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Love Is Like A Game Of Chess

Breaking: With my upcoming book, “Relationship Impossible” comes a series of Journals that can be purchased to be used or just used alone.

The first one, seen here, will be released in a few days.

You can use it to write about all your dating adventures and at the end of the journal are questions that you can have fun asking your boyfriend/girlfriend ( Or use them for conversation starters!)

Look for the book, “Relationship Impossible” to be released May 28th.

The next journal will be released in June.