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A Theory On Men

Some men get lucky, and marry the woman they are meant for and ready for, while others are not so lucky. First I guess I should mention that there’s a difference between being in love with someone and actually only loving someone. Not all men are in love with the woman they are with, instead they only love her. When you’re in love, you want this person. When you love someone, you need this person. This is the main difference between loving someone and being in love. Being in love is wanting to own the other person. It is believing that this person is incredibly wonderful and you need them in your life. When you fall in love, you feel an intense need to consume this person in any way possible. In simple terms, being in love is believing that you need someone to stay happy.  It’s wanting them, not needing them which is the motto of EVERY independent woman.

Men take a LONG time to get emotionally connected whereas woman are emotional creatures from the get-go. If by the 3-4 month mark, you are not seeing signs that he is getting emotionally attached to you, that may be because he is just going more slowly than you do. Some guys even take a year or so to get attached! What makes a man emotionally attached is when you become vulnerable with them. This subtly nudges the guy to become vulnerable, making him emotionally attached in the long run. Also, another answer to what makes men emotionally attached is when you show gratitude.

There is this theory going around on social media that had me thinking. It is plain and simply this: Men marry the woman in front of them at the time they are ready not necessarily the woman that is meant for them. This is particularly true when you look at men who cheat on their partners. If a guy isn’t drawn to a person on all levels, then you aren’t going to stay with them and cheating enters the picture. Doesn’t matter how physically attractive the person is either. A man MUST be attracted to a woman on ALL levels in order to stay in that relationship. This means a man must be intellectually, emotionally, sexually, mentally, and physically attracted to a woman to be with the one he was meant to be with- all levels not just 1 or 2 levels.
Note: Women ask me all the time about men who show mixed signals and guys that take a while to contact you. Here’s my answer: Mostly guys hesitate not because they aren’t interested but because they are completely attracted to you and that scares the shit outta them!
Also it’s important to note that some men cheat for the thrill. They might like the excitement it brings in their life. Now, there is NO excuse for cheating, but it’s important to think about reasons why it happens. Some guys cheat with another female simply because the woman they are with does not support them in the way that another female does. Or another female is seen as an adventure whereas their relationship has gone stale.

Fantasizing about someone else is normal, though. We all, men and women are human. Think about the women who swoon celebrities and certain athletes and vice versa. BUT if you are thinking about another woman constantly, that’s an entire different ball game. Especially if you start wondering how it would be to be sexual with them. Like I said above, it’s normal to think other people are attractive but if you find yourself DRAWN to them, then my guy, you only married the woman who was in front of you, at the time you were ready, not the woman who you were meant to be with. That’s another reason why dating apps don’t work for this- you end up settling. Also, it’s important to note that high quality men and women are NOT on dating apps, only those who want to hook up and end up being folks side pieces are on those apps. Think about the Lamborghini for a minute. Have you ever wondered why you never see commercials for the Lamborghini Countach super car on television? That’s because Lamborghini doesn’t believe the company needs commercials. The product is so good it sells itself. That’s why those relationships from dating apps today don’t last- you are selling yourself and telling others how valuable you are, when you should never have to SELL YOUR WORTH!

In closing, remember that there is a difference between a diamond ring and a chicken nugget. Don’t just settle for someone who is going to only “put up with you.” Be with that person who is going to make you a better version of yourself. I know it’s hard out there, I get it, but settling only causes you heartache in the end. Guys, look for the rare breed, she is out there. Don’t only want basic, want that girl who is extra. She’s gonna be there for you when you need her the most. Ladies, don’t just settle for a guy who promises you the stars in the sky. Settle for a guy who is going to give you more than the bare minimum . After all, we’re all worth it!!

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You Might Be The Player, But I’m The Coach

First and Foremost, the new podcast is up and it’s for your ears only. CLICK HERE to listen.

Sorry, folks, no video podcast this week, maybe next week…

Fashion Segment

Now, some words may be centered off… that is because it’s Youtube Shorts. But the point being is that Hockey Boys Got It Going On! #FashionAve though, belongs to the NY Rangers. But the best dressed athlete is a NHL player. IF you haven’t seen the last 4 videos …. Here they are! They also are on my twitter feed.

Dating Segment ( a quickie – pun intended)

You can tell a lot about an athlete and his character, what he values, etc by who he follows on IG. Guys who are superficial, narcissistic and materialistic will ALWAYS follow the girls on IF we are half naked in their profile pics AND they will NEVER post about the girl who they are with ONLY story her so others can slide into their DMS and they can slide into theirs. Also athletes who have private IG accounts I would be worried about- that shows 1) they hide shit 2) they can’t handle the social media trolls.
Also if a girl goes out with you for coffee, pizza, shopping at Target, the girl is into you and only cares about spending time with you- she’s not into you for what you can give her- she’s into you for YOU!
I talk more about this on the podcast – LINK On top of this post!

If you saw the racy video of the panties on Twitter…. I talk about it in the podcast. (give you guys a creative hint for Valentine’s Day!)

As always I have my fashion brand where you can purchase sweatshirts/T-shirts I created. CLICK This wonderful link to go to that site.

And you can SHOP MY CLOSET! – and yes, some panties. …

I believe women should always find the classiest way to empower their sexuality – The devilish girl coming out to play… so if you can’t handle it, then don’t click the link.
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Do You Know What It Takes?

Recently, someone asked me, ” What is the bare minimum in a relationship?”

That question is loaded one simply because most people don’t quite understand that your standards need to be higher than the bare minimum, which you should be getting anyway.
They put in minimum investment in the relationship, while expecting you to do everything for them. They are only looking to use your good intentions to get the maximum benefits out of you. Bare minimum-ing someone means exactly what it says: you’re only giving them the bare minimum of yourself. The bare minimum of your time, effort, attention, commitment, and emotions. My advice to everyone is to never settle your standards and stoop low for someone ONLY giving you the bare minimum. Here are some examples of someone only doing the bare minimum:

1) A person who respects your boundaries
2) A person who doesn’t demand to know all your passwords or snoop through your phone
3)Someone who likes cuddling or talking when you’re together than scrolling through their phone
4) Someone who gives compliments without being asked
5) A person who remembers your birthday or at least keeps it listed where they can be reminded
6) A person who always finds time to be with you
7)A person who says sorry when they are wrong
8)Giving compliments is not doing a lot. But Giving One Without being told to do that is what they should be doing.

Those are prime examples of the bare minimum that everyone in a relationship should be doing. But IF they also if They Only make an effort to keep you around, and your relationship never grows, that is also a cause for alarm. Why? Because they are only doing the bare minimum and it’s mostly like They act like a roommate with whom you have sex with. They don’t make any effort for romance or adventure at all.

People tend to think that expectations are standards and those two things are totally different. For example, I expect to be treated with respect is not a standard but an expectation. I expect him to be loyal, caring, compassionate, loving, honest, etc. again, Those are not standards. Expectations are the ideas we have about how we want certain situations to turn out or some people to be. Standards, however, are a level of quality that we set for ourselves that serve as a basis for good judgment.

I never tell guys what exactly i am looking for because if I tend to tell them what my standards are, then they tend to do them with no intention of staying with me and only finding a loophole to use me in some way. This way they have to put in the work for the entire relationship not knowing what exactly my standards are until we take the relationship to the next level. if we break up then that means they didn’t live up to my standards, seriously.

i know what i bring to the table and what I bring is rare. i am ultra supportive. i am ultra kind, caring and compassionate. i am smart, sexy, passionate, adventurous, creative, and a go-getter. i don’t have time for guys who don’t see that in me and who don’t want me to be an even better version of who I am.
I also want to make a guy want to be a better version of himself. I want a guy who is going to want build something together as a team, not someone who is just out for the ride.
So, do you think you have what it takes?

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Stalking On Social Media Is Not Cool

I seriously need to learn how to speak stupid since most people don’t understand that they can’t keep crossing people’s boundaries and expect that to be okay.

Stalking is a course of conduct directed at a specific person that would cause a reasonable person to feel fear. Unfortunately social media stalking has become so normalized and I don’t mean spying on someone by looking at what they are posting and what they are saying. I mean flat out stalking. You post something, they reply. You talk to someone else, they interrupt the conversation by forcing themselves within the conversation. You flirt with someone, they act all jealous by saying something they think is funny when it’s rude.

You get the gist of what I am saying. That is NOT normal. That is NOT acceptable. That is stalking plain and simple.

What is worse is when they start Dming you to gaslight and manipulate you into talking to them when you are trying your best to avoid them and avoid the drama that goes along with that. Remember, Gaslighting is when they insist you said or did things you know you didn’t do. Call you “too sensitive” or “crazy” when you express your needs or concerns. Often people gaslight because being right allows them to validate themselves. Gaslighting is a form of manipulation. They are trying to get you to feel that you are at fault not them for their behavior.

There are boundaries that NO ONE should EVER cross when on social media and that making someone feel uncomfortable on a social media platform. Sometimes we do things without knowing that we are being that way and then there people who clearly know what they are doing and they don’t care how they make others feel. I have boundaries on line and no one is allowed to cross them. I don’t care who they hell you are, if you make me question why I am following you, why I am talking to you and why I am allowing you to follow me, then I act quickly and I block your ass.

There are certain social media etiquette rules that people tend to forget, so the reality is, social media is social interaction. It’s not just like real life; it is real life. So act accordingly by asking yourself before posting anything: Would I be comfortable saying this face to face? In the ‘real’ world, would you randomly approach an acquaintance and ask them for a favor?” Would you jump into a conversation with strangers without some context? Accept a gift without saying ‘thank you’?” Just because you are online doesn’t mean that these real life rules don’t apply. IF someone is PUBLICLY flirting with someone and YOU ARE NOT THE PERSON THEY ARE FLIRTING WITH STAY OUT OF THE CONVERSATION! Just because it’s a public forum, like Twitter, doesn’t mean that people need your 2 cents with EVERY SINGLE TWEET! When you do that you look like a jealous asshole who can’t contain him/herself and think you need to part of the conversation when it doesn’t concern YOU!

When you follow people, on ANY platform DO NOT LIKE OLD PHOTOS. That is the biggest stalking red flag. Do not belittle others, downgrade others or bully others on a public forum. First off it’s just rude and uncalled for. Secondly it does not make you look like a tough guy/girl, it makes you look small and insecure.

Know when to comment and when to be part of a conversation. There are many times that I see people having a serious conversation or they are so engrossed in the conversation on Twitter or even Facebook that I don’t bother to get involved. I will read the conversation, but I know my place. I know WHEN to comment and WHEN to stay out. I also know HOW to be an adult in a conversation which means that if you can’t talk to me nicely, and you start acting childish, I automatically block you.

Don’t be afraid to mute people or block them. You should NEVER feel uncomfortable using ANY platform and if someone is making you feel that way, you have EVERY right to protect your sanity and your boundaries.

Social media should be a place where you meet new friends, network, entertain others and also advertise businesses. Let’s all try to keep it that way.

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Starting 2023 With A Bang

WARNING: Clicking this video will make you drool.

Well, Hello Captain!

This here and the pinstriped suit that Jacob wore last game have been his 2 best!
Here he looks incredibly dapper, chic, and a little rough-edged. The Scruff on his face, the open long jacket… his tie all bring together his look. Mama Mia!

Bread loves his pinstriped suit as well, and has that pizzazz that only he can have when wearing it. The best thing is that he has the jacket buttoned which show you his broad-shouldered silhouette.

Julien has incredible style! Here he has a great color combo – but what does it for me is the tie with the belt and NO jacket. The last picture of him shows that he can be laidback but aslso edgy in his attire.

Braden Schneider knows how to make a suit look good on him. It’s a checkered suit, which most guys can’t pull off, but the tie and open jacket make it look amazing on him.

Guys on this team have the knack of picking out greats that pull the entire look together. ( Igor, Kakko and Kravy)

Foxy is sleek and sophisticated as you would predict- no tie and he is wearing a T-shirt under his button down shirt- that adds mystery. He also has that scruff on his face which adds the rough-edge to him. He looks like he can be on the cover of GQ.

Vinny T- has a unique style all of his own- wearing checkered suits, interesting ties, but in this video he shows you how he can putt it off without the tie, which is VERY impressive.

Then of course Ryan Lindgren. He projects himself as someone who is successful and reliable. The best thing about his blue suit is that, there are different ways to dress it up and look freaking incredible each time.
In this video, notice how he takes a plain man’s dress shirt ( not a button down shirt) and unbuttons the top 2 buttons on it, keeps the jacket open with NO tie. This makes him irresistible.

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Buying Lingerie for Christmas? Here’s a hack. You’ll thank me later.

2 days left shopping and I can bet your bottoms that the mall is filled with men trying to figure out what to get their wives, girlfriends, or partners. Besides, Valentine’s Day, the other holiday that guys buy lingerie is Christmas.
Now, why a guy wants to spend so much money on stuff that their girl is only going to wear 5 minutes before it’s ripped off, is still a mystery to me. Plus, most of the time they don’t buy lingerie that fits her personality or that she would actually wear, but what they want to see her in.

If you do intend to buy your woman lingerie here are 2 hacks that you can thank me for later.

1) If still intend to go to Victoria’s Secret the best thing to do is see if your girl still has coupons lying around for free panty with purchase and without purchase. If not, then before you make your trip to the store make sure you see what type of panties she wears and what size she is- buy the style SHE wears.
1a) If she is into yoga, Pilates, and fitness, then buy her a sexy and useful sports bra- to top it off that MATCH a pair of panties. Think about how thoughtful she will think you are being.
2) IF you want to really impress her, go to Macy’s. There they have a section called Backstage. They sell panties of name brands for HALF off the price. Buy a 3 piece set, 5 piece set for under $25. Lacy, sexy, useful and not much money went into buying it.
Then go to CVS or Target and get empty boxes. Take them and places them 1 on top of another int he box. BOOM! She will be impressed and you will get sexy panties PLUS she can wear them whenever.

Now don’t forget to throw away the hanger the panties come on… you don’t want her to see it. Above are the Steve Madden Panties I bought myself for $14.99 compared to the $60 they cost. Then at VS I got a free panty to match a sports bra that really looks chic and comfy.

It’s all about showing her that you are thoughtful – remember it’s a gift for HER.

Any questions? Need shopping advice? Hit me up! DMs are open

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Dating, Sex, and all that Jazz

I started writing about dating back in 2008, back when online dating started. I said back then that it was a crazy idea that was going to get folks into trouble, and in 2022, I am still correct.
Dating via looking at a dating app is such a superficial and careless way to date. Period.
You are trusting some dude on the other end of the app with your heart, your body, your emotions, and your wallet. When more than half the time that dude is either a two timer, rapist, ex-criminal, scam artist, sex offender, or just a plain douche bag looking to hook up.
Dating shouldn’t be casual, either. I never quite understood how someone could just “casually” date someone while doing all the things that a couple does while dating. If you don’t have the time to devote to building something meaningful, then there is no point to dating. Period. Dating is more than just having fun in the sheets too. I mean, yes, sex is part of dating as it should be, but if you develop feelings for the other person and they don’t feel the same, you can end up getting hurt. Not to mention that you just wasted precious time with someone who didn’t care about having a relationship with you, they just wanted to have sex with you as in “Friends with benefits” and “casually” hang out with you when they have “time.”

Recently on Twitter some dude reached out to me via DM since he listens to my podcast all the time, and asked me, “What is it really like to date you?” That question is not an easy question to answer, seriously. Sure, I am fun, adventurous, spontaneous, have high energy, and am seriously easy going until you cross me, but how do you really answer that question? So in my sassy and sarcastic way, I answered it this way:

The pros and cons of dating me are ironically my mouth.

There I said it. #sarcasm but really the truth.

I’m not going to be known as a woman who was afraid to open her mouth and speak up against hate, and I know what I bring to the table and I am proud of being that rare breed in today’s society where you need to be a woman who is “submissive and flaky” to get a guy. At the same time, when I mention this, guys automatically think “slutty” and like I have said before, the fact that guys want girls to act this way and girls think they need to act slutty to get noticed by that athlete or by that guy they have their eyes on, is just completely trash. You can be sassy, sweet, seductive and sensual while at the same time being classy. That is the woman a real man will want anyway. Boys wants slutty. I don’t want a boy, I want a man. Period. You want to be treated like the classy bitch you are- not a doormat.

As I talk about trash, I also think about all the porn I have seen on Twitter in the last few months and I have to say it is the most distasteful thing to ever post on a social media site. Porn is a billion dollar industry and still is, but to post that on a social media site where kids are, and where folks go to have a conversation is so uncalled for. Now I am certainly no prude, as I talk about sex and if you read my best seller, “Hello Love Where’s Cupid 2nd Ed” I told readers of the most interesting positions to try. Yes, Back in the day as a full time blogger, I wrote for many online sites that talked about sex and people would message me and ask me for new things to try in the bedroom. I wrote for a site like Cosmo, called Rant Dating, for those who are interested to know. It doesn’t exist anymore but it was fun to work on, especially when I interviewed a condom company and did an “influencer” post for them before we even knew what a social media influencer was!

Also I have mentioned of course how the TV show, “Sex and the City” changed how women viewed sex, as it has always been a touchy subject when it came to the topic. But there are places to put it and places not to. And if that’s what you’re into, great. I have no problem with it. The problem I have is the fact that people are dumb enough to not only post it on Twitter, but then retweet it. Here is the social media tip that some need: When you Retweet something EVERY ONE of YOUR FOLLOWERS get to see that on their feed. This is NOT what your followers want to see. Now, if you want to create a DM group conversation on the porn you love to watch, go for it.

Just keep it classy on Twitter.

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I’m next level so legit with all my chic!

This particular blog post is broken down in 3 segments – the Podcast with Link, The Fashion segment and the dating segment. A little something for everyone!

*** Podcast Segment and Link CLICK HERE ****

The Fashion Segment

Here are links to the latest fashion videos. 1 is ALL NY Rangers and the other is titled the men of the NHL

Also, we continue the countdown from the NY Rangers 2016 team of the TOP dressers! We’re up to Number 2: That is no one other than Mats Zuccarello Here are the photos:

Look at how chic, dapper and playful . Look at how he can make a suit look REALLY good without a tie! He wears the vest over the shirt and that brings it all together.

Here he is classy and organized.

I ALWAYS talk about how the TIE brings the ENTIRE suit together. Not to mention his shoes. Accessories are so important, even for men.

Even with casual clothing he brings the swagger A simple T-shirt and jogger pants look chic and polished.

DATING SEGMENT

There’s a lot to be said about a girl who isn’t afraid to go after what she wants. Sometimes that in itself rubs people the wrong way, especially when you are extremely secure within yourself. I posted this quote on Twitter the other day, and it’s so true. “Lowkey, to date me you gotta be mentally strong because I’ll push all your buttons. Even ones you didn’t even know you had.”

We have discussed in the past about how guys are simply afraid of dating an independent woman and I have mentioned that for athletes, an independent woman is the best match for them simply because they need to focus on their careers and it is extremely demanding!

Here’s reasons to date an independent woman ( like me)

First thing is to understand that her actions are deliberate and there’s a reason behind them. The secondly thing you need to know is that an independent woman isn’t afraid to speak her mind! She is also going to be very loyal and very supportive. Being that I am a former cheerleader and have been coaching cheerleading for years, this statement is truth. I will always want my man to be successful at whatever he does and I will push him as best as I can to go after his dreams.
Dating an independent woman doesn’t mean that she won’t be dependent on her partner- no, we depend on our partners to provide love, attention, affection and also support us as we chase our dreams, we just aren’t clingy. I don’t look to a relationship for validation at all. I look to a relationship as a team. To some this may be surprising, even though we enjoy challenges and competition, we’re usually uninterested in playing games or chasing a crush. If we flirt we you, that means we want you. If you take too long to reciprocate, we move on to someone who will. That may seem, “mean,” but we shouldn’t have to wait forever for you to make that move to make us official.

I have asked guys out in the past, or at least hinted that I wanted to go out with someone. Then of course, still, some guys have to be the one to ask you out. Okay, I’ll bite, and I will sit back and watch you and wait for awhile, but if you wait way too long, even though I am extremely attracted to you and feel sexual tension, I will go and pay attention to someone else and move on from you, even if that kills me. Girls like me don’t come around often. Why should I have to sit around and wait around for you to finally decide that you want to go out with me?

I know what I bring to the table. I am a rare breed. (As are true independent women are!)

The best advice that I can give guys is this: If a girl wants to BUILD with you and is SUPPORTIVE while she’s building up her own dreams, don’t give her a chance to even look at another guy. If she ONLY wants to build with YOU… don’t be a jackass and let your ego or pride or anyone allow you to mess it up.

Also, I always laugh when I hear that other guys are whispering about me to the guy that I want. It’s like they are so incredibly jealous that they tell him not to take the chance of a lifetime with me since they can’t have me. Like, how much of an asshole of person do you have to be that you don’t want your teammate or friend to be happy?
This is why I stay out of telling my friends who to ask out or date. I am not the one who lives with the decision- they are! And I don’t want to be the reason they missed out on a great experience going out with someone they want to because of how I feel.

And of course the jealous fuck girls will go out of their way to make themselves “known” in the process- ( If you listened to my podcast I talked about this!) This is why I only date guys with the warrior mentality. They too are a strong & independent people who aren’t intimidated by me. We actually can have a lot of fun together and like I said on the podcast, if you are into adventure, sarcasm, and want that personal cheerleader in every which way possible – you’d jump up on the chance of lifetime. Anybody could be good to you, you need a bad girl to blow your mind. Remember, Be savage, not average. Unless, you just want basic.

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The Diary Recordings

You can listen to this week’s #NYR podcast simply by clicking HERE

Michael Grabner is our # 3 of the best dressed for the team in 2016 ( Remember, I am not picking guys that are STILL on the team now) The first picture shows you how Michael Grabner was a classic dresser and he wanted to wear clothing that will never go out of style. The the second picture I would describe as The Rebel. ( See how he pushed the two together here : hockey and fashion!?

COMING up on the Fashion segment …. we will visit other teams and see how they compare against the NY Rangers. And maybe have a competition with it.

Here is the latest Fashion video I created: CLICK HERE

AND here’s the video I mentioned in the podcast- the appreciation video on Ryan Lindgren – CLICK

Here’s the Twitter Video for Ryan- he’s a Norris Trophy Nominee in my eyes – Lucky Star

COMING UP with the Fashion Segment