When Fiction Becomes Non Fiction

Here I am, trying to change the culture of the #NHL AND get a written policy protecting women of sexual assault/domestic abuse and these authors continue to use hockey players in their plots. AND then expose its graphic content to actual hockey players which makes it seem okay.
There are 4 books “Ice Breaker,” “Collide,” “Cocky Score,” and, “Unsteady” that recently got my attention.
So, since the authors of these books did not do their research, let me enlighten folks for a moment. I don’t want to her well these ladies “just wrote a story,” that is gaslighting and then deferring responsibility and accountability. That is also saying that what I am doing is not valid. Writing a book and using a hockey player in the way they have in their books, makes it ten times harder to try and change the culture let alone try and get a written policy because no one sees or thinks what they are doing isn’t right. For example, In “Ice Breaker,” women want to read about romance, they want to be swept up so to speak, but what they actually find that all the sex starts to get in the way of the romance as it becomes more and more gratuitous, and THAT is part of the HOCKEY CULTURE! Safe to say I am not happy with this representation and the ideas it gives hockey players, let alone women.
Then of course, “Cocky Score,” which the title ALONE yells HOCKEY CULTURE! the female character is ridiculously shy and quiet; the male character is stoic and overly confident. Why do we think this type of romance novel is STILL okay?
In “Collide,” there was barely any hockey but this was a friends with benefits type romance which, doesn’t send a great message to women and sends the wrong message to men. In the book, “Unsteady,” the spicy scenes were not pleasant, i found myself cringing a lot while reading them and all I could think about was how unpleasant it must have been for that women who was raped by the World’s Junior Team. This comes off as a gentle romance between two people who are floundering in bad relationships and need to find real love- something that hockey culture can relate too, is the fact that the men of the NHL put themselves in “bad relationships” only to think cheating is the way to solve them.

What do these books have to do with the NHL?

These books portray women in a bad light and justify a hockey players actions they take. Now, there is no rape, sexual abuse, or domestic violence in these books, but the fact that they all portray hockey players as hypermasculine and using sexual relationships as a way of saying that is “romantic” is obscene. SEX has NOTHING to do with ROMANCE. We need to STOP having even female characters of novels put into uncomfortable situations and that it’s okay to sexualize women, especially in hockey.

In the NHL, you have women who get sexually harassed either by being a fan or even working in the league, which is highly male-dominated. Did you know that the front office of the NY Rangers, is only 6% female and that there were NO females that were on the draft floor this past June- as for MANY teams in the NHL. And just recently the Seattle Kraken hired Jessica Campbell, as an asst coach which sent social media into a sexism frenzy?

This is another reason why I am fighting to have the National Hockey League ( NHL) to have a policy in place to protect all wives, girlfriends, and staff of NHL teams against these crimes that DO HAPPEN IN THEIR LEAGUE!

Not only am I talking about rape and sexual abuse, but let’s not forget about domestic violence,, which has occurred within the NHL. According to National Domestic Violence Hotline, Over 1 in 3 women (35.6%) in the US have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

The hockey culture and how they treat women is disgusting! The social aspect of the sport supports issues related to misogyny, sexism, homophobia, and xenophobia. Let me also add that there is a HIGH number of hockey players who cheat on their wives/girlfriends by having a second phone with a different number and using trainers/staff to hide it. So when we are ready a “love story” as in the book Unsteady, take it with a grain a salt.
In the book, “Ice Breaker” the question is asked, “She could never like a hockey player, right? ” These books portray a “Steamy Hockey Romance,” but what these authors don’t get is this:

An anonymous quote from a hockey player on how the culture continues because whatever is SAID in the locker room, stays there. ( Same concept as VEGAS)
“There’s stuff that happens in the dressing room, obviously, talking about girls, parties, whatever is the case, that happens in there, that sort of stays in there for the most part. Well, on good teams it stays in there. Whether it’s who you’re hooking up with, if you got sent pictures from some girl, everyone sees them. So it stays in the dressing room and it’s a team builder. It’s not to embarrass people in front of the outside world.”

THIS ONLY GETS WORSE:
This locker room culture in THE NHL encourages and rewards particular performances of masculinity. And players who don’t adhere to implicit and explicit organizational expectations risk being ostracized.

If authors intend to use hockey players as the main characters for their books, can they learn to separate sex from romance and can the women NOT be reduced to mere love interests for the male protagonists and nothing more?

The Top 5 Trends for Fall Fashion 2024 

Wherever your fall fashion may take you, you can add some stylish staples to your closet without breaking your budget. The days are passing by quickly and fall is almost upon us, so we thought we would take a moment and share some of the new fall trends of the season.

  1. One of the biggest trends for the Fall of 2024, is the use of voluminous outerwear made of faux fur, feathers, fabric, or yarn. Also snuggly and stylish, ski sweaters aren’t only for the slopes anymore.
  2. Fashion from decades past comes and goes, and this season, the ’60s just called and are back with all things mod, turtlenecks, baby doll dresses, The micro-mini and the swing coat, among other pieces of fashion that you will see making a comeback this fall. 
  3. This year will we see extravagant collars as last year we saw big sleeves (which are still in fashion this year but the emphasis will be on the collar!) 
  4. Beyoncé has magic powers,even when it comes to fashion.  With her latest album, Cowboys Carter, she has brought back the style of wearing cowboy hats, fringe everything  and cowboy boots. So it’s safe to say, western dressing is here to stay no matter if you live on the East Coast, West Coast, or down South. 
  5. And finally, one of my favorite looks, is making a comeback and that is leopard print everything. Your wardrobe basics can be a little edgier, making them some of the most versatile and hard-working pieces., with leopard print. You can have heels, boots, sneakers, jackets, shirts, dresses and even pants that will become your stand out pieces.   I still have a leopard jacket from the early 2000’s that I love to wear from timeout time, not to mention sneakers and heels. 

Some of my favorite places to shop for fashion in LBI, Rockland County, where I live and NYC that I highly recommend are: 

The Wink Shop located at 1903 Long Beach Blvd Suite 7, In Surf City, NJ

    The service is amazing and the clothing they have in their boutique is on trend. 

    They have the cutest dresses and not to mention some really nice gifts for every occasion. 

    Society beach located at Long Beach Blvd, In Surf City, NJ

      Get lost in paradise in the hottest looks. They have on trend dresses, cute lounge wear and have FREE CITY sweatshirts which have to be the softest I have ever felt and most luscious.  The service is also remarkable. 

      Tia Maria Boutique located at 104 Maple Ave, New City, NY

      I have so many cute and trendy pieces from her boutique. The clothing and accessories she has in her boutique are causal and semi-dressy clothing as well as the cutest sweaters, sweatshirts and rompers. Tia is amazing as is her service.

      Maria Luisa Boutique located at 77 South Broadway, Nyack NY

      Maria Luisa has footwear to clothing and more. They have many of the regular fashion staples with the focus on global/ethical products. It really is a great mix, not to mention they also have a good selection of gifts.
      The people who work here bring great energy and a great vibe!

      Shop Untitled, located at 27 W 8th Street, New York City

      They have a lot of different designer brands from desert warrior to punk fashion. IN other words, their clothing selection is amazing! Super cute and comfortable items to chose from. Super friendly staff and very clean.

      There are MANY others to shop at but these are my ultimate favorites! 

      So whatever your style is, the Fall is planning to not only be about cooler days, but also about making all of us look cooler in every way! 

      Being Released This Fall

      The Book That Gary Bettman and company doesn’t want me to write.

      This book will be written in 2 parts.

      The first part will be my creativity in motion. Athletes from some NHL teams will know or maybe will know that it is about them.

      Part 2 is the story of the NHL from a Female Perspective

      IF you follow me on Tiktok, Twitter X, or Youtube, hints will be posted for part 1.


      Caffeine and Chocolate: our two main food groups.

      I can’t believe that I haven’t posted in a month! That’s crazy, but then again that is how my life sometimes goes.
      I have been traveling for cheerleading so now that the cheer season is over (well the travel part) I can sit down and update y’all about some exciting things that have happened in the past month and of course talk about the elephants in the room.

      CHEER:

      After working with this company for the past year where I sell my cheerleading curriculum- I am parting ways with them since I am developing my own cheerleading website working with another company to provide credit card processing payments with it.
      The site will have the coaches curriculum needed to run a cheerleading team and program. Plus tools, scoresheet assistance, merch and of course choreography.
      I think I choosing to do a blog every now and then just to list updates, but that will be on the site as well.

      Podcast

      I am still doing the audio only podcast through Spotify but I decided not to do subscriptions with it simply because A) I don’t want to have to record 2 podcasts B) I love sharing things with everyone, why limit it to you have to pay to hear this… ( I think that is stupid and its unnecessary but I thank those who did pay to subscribe!)

      AND… My podcast is up for an Award W3 for best host with the guest I had on back in October! Some previous winners included: A 60 Minutes Podcast from Paramount Company and GoDaddy won an award for one of their original series…

      BUT… I have joined Rumble and will be doing a separate podcast there besides posting some fun videos… The podcast there will be called The Revenge Tour and that will start some time in May.

      I will be posting on my YoutubeChannel my series, “Behind the Scenes: The Diary of A Social Gal” this week and next week.

      Ah yes, the elephant in the room. If you want to see the most judgemental, attention seekers, losers then you need to go to Twitter X.
      Social media trolls are like those annoying characters from fairytales who live under bridges and try to cause trouble for passersby. But instead of riddles and tolls, they use inflammatory messages and outrageous lies to disrupt online conversations and get a rise out of people. They don’t want to admit it, but they are fans in denial AND that I live rent free in their little heads.
      But can I admit something? I love them. Not all the time. But they really strive to prove their insecure and jealous while at the same time they make me laugh. You have to love folks who take the time to point out YOUR imperfections while they ignore theirs.

      Oh, I have a surprise announcement …. shhh… so if you follow me on IG, Twitter, Youtube, Rumble, Tiktok, and Facebook… you’ll get it. The announcement will be different on each platform. …

      Mind Over Matter

      Yes- the rumors are true! My book, “The Championship Mindset” has been published and you can purchase it ONLY here (C lick here) Barnes and Noble dot com!
      A champion mindset is a mindset that allows you to perform your best. Anyone that works on adopting this mindset will not only get better at what they do, but they will have the chance to be the best at what they do. Mindset is the biggest factor in success. Your mindset impacts each and every decision that you take. Whether you are an athlete or not, you can acquire The Championship Mindset!

      A CONTEST / GIVEAWAY is coming soon!

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      Boss Moves Only

      My new book, “The Championship Mindset” is available for download now on my teachers pay teachers site. Click the photo to go directly to the site to purchase!

      The paperback/workbook will be available by the end of the month.

      A champion mindset is a mindset that allows you to perform your best. Anyone that works on adopting this mindset will not only get better at what they do, but they will have the chance to be the best at what they do. Mindset is the biggest factor in success. Your mindset impacts each and every decision that you take.

      The first episode of the podcast is out too! You can listen for free!

      Subscribe to my Youtube Channel and follow my series: The Diary Of A Social Gal

      The NHL and it’s Misogynist Behavior

      It’s no secret that A) I am a hockey fan and B) have had my share of controversy with my podcast – which I will mention later, but in its creepy, disgusting way, is all tied together. 
      For those who aren’t hockey fans, there was a story that broke last week in regards to a sexual assault on a female back in 2018 at the World Junior Championship with Team Canada.

      Here’s the background on this case:
      In March of 2023, TSN’s Rick Westhead reported that The Heritage Committee had unanimously voted for a motion directing Hockey Canada to hand over law firm Henein Hutchison’s final report detailing its investigation into the alleged sexual assault. 

      Police investigators in London, Ont., said in December of 2022 that they had “reasonable grounds” to believe that five members of the 2018 Canada World Juniors hockey team sexually assaulted a woman in a hotel room after a Hockey Canada fundraising gala, according to a court filing to the Ontario Court of Justice. 

      The sexual assault allegations initially were investigated by London Police in 2018, however, the case was closed in February 2019 without any charges. The investigation was reopened in 2022.

      In April of 2022, a woman filed a lawsuit against Hockey Canada, the Canadian Hockey League, and eight unnamed CHL players, stating she was sexually assaulted in a London, Ont. hotel room in June of 2018 following a Hockey Canada event.

      The woman elected not to name any of the players involved, and stated in her original claim that it was eight “players for, and members of the CHL and Hockey Canada, including but not limited to members of the Canada U20 Men’s Junior Hockey Team.”

      According to the lawsuit, the woman met the players at a bar, who were in London, Ont. for the Hockey Canada Foundation Gala & Golf event on June 18, 2018. She met one of the players, who is referred to as John Doe 1, who bought her alcoholic beverages. The woman said she was separated from her friend group as she became more intoxicated and eventually left the bar and went to a hotel with John Doe 1. 

      At the hotel, the two ” engaged in sexual acts” in John Doe 1’s hotel room. The woman said that after this, “John Doe 1 invited the remainder of the John Doe defendants into the room without the knowledge or consent of the Plaintiff.”

      The woman said in the claim that over the next several hours, John Does 1-8 engaged in several sexual acts “which collectively constituted sexual abuse and assault of the Plaintiff.” During these assaults, “the Plaintiff experienced an ongoing apprehension of imminent physical harm of a sexual nature. The actions of the John Doe Defendants caused terror and fear in the Plaintiff’s mind.” 

      In the claim, the woman states that she could not give consent to any of the actions because of how intoxicated she was. In addition, the group of eight would not let her leave the room, despite multiple attempts by the victim.

      The woman claimed that Hockey Canada knew about the allegations and did nothing about them.

      Hockey Canada stated on Dec. 20 that their investigation had concluded and an adjunction panel would determine if any sanctions need to be imposed. They would keep the results confidential as the London Police continues with its investigation. 

      In addition, Hockey Canada said last year that no player from the 2018 World Juniors team is eligible to play for Canada’s national team in any IIHF event for the foreseeable future.  ”Senior officials at Hockey Canada… claimed they didn’t know who was involved. It was a statement as ridiculous as it was disheartening and sickening.” 

      After the initial closing of the investigation, Hockey Canada began to receive backlash from Canada’s political figures and sponsors, in addition to fans of the sport. Especially since they quietly paid off the woman involved.

      The NHL said it would conduct its own independent investigation into what happened because some active players were on that team and attended the gala. Commissioner Gary Bettman pledged to release the findings once completed, but as we saw with the hush hush and lack of transparency with what went down with the Blackhawks, we know fully well that this too will be “swept under the rug”
      It’s disappointing the NHL doesn’t have the guts to own it, instead putting out a potential new franchise in Utah, to deflect from this breaking story, it’s pathetic really. And what I think far worse is the timing of how the NHL released it “mental health awareness” campaign to allow guys to have a leave of absence from their team and that too, was used to protect the five guys that are being charged with rape. The five guys are: NHL players Michael McLeod and Cal Foote of the New Jersey Devils, Carter Hart of the Philadelphia Flyers and Dillon Dubé of the Calgary Flames. Former NHL player Alex Formenton, who now plays with Swiss club HC Ambrì-Piotta, is the fifth player. Which brings me to the male fans disgusting reaction to this on social media.

      This is why women don’t want to speak up. Being raped is the one of the WORST things a woman can feel and go through and these men on social media are more concerned about their hockey teams, defending the guys, and to me, the teams who knew about this and covered it up helped move the players around is despicable.
      As a woman I can vouch that we are taught how to defend ourselves against being raped, when how about we actually teach men NOT TO RAPE!?

      Of course women who are hockey fans have to endure being called, “puckbunnies” because yeah, heaven forbid a girl likes the sport for the sport. What these aholes on social media don’t realize is that throwing around a term like “puck bunny” is the same as calling them a slut…it’s not any classier and it certainly doesn’t make you look like any more of a real fan- it actually makes you look like loser! 
      Most guys feel threaten, by a female who know her shit and is not afraid to tell it. As if women don’t face enough struggle earning respect period in the world today, in the sport of hockey it is 100% worse! Men should be less worried about women making them look bad all awhile they are looking like a catty high schooler for being concerned with their ‘extracurricular activities’. ( I say that with a lot of sarcasm!)

      Sexism is no stranger in hockey as it has been in football and even baseball.
      The hockey PR departments ACROSS the league HATE women. Yes, I said it and I stick with it. 62% of men are employed by NHL teams while a whopping 37% are women. Not surprised. And if you look at their roles, that’s even worse. 
      Women work the sidelines/benches. Do you see women on TNT at the desk? Do you see women on ESPN at the desk? Do you see women as the an analyst? 

      Do you see any woman in a high ranking position?  

      How many females do you think do an NHL podcast and are promoted by the NHL? 

      If you scope out X , you will find thousands of podcasts done by males, and their guests are usually who…. Other males.

      On my podcast, I had male guests. For example, one of them a crazy fan, and another was another podcast trying to get big names on his. He told me that he was going to have me on his podcast as that was the deal- I’d be on his he be on mine…. Do you think I was ever on his? 

      Because men don’t want to hear women talk hockey .

      If you look at some of the women that are hired …. The blonde chicks mind you. That’s the reason they are hired for their looks not for their intelligence. Women are hired so it doesn’t look like they are being discriminated against when, in fact, women are constantly discriminated against in the world of the national hockey league.. they even have this fake special day called women empowerment day…. Like they give two shits about women. 

      Going back to my podcast, And the guy that I knew in the PR department for the New York Rangers…. He knew Exactly that I was asking to have Jacob Trouba on my podcast, constantly ignored me, never responded, and then when the controversy hit X, instead of reaching out to me, like a man would do to see if he could fix anything or apologize, he unfollowed me on Instagram, unfollowed me on Facebook to pretend, as if he never knew who I was…. Oh I have screenshots.. 

      Trouba on the other hand, knew I was asking for him to be on my podcast, and instead of being a man and reaching out to me, decided to go on a podcast with men at the helm. Trouba showed you that he is sexist against women just as the PR department is…. Just as the New York Rangers organization is….. oh, and by the way, there is a sexual assault lawsuit against the owner, James Dolan. 

      I’ve always thought of James Dolan, as a very savvy businessman….. but you can kind of tie everything that’s happened with women in the Knicks and the Rangers organizations together…. don’t forget he’s also had Isaiah Thomas who was accused of sexual harassment, and then put him in charge of the WNBA’s team that used to play at MSG. He showed a lot of disregard for women.
      It would be a smart move for James Dolan if he actually showed some concern for women, and what women have to go through to be in sports industry. It would also make him look better with the news coming out of his sexual assault lawsuit.

      But you won’t see any other guy on the New York Rangers stand up against Trouba or stand up against what the New York Rangers PR department has done or for that matter stand up for women. No, they’ll just wear those stupid purple jerseys in March for women’s empowerment, and then auction them off for “charity” 

      That’s the sad part.
      And fans are no better.





      Say Hello to 2024

      I speak life into my manifestations.

      2024 is my year for abundance, prosperity, love, and success.
      (Say this affirmation every day this week!)

      You were meant to survive it. You know how to take an L and turn it into a win. You have the faith to see it where others can’t.

      Be Grateful.
      Believe.
      Manifest.
      And whatever you want you’ll get.

      Each Week I will share with you some inspiration as we all are on the road to having the championship mindset. 

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      Hi, You Can Call Me Karma

      We’ve made it to the end of 2023.

      We need to remind ourselves that this is a journey with ups and downs twists and turns, but that we need to stop looking at everything as a “when we get there” and enjoy the journey.

      So before the ball drops in Times Square, release what is no longer serving you.
      Move forward knowing that everything is working for your highest good.
      Walk into 2024 with vulnerability – learning to be comfortable with being uncomfortable.
      There are still going to be times when things won’t work out perfectly, and that is okay.
      But that is the point.

      Shift things in 2024 from wanting to it’s happening and there is NOTHING ANYONE can do to stop it from happening! They can bitch, they can troll, they can complain but what is meant for you will happen in its perfect timing!

      SUBSCRIBE to my podcast in 2024 to hear the message of the championship mindset. 
      (Also, hey, the behind the scenes stuff too!) 
      Let’s get excited! SO many AWESOME things are ABOUT to unfold in 2024! Follow my path and create yours.

      When I went into 2023 – I KNEW this year was going to be different and bring me so many new possibilities, opportunities, experiences, and adventures. The seeds were planted and now in 2024 it’s time to watch them bloom. When you walk your path doing it scared and doing it unprepared, your desires will guide you to where you need to go. This is the BEST PART!! 

      Live each day with gratitude realizing that is going to get you so much more than you can ever want or need.

      The obstacles are what we need.
      When we see the opponent on the ice, we don’t run from them, we just gain clarity as to what our next move is.
      Your only job in 2024 is to JUST BE.

      Congrats on getting through whatever it is that you got through in 2023… Now, let’s continue this journey together in 2024.

      Did you see me on TMZ?

      I did a segment o TMZ on Alec Bladwin …. go ahead and take a look. BTW… I am a content creator so I added to this video and made it a little retro. 
      In 2024 THIS IS THE APP that you should be using!
      here is my code to use! CLICK HERE FOR CODE

      If you don’t follow my podcast, here is the link to follow it and join me for the December 31st show. Do you how th social media platforms were ranked in the 2023? Do you know what trends are coming? Also a review of my year along with some surprises too! I also will be doing an IG LIVE on New Year’s Eve!

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      I will have a Christmas Blog for you Sunday. See y’all then!