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I’m the sexiest ex- you can never get back
Now that the fake holiday called “Valentine’s Day” has come and gone… here’s a little observation on it that is two-fold. 1) From someone who knows dating and 2) From someone who knows social media.
Let’s talk about athletes and social media, once again and add in Valentine’s Day.
If you read this blog religiously, and seriously you should be! (#Sarcasm) You know how I have mentioned time and time again about how athletes misuse use IG and social in general; especially when they are married and/or dating. So, if you are new to this blog I will mention it again. (But this is okay to repeat.)
When an athlete is seriously in love with a woman, and I mean seriously, he will POST her NOT just STORY her. He is tagging you in photos or posts because he wants to SHOW you off and is PROUD that you are his woman. He wants people to know that you’re his and he’s yours. There are no other females that he is entertaining nor want to entertain. If he ONLY putting you in a STORY, then he is protecting his options and he wants to LOOK single and not taken. And don’t fall for that, “I’m not big into social media,” or, “I like to keep my life private.” Those lines are just covers to keep his options open.
The thing though that these athletes forget is that if a woman really, really, really wants him, she is already know his entire history in like 6 minutes. So, when you aren’t posting the girl you are with that leaves A LOT of questions.
Throw in Valentine’s day to the mix.
I can’t even BEGIN to tell you just HOW many athletes from the NFL, NHL, NBA and MLB did NOT post up about their significant others. There were some that threw a story together… cool… but it was not posted. So I start to question about their relationships. Some even put their kids into the story as well and then, there were also some girlfriends from a specific NHL team that had a party and they had Miley Cyrus’s song, “Flowers” in the picture. Um, what? Why on Earth are you telling everyone that you can buy your own flowers when aren’t you still taken by an athlete that plays in the NHL? That was very, very strange.
Another quick observation was that 1 particular player I guess sent his girl jewelry and a love note and she took a photo of it next to a very strange photo of them in bed. Um… why?
So I guess all these girls and athletes want the world to think they are available and that they have options. And speaking of options…
When I really like a guy. I mean, really like him and I tell him that we should go out, give him my number, spoil him, etc and the guy just sits there and is undecided about being with me or not, I hate to break it to him but I’m not required to sit around and wait for him to decide if he is ready to date me, wants to date me or even just wants to be friends.
This girl has options.
So if another guy comes at me with this tool belt ready to work, don’t be surprised when your position is filled and you lose out on the best thing that could have happened to you. I’ll love on no matter how deep my feelings are for someone. And I may move on with someone you know.. (now, that’s the sassy bitch that I am at times, not all the time. Gotta remember I know how to play the game, and I play it better than most.)
And while we are on this subject… why do guys wait until they are ready? I hate to break to ya, but you’re never going to be fully ready and life is so damn short, why the hell wait and watch some other dude with the girl that you really like and who really likes you. That is so stupid!
PODCAST
If I’m gonna be a mess, I might just be a hot mess. I think that is the title of the latest podcast. You can listen HERE – I talk about the above as well as the latest spicy shit going on in the NY Rangers world, Twitter world, Dating world… with a couple juicy details and stories.
FASHION
The NY Rangers ARE Fashion Avenue! They all really can pull off ANY style.
Here are some fashion tips for men:
1) Always pick a different color tie to let your suit stand out. The tie almost ALWAYS brings the entire suit together.
2) If you are going to wear one color, Blue is a great color to wear simply because there are many shades of it and you can mix and match your suit, the shirt and tie with different combos.
3) Wearing the Beanie and Suit is just fire!
And while we are talking NY Rangers and Fashion can I just note that Jacob Trouba looking so freaking hot with the rough on his face? I mean seriously, he looks incredible! Also Ryan Lindgren is growing his facial hair again- anything that man does it ridiculously awesome! Panarin is even growing facial hair! So I guess there is a “contest” happening over which dude on the team is going to look the best with a little rough on their face. I have also said this: having a little rough on a man’s face, gives him a edge. It is so sexy and it is a complete turn on.
Do that with what you will.
Last podcast I showed a little clip of this… and people asked to see it. So here ya go.
Jacob… you have moves!!! And that is compliment coming from a cheer coach/choreographer! I love this!! Seeing this makes Jacob not just seen as a star hockey player, but as a person. Which most seem to forget that he is a person, not a robot playing a sport.
Dating, Sex, and all that Jazz
I started writing about dating back in 2008, back when online dating started. I said back then that it was a crazy idea that was going to get folks into trouble, and in 2022, I am still correct.
Dating via looking at a dating app is such a superficial and careless way to date. Period.
You are trusting some dude on the other end of the app with your heart, your body, your emotions, and your wallet. When more than half the time that dude is either a two timer, rapist, ex-criminal, scam artist, sex offender, or just a plain douche bag looking to hook up.
Dating shouldn’t be casual, either. I never quite understood how someone could just “casually” date someone while doing all the things that a couple does while dating. If you don’t have the time to devote to building something meaningful, then there is no point to dating. Period. Dating is more than just having fun in the sheets too. I mean, yes, sex is part of dating as it should be, but if you develop feelings for the other person and they don’t feel the same, you can end up getting hurt. Not to mention that you just wasted precious time with someone who didn’t care about having a relationship with you, they just wanted to have sex with you as in “Friends with benefits” and “casually” hang out with you when they have “time.”
Recently on Twitter some dude reached out to me via DM since he listens to my podcast all the time, and asked me, “What is it really like to date you?” That question is not an easy question to answer, seriously. Sure, I am fun, adventurous, spontaneous, have high energy, and am seriously easy going until you cross me, but how do you really answer that question? So in my sassy and sarcastic way, I answered it this way:
The pros and cons of dating me are ironically my mouth.
There I said it. #sarcasm but really the truth.
I’m not going to be known as a woman who was afraid to open her mouth and speak up against hate, and I know what I bring to the table and I am proud of being that rare breed in today’s society where you need to be a woman who is “submissive and flaky” to get a guy. At the same time, when I mention this, guys automatically think “slutty” and like I have said before, the fact that guys want girls to act this way and girls think they need to act slutty to get noticed by that athlete or by that guy they have their eyes on, is just completely trash. You can be sassy, sweet, seductive and sensual while at the same time being classy. That is the woman a real man will want anyway. Boys wants slutty. I don’t want a boy, I want a man. Period. You want to be treated like the classy bitch you are- not a doormat.
As I talk about trash, I also think about all the porn I have seen on Twitter in the last few months and I have to say it is the most distasteful thing to ever post on a social media site. Porn is a billion dollar industry and still is, but to post that on a social media site where kids are, and where folks go to have a conversation is so uncalled for. Now I am certainly no prude, as I talk about sex and if you read my best seller, “Hello Love Where’s Cupid 2nd Ed” I told readers of the most interesting positions to try. Yes, Back in the day as a full time blogger, I wrote for many online sites that talked about sex and people would message me and ask me for new things to try in the bedroom. I wrote for a site like Cosmo, called Rant Dating, for those who are interested to know. It doesn’t exist anymore but it was fun to work on, especially when I interviewed a condom company and did an “influencer” post for them before we even knew what a social media influencer was!
Also I have mentioned of course how the TV show, “Sex and the City” changed how women viewed sex, as it has always been a touchy subject when it came to the topic. But there are places to put it and places not to. And if that’s what you’re into, great. I have no problem with it. The problem I have is the fact that people are dumb enough to not only post it on Twitter, but then retweet it. Here is the social media tip that some need: When you Retweet something EVERY ONE of YOUR FOLLOWERS get to see that on their feed. This is NOT what your followers want to see. Now, if you want to create a DM group conversation on the porn you love to watch, go for it.
Just keep it classy on Twitter.
The Diary Recordings
You can listen to this week’s #NYR podcast simply by clicking HERE
Michael Grabner is our # 3 of the best dressed for the team in 2016 ( Remember, I am not picking guys that are STILL on the team now) The first picture shows you how Michael Grabner was a classic dresser and he wanted to wear clothing that will never go out of style. The the second picture I would describe as The Rebel. ( See how he pushed the two together here : hockey and fashion!?
COMING up on the Fashion segment …. we will visit other teams and see how they compare against the NY Rangers. And maybe have a competition with it.
Here is the latest Fashion video I created: CLICK HERE
AND here’s the video I mentioned in the podcast- the appreciation video on Ryan Lindgren – CLICK
Here’s the Twitter Video for Ryan- he’s a Norris Trophy Nominee in my eyes – Lucky Star
COMING UP with the Fashion Segment
Made You Look
As Meghan Trainer Sings:
I’ll make you double take soon as I walk away
Call up your chiropractor just in case your neck break
Ooh, tell me what you, what you, what you gon’ do, ooh
‘Cause I’m ’bout to make a scene, double up that sunscreen
I’m ’bout to turn the heat up, gonna make your glasses steam
Ooh, tell me what you, what you, what you gon’ do
So the Key to the #Fashion Game is brought to you by The New York Rangers
Fashion Ave in NYC is all about chic, style and keeping on point.
One myth about Fashion is that you have to spend a fortune to look good. That is not the case.
Dressing men for example, here are some awesome looks that you get a bang for your buck without having to break the bank. These are from the store Express – most are under $500
There are many different styles one can have, but the best ones are when you dress according to personality and not just doing what’s trendy.
The key also is matching the tie to your suit, but you can also wear a dressy shirt without a tie, and open the top button or have a low crew neck dressy shirt and open suit jacket. ( Pictures below)
Now, some fashion trends like suits for women, I really don’t like. I think a woman can really use the suit jacket as part of her look, but matching the pants with it, looks tacky to me. ( See below)
Taking the suit jacket and then accessorizing it with a skirt, or a different color pair of pants is the best way to go. Plus for women, we usually use our shoes in the same fashion as a man uses his ties to match or make a statement.
I always believe that fashion should be something that shows off your personality. I created a fashion line of off the trend style. Yes, you can style up T-shirts and Sweatshirts to anchor your personality and that is what the weekends are also for. Why wear something that may look good but doesn’t make YOU feel good?Why wear something that may be trending, but isn’t comfortable to wear?
Clothing should be fun, flirty, sassy, but also comfy.
That’s what Sassy Style Brand Is All About!
More #hockeyboys fashion coming next with some other teams.
We’ll compare other teams to the Fashion Ave team and see who rocks it best!
The Diary Meets The Recordings
As I continue on the Podcast…
Fashion Segment from 2016 New York Rangers and today!
Here is # 4 from 2016: Ryan McDonough
TO LISTEN TO THE PODCAST: CLICK HERE
TO WATCH THE CHILL AND FUNNY VIDEO OF ME INTRODUCING THE PODCAST: CLICK HERE
Then of course there is today’s guys below.
You can SHOP NOW on my FASHION SITE HERE
An Award Winning Presentation of The Recordings Of A Fangirl #sarcasm ( NYR ed)
For the SPECIAL FASHION SEGMENT – I went back to 2016. We are starting with # 5 of the BEST Dressed NY Rangers that I talk on the #youtube above!
Here’s Brady Skjei;
Here are some of the guys from the team NOW:
Vinny T – That Tie makes the outfit complete. I just don’t like the shoes without socks look. But overall- A+
Here is Key ( Fashion Ave Baby!)
Here is my favorite look for Lindy and Laffy.
SWAGGER!!
25 facts about me
As part of The Diary Of A Social Gal, I am going to tell you 25 things about me. Some of you may know some of them, but I can guarantee that no one knows all 25.
Are you ready? Here we go….
- My Name is Stephanie … it’s spelled this way not Stephany, Stefanie. The biggest pet peeve is when people misspell my name. Also my nickname is Steph or Stephie. Spelled just as you see it.
- I’m an Aries – born April 7th. I celebrate my birthday for an entire month – I even celebrate my half birthday on October 7th. My birthday is the only time when I can think about me. It’s important to me.
- My hobbies I love are: sewing, crafts, baking, reading, writing music, traveling when I can, shopping, street fairs, festivals, etc, and napping. Yes, napping. If it were an Olympic sport, I’d have tons of gold medals.
- My favorite places are The Jersey Shore, Lake George, Anaheim CA, San Diego CA, Ann Arbor MI, And downtown Boston.
- I have never traveled abroad but would love to go to Italy, England and Paris.
- I once won $300 on a $1 scratch off lotto ticket
- My favorite candies are M&Ms, Reese’s Peanut Butter Cups, and Gummy Bears.
- My favorite snacks are Pretzel Pieces ( Cheddar Cheese Flavor) Fruit and Yogurt Parfaits. ( Although sometimes I do eat cookies – Oreos or Teddy Grahams)
- I am not an into insects. I freak out with spiders, am terrified of bees, and basically anything that crawls is dead when it is around me.
- I do though love butterflies, caterpillars, and lady bugs.
- My most annoying habit is remembering everything which pisses off everyone else since I remembered it and I remind them and then people tend to get mad at me for bringing it up! I tend to enjoy pissing off people… but I make up for that with being loving and caring.
- I have a collections of tea cup regular size and mini and elephants. Well, my Grandma started to collect elephant statues and now I continue that tradition. Any elephant with his trunk up I collect.
- My favorite seasons are everything but winter. Although snow is very pretty to look at it’s not the best to drive in.
- My favorite sport to follow is hockey. Yes, I understand the game very well, “for a girl” and if you want to know why I like it, then go read the blog post, Why This Chick Loves Hockey.
- If I could have a superpower it would be ….( guess for a chance to win a $10 Amazon card, some NYR coffee, and a winter knit hat!)
- Some of my pet peeve are well, as a New Yorker, those who drive and don’t put on their signal and those who drive way too slow.
- I enjoy watching football and writing my own plays I think each QB should be doing on offense.
- The thing I love about myself the most is my positive attitude and my willingness to always want to help others.
- I own a social media company which then through the company I have branched out other businesses. I take on clients for social media but I also sell content that I create as well. I blog, I podcast, I am a published author and I started a coffee brand called Just Brew It Gourmet Coffee.
- My favorite color since I was little is pink. Now my niece loves this color too! She’s even bought me a shirt because it was pink.
- I’m a Godmother and an Auntie.
- I am Italian, Polish and Austrian.
- I’m short. 5’3 but have an attitude of 6’1
- Everyone that knows me, knows that I am really very sassy. Don’t mess with me. I will not only stand up for myself but I stand up for all my friends/family.
- I coach cheerleading and have for 16 years ( Long time- I started in my 20s) I also have taken the test to be a cheer judge, sell content to other cheer teams across the country, and create routines as a Choreographer for other teams. I started out as a dancer when I was 7 and switched to Cheerleading later on. I was a flyer. Yes, that girl who did the stunts in the air!)
So, You Want To Date An Athlete, Huh?
Who can deny the attraction to dating an athlete: someone who by their nature is disciplined, focused, and recognizes the value of working as a team toward a shared goal? But While dating an athlete has some “perks” it comes with cons as well, especially for chicks that can’t handle it nor understand the sport they play in the first place.
- They May Seem Single-Focused
It’s only natural for an athlete to want to focus on the season and focus on winning a championship. And if you date an athlete, you need to be able to understand that he is not ignoring you or that you won’t be his number one priority. Instead you will have to accept the fact that when he is playing, that’s his job and his main focus is and should be his team. He may not be able to go to that function, or he may miss your birthday, but trust me he will make up for it when it’s the off season. - Traveling
He may have be away at a week a time, depending on the sport he plays. You may have to deal with taking care of the house, bills, kids, etc all on your own at times. IF you can’t handle this aspect, then dating an athlete is not for you at all. Independent women can handle dating an athlete simply because we already handle running the show at work and at home, and fit the role quite nicely. - Center of Attention
Whether you hate being the center of attention of love it, dating an athlete, especially one that plays in NY or is a top athlete, always has eyes of them. That means that eyes will be on you. If you can’t stand people watching you, watching what you post on social media, and are a very private person, then dating an athlete is not for you. - They need Support
Obviously from my standpoint, I am a cheerleading coach ( former cheerleader) so I understand things from a different point of view that a basic fan. Also, I give 100% support and I also have knowledge of the sport, so that is another reason why I can date an athlete. If you can’t grasp the concept that your man needs your support and that you need to root for him and his team to win, plus understand the sport he plays, then dating an athlete isn’t for you. Oh, also be prepared to actually go to as many games as you can to support them as well. Remember, we make time for what and who is important to us. - Fitness Fun
Athletes need to be in top shape all year round, not just in the season that they play/perform. Being a coach I understand this so they get to have a fitness partner in me. If you hate working out and aren’t in the best shape, then maybe you shouldn’t date an athlete.
When dating an athlete you need to remember that it’s not just about you. You can’t get all upset because your man is focused on trying to remember the playbook, or he’s watching film, or a game, etc. You can’t be upset that he’s only had a meal with you a few times this week. You need to understand that when your man loses and/or he gets hurt he is not going to be in the best mood and he is going to need even more of your love and support at those times.
So many times I see women on social media complaining about this type of stuff instead of taking the focus off how it “effects them” and putting it in the proper place. But also to the athlete he needs to remember that she deserves to be with a man who doesn’t make her look stupid being loyal. We’ve seen that also played out before as well.
So finally, when I date an athlete I always tell him this:
I want to be your second priority. I want your first priority to be you, your ambitions, your life and your future, because seeing you happy makes me happy. Seeing you succeed pushes me to succeed. Finding happiness and security alone, are crucial to finding it together.
Introducing: The Diary Of A Social Gal Media Tour
Starting Tomorrow, September 18th I will be heading into NYC to take The Diary of a Social Gal Public….
So what am I going to be doing?
Well, for starters, each Sunday that I am doing the tour I will give my podcast viewers/listeners and blog readers a chance to WIN some great prizes all my joining me on Twitter as a bonus if you follow me on LinkedIn, you will get a second chance to win a prize. If you follow either my Sassy Stuff board or my Podcast board on Pinterest, that will be a third chance to win a prize!
Here’s how you can win a prize…. you will have to GUESS where I am and on Twitter when I post the hint, under that tweet we will have a thread of guess where I am. At the end of the tour for that day I will announce where I am. I will give you a max number of 3 hints while I am out. The 3rd hint I will expand with a very small video podcast where I will talk about did you know about myself, the NY Rangers, Dating/Relationship Observations, or Everyone’s favorite segment: My Rants.
The other way to win a prize will be when I post social media content ideas on LinkedIn and you need to comment with a photo of you doing that specific content idea. On Pinterest I will post “fun facts” and links to my podcasts can you will need to comment if the fun fact is true or false and with my podcasts, you would need listen to it for the hint word of the week.
So, I hope you will join me starting tomorrow.
It’s going to be fun and I plan to have fun. Oh, each week may not be the SAME time, but I will send out a “Pre-tour” tweet to let you know when we will start! And…. If won’t ALWAYS be NYC… I can literally “pop up” ANYWHERE. ( And I mean, anywhere!)
Stephanie 's Corner 