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When Fiction Becomes Non Fiction

Here I am, trying to change the culture of the #NHL AND get a written policy protecting women of sexual assault/domestic abuse and these authors continue to use hockey players in their plots. AND then expose its graphic content to actual hockey players which makes it seem okay.
There are 4 books “Ice Breaker,” “Collide,” “Cocky Score,” and, “Unsteady” that recently got my attention.
So, since the authors of these books did not do their research, let me enlighten folks for a moment. I don’t want to her well these ladies “just wrote a story,” that is gaslighting and then deferring responsibility and accountability. That is also saying that what I am doing is not valid. Writing a book and using a hockey player in the way they have in their books, makes it ten times harder to try and change the culture let alone try and get a written policy because no one sees or thinks what they are doing isn’t right. For example, In “Ice Breaker,” women want to read about romance, they want to be swept up so to speak, but what they actually find that all the sex starts to get in the way of the romance as it becomes more and more gratuitous, and THAT is part of the HOCKEY CULTURE! Safe to say I am not happy with this representation and the ideas it gives hockey players, let alone women.
Then of course, “Cocky Score,” which the title ALONE yells HOCKEY CULTURE! the female character is ridiculously shy and quiet; the male character is stoic and overly confident. Why do we think this type of romance novel is STILL okay?
In “Collide,” there was barely any hockey but this was a friends with benefits type romance which, doesn’t send a great message to women and sends the wrong message to men. In the book, “Unsteady,” the spicy scenes were not pleasant, i found myself cringing a lot while reading them and all I could think about was how unpleasant it must have been for that women who was raped by the World’s Junior Team. This comes off as a gentle romance between two people who are floundering in bad relationships and need to find real love- something that hockey culture can relate too, is the fact that the men of the NHL put themselves in “bad relationships” only to think cheating is the way to solve them.

What do these books have to do with the NHL?

These books portray women in a bad light and justify a hockey players actions they take. Now, there is no rape, sexual abuse, or domestic violence in these books, but the fact that they all portray hockey players as hypermasculine and using sexual relationships as a way of saying that is “romantic” is obscene. SEX has NOTHING to do with ROMANCE. We need to STOP having even female characters of novels put into uncomfortable situations and that it’s okay to sexualize women, especially in hockey.

In the NHL, you have women who get sexually harassed either by being a fan or even working in the league, which is highly male-dominated. Did you know that the front office of the NY Rangers, is only 6% female and that there were NO females that were on the draft floor this past June- as for MANY teams in the NHL. And just recently the Seattle Kraken hired Jessica Campbell, as an asst coach which sent social media into a sexism frenzy?

This is another reason why I am fighting to have the National Hockey League ( NHL) to have a policy in place to protect all wives, girlfriends, and staff of NHL teams against these crimes that DO HAPPEN IN THEIR LEAGUE!

Not only am I talking about rape and sexual abuse, but let’s not forget about domestic violence,, which has occurred within the NHL. According to National Domestic Violence Hotline, Over 1 in 3 women (35.6%) in the US have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

The hockey culture and how they treat women is disgusting! The social aspect of the sport supports issues related to misogyny, sexism, homophobia, and xenophobia. Let me also add that there is a HIGH number of hockey players who cheat on their wives/girlfriends by having a second phone with a different number and using trainers/staff to hide it. So when we are ready a “love story” as in the book Unsteady, take it with a grain a salt.
In the book, “Ice Breaker” the question is asked, “She could never like a hockey player, right? ” These books portray a “Steamy Hockey Romance,” but what these authors don’t get is this:

An anonymous quote from a hockey player on how the culture continues because whatever is SAID in the locker room, stays there. ( Same concept as VEGAS)
“There’s stuff that happens in the dressing room, obviously, talking about girls, parties, whatever is the case, that happens in there, that sort of stays in there for the most part. Well, on good teams it stays in there. Whether it’s who you’re hooking up with, if you got sent pictures from some girl, everyone sees them. So it stays in the dressing room and it’s a team builder. It’s not to embarrass people in front of the outside world.”

THIS ONLY GETS WORSE:
This locker room culture in THE NHL encourages and rewards particular performances of masculinity. And players who don’t adhere to implicit and explicit organizational expectations risk being ostracized.

If authors intend to use hockey players as the main characters for their books, can they learn to separate sex from romance and can the women NOT be reduced to mere love interests for the male protagonists and nothing more?

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The Top 5 Trends for Fall Fashion 2024 

Wherever your fall fashion may take you, you can add some stylish staples to your closet without breaking your budget. The days are passing by quickly and fall is almost upon us, so we thought we would take a moment and share some of the new fall trends of the season.

  1. One of the biggest trends for the Fall of 2024, is the use of voluminous outerwear made of faux fur, feathers, fabric, or yarn. Also snuggly and stylish, ski sweaters aren’t only for the slopes anymore.
  2. Fashion from decades past comes and goes, and this season, the ’60s just called and are back with all things mod, turtlenecks, baby doll dresses, The micro-mini and the swing coat, among other pieces of fashion that you will see making a comeback this fall. 
  3. This year will we see extravagant collars as last year we saw big sleeves (which are still in fashion this year but the emphasis will be on the collar!) 
  4. Beyoncé has magic powers,even when it comes to fashion.  With her latest album, Cowboys Carter, she has brought back the style of wearing cowboy hats, fringe everything  and cowboy boots. So it’s safe to say, western dressing is here to stay no matter if you live on the East Coast, West Coast, or down South. 
  5. And finally, one of my favorite looks, is making a comeback and that is leopard print everything. Your wardrobe basics can be a little edgier, making them some of the most versatile and hard-working pieces., with leopard print. You can have heels, boots, sneakers, jackets, shirts, dresses and even pants that will become your stand out pieces.   I still have a leopard jacket from the early 2000’s that I love to wear from timeout time, not to mention sneakers and heels. 

Some of my favorite places to shop for fashion in LBI, Rockland County, where I live and NYC that I highly recommend are: 

The Wink Shop located at 1903 Long Beach Blvd Suite 7, In Surf City, NJ

    The service is amazing and the clothing they have in their boutique is on trend. 

    They have the cutest dresses and not to mention some really nice gifts for every occasion. 

    Society beach located at Long Beach Blvd, In Surf City, NJ

      Get lost in paradise in the hottest looks. They have on trend dresses, cute lounge wear and have FREE CITY sweatshirts which have to be the softest I have ever felt and most luscious.  The service is also remarkable. 

      Tia Maria Boutique located at 104 Maple Ave, New City, NY

      I have so many cute and trendy pieces from her boutique. The clothing and accessories she has in her boutique are causal and semi-dressy clothing as well as the cutest sweaters, sweatshirts and rompers. Tia is amazing as is her service.

      Maria Luisa Boutique located at 77 South Broadway, Nyack NY

      Maria Luisa has footwear to clothing and more. They have many of the regular fashion staples with the focus on global/ethical products. It really is a great mix, not to mention they also have a good selection of gifts.
      The people who work here bring great energy and a great vibe!

      Shop Untitled, located at 27 W 8th Street, New York City

      They have a lot of different designer brands from desert warrior to punk fashion. IN other words, their clothing selection is amazing! Super cute and comfortable items to chose from. Super friendly staff and very clean.

      There are MANY others to shop at but these are my ultimate favorites! 

      So whatever your style is, the Fall is planning to not only be about cooler days, but also about making all of us look cooler in every way! 

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      Being Released This Fall

      The Book That Gary Bettman and company doesn’t want me to write.

      This book will be written in 2 parts.

      The first part will be my creativity in motion. Athletes from some NHL teams will know or maybe will know that it is about them.

      Part 2 is the story of the NHL from a Female Perspective

      IF you follow me on Tiktok, Twitter X, or Youtube, hints will be posted for part 1.


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      Men, The Bear, Bumble And Harrison Butker

      I wasn’t playing on writing a blog like this, but seeing how the landscape has been against women even more than it has been as of late, I had to put my thoughts into words.

      For starters, if you are not on Tiktok then you missed a lot.

      There was this dude who seriously looks like the guy who secretly films women getting dressed in the changing room at a department store, started us off, by telling us that men don’t have to accept women’s rejection : AKA he told men that is OKAY to RAPE them. I highly doubt that he is a “dating coach” which in itself is creepy. But what sane “coach” would tell men that women are forbidden to reject him? My thinking is that this guy never had a date back in high school and/or the head cheerleader rejected him and he is so scarred by that, he has hateful views now towards all women.

      If that wasn’t bad enough, there was a guy who put out the question, if women were in a forest would they want to be in a forest alone with a MAN OR A BEAR? He was not asking which one women would choose, technically, but it took off on Tiktok and women every where were answering the bear. You can imagine how much this triggered guys EVERYWHERE!

      The men, oh sorry, the boys that were triggered proved over and over WHY women preferred to be alone with a bear instead of a man. When asked to explain their decision, many women responded that they know a bear would either leave them alone or kill them, whereas they fear the details of exactly what a man could do to them. And if we look at the culture that is being thrown at women today, I think it is safe to say, this is why women would choose a bear.

      Here are some reasons why women choose the bear in case men are still confused:
      A- No one would question us about what I was wearing, why I was wearing what I was wearing, and If what I was wearing was to lead on any man to believe I wanted sex.
      B- A Bear would not film it and send it to his friends and post it online.
      C- No one will question if the bear attacked really happened. And to add, they won’t go on social media defending the man in question with the saying, “Innocent until proven guilty.”

      By the way, there’s a reason women are warned not to hike or camp alone, and it’s not because of bears.

      1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime. RAINN ( Rape Abuse, Incest Network) says on average, there are nearly 450,000 victims of rape and sexual assault every year in the United States. According to North America Bear Center- black bears – the most common bear in the United States – kill less than one person per year. On average, 28 people in the United States die each year from lightning strikes, according to all U.S. lightning deaths reported from 2006 through 2021

      So, when women are saying that they FEEL SAFER in the FOREST/WOODS alone with a bear than with a strange man, and men, instead of trying to make things BETTER for women, are triggered by it and instead of trying to say, “Men should not rape, men should not act like pigs when it comes to women,” They are trying to gaslight, manipulate and force women to feel crazy and stupid for saying a bear. Then you hear guys ask the question why women who are abused and assaulted never come forward or come forward years later:

      As many as 90% of those survivors never report their abuse to law enforcement, and more than 30% will never report their abuse to anyone (National Association to Prevent Sexual Abuse of Children).

      What Happens To Rapists When They Are Caught And Reported?

      • 60% of rapes/sexual assaults are not reported to police, according to a statistical average of the past 5 years.  Those rapists, of course, never spend a day in prison.  Factoring in unreported rapes, only about 6% of rapists ever serve a day in jail.
      • If a rape is reported, there is a 50.8% chance of an arrest.
      • If an arrest is made, there is an 80% chance of prosecution.
      • If there is a prosecution, there is a 58% chance of conviction.
      • If there is a felony conviction, there is a 69% chance the convict will spend time in jail.
      • So even in the 39% of attacks that are reported to police, there is only a 16.3% chance the rapist will end up in prison.

      Not only are we talking about rape and sexual abuse, but let’s not forget about domestic violence. According to National Domestic Violence Hotline, Over 1 in 3 women (35.6%) in the US have experienced rape, physical violence, and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

      This is another reason why I am fighting to have the National Hockey League ( NHL) to have a policy in place to protect all wives, girlfriends, and staff of NHL teams against these crimes that DO HAPPEN IN THEIR LEAGUE!
      The hockey culture and how they treat women is disgusting! The social aspect of the sport supports issues related to misogyny, sexism, homophobia, and xenophobia.

      An anonymous quote from a hockey player on how the culture continues because whatever is SAID in the locker room, stays there. ( Same concept as VEGAS)
      “There’s stuff that happens in the dressing room, obviously, talking about girls, parties, whatever is the case, that happens in there, that sort of stays in there for the most part. Well, on good teams it stays in there. Whether it’s who you’re hooking up with, if you got sent pictures from some girl, everyone sees them. So it stays in the dressing room and it’s a team builder. It’s not to embarrass people in front of the outside world.”

      THIS ONLY GETS WORSE:
      This locker room culture in THE NHL encourages and rewards particular performances of masculinity. And players who don’t adhere to implicit and explicit organizational expectations risk being ostracized.

      So, when a FEMALE, wants to have NHL PLAYERS on a podcast – you are rejected AUTOMATICALLY.
      So, when a FEMALE, wants to develop friendships with hockey players, THEY NEED TO BE CERTAIN WOMEN –
      Beyond sexist barriers within the sport, there are misogynist ideas engrained that position women as objects and conquests within hockey culture- That is why you ONLY SEE WOMEN WHO 1- ACCEPT BARE MINIMUM, 2- WILL NOT OPEN THEIR MOUTHS ON WHAT THEY KNOW ABOUT HOW OTHER WOMEN ARE TREATED, AND 3- WHO LOOK A CERTAIN WAY!
      Misogyny was undeniably evidenced in the alleged gang-sexual assault committed by members of Canada’s 2018 World Junior team, in the subsequent cover-up, and in the revelation that Hockey Canada had a fund that was used consistently and covertly to protect players.
      The deeply entrenched sexism and misogyny within hockey culture contribute to these brutal acts of dehumanization. Yet, these connections remain unrecognizable because people are unable to confront the culture that permeates their existence. In addition, as this does not directly impact players, such as the consequences of playing through pain, the calls to confront sexism/misogyny are largely not coming from male players. Unfortunately, there is more impact when people within hockey resist the harmful impacts of the culture as people are more inclined to listen to and empathize with the protagonists in our national narrative and because status is used to legitimize particular perspectives. If current player’s voices are needed, and yet they cannot recognize the objectification of girls and women, how will sexism and misogyny ever be recognized and meaningfully challenged if it remains unrecognizable to those within the culture? Yet, as recent current events have revealed, this resistance is the problem at hand!
      AND JUST THIS WEEK, A Native American woman who worked for the Chicago Blackhawks is suing the organization and its charity, the Chicago Blackhawks Foundation, accusing them of breach of oral contract, fraud and sexual harassment.

      Then of course we have the dating app Bumble who decided to tell women to KEEP HOOKING UP with guys on their app because they are losing money and that in turn is all they care about! Seriously, I keep telling you all how TERRIBLE dating apps are and they filled with men who ONLY want to hook up, rape women, cheat on partners.. . etc.
      Bumble fumbled, are now working quickly fix the damage caused by an ad campaign that pokes fun at celibacy and abstinence. They changed HOW the app worked, which pissed off A TON of women, and then did this ad. They did apologize, but.. THIS IS WHY WOMEN CHOOSE THE BEAR!

      Now here’s the KICKER, literally, the kicker in all of this …

      The Kansas City Chiefs Kicker Harrison Butkler, said at very conservative Catholic College told women that they shouldn’t be out here, climbing up the corporate ladder that they should be home, taking care of their husband and children.
      If women decide to do that, that’s their choice it’s not for a man to decide a woman’s fate.
      Which is kind of funny since his mom, Elizabeth Keller Butker is an accomplished academic who holds a degree in Chemistry from Smith College as well as a Master’s degree in Medical Physics.

      How did his mom somehow raised him to be a MISOGYNISTIC & SEXIST man?

      BTW Harrison, if you are reading this: you’re a kicker you don’t do hard things and you STILL miss. 

      I have NOTHING against women who CHOOSE to be a stay at home mom, if that’s what you want be and that’s what you desire then go for it but for a man who kicks balls for a living to tell other women that their dreams don’t matter and that they should just be in the kitchen is what’s wrong; it’s 2024 not 1964.

      Women can do a lot of different things and wear different hats and that triggers some men who can’t do hard things.

      Now, as a Catholic woman, I don’t agree AT ALL with what Harrison has said AND here are the Catholic teachings that I have been taught:

      1- We all were created to serve God. We all have a special purpose, that purpose is not the same for everyone.
      2- Each of us were shaped differently. We all were given different Spiritual gifts, Personalities, and Abilities. What you are ABLE to do, God wants you to do. No one else can play your role.
      3- Love your neighbor as you love yourself. Your purpose is to show love to others.

      God doesn’t want everyone to do the same work.
      God doesn’t hate any of us based on race, sexuality, or weakness.
      God made us and our life started at conception.

      Those in the church that preach otherwise are preaching their own agenda. God is love, and whoever abides in love abides in God, and God abides in him. Maybe Harrison forgot this. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. I think as a society we have truly have forgotten about love and how to truly love each other.
      Love only embraces, and never attacks. It is of the Spirit, and thus incapable of attack.
      What a beautiful thought.

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      Caffeine and Chocolate: our two main food groups.

      I can’t believe that I haven’t posted in a month! That’s crazy, but then again that is how my life sometimes goes.
      I have been traveling for cheerleading so now that the cheer season is over (well the travel part) I can sit down and update y’all about some exciting things that have happened in the past month and of course talk about the elephants in the room.

      CHEER:

      After working with this company for the past year where I sell my cheerleading curriculum- I am parting ways with them since I am developing my own cheerleading website working with another company to provide credit card processing payments with it.
      The site will have the coaches curriculum needed to run a cheerleading team and program. Plus tools, scoresheet assistance, merch and of course choreography.
      I think I choosing to do a blog every now and then just to list updates, but that will be on the site as well.

      Podcast

      I am still doing the audio only podcast through Spotify but I decided not to do subscriptions with it simply because A) I don’t want to have to record 2 podcasts B) I love sharing things with everyone, why limit it to you have to pay to hear this… ( I think that is stupid and its unnecessary but I thank those who did pay to subscribe!)

      AND… My podcast is up for an Award W3 for best host with the guest I had on back in October! Some previous winners included: A 60 Minutes Podcast from Paramount Company and GoDaddy won an award for one of their original series…

      BUT… I have joined Rumble and will be doing a separate podcast there besides posting some fun videos… The podcast there will be called The Revenge Tour and that will start some time in May.

      I will be posting on my YoutubeChannel my series, “Behind the Scenes: The Diary of A Social Gal” this week and next week.

      Ah yes, the elephant in the room. If you want to see the most judgemental, attention seekers, losers then you need to go to Twitter X.
      Social media trolls are like those annoying characters from fairytales who live under bridges and try to cause trouble for passersby. But instead of riddles and tolls, they use inflammatory messages and outrageous lies to disrupt online conversations and get a rise out of people. They don’t want to admit it, but they are fans in denial AND that I live rent free in their little heads.
      But can I admit something? I love them. Not all the time. But they really strive to prove their insecure and jealous while at the same time they make me laugh. You have to love folks who take the time to point out YOUR imperfections while they ignore theirs.

      Oh, I have a surprise announcement …. shhh… so if you follow me on IG, Twitter, Youtube, Rumble, Tiktok, and Facebook… you’ll get it. The announcement will be different on each platform. …

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      It’s about to get magical

      January 23rd –
      The day that the podcast “The Championship Mindset” will launch. Yes, it will launch BEFORE the book e-book version. The paperback version will be the last to be launch.

      You can subscribe to the podcast here: SUBSCRIBE

      A champion mindset is a mindset that allows you to perform your best. Anyone that works on adopting this mindset will not only get better at what they do, but they will have the chance to be the best at what they do. Mindset is the biggest factor in success. Your mindset impacts each and every decision that you take. Now, this mindset just isn’t for athletes, it is for everyone.

      Each week I will do a podcast, blog post, and post some creative content designed to inspire you and encourage you.

      Here is an affirmation to help you for the weekend ahead:
      I am the master of my thoughts and energy and I can create my destiny.

      Affirmations are positive statements that can help you to overcome self-sabotaging, negative thoughts.
      Remember, Nothing happens by chance, but you need to take the chance and get out of your comfort zone in order to achieve greatness.
      If you want the championship mindset you need to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. By having a deep-rooted belief in your abilities, you have the potential for success. Having confidence in your skills and talents, is one part but visualizing your routine that makes you feel excited about the future to align your thoughts and emotions, is what makes the championship mindset possible!

      I hope you will join me.

      You can subscribe to the podcast here: SUBSCRIBE

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      Say Hello to 2024

      I speak life into my manifestations.

      2024 is my year for abundance, prosperity, love, and success.
      (Say this affirmation every day this week!)

      You were meant to survive it. You know how to take an L and turn it into a win. You have the faith to see it where others can’t.

      Be Grateful.
      Believe.
      Manifest.
      And whatever you want you’ll get.

      Each Week I will share with you some inspiration as we all are on the road to having the championship mindset. 

      Follow me on Youtube today.
      Subscribe to the podcast.

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      Did you see me on TMZ?

      I did a segment o TMZ on Alec Bladwin …. go ahead and take a look. BTW… I am a content creator so I added to this video and made it a little retro. 
      In 2024 THIS IS THE APP that you should be using!
      here is my code to use! CLICK HERE FOR CODE

      If you don’t follow my podcast, here is the link to follow it and join me for the December 31st show. Do you how th social media platforms were ranked in the 2023? Do you know what trends are coming? Also a review of my year along with some surprises too! I also will be doing an IG LIVE on New Year’s Eve!

      QR CODE TO FOLLOW MY IG

      I will have a Christmas Blog for you Sunday. See y’all then!

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      Games People Play


      Some men simply like to be dominating in a relationship; even when a man likes to keep you hanging without giving any clear indication of how he feels about you, he wants to dominate the game. It has been said that boys play games, but I can honestly tell you that men do it too. Boys are amateurs though when it comes to really playing “the game,” while men know how to dangle a carrot to have us run after them. (Or, so they think!) By manipulating you, he can ensure that his needs are met first. This behavior is often driven by insecurity or jealousy. But here is the part that men don’t get:

      Girls are players too. Now, I have seen the quotes online before that girls chase, women replace, and that part if 100% truth, but that does NOT mean that women don’t play games. We know how to get our guys right where we want them. Seriously, it’s not that hard. To turn the tables, it’s time to learn how to play a guy at his own game. Here are three key components to giving him a taste of his own medicine, and why not even a little more? He deserves it for playing with your heart.

      1- He’s used to you liking all his photos, commenting on them, texting him multiple times a day. In other words, he’s used to you chasing him. Time to flip the script girl, and do him ACTUALLY as he does you. So if he ONLY views your IG story, you view his. If he totally keeps you on read, you keep him on read ( if he is talking to you) Whatever HE does to you- you do it back BUT with a little more flair and fanfare.
      Make him work harder for your time; you’re not an easy catch- remember YOU ARE the catch!

      2) While you’re busy trying to win him over, make sure you spend time enjoying yourself. Go out with friends, meet other people, and if he’s there, remember to have a good time and not give him all your undivided attention. Let him earn that. Let him be the first one to approach you. Don’t get sucked into the game when you see him even talking to other girls. Such men enjoy teasing women and rocking their emotions, and often do so without any guilt.

      3) When he sees himself falling for you, he’s going to pull out all the stops in hopes of holding onto the control. This isn’t going to work overnight either. But if you really want this guy, it will do exactly what you want it to do. No messaging him out of the blue or just because on IG, no texting him either. If he messages you or texts you first, then yes, respond to him, but not right away. Let him know that you are busy, that you have a life. Let the guy know that you have other options. Guys hate it when they see that you know your options are wide open.

      The key here to to think like a guy and totally disregard his feelings. Be savage.
      At first it feels like shit, but then as you keep doing it, it is very empowering.

      There are about four other things you can do to play a guy like he plays you, but I keep those close to the chest. If you gals would like to know what those are… feel free to contact me on IG Twitter X or Facebook and DM me. And I will share those tips with you.

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      I’m a vibe that no one can ever replace

      So as I said in the last blog post, I had some really interesting dating stories to share. If you read this blog then you know that I am in these chats with girls who talk about their dating lives and the stupid, narcissistic, jerks of men that they either date or are interested in from dating apps.
      Before I continue, don’t reach out to me to tell me that your long lost cousin found his wife on a dating app- yes I get it… that was the point of these apps YEARS ago. Today they are all filled with either married men cheating on their wives, young guys who think it’s a flex to sleep with as many as possible, or even catfishers who are trying to scam women out of their money.
      I was thinking that we all what the stories are going to be- so instead of telling you the stories, I will tell you about the DMs I have received asking for my dating advice:

      Question 1: For a first date this guy asked me out on a coffee date? Is that showing him that my standards are low, when they aren’t anywhere close to that?

      MY ANSWER: A cute cafe with a romantic ambiance and the best coffee in town is the perfect way to lay the foundation for that special connection you’re hoping to build. Coffee shop dates are the most socially acceptable way of meeting someone, spending time with that person, and keeping a nice conversation going to get to know them better. These meetings don’t have to be necessarily romantic in nature. A date shouldn’t be about the the amount of money spent, it should be about getting to know someone, feeling a vibe with someone and creating memories. Meeting someone new is not always easy for everyone. And to some, they have anxiety when it comes to doing this. A coffee date is a simple way of just breaking the ice with someone having fun, not to mention, and coffee. It also allows both people to see the other person’s personality and feel relaxed.
      Finally, if you plan a highly elaborate romantic date that involves a full-course meal, and perhaps some wine in a five star restaurant, it will automatically build up a lot of expectation. Here, in a cafe, there are no expectations.

      ( this is why I thought of the segment, “Coffee With The Captain” because simply it is a fun thing to do- have coffee and talk hockey/life. It’s a relaxing atmosphere – yes, I am STILL waiting on Jacob Trouba… this is why if women had to wait for men the entire human race would have died out by now. – which leads me to the next question.. )

      Question 2- Is okay for me to ask a guy out?

      MY ANSWER: Like I said above if women had to wait for men the entire human race would have died out by now. Seriously guys take so long to get around to ask a girl out. They overthink things to the point where they literally scared themselves to death and then either think they shouldn’t ask her out or they prolong the asking part.
      There are so many Tiktok’s and IG videos that women post that say shit like, “Women were made to be chased.” Sure the guy can still chase a girl but we can hint to the guy that we like him and make him confident enough to ask us out OR we can do the asking. I see no harm in asking for the 1st date, then the pressure of the 2nd goes on the guy. He can then “chase” you for the 2nd.

      Question 3- Is it always a bad move to date someone just out of a relationship?

      MY ANSWER:
      There really isn’t such a thing as “too early” to date after a breakup. Then there are folks who say it could easily be a major red flag because they haven’t taken the proper time to heal. I say, that it is not a one-size fits all situation. I think it’s best to start that relationship off as friends and just slowly move into the relationship romantically. BUT.. if that particular person that just broke up or divorced someone was not emotionally or mentally invested in the relationship as part of the reason they broke up, then I think the romantic side of the relationship will happen a lot quicker, especially if they are emotionally and mentally drawn to you. But to each it’s own. It’s okay to start ANY relationship off SLOW. We have to remember that it’s not a race.

      The Diary Of A Social Gal Update

      For all those who follow my Youtube channel I will posting many, many updates, behind the scenes, and fun content. If you aren’t subscribed, you should be!

      Here’s a quickie update anyway-
      1- I am DONE coaching cheerleading. NOT done Choreographing routines – so if you know a a team that needs routine that not only will win, but will have all eyes on them, you can DM me on Instagram
      2- I am on the path to becoming a CHEER JUDGE! I am so excited! It definitely is my calling. I was made to be a cheer judge! So excited so I will be updating on Youtube as I go through the process with these organizations. It’s an exciting time for me.
      3- I am writing 2 books at the same time. Yes, just like I did a few years ago. I am writing The Championship Mindset which will be a workbook and also audio that you will be able to get if you subscribe to my podcast – $2.99 a month is worth it. Not only will you get the audio version of the book, but you will also get weekly exclusive podcasts for subscribers only. I also will be giving weekly updates that are not part of the book and times when I can go one on one coaching. More to come…
      4- I am working in NYC – my office space is there and it is living out a dream. I am THE CITY girl! IF you have been following me, then you know how I feel about manifesting and walking the path by doing it scared and doing unprepared. This is part of the Championship Mindset which is for teams but also for folks that want to live a championship life.

      There’s a lot of awesome content that I will be rolling out. And yes, even some controversial blogs… of course, like duh, I was born a savage, did you expect anything less?