What would be the holidays without having our cocoa, tea, and coffee in a holiday-themed mug? As a great gift idea for Teachers, Nurses, Entrepreneurs or a Business Team, you can purchase these mugs and place either homemade cookies in them or a gift card to your favorite coffee shop.
Happy Gifting! ( Here’s a link to the cute little video I made!) CLICK HERE
The holiday season is creeping up on us! We will be seeing advertisements galore for the next 2 months. So to ease you into the holiday season….. here are a few sites to check out.
There is A LOT more! Plus there are some great books you can get as well. I am also looking for guest bloggers to share their products… so please reach out to me if interested.
2. Follow me on Pinterest for my list of my Favorite Things- in my board titled: “Holiday Extravaganza”
3. I will also be doing GIVEAWAYS on my Facebook page AND Instagram page – so join in on the fun!
April 26, 2018 on Twitter: ( FYI I retweeted some of these on my Twitter feed)
You know what the best part of Sam Darnold is? He’s not Josh Allen. #Jets
The #Jets traded up to 3 and were mocked. They have arguably the best QB fall into their lap and take him. Well done Maccagnan #NFLDraft
Uncle Sam gonna take us to the promise land
I have been saying it for 2 years now. Suck for Sam!!! And it came true. Spoke it to existence.. Welcome to the New York Jets Sam Darnold!!!!! #jets #nfl
#myqb #winner
The #Jets ended up with Sam Darnold. The @nyjets
I’m still in shock and filled with joy. Special shout out to the #Browns
and #Giants too for making this happen. Love it! #NFLDraft
Still hyped about the #SAMDARNOLD pick by the #Jets. Getting the best QB in the draft at 3 is a steal. #NFLDraft
There were MANY happy Jets fans gushing that they indeed did get the BEST QB in the draft in 2018, yet they all want to FORGET this and forget that it’s a process, DROP him and go with the new Shiny New Toy …. again. Yes, I know that Trevor was the talk of town yesterday against Georgia Tech. Yes, I know that beat writers and everyone who talks about football is gushing over him. And yes, I know Trevor Lawrence beat Alabama in last year’s championship and I am NOT taking that away from him BUT here is why Clemson won, and it was NOT because of Lawrence.
First off, the defense on Alabama only rush only four and drop seven into coverage.
Four didn’t get it done against Clemson. Note that Trevor Lawrence isn’t the most mobile quarterback in college football, but he didn’t need to be against Alabama because he was allowed to stand as long as he pleased in the pocket and pick out his receivers. With Alabama neutralized up front, that left the defensive backs vulnerable to Lawrence and his talented receivers. Lawrence completed 20 of 32 passes for 347 yards, and while he’s good, he needed star receiver Justyn Ross to bail him out on bad throws twice! ( Oh my God … he had bad throws … just like Sam makes at times!)
Last year it as “Tank for Tua.” Now, Tua Tagovailoa is a talented player, no question but he seems to have only have one gear. He did it twice against Clemson, with one pass returned for a touchdown and the second pick setting up another score. So the defense of Alabama scored not because of Trevor Lawrence. Alabama turned over the ball on downs three times, including once on that fake field goal. The problem is that Alabama’s offense can never waste opportunities, because its defense rarely creates turnovers. That has nothing do with Trevor Lawrence and everything to do with Alabama. FYI: when Nick Saban faked the field goal rather than having Joseph Bulovas try a medium-range kick, was he doing so because he didn’t like Bulovas’ odds of making it?
Right now Trevor Lawrence is the shiny new toy that everyone wants. The Jets haven’t done enough to surround Darnold with actual, talented football players, and chances are, if Trevor Lawrence is put in a similar situation, he might not be better off. The Jets need a blueprint on how to properly nurture and develop a QB, they had Josh McCown here during Sam’s rookie year, but they stupidly let him go after that. Remember, draft picks mean nothing unless you can develop young players; the Jets are the epitome of that notion.
Now I know passing on a “once in a lifetime talent ” at quarterback might be a mistake, but drafting one and setting him up to fail — like his predecessor — might be a bigger one. You can’t just always go for the SHINY NEW TOY. It’s like relationships, people give up on those these days way too easily. They don’t want to put in the work, they just want the perfection and the trophy. To have a relationship you need to start with a foundation before you can have the roof. To have a winning team you need to have the core and build around it. To have success you can’t keep dumping and building. Go ask those who given up if they succeeded, they will have to tell you that they failed. You can’t look back at where you’ve been, but where you are going. Yes, the past shapes us in every aspect, but if we ever want to be in the promise land we can’t keep making the same mistakes.
Dropping Sam Darnold for Trevor Lawrence is making the same mistake. Especially if you look at Tanehill’s numbers post-coach Gase: With Gase 65.9% COMP PCT Without Gase: 69.9% COMP PCT With Gase: 93.2 Passer Rating Without Gase: 115.4 Passer Rating.
So may be the answer for Sam Darnold is simple: Once Gase goes, Sam’s stats go in a better direction: UP.
But giving up on him, should not be the option. Surrounding him with talent and a coach that showcases his strengths not highlights his weaknesses should be the first thing Joe Douglas does. If the Jets ever want to be successful, then they need to stop the madness and save the Quarterback who has the skills and the talent needed to be their franchise for the next ten years. Or they risk giving another team that opportunity when they trade him for the shiny new toy. Maybe one day the Jets can thank themselves for not giving up on Darnold but for believing in him and building a team around him. Ambition is the path to success. Persistence is the vehicle you arrive in.
“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.”
One of the things I love to write are songs.
I have written many songs – I have been trying to put them on Youtube as best I can.
Here is the latest song that I have placed on Youtube – it’s called Bend. The Lyrics are included on this link for the song. It’s not the best listening quality – but …. it’s good.
I also will throw out another link for another song I wrote called “Let It Go” Click on the title to be taken to the song.
Song writing is so much fun and it also can get personal. But I especially love writing songs when I need a little creative juice flowing.
**** Working on my follow up book, to my best seller, ” Hello Love, Where’s Cupid 2nd Ed” called, “Relationship Impossible” which should be out in 2021
Paperback is also available for those who still love to hold them
This here is just a few of my fashion line that I have created called Sassy Style Brand.
The recipe for happiness is trying to stop controlling everyone else. Worry about YOU!
1. Stop trying to tell people to wear the masks- your posts aren’t changing minds instead they are working against you.
2. Stop trying to tell people who to vote for- your posts aren’t changing minds, mostly everyone knows who they are voting for already.
3. Stop judging people- you only walked in on the chapter that they LET you walk in on, social media posts don’t tell you anything about what people go through, who people are and the battles they are fighting in silence.
4. Again, your nose belongs on your face and NOT in other people’s business- control YOUR emotions- control YOUR reactions and then maybe you’ll be happier. 
Yesterday was my cousin’s wedding ceremony. Due to Covid19, the wedding has been postponed twice, so they decided to have a legal ceremony on the day that they had their first date. That’s not what this post is about, but it’s the partly the reason I am writing it. Yesterday I wore this little black dress that I recently bought. It was a dress that was not loose fitting, but a little snug in the midsection. Every time I ever need to dress up to go to a function, I spend hours in the mirror criticizing myself about how I “think” people are going to perceive me. ( Of course I am wrong, but my brain doesn’t think so at the time.) I put this dress on and spun around looking at myself in the mirror, looking to see just how much of midsection was “noticeable.” I hate to go out and not look “skinny,” in whatever I am wearing. I say to myself that If I don’t feel comfortable that I will have a lousy time.
Yesterday was very different.
I usually end up talking myself out of wearing something and put on something else, but yesterday I didn’t. I kept that little black dress on and went to the wedding and enjoyed myself. Now, I am not fat. I am not obese. I am not heavy or big-boned. I am of a normal weight for a short girl. I don’t wear a size 0 or size 4 or even a size 6. Depending on the brand, I am any where from a size 8 to a size 12. Seriously, the way that clothes are made today is unreal. I should be the same size no matter what brand I buy, but I am not.
This got me thinking yesterday of all the body shaming going down on social media lately. I see young girls on TikTok posting videos of, “How to get skinny.” I see young women posting videos of them telling others that they have to get back to being skinny and so forth. I also see guys, body shaming women. Some of the comments are so over the top nasty.
1) ” I don’t know what you are doing but you look so much better now! Look at all the weight you lost!”
2) “If you lose weight someone will love you.”
3) “Look at that fat body. What a waste of a pretty face.”
4) “You don’t have the right body to be doing that.”
5) “Why are you posting a picture of you in a bikini when you are no where near being a bikini model!”
6) Now that Pat Mahomes got his big contract he can now dump that disgusting girlfriend.” ( yesterday, he got the biggest contract in NFL history)
Now body shaming isn’t just about saying rude and obnoxious things, but it’s also when a guy ONLY pays a woman a compliment on HOW she looks. ( Beautiful, gorgeous, hot, sizzling, etc,” Why can’t guys ever just compliment a girl/woman without using her looks as part of the compliment?
Now we all can do one day with a bad hair day, or wish that parts of our bodies were different, but sometimes it is overwhelming which stops us from doing all kinds of things. We start to develop anxiety about our bodies. We start to question why someone would even want to love us or even be with us in a romantic situation.
This is why body shaming has to stop.
We then become ashamed of our muffin tops, love handles, or flat bums. We then pick apart other parts of our body like our noses, thighs, arms, and legs. And for what? To be accepted by a bunch of immature, self-conceited , superficial guys who don’t look like the Ken doll that they should be as they want to be with ever girl that resembles Barbie!
Give me a break!
Looks don’t make the man or the woman. What should matter most is the person they are on inside; their personality. Would you rather be with someone so vain or be with someone who was caring, compassionate, funny, and who supported your vision for the future?
Looks fade, who that person is from the inside out stays forever.
The next time you see someone body shaming someone else on social media tell them this; ““I do not give a &$#! about what men think about my body. I don’t care about what women think about my body. My body is not for other people, and the only person whose opinion matters about how I look is mine.”
Coming in 2021 is the follow up to my best selling book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid? 2nd Ed” The book will be titled; ” Relationship Impossible,” as we continue to discuss online dating, dating apps, social media, double standards, men and dating, single-hood, sex advice for women and men plus a lot more.
With technology being the sole way that people today communicate, there has been a lot said of social media and of texting. Many people use direct messaging as a way to talk to someone without having to “give up” their phone number right away to talk. This also can be seen as a red flag because any guy that keeps refusing to give out his number is mostly cheating. BUT… in the beginning DM’s are the most popular way to reach out and “touch” someone in 2020. This method of communication brings a lot confusion and misery at the same time because a lot of guys leave girls on read.
For those who are still in the dark days of communication, here is what to be “left on read” means: To read someone’s message or messages and not give any response, particularly on an instant messaging application where it is visible to any user as to whether or not the person has read a message. Now that we cleared this up, here are 5 reasons a guy leaves a girl on read: ( The explanation for each will be in the book.)
1) They are avoiding conflict.
2) They are overwhelmed.
3) They lack confidence.
4) They don’t see your worth.
5) They don’t know what to say.
NOTE: Just because it says read, doesn‘t mean it was meant to be read. They might‘ve seen the message come in, not wanted to open it, accidentally did and just moved on without responding. Or they are attracted to you and like you—so they are going to play a little game. They are going to make you think the complete opposite. Which can always back fire on a guy- they don’t think it will, but 9 out of 10 times it does. Some girls then get bitchy ( myself included) and after weeks go by, leave a nasty, “You are such a jackass,” type message for not answering me at all. This is how this “strategy” the guys seem to think will work back fires because they made us think number 4 on the list, when in fact they see our worth but want to play games instead.
Being left on read, just doesn’t happen in the dating/relationship world. It also happens in the social media world of athletes and fans. Have you ever responded to an athletes Instagram story and hoped to get a response? Have you ever sent them a message and hoped they would respond to you? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone. 95% of fans of sports teams and athletes have sent messages to their favorite players to only be left on read. 5% of athletes actually respond back. That is a fact. This is because of course, number 4 on the list, where they think they are “better” than you and that you don’t deserve a simple response back. Now, if your message is one of hate you don’t deserve them to a respond but instead you deserve a good kick in the ass for being rude and vile. That type of stuff is uncalled for!
Athletes as I have pointed out in the past, don’t understand social media as well as they think they do. There is so much power within the platforms that they don’t use it as it is intended but rather use it to make themselves, time and time again, look ignorant. ( See Chapter 7: Social Media and Dating Apps: A New Game for Today’s Athletes. )
The “hook up” culture will also be discussed at length but I also will touch on the sex industry once again.
In the best seller, which was also up for book of the year 2016, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid 2nd ed” we discussed that not only is porn one of the top selling industries, but also adult toy and sex accessories are a growing second. There are websites for guys, for girls, and for couples. And more and more women are having “slumber” parties and I don’t mean sleepovers. (see, its not just the guys!) here is a website that is designed for women to purchase sex toys, sex guides, sex outfits, (you know like sexy maid, sexy cheerleader, sex firefighter,) and sex products that add a little erotica to a playful evening. The best thing is that this company is like “Tupperware or Avon” where women can work and they get to go to another woman’s house and “show off’ the products. (No guys, there are no
demonstrations, sorry to burst your bubble there.)
** You can purchase Hello Love, Where’s Cupid? 2nd Ed Here —-> Link **
First and foremost I am excited for the launch of my first T-shirt Store: ONLINE ONLY!
There I will sell different t-shirts rotating the type every 3 weeks. I have 5 designs on the site now- 1 of them is for charity!
The next exciting thing is that I released some more of my music that I wrote back in 2008. It is now on Youtube – it’s music only, no singing ( not yet)
Finally,
Here are all the links on where I be doing the contest for charity that I will be doing all #MemorialDayWeekend:
2) Pinterest
3) Twitter
I will be giving away signed copies of the books I wrote along with gift cards and I designed some fashionable tank tops with mini tote bags. I also have signed autographs from some baseball players that will be auctioned away.
Hope to see you all this weekend during the contests for charity!
Starting week five of being quarantined in my house, I am starting to look at what this virus is ( and should be) teaching us about life and about relationships. As this pandemic has unfolded, it has shifted how we live, how we work and how we value life.
The coronavirus has taught us that we are all connected. No matter how much money we make, where we live, what religion we practice, and so-forth, the virus has shown us that in times like this, when we stick together are we at our strongest and it has reminded us of just how much we have taken for granted. Not being able to gather together, hug each other, having the freedom to go out where and when we want, are just a few things that we have taken for granted now that we have to sit at home. Every day just pours into next day. If you haven’t thought about it, take a drive around your town and look at how it looks like a ghost town right about now.
During this crisis we may indeed notice who and what is most important. People now know who their true friends really are and just how important you are to them. Everyone is “stuck” at home. If they haven’t reached out by email, text, or even DM, then I am sorry to say….. to finish reading, click the link and it will take you to the article I wrote for Vocal Media:
The Lessons from The CoronaVirus
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