Coming in 2021 is the follow up to my best selling book, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid? 2nd Ed” The book will be titled; ” Relationship Impossible,” as we continue to discuss online dating, dating apps, social media, double standards, men and dating, single-hood, sex advice for women and men plus a lot more.
With technology being the sole way that people today communicate, there has been a lot said of social media and of texting. Many people use direct messaging as a way to talk to someone without having to “give up” their phone number right away to talk. This also can be seen as a red flag because any guy that keeps refusing to give out his number is mostly cheating. BUT… in the beginning DM’s are the most popular way to reach out and “touch” someone in 2020. This method of communication brings a lot confusion and misery at the same time because a lot of guys leave girls on read.
For those who are still in the dark days of communication, here is what to be “left on read” means: To read someone’s message or messages and not give any response, particularly on an instant messaging application where it is visible to any user as to whether or not the person has read a message. Now that we cleared this up, here are 5 reasons a guy leaves a girl on read: ( The explanation for each will be in the book.)
1) They are avoiding conflict.
2) They are overwhelmed.
3) They lack confidence.
4) They don’t see your worth.
5) They don’t know what to say.
NOTE: Just because it says read, doesn‘t mean it was meant to be read. They might‘ve seen the message come in, not wanted to open it, accidentally did and just moved on without responding. Or they are attracted to you and like you—so they are going to play a little game. They are going to make you think the complete opposite. Which can always back fire on a guy- they don’t think it will, but 9 out of 10 times it does. Some girls then get bitchy ( myself included) and after weeks go by, leave a nasty, “You are such a jackass,” type message for not answering me at all. This is how this “strategy” the guys seem to think will work back fires because they made us think number 4 on the list, when in fact they see our worth but want to play games instead.
Being left on read, just doesn’t happen in the dating/relationship world. It also happens in the social media world of athletes and fans. Have you ever responded to an athletes Instagram story and hoped to get a response? Have you ever sent them a message and hoped they would respond to you? If the answer is yes, then you are not alone. 95% of fans of sports teams and athletes have sent messages to their favorite players to only be left on read. 5% of athletes actually respond back. That is a fact. This is because of course, number 4 on the list, where they think they are “better” than you and that you don’t deserve a simple response back. Now, if your message is one of hate you don’t deserve them to a respond but instead you deserve a good kick in the ass for being rude and vile. That type of stuff is uncalled for!
Athletes as I have pointed out in the past, don’t understand social media as well as they think they do. There is so much power within the platforms that they don’t use it as it is intended but rather use it to make themselves, time and time again, look ignorant. ( See Chapter 7: Social Media and Dating Apps: A New Game for Today’s Athletes. )
The “hook up” culture will also be discussed at length but I also will touch on the sex industry once again.
In the best seller, which was also up for book of the year 2016, “Hello Love, Where’s Cupid 2nd ed” we discussed that not only is porn one of the top selling industries, but also adult toy and sex accessories are a growing second. There are websites for guys, for girls, and for couples. And more and more women are having “slumber” parties and I don’t mean sleepovers. (see, its not just the guys!) here is a website that is designed for women to purchase sex toys, sex guides, sex outfits, (you know like sexy maid, sexy cheerleader, sex firefighter,) and sex products that add a little erotica to a playful evening. The best thing is that this company is like “Tupperware or Avon” where women can work and they get to go to another woman’s house and “show off’ the products. (No guys, there are no
demonstrations, sorry to burst your bubble there.)
** You can purchase Hello Love, Where’s Cupid? 2nd Ed Here —-> Link **