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It’s Ironic When You Find Someone Who You Wanted On A Dating Site

So while doing my online dating research I came across a profile nearly made me throw up!

This guy that I was involved with, grew a friendship and wanted to move the relationship to the next level.  After that he told me, “We’ll talk,” and then that was pretty much the last I heard from him for six months until I saw him again and we slowly started our friendship all over again. Then once again, he vanished and that was it for me. I had enough. I gave him a second chance and he blew it.
People don’t believe me when I tell them that 99% of people flat out LIE on dating sites. Well, I can vouch on this one since I know him and know him very well.
The end where he lists his “ideal date” for coffee or a drink: He doesn’t like coffee and he doesn’t drink due to his liver disease he has. Or maybe he lied to me, but EVERY time we were together all he drank was Diet Coke.  He also listed that he enjoys running. Let me tell you that when I told him that I go running he said, “I can’t get into running, running is boring.”  Of course after I told him my running schedule ( time and place) he shows up on the path.

I laugh at his story and for what he is looking for because he HAD all that and chose to pass it by. Instead he wants the leftovers that are on online dating sites.

Most women think it’s a good idea to just send that “Dear John” letter and vent, but I will tell you that is one of the worst things to do. It just makes you look ridiculous. BUT… if you have a blog and you write, you can always just write what you would love to say to him and call it a day.  ( TIP: don’t use his name that is not such a good idea either.)

WHAT I WOULD SAY IF I COULD:

I know the Bible says to turn the other cheek, but right now I think Jesus would hold my jacket while I kick your ass. You’re a liar, narcissistic jerk, and you better pray that your daughters never run into a jackass like you.  Karma is like a boomerang. What you throw at others will eventually come back to smack you in the face.  I don’t think you were a mistake, because had I not been with you and gotten to really know you, I would have never realized that I seriously need to raise my standards. I finally realized months ago that I deserve better. I’ve moved on. My new beginning starts now- without you.  As Kelly Clarkson sang, “Since you’ve been gone, I can breath for the first time.”

I was simply an option you kept open just in case your plan to test the dating pool backfired. I’m no one’s option. I’m not anyone’s plaything. You don’t get to drop me & pick me back up whenever you feel like it.

I pity the woman that ends up with you.

The End

THE LIAR’S PROFILE:

“I am looking for someone who wants to be loved and enjoy life. I am hardworking kind man looking for a woman who wants to be happy and share great times.

My match is sincere and honest. Someone who can laugh and joke and also be romantic. There needs to be attraction of course.

Ideal date: A relaxed meeting for coffee or a drink.”

REMEMBER:  If you want to be treated differently, accept no less than what you deserve. Know Your Worth! I know mine. ❤️‍

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The Online-dating Research Papers (part 2)

Here’s a profile I found on a dating site. People don’t get it.

1) If you are happy with your life right now, why are you on here?

2) If you aren’t desperate or looking for someone to complete you, again, you are on here for what then?

3) Credit score of 800? His butt looks good in jeans and he can look very GQ? Plus he mentions that he is great with kids. All a ploy to start pulling the heartstrings of a very desperate woman.

 

THE PROFILE:

Hey…welcome to my profile. Pretty happy with my life right now. Have a strong network of friends and family and interests to keep me busy…so I’m not here because I’m desperate or lonely looking for someone to “complete me”. I’m also self sufficient and well organized so I’m not looking for a “mother figure” either. I’m just a hard working man who’s butt looks great in jeans and I can look quite GQ when I throw on a three piece. My ability to make people laugh…especially when they needed it the most, has always been my greatest strength. I give a great massage, am a great conversationalist and a really good dancer. I also have a credit score close to 800. 🙂 Not bad, huh? Oh…I can cook, juggle and play the guitar, too. Also great with kids. My nieces and nephews will attest to that. How bout them apples? You will find me to be very “down to earth” and a versatile playmate. Anyway, if you are seeking a man with very little baggage…then your search is over. 🙂

Again, Get yourself off the clearance rack called online dating. Falling in love, JUST HAPPENS. You can’t force yourself to fall.

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The Online-dating Research Papers (part 1)

I have been researching dating sites all over the internet. Some promote them on Facebook while others promote them on Twitter and Google+.  Even some dating sites have started using Instagram.

As I was doing some hardcore research I saw a young girl, guessing in her 20’s, posing on a motorcycle with the caption:

Send me pics fellas
I might ride you like I do my bike…if you’re man enough to handle me
my number is 1-9*5-2**-3696…don’t keep me waiting

Seriously, this is HOW desperate and dumb this generation has become?

First mistake: Asking for pictures which you know will be sexual

Second mistake: Making a sexual reference

Third mistake: Posting her phone number for the entire world to see.

Online dating sites LOVE these type of people! As someone tweeted me, ” The dating sites love self-destructive people, because they make great customers as they chase away person after person. Dating sites provide a fall back for the attention-starved. Why work it out when there’s another “match” waiting online?”

I’ve been saying that since day one. If you really want love remember, they call it falling in love because you JUST fall. You don’t FORCE yourself to trip.

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TOP 5 ONLINE-DATING SECRETS

If it seems as if everyone you know is online dating, you’re not alone. According to a study done by Pew Research Center, 11% of American adults—and 38% of those who are currently “single and looking” for a partner—have used online dating sites or mobile dating apps. The general public attitudes towards online dating have become much more positive in recent years, and now with social networking sites playing a prominent role when it comes to navigating and assisting romantic relationships, online dating usage is at an all-time high.

To gain a little insight into what makes people tick when it comes to online dating, here are five secrets to the phenomenon and how to better yourself online.

5. Your Profile Isn’t What It Should Be

A professor of Women’s Health and Clinical Epidemiology at the Queen May University of London School of Medicine and Dentistry, named Khalid Khan, poured through 86 studies to find out why he wasn’t lucky in love and found out that his profile on dating sites was one of the main problems.

Users who chose screen names starting with letters toward the beginning of the alphabet got more clicks than those who used screen names that started with the last part of the alphabet. So, if your name started with the letters, A-M, you have a great shot at being noticed. Now to the profile picture. For women who wore red, they received more attention from men then if they wore any other color. Also, if your profile picture was a group shot with friends, you had a better chance for someone to click on your profile and look through it.

It’s as easy as a click here and a click there to write up a very impressive dating profile. About 95% of what is written are exaggerated and everyone lies about salary, job, living conditions, hobbies, weight, body mass, and some even put a fake picture up, just to get people’s attention.

4. Be Selective 

You are completely wasting your time by posting to every free site then posting your profile on the sites that cost the most money. Think about it, when you post on free site, then the quality of the people you are choosing from are “low quality” people or people who are not putting relationships at a priority in their lives. You therefore are not ending up with a compatible mate. According to Dr. John G. Kappa, PhD whose book, Relationship Strategies: The E&P Attraction, we all have an equal and opposite compatible match. Everyone should be aware of characteristics that we are attracted to and also characteristics that we aren’t attracted too. This is why sometimes we keep picking the completely “wrong” partner.

3. Trust Your Gut

Here is the complete truth: your intuition, your gut will NEVER be wrong. So if someone looks good on paper, but in person you aren’t feeling it, the attraction is not there, and the conversation fizzled out, believe what your gut is telling you: this person is NOT the one. Move on and let it go. So many times we doubt ourselves and we talk ourselves into believing that something is good when it’s far from being good for us. There is someone for everyone, that saying is true, but don’t cut yourself short and lower your standards, values and compatibility just to end up in a relationship.

2. Market Yourself

If you want more dates, the simple thing to remember is that you are your own brand. Yes, even with online dating. Too many people focus on likes and dislikes, and overestimate the value of these. When it comes to sustaining a relationship, your love for hiking or street fairs, isn’t going to matter. Instead, think about the qualities that matter to you and that should matter to your partner. You’re marketing yourself and you show that through highlighting your core characteristics. What will make you a great girlfriend or a great boyfriend? Why should someone date you over someone else? Those are the questions you should really be asking yourself.

 

1. When You Send a Message, Make it Personal

Too many times people respond to messages as if they are going on a job interview or they are just filled with hellos. If you get a lot of messages where the conversation isn’t going anywhere, start with an open-ended question, or mention an interest or two, to get the conversation started. If you are a guy, don’t just tell her that she is beautiful or if you are a woman, don’t just tell him that you are into sports. Also, don’t use messaging to bring up sex. If that is all you are looking for, then online dating isn’t for you.

 

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