Life can be funny sometimes. It throws you curve balls, takes you on paths that you’d never think you would take and life always comes full circle. Each person has their own personal and unique life’s journey and along with it the interesting turns and twists that are unique.
One thing I learned this year is that life happens whether you want it happen or not. Being that I am a social media guru and I am online for about 60 hours a week, I get to see people’s lives evolve . I also get to see people’s struggles, complaints, life-moments, and everything in between. And from that I can tell you that life is short, really short. Every single moment in your life counts. Every decision you make will have an effect on your life in one way or another. What people don’t realize is that they have an opportunity to make a difference in the world and in themselves each and every day. That can be simply by saying hello, holding a door open for someone, supporting a friend, paying for someone’s coffee, etc.
Another thing that most people don’t realize is that we should never stop learning and growing. Traditions and rules were made to be broken. The concept of giving of one’s self to another, often is abused. People take advantage of good-hearted people, I should know. They aren’t appreciative of the fact that you gave of yourself, they now expect it. People who are more appreciative are those who aren’t expecting your kindness. Now, I am not saying that we shouldn’t be compassionate, open, and understanding, I am just saying to be wary of those with whom who are open to sharing your exceptional kindness with. … some don’t deserve it. But that doesn’t mean that you stop respecting them.
That’s another thing I came across this year. Social media has made too many people comfortable with being able to disrespect others without getting punched in the mouth for it. That then carries over to their “actual” lives and we have become more judgemental, angry, selfish, and greedy. If you live your life as if everything is about you, you will be left with just that; just you. Relationships aren’t designed for selfish individuals. But I have learned this year that being angry at people who don’t have the capacity to change is a waste of my energy and my time.
Speaking of relationships, I have learned this past year that some are not worth it, while some are worthwhile. The most important relationship that you will ever have is the relationship you have with yourself. Going into 2019, the best decision you can ever make, is putting yourself first. If you are still single, capitalize on it. Never settle. Know your worth. You deserve to be happy. Don’t end up with someone just because you need to be with someone. Never love when you are lonely. And if you can’t love who you are, how do you expect someone else to love you?
There is no right age to settle down but there is a right time. There’s a difference. Learn it in 2019.
Follow your own path. Don’t copy someone else’s life, live your own. You weren’t made to be a carbon copy of someone else, you were made to stand out and be an original. Be proud of who you are, how far you have come, and where you are going. Find people who support your goals, are happy for your success, and who are there to comfort you when you fail. Be authentic in real life and online. Stop trying to please others- when you are the one who at the end of the day, lives with the decisions YOU make, not anyone else.
Here’s to 2019! Go for your dreams, seek what makes you satisfied in your life , and make it happen.